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My boyfriend and I have been having sex for the passed couple of months. Everything is going great, but I want to find new ways to turn him on. Any ideas? (link)
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Ask him! Really, talking about sex can be a big turn on in itself. Find out if he's into anything, like lingerie, a strip tease, even role playing! I find a private lap dance always does the trick :)
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Ok ive always had a gross brown neck.. even when i was little. And for one i dont know what that is either and now that im growing up im getting it inbetween my legs, armpits and even in my elbow! but now i have abrown blotch on my lower cheack! ive tried getting it off and it feels like dry drool only its brown.. my older friend said something about brown skin and another about it being untreatible but nothing else so it wouldnt scare me but what is this????? (link)
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It sounds like a skin pigmentation disorder called acanthosis nigricans, defined as the darkening and thickening of the skin, particularly in the armpit, groin and back of the neck. It could be a hereditary problem or it could be an indicator of another condition, so I would definitely see a dermatologist. Treating it is usually done through treating the underlying cause, but microdermabrasion and laser treatment can help. But please, get it checked out as it can be an indicator of both benign and malignant underlying conditions, that should be treated as soon as possible.
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what exactly is pre-cum? i see a lot of questions about it, and my boyfriend and i fool around, only going as far as oral, but i don't think he's ever pre-cummed (of course he's cummed though, thats for sure.) so what exactly is it? does it just come out before the actual cum or something? thanks in advance. (link)
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Your boyfriend will have pre-cummed, but you won't have noticed as it is a very small amount and during oral sex it would have just gotten mixed up in your saliva. Pre-cum is a natural lubricant which the penis excretes during sexual contact before actual semen is released, however it can carry small amounts of sperm which is why you can get pregnant even if a guy cums outside of you.
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i really want to do it with my boyfriend, and he keeps pushing me. i really do want to do it too, but i'm having second thoughts. he's incredibly hot and we tease each other by making out on our beds. his sexy voice always makes me want to do it sooo badly!! sometimes we start taking off our clothes, but then i back away. what should i do- if i really want to do it but i can't?
btw-- what is it like at first?? (link)
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If it's your first time it's totally normal to get a case of nerves, even if you really want it! If you're sure you really want to do it, maybe talk to your boyfriend a bit about how you're nervous - I am sure he will completely understand - and how you want to do it, but suggest that he be gentle and take it slow. It's fine for the first time to just back down on the passion and spend a bit of time slowly exploring one another's bodies and building up trust and confidence. Trust me, it's also really sexy!
As for what it feels like, some girls find it painful but that is usually because they don't feel quite ready or feel like they were pressured into it, meaning they aren't lubricated enough and it can be a bit rough. If you and your boyfriend take it slow and warm into it - you also may want to use some lubricant, it does make things easier and more enjoyable - you might experience a little discomfort at first when your hymen breaks, but it will quickly pass.
Hope I helped!
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I just wanted to know if you had sex for 5mins and your cherry wasnt popped can you get pregant and does that still make you a virgin sine it wasnt popped (link)
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1: If the guy came inside you yes, you can get pregnant.
2: Not every girl even has a 'cherry', or hymen. Some are born without one, often it can break during childhood through vigorous excercise such as horseback riding, gymnastics etc. and sometimes it can become elasticated, i.e. instead of breaking it stretches to accommodate the penis. So whether your cherry has popped or not is not a good indicator as to whether you are a virgin or not, and it certainly doesn't mean that you can't get pregnant.
Be very careful in future and do some research about your own body before you go having sex. The general use of the phrase popping the cherry is a pretty fair indicator that you're not quite mature enough to be having sex! I'm not against teenagers having sex if it's their choice, hell, I did - but please be careful and be informed because sex does have consequences. If you're worried, get a pregnancy test. Better safe than sorry!!!
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i was wondering who sings this song it goes " what ever happened to sex drugs and rock n roll now all we had is aids crack and techno" (link)
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guns 'n' roses!
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i just got really bad sunburn today. i don't have any blisters, but there is still clear stuff that drips down my face once in a while. where is it coming from and what is it? (link)
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How much clear stuff? It could just be excess perspiration caused by the heat trapped in your skin. If there's no cracked skin or blisters, that's probably what it is. Make sure you pile on the aloe vera to restore moisture! Sun damage can be a bitch.
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I play piano and rock climb a lot, so I need semi-strong fingers. But mine are extremely not, at all. Does anyone know a way I could strengthen them? (link)
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Yeah, you can buy finger and grip strengtheners designed for exactly that purpose. I've provided a link to some examples - you should be able to get them at your local sports and fitness store and they're not too expensive.
http://www.nextag.com/hand-strengthener/search-html
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So, my friend's boyfriend and she were making pubic hair shake and she drank it and now she's afraid she's going to get crabs b/c her bf has crabs. Can she still get crabs from drinking this after it's been in the blender (link)
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I am sorry but... my god this is the funniest question I have ever read here on Advicenators, bravo :)
Ummm, haha trying not to laugh - she shouldn't be able to get crabs from drinking the shake as they are a lice-like creature and are transmitted through contact, not by being eaten... hahaha. But um, she might get crabs from her boyfriend anyway by being in contact with him. This is hilarious. I hope there's a video on youtube. Hahaha.
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I've been on birth control for going on 6 months. I haven't gotten my period yet, and there is only 1 sugarpill left after tonight out of 4 sugarpills. I am sexually active. Should I be worried? (link)
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If you have been taking your pill regularly you should be fine, as sometimes the pill can mess up your cycle a bit and cause you to miss periods or only experience light bleeding. I remember being worried about the same thing a couple of times while on the pill, only for it to be fine. However, just to be sure I would pop down to the sexual health clinic and get a pregnancy test, and talk to your doctor about why this might be happening. It could be that you need to change to a different pill, maybe this one's too strong for you. Don't stress, but I would definitely recommend a pregnancy test for peace of mind - you don't want to leave things to chance.
Good luck!
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friday morning when i was getting ready for school i put on blush and my dad saw me and was like r u wearing blush? and i said yes, and he told me he didn't wanna see me wear it anymore because i'm too young, (and i'm 13!) and he said that it gives you cancer! i was thinking wtf, but is this true? (link)
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That's a bit of an overstatement... but of course, makeup can contain carcinogens (cancer causing chemicals), just like many chemical products from coca cola to artificial sweetener. Basically I think your dad just doesn't want you to use makeup as he doesn't like the idea of makeup at all, no matter what your age. Which is fair enough, a lot of guys don't like makeup on girls. It's nasty stuff, bad for the environment, a waste of money and a time-consuming hassle! (I still wear it though!)
Maybe you want to re-think how much makeup you wear though? A little lip gloss and mascara should be enough. Too much makeup and you look like a fake who's trying too hard... and that's not attractive! Confidence is key!
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i know like that your cherry pops when you have sex or like if you do a lot of sports or something. if i do gymnastics and some other sports and ive been fingered then do you think my cherry is already popped? where is your cherry anyways? like does it pop b/c of deepness or wideness.. if that makes any sense?
thanks! (link)
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Hi, your 'cherry' is your hymen, it's a thin membrane of skin just inside your vagina which has a hole wide enough for menstruation to pass through, but is usually broken during sex for the first time. However, some girls don't have a hymen at all, and others have what's called an elastic hymen which doesn't ever break.
If you do have a hymen it can be broken during really physical exertions, and yeah it could happen in gymnastics - you'd probably feel it though, and experience a little bleeding. It could also break while being fingered - but again, you'd probably feel it. However some girls don't experience any bleeding or discomfort at all!
Basically, I wouldn't worry much about whether your cherry has popped, will pop, or even exists. It's an old-fashioned approach to determining virginity which is very innacurate. If it's still intact, it means you may feel a little pain or discomfort during sex for the first time - but if you are ready (i.e. sufficiently lubricated and turned on!) you probably won't even feel it, and will enjoy sex anyway. I know I did.
Hope I helped!
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i feel horrible. its my 14th birthday today && i feel really bad cause i had a sundae at Friendlys. I ate a bowl of cereal in the morning (SPECIAL K) then ate hardly any of my lunch salad. I finished the whole birthday sundae. when i got home, i had two pieces of bread & olive oil. i didnt know what i wanted for desert & i kept opening things & then being grossed out by myself & throwing them out after taking a few bites. i made hot cocoa at first, but once i got past the marshmellows i dumped it down the drain. i diet all week & on the weekend i tend to splurge alot. it doesnt totally derail me-my stomachs flat again the next morning. but i think i have a problem with food. wheneve i indulge, i think i want to "make it worth the mistake" so i tend to eat alot of junk. my diet worries ruined my birthday & i need help! now (link)
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I absolutely agree with the Wallflower. It sounds like you have an emotional attachment to food that is making you overeat and undereat, and you have to put it out of your mind - I used to be exactly the same and it got to the point where it really started taking over my life.
Instead of overthinking what you eat every day, thinking about calories and carbs and sugars and etc etc, when you are about to eat something, take a moment of time to close your eyes and listen to your body and what it wants. If you really think about how different foods make you feel and the effect they have on you emotionally and physically, rather than just how they might affect you superficially, it's much easier to determine what your body can handle. Often you'll find that all you really want is a piece of fruit or some water - sometimes you'll find that you can handle a bigger meal or something with more sugar or fat in it than normal. It sounds like you were eating based on the occasion rather than what you needed or wanted and that is the worst trap to fall into. Try not to eat based on events or emotions, but to really listen to your body, and eating won't be such a battle.
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I am 13 and i can't stand my body, my legs are to short. I am the shortest one in my grade, only 5 foot and i don't no what to do, my family doesn't exactly have the money to give me a shot that will help my growth and they say that i am normal height but i had my period over 2 years ago and i'm not supposed to grow anymore. Is there anything i can do that will make me a normal height? (link)
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Hey, don't worry about it. Really. You are only 13 and have plenty of time to grow - and even if you only grow a couple of inches, you can still be gorgeous! Think of all the beautiful actresses and singers that are only just over 5 foot - Eva Longoria, Alyssa Milano, Christina Aguilera, Shakira (she's actually under 5 foot!) Bo Derek (commonly considered to have one of the best bodies in the business, and only 5'3")... the list could go on and on.
You might feel awkward about things now because you are at an age where everyone feels a little awkward and insecure about their looks, no matter what they look like - but truly, don't worry. I know loads of guys who really go for petite girls, and as long as you keep in shape to ensure you're well proportioned your height shouldn't be a negative factor at all!
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is it wrong for a 17 year old boy
going out with a 13 year old girl ?
please leave your oppions and commets (link)
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Personally? As a 19 year old female I would say yes. When I was 13 I certainly wasn't emotionally capable of dealing with the kind of situations a relationship with someone that much older and with different hormone levels and degrees of life experience could get me into.
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I came onto this site a few weeks ago asking a question about becoming a model and how you have to look.
But, what is beautiful? Someone on this site told me "If your not beautiful, then don't bother"
But what are the criteria for being beautiful?
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Don't even bother reading those wikipedia sites offering an analysis of what is beautiful - it's utter bollocks. Because there are many, many successful models who are not conventionally beautiful, particularly runway models. In fact, if that '9.5-10 face' walked into a modelling agency right now she would struggle to get anything but cheap commercial jobs. Now, it's far more profitable to be interesting, and have flaws or quirks.
However, to achieve real modelling success you do still have to be thin, unfortunately. And tall. So if you're under 5'10", and weigh over 120lbs, your chances are pretty slim unfortunately.
Commercial modelling is much more forgiving though. Just go to an agency, they will let you know if you have a chance or not.
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if i only eat fruit and energy bars and drink water a lil soda and energy drinks will i gain weight or lose it..pls dont talk about how that isent heathy..thankyou (link)
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You don't want us to talk about whether it's healthy or not but well, there are just so many better foods for you to eat when you are trying to lose weight. Fruit is good but vegetables are better; energy bars are PACKED with sugar and carbohydrates; soda and energy drinks are also packed with sugar and carbs and will also make you retain water and bloat. Depending on what your diet is like at the moment, you may lose weight simply by eating less crap - i.e. if you eat a lot of fatty/sugary foods already - or you may gain weight because it's not a healthy change in diet. Instead, try snacking on raw vegetables like carrots and celery, drink water NO SOFT DRINKS! even diet ones are bad - eat some fruit and instead of eating energy bars, just have a sandwich with wholegrain bread, it really is better for you and will give you more energy for longer than a big hit of sugar.
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i wana redo my room. 13/f gothic and my mom hates goths but im gothic. so i cant do gothic well nothing she would think would be but any advice on what colors for walls and everything else.
so how could i make it look like a gothic room but not black walls.
i like purple black white red and pokadots or anything
i hate pink blue green (link)
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A vibrant purple would look great on the walls - like the purple of Dita von Teese's wedding dress - and shouldn't be too dark/OTT for your mum to object to, as it would be easy to 'lighten up' with different furnishings/accessories. I am not sure what your budget is or what your current furnishings are like, but a black wrought iron bedframe is sooo cool and gothic, and a really neat and cheap way to add light and a bit of gothic fantasy to the room is to get plain fairy lights, you know like the christmas kind but not the multicoloured ones, and wind them around the bedframe. Looks really cool at night :)
Also nothing is more gothic than a four-poster bed, but a cool way to get the same effect is to buy a black mosquito net and hang it over your bed, they should be pretty easy to find.
A few splashes of red and white would also brighten up the purple, so if you have a desk or side table, maybe brighten it up with a black vase filled with fake red roses, and a framed photo of a cool black and white print. White candles here and there would also look really cool, and you can pick up some pretty cool old candelabras from second hand stores.
Have a look at vintage shops, auction houses and second hand stores for accessories! Old strings of pearls can be draped over mirrors or cast on the top of desks for a really romantic goth look, ooh and if you can find a wrought iron bust or an old dressmaker's dummy, they make cool sculptural pieces of art, especially if you dress them in a cool red/black/white/polkadotted corset top and a strand of pearls.
There's so much you could do! If you have any more specific questions please contact me, I hope I helped!
*EDIT* With a silver bunk bed, you already have a four poster :) You could buy a couple of lengths of cheap black chiffon from a fabric store, and drape them like curtains from underneath the top bunk, so they obscure the bottom bunk, and hold them to the side with some tie-backs. Get some contrasting red fabric to cover the underside of the bunk, and attach some red fabric roses, tres romantic and makes the bunk bed not so kiddy! If you sleep on the top bunk, cover the bottom bunk in black fabric, a white faux fur throw and some nice red and black cushions, and voila! It's a great gothic chillout space.
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you probably read the subject and thought "she must be complaining because she is over weight" well i am not over weight i am under weight. I HATE IT! now ur probably thinking "what is so bad about being skinny?" well i am not skinny i am TOO skinnyi am as skinny as my 10 year old sister, and she is under weight for her age. The prboblems i face are: nothing fits me because all clothes are too big or made for boobs. I have NO boobs at all. people always ask me if i am annorexic. People call me "flat" and a "twig". ALSO i have a disease called Ceoliac disease, which means i cant eat gluten, and gluten is stuff like :wheat, flour, musly, oats, barly, malt, and MUCH more. that means i cant eat anything with bread on it (hot dogs, hamburgers, cakes) and all those things are fatty foods, so i cant get fat!!!! o cry nearly everyday because i know that guys arent attrated to my 'skinny-ness' and my 'flat-ness' i also hate being teased at school.
PLEASE HELP ME!!
what should i do to make my self fatter or happier or both?
sorry this is so long... (link)
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I really feel for you! I am sorry that I can't offer much advice but I have a friend with Celiac's and I through her experience I know how hard it is to have to put up with people calling you anorexic because of something that's not your fault!
Just make sure you have a lot of red meat and eggs in your diet to keep your protein up, as well as fish for omega 3 acids, that will ensure that your hair and skin look good and healthy despite the lack of fatty acids in your diet. Loads of fruits and veges help too - rice and potatoes have a lot of carbs which will help to keep your weight up. And as for cakes, biscuits and bread, there are a lot of gluten free products available, including things like rice flour and potato starch flour which you can use in place of normal flour. There are some great gluten free recipes on the net too, try googling 'celiac recipes' and you'll find you CAN eat cake, biscuits, pancakes and all those good things after all!
Really though, the most important thing for you to do in terms of your happiness is just to be confident in yourself. The main reason that guys aren't attracted to very thin girls is that in most cases very thin girls are that thin because they are overly concerned about their looks, and are insecure and shallow. Of course, you're not! So just smile, keep active, ignore peoples' comments and pretty soon they'll disappear. If you want, make it known that you can't eat gluten because of your health. For example the friend of mine I mentioned before is 30 and she fits into an aussie size four! She is very skinny but she's so happy and outgoing and unaffected that nobody notices, and she certainly has her fair share of guys!
No matter what you look like, your most attractive feature is going to be your smile and a great attitude - it's a cliche but it really is true!!!
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ohkay so i wanna go on the grapefruit diet.
what do i have to do like should all i eat is like 3 grapefruit a day? or what idk halol (link)
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Not so much an answer to your question as a piece of advice - are you on the pill? If so, don't eat grapefruit at all, let alone a three grapefruit a day diet! Something in grapefruit interferes with the hormones and makes the pill less effective. It's written in the instructions that come with the pill, but not everyone reads those! Just so you know!
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