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i really want to do it with my boyfriend, and he keeps pushing me. i really do want to do it too, but i'm having second thoughts. he's incredibly hot and we tease each other by making out on our beds. his sexy voice always makes me want to do it sooo badly!! sometimes we start taking off our clothes, but then i back away. what should i do- if i really want to do it but i can't?
btw-- what is it like at first??
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If youre having second thoughts and he is pushing you, you might should just wait a while until you get more comfortable and you know that this is for sure what you want. Losing your virginity is a big thing, so wait until you KNOW that it is the right time and with the right guy. Make it special, and if waiting is what makes it special, then wait.
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Like eclair said, it is normal for you to be nervous the first time but if you're having serious doubts maybe you're just not quite ready, but you will be soon, don't worry.
But if he's pushing you, that may be why you're nervous. Even though you want it too, you may subconsciously be wondering if that's all he wants and you need to make sure you talk about the possible consequences to make sure he's still going to be around if you become pregnant.
The first time is different with everybody. It may hurt a little at the beginning because of your hymen being broken, but it's only a tiny pain and is over very quickly.
It is possible that it won't hurt at all because of your hymen already being broken.
Hope this helps!!
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If it's your first time it's totally normal to get a case of nerves, even if you really want it! If you're sure you really want to do it, maybe talk to your boyfriend a bit about how you're nervous - I am sure he will completely understand - and how you want to do it, but suggest that he be gentle and take it slow. It's fine for the first time to just back down on the passion and spend a bit of time slowly exploring one another's bodies and building up trust and confidence. Trust me, it's also really sexy!
As for what it feels like, some girls find it painful but that is usually because they don't feel quite ready or feel like they were pressured into it, meaning they aren't lubricated enough and it can be a bit rough. If you and your boyfriend take it slow and warm into it - you also may want to use some lubricant, it does make things easier and more enjoyable - you might experience a little discomfort at first when your hymen breaks, but it will quickly pass.
Hope I helped!
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