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E-mail: kelmurfin93@yahoo.com
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Location: near Houston, TX
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Age: 14
Member Since: March 26, 2007
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Ok, so im in 8th grade and cheerleading tryouts for my highschool freshman squad are on June 5th. I was just wondering, what are the requirments and stuff? I'm really nervous because I don't know anyone trying out, and I'm not sure if ill make it cuz i cant do a flip. I can do everything else fine though. Oh, and also, can someone tell me what it's like, and like what shoes I should wear and sutff. thanks =] (link)
I really dont know what the requirements are for the squad, but you should probably wear like soffees (sp?) shorts, a comfy t-shirt or tank top, and athletic shoes. You should be fine w/o doing a flip if you can do everything else.


I have this project in one of my classes, and we need to do a survey with 100 people. me and my group already have about 20, and i thought it would help if I could just ask people online too for answers. only answer for one candy, and for "other" dont say what candy it is, just say "other".

Nerds
Skittles
M&Ms
Gum
Hershey's
Snickers
Twix
Reeses

THANKS! :] (link)
hershey's!! =]


how do i tease a guy when teasing? (link)
You can get really close to him, like youre going to kiss him, staring into his eyes, then pull away. Most guys will grab your face and immediately kiss you. Or you can just lean your head on his shoulder, your face next to his, the lightly breathe. Or when actually in the act of kissing, you can give him a lot of little kisses, THEN a long one, or whatever you like. It usually comes naturally.


When a guy and a girl are walking eachother, who's are goes on the other person's shoulders, and who's goes around the other one's waist? (link)
The girl usually puts her arm around the guy's waist, and his around her shoulders. But its also nice with both ppls arms around each others waists.


** This question is intended for people who have had experience with nail biting for quite awhile. Please do not get an answer from Google that won't help me with my problem. **

13/F

I have a very bad nail biting habit. I have been biting my nails ever since I could bite. My mom has been biting her nails too for a long time, so I guess I just picked it up from her when I was little. I've tried everything. The nasty tasting stuff, putting on gloves, and my aunt even threatened to not take me to Cali with her if I didn't stop biting my nails. I stopped biting my nails after that happened and they looked great. Unfortunately, soon before we were about to leave Cali, I picked up on it again. I've been on again off again with my nails, the maximum amount of time that I have stopped is probably one/two months. I don't know how to stop. It's not even a habit anymore, it's way beyond that. Will going to a doctor help? Are there any pills or medications that he would be able to prescribe to me that will stop the habit? (link)
I used to do that almost constantly! A doctor may help, but they will probably just give you the nasty-tasting stuff. What helped me was painting my nails/getting manicures (maybe expensive ones) so your nails will look great and you will know how much money you are wasting if you bite them. Also, a new habit, like maybe tapping your fingers on the table or playing with your hair might help.


Ok my name is Anne. So here is the thing, i'm not sure how to put this, but i think i may have an eating disorder. I don't throw up all the time maybe twice a week, but i used to tell myself that i was fine and i still tell myself that to. But now i'm not so sure. I look at food like it's sickening and i don't eat in front of others. Noone can really tell, but i know inside what i'm doing. Everytime i walk in a bathroom to throw up i run the water and then just throw up. Do i have an eating disorder? If I do,what should I do? (link)
Yes, this is definitely a sign of having an eating disorder. You should talk to someone, maybe a friend, or a parent, teacher, etc...just someone you trust and that cares about you.


I read a question about some girl drinking her boyfriend's pubic hair- and it totally grossed me out. Do people actually do that? (link)
yeah, its kind of weird and fetish-y. I wouldnt advise doing it, but yeah some people get turned on by it. Ew.


Does anyone have any ideas on how to deal with Emetophobia?? Its a pretty gross phobia if u kno what it is. (link)
You can try to prevent yourself from getting sick, but other than that, you kind of have to deal with it. I have a mild case of it, I always hyperventilate and get scared when I know I'm going to be sick. But you can just deal with it, or if you think it will help, you can see a psychologist.


how do you show a guy you like him. without telling him. & i dont mean this in a horny or perverted way.
thanks! (link)
Flirt with him, when you go places w/ him in a group (if you do that), always be the one next to him, dont be obsessive about it, but be nice to him, toss your hair, smile, etc.


does anybody know any good summer songs that have really good lyrics and also are just good songs? thanks so muchhhh! (link)
I dont know if you want romantic songs, or fun songs, etc. But one of my favorites is Summertime by Kenny Chesney. But the best summertime happy-music group to me is MIKA.(google it or itunes search). Their music is upbeat, funny, and altogether great. If you want different suggestions, email!


what turns guys on? like what do they look for or like in a girl. also how can you get a guy to really notice you? thanks so much! (link)
Be yourself. Act natural, but you can add in a little flirtiness. Wear maybe a little makeup and cute clothes (they dont have to be "in style", just what you find looks good on you and youre comfortable and feel pretty in). But dont be overly flirty or wear too much makeup or overly sexy clothes, guys will find you to be more of a hookup than a girl that they can actually have a relationship with.


i really want to do it with my boyfriend, and he keeps pushing me. i really do want to do it too, but i'm having second thoughts. he's incredibly hot and we tease each other by making out on our beds. his sexy voice always makes me want to do it sooo badly!! sometimes we start taking off our clothes, but then i back away. what should i do- if i really want to do it but i can't?

btw-- what is it like at first?? (link)
If youre having second thoughts and he is pushing you, you might should just wait a while until you get more comfortable and you know that this is for sure what you want. Losing your virginity is a big thing, so wait until you KNOW that it is the right time and with the right guy. Make it special, and if waiting is what makes it special, then wait.


I know that most people are wondering how to get tanned...well, I don't like being tanned.

I'm 14/f and I'm Asian so I get tanned really easily and the tan stays for a freaking year. And I don't like being tanned and I want pale skin. Anyways to un-tan??? (link)
yeah, wear lots and lots of highquality sunscreen to keep the rays off you, that should work. It may take a while for your current tan to go away, but it will. I wish I had your problem lol, i wish i was MORE tan! lol


I don't know what to do. I met a guy awhile back at a camp and i have been chatting with him for about 4 months now. I am in love with this guy and he is in love with me. Actually we're engaged even though that sounds crazy. But anyways yesterday he told me that pretty much everything he told me was a lie except for the fact that he loves me. He said that his feelings and thoughts about me were never lies, he only lied about some poetry he gave me, because he didn't write it. And he lied about being rich and owning these cars and houses he showed me. I dont know what to do because I love him and dont want to give him up but how do i learn to retrust him? What should I do, just let him go and move on? Or give him the second chance hes asking for? Please help its tearing me apart (link)
The fact that he is apologizing and fessing up to his lying shows that he IS sorry, and he DOES still love you, also shows that now he wants an honest relationship since he loves you so much. Try to give him a second chance, but if he lies again, cut it off. I hope it works out for you!


the people that live next door to me have a young duaghter that always plays with my cat. they try to bring my cat, shadow, inside their house all the time, and they say how much they love her and want her. they just recently put their house up for sale, and are moving. i have a bad feeling that they are going to take shadow when they move, and she is my baby, so i would be completely lost if they did. how can i prvent this from happening? i cant keep her inside, because she loves being outside, and theres no way to keep her out of their yard. i dont know what i would do if they took her!

please help! any ideas would be more than appreciated! (link)
Even if there is a law against having pets running loose outside, the law against stealing a loved, well taken care of pet from another person is far more important and will be much more enforced. Try keeping her inside the day they move, just for a little while, and if something does happen, you can by all means call the police and get them in trouble w/ the law. *make sure you have their new address, if you can find a way to unsuspiciously get it, so you will know where to tell the police to look.


Can people with REAL relationship experience please answer? People that have been in serious relationships that lasted more than a few months? Thanks.

I'm 17/f and he's 21/m. We've been together since July 5th of 2005. It's the first serious relationship each of us has had.

Everthing was going wonderfully between us until the beginning of this year. We fought over stupid things. I kept getting really angry with him because he wouldn't go get a job and all he cared about was playing his computer and video games. He IS in college though and is going for internet security, so that was a good thing. Most of the time we worked through whatever problems we might have had, though. I really got better at respecting his hobbies and such. Plus he finally has a job now. Okay.

Lately though, I just feel like I don't want to be around him because I know it will be boring or he'll just make me angry in some shape or form. I don't want to hang out with just him because I know we'll just sit around and be bored because there's nothing to do.

Whenever he calls to say goodnight or something, sometimes I don't even pick up the phone because there's nothing to talk about or I don't even want to talk to him.

The point I'm getting to is that I think I might be falling out of love with him. I don't know if maybe it's because I see him too much or what, but I see our relationship more as really best friends instead of loving boyfriend and girlfriend. I know I care about him because I would never want him out of my life.

So my question is, how do I fall back in love with him? How do I make our relationship more fun and loving? We've been together for nearly two years and I can't figure out a way to keep things as lively as they were the first few months we went out.

At this point, I'm not sure a "break" would work for us because I'm going to college in the fall. If we took a break, that would be it and I know we'd be done. So that's a last resort.

I know that deep down, some part of me needs to stay with him and keep loving him because I'm asking this question. I want to find that part of me and bring it out. I want to be just as much in love with this man as I was the first time I told him.

Any advice? (link)
You can try to spice things up, maybe do sweet things for him, and he will probably do them back if he loves you as much as it sounds like he does. My boyfriend and I have had problems in the past, but we've always worked through them, forgave each other, and stayed together, and actually the problems we've had have made us stronger as a couple.




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