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Once a liar always a liar?
I don't know what to do. I met a guy awhile back at a camp and i have been chatting with him for about 4 months now. I am in love with this guy and he is in love with me. Actually we're engaged even though that sounds crazy. But anyways yesterday he told me that pretty much everything he told me was a lie except for the fact that he loves me. He said that his feelings and thoughts about me were never lies, he only lied about some poetry he gave me, because he didn't write it. And he lied about being rich and owning these cars and houses he showed me. I dont know what to do because I love him and dont want to give him up but how do i learn to retrust him? What should I do, just let him go and move on? Or give him the second chance hes asking for? Please help its tearing me apart
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The fact that he is apologizing and fessing up to his lying shows that he IS sorry, and he DOES still love you, also shows that now he wants an honest relationship since he loves you so much. Try to give him a second chance, but if he lies again, cut it off. I hope it works out for you!
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Ok well, Im a guy and I think you should give him a second chance, telling you the truth he must have been going trough alot it was probably tearing him apart. He must relly like you cause he was being honest it takes balls to do that. The rich thing alot of guys do that but he took it a bit to far, and in a way took advatige of you too living a bit far apart. The poetry thing im not shure on, I think you should let that go to. But give him a second chance, tell him off course not to lie to you again and be upset when you do cause. The next time he thinks off doing it again, if he relly loves you he will remeber you being upset, and wont will think twice
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Some lies can be forgiven. Especially lies that are admitted. The lies he told were nothing serious. He was obviously just trying to impress him.
Most guys lie about having an STD, the number of girlfriends they've had, whether they smoke or drink, etc. Those are lies that cannot be forgiven. That's serious stuff.
What he did wasn't that big of a deal. After all, he admitted he lied. By admitting that it means he obviously wants to get to know you. The next few times you talk with him you might question whether or not it's the truth, but at least give him another chance.
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I think the reason he lied was because he wanted to come off as a rich guy who was super sweet and wrote poetry so you would fall in love with him.(because rich guys are a lot easier to like)
I think you should just forgive him, the whole reason he lied was because he was so obsessed with you. Besides, at least he told the truth now.
he may be a liar, but his lies wern't that bad.
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