There is no reason to be mad at your best friend. The two of you can have different opinions and still be really close. She is most likely just trying to protect you, like a good friend should. As long as you realize that she is just looking out for you, and you don't let her good intentions rule your life, it is fine. If you and the boyfriend really have a future together, and he turns out to be a great guy, then your friend will eventually see that and change her mind. Don't worry over the future, and just enjoy the fact that two people you care about are in your life. They don't have to be best friends to be your best friends.

He can't keep apologizing for being who he is. He will eventually feel that he is not good enough to meet your expectations and that will kill the relationship. Flirting is not bad, but lying is. Try to start the conversation about getting back together by asking him to be honest with the promise that you won't punish him for it.

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There is not one insult in here, but just a warning and a way out if you want it. We have all been there, and I know what a struggle it can be.


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An obsession like yours can only grow with time as long as the fantasy goes untouched by reality. If you really can't talk to him, at least try to view this person realistically in very unattractive situations or as someone who is interested in another. Fantasy is powerful because we are in control and it is far from the reality we are too afraid to see. Everyone has their crummy side, and maybe you are not so shy, but are reluctant to give up the fantasy once you risk rejection. Don't let this keep wasting your time. Either confront him to get over him or confront him to get to know him and see if it works out. Letting go of the fantasy is something you have to truly WANT to do first.

Can you handle talking to him without falling apart? Then go for it. Just keep it casual and simple. Then call someone else next time. He is not your boyfriend and you need to move on.

Talk to your mom about your concerns. No one can diagnose you online for bipolar. You need to go to a physician for that. It sounds like you are under a lot of stress, so please talk to someone you love and trust about it soon.

I think it is a long process and requires a lot of pre-operative medical care, couseling, hormones and case by case analysis. You should at least start talking to a parent, teacher or counselor about your feelings.

Be totally upfront with your parents, teachers and friends and get the help and support you need to do your very best. That is all you can do at this point.

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Go here to deal with the razor burn. If it is not razor burn, gets worse or does not go away see a doctor.

The two of you should not be living a lie. How would you like it if your boyfriend secretly would rather be with some other girl? Give them respect enough to be honest. A warning however...sometimes we only want what we can't have and some guys are in it only for the chase. Hopefully this is not the case. You don't want to go through a break up this the same person twice, so go slow. Jealousy. Okay, it is b.s. that only girls get jealous and guys will use this little "your too jealous" crap to break up with a girl they don't want to be exclusive with sometimes. Of course any guy will want what was once his to remain his....actually, I think guys can be more possesive than girls once the break up occurs, because guys are a little slow in realizing what they actually had. Girls are jealous earlier on, because we are quicker. So, never apologize for being jealous, just don't act stupid over stuff you can't control. Believe me, a guy wants you to be jealous, he just does not want to be controlled. Wish you the best.

It sounds like you have been inspired by what you heard and saw. God is not a member of any church. No church has the copyrights on God. God is bigger than any human can comprehend. How, when, and why you find God, talk to God, relate to God, learn about God, worship God, or experience God is your personal decision. No one can prepackage and sell you God or define everything about God to or for you. This is your spiritual journey. Explore and enjoy it as you would learn and experience anything else you find illuminating and joyful. Keep an open mind and heart, but never stop listening to your own inner voice and never stop challenging and asking not only others but yourself. God is big enough to handle all our questions and loving enough to accept you as you are. Humans sometimes think they have to do or say something special to please God or conform to a religious organization's idea of what is going to be acceptable to God. You don't have to go into a certain building or utter scripted words to be heard by a God who is all-seeing, all-hearing, all-knowing. What you do in your own best conscience will satisfy you and what you do in your own worst judgement will discourage you in how you experience God. No two people will give you the exact same answer to your question unless they have stopped thinking for themselves. Bless you on your journey.

We can't make someone trust us, nor can we get them to feel anything that they do not want to feel. So, that part of it is not within your power. You have to accept your limits before you can make the most of what you can and do control. I don't know what it is he cannot trust you with...or what it means that "you did not treat his family well. Did he tell you that? I get the feeling that you are a people pleaser and that is making it difficult for you to make clear choices. The fact that you are pregnant is more than a complication, it has to be the main focus right now. You are only really responsible for one person besides yourself right now and that is this child. In the adult world one must realize that it is impossible to please everyone and people will always be disappointed, critical, disapproving, unsatisfied, or whatever. That is their choice to make that judgement and their decision to feel that way. It is not your fault that you cannot meet everyone's expectations...that is impossible and very unhealthy. Your child needs you to start concentrating on being a strong woman who does not waste effort and energy on people pleasing. What would make you happy right now? What do you think is the best for you right now? There is no perfect solution in an imperfect world, but you can begin to make clearer more self-loving choices when you focus within yourself. He may or may not want to be a family, and your mom may or may not ever approve of your life decisions. I am sure you are telling the truth about being commited to him 100%, and I am sure that you would like to be in good standing with mom, but I want you to first be able to look yourself in the mirror every single morning and night and know that you alone are in charge of and the only judge of your life. Be your best self everyday and approve of yourself. Others will do, say and feel how they want and so should you.

Everyone has at least one part of their face or body that they are insecure about or wish they could change. I would rather have your ears than my nose, someone you know is probably thinking. Words do hurt and people can be very unkind. Especially at a young age, people tend to be insensitive to one another and have too much critisism of each other. There is not one person who is or thinks of themselves as truly above ridicule on some level. Attitude is going to really determine how you get through this. Are you gutsy enough to be proud of your ears? They sound cute, and "it is our imperfections that make us beautiful," as supermodel Tyra Banks often says. "Perfect is boring." She says that a lot, too. Yes, you can always get them pinned later, but you may not want to by then. If you want to create a focal point other than your ears, then play up other areas of your face and create a style that is pretty and simple. A hairdresser will be able to give you the best tips for your hair. Probably no severe straight cuts or long and straight. An off the side part and some body or big curls may give you a softer effect. Most likely, you will discover that ears will not keep you from having fun, friends, or boyfriends. The way you handle your insecurity or rude comments will make the most difference. If you can really believe in yourself and let it be okay that you are not perfect, but big deal, who is? Then, people will tire of saying anything to tease you. You will make yourself almost unteasable, if you come off like it does not bother you that like all humans, no one is perfect.

You are not being selfish. You sound like a good and concerned friend. She needs you to not give up on her. If it were me, I would definately turn this guy in to the police seek the help of women's shelters, abuse counselors, anyone in the community that can help. Women are killed by abuse boyfriends and husbands too often. Talk to her about getting help and talk to some experts on domestic violence and they can give you both support you need and more suggestions and direct assistance. Bless you both, and be careful around this violent man.

Fantasies are normal, but make sure you don't confuse the excitement over a fantasy with how you might feel in reality. Most fantasies are indicative of other feelings, fears, desires, thoughts deep inside of us that we may be unable to express or explore in real life. Hence the fantasy world is born where one can visit different scenarios without the same consequences as reality poses. Many times less is more! This means, that it may just be that in real life you need a little of the fantasy to make you happy. Concerning bondage, be careful not to do anything that would possibly hurt yourself or others...ever. Dreams and awake fantasies have a lot in common...both reveal unconscious needs. Psychologists know that more than sexual release it is the emotional release that drives partakers of bondage. "...the knowledge that one person has complete control over the other, deciding what that person will hear, do, taste, touch, smell and feel." It is up to you to decide what is appropriate in your life, and as you explore the physical, emotional and mental aspects of sexuality, you will determine how and why your needs are met.

Definately do not tell your boyfriend anything bad about his mom. It will backfire and she could end up mad at you. Is it worth going on vacation with them? Only you can decide. These are good experiences to have now, and learn from them. Someday you might marry and remember his family will be a part of your life and it is important to be at peace with that. This is just a few days vacation, so if you go just concentrate on the positive and get along the best you can.

Okay, ummm...I don't know why you would want to do that. If you are with a partner sexually, just use lots of lubrication and take your time. The vagina is an amazing muscular anatomy that will loosen and tighten back pretty much as needed. No need to hurt yourself or put unclean foreign objects up there. We don't want you getting an infection or something lost in there.

He might, but if he has a girlfriend then the two of you should not be fooling around. Sexual urges are expected and normal, especially once you have started being sexually active. You can't live in the past though, so move on unless you think he wants to get back together.

Well, we are made up of mostly water. Either of the websites below can give you good answers.

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Tricky thing keeping up with a buzz whether it is smoking, drinking, caffeine, whatever...the buzz lessens as the addiction grows. You will find the need to do more to get the same effect, hence the vicious cycle of an addiction. It really is not worth the painful and deadly consequences is it? Not to mention the stinky breath and yellow teeth. Ewww!

I can see why you are wondering what is up if he isn't..but I agree with pootietang that he is not gay based on this. You have probably come across a guy that is shy, insecure, inexperienced, or something close to one of those. He most likely masterbates frequently which is normal and feels like his needs are taken care of. However, what he is not realizing is that it is your need to be able to please and be with him in a satisfactory way that is seriously lacking. Tell him how you feel and that the give and take is important for you. This may or may not be true for him, but it is a fact that a great number of guys (any age) that are used to masterbating and have little or no experience with women, will have difficulty relating to real women and being sexual with them. Many guys use porn, but some who solely use porn and prefer masterbation because of the false sense of control and freedom from criticism it allows them, will have difficulty in attaining normal sexual relationship and control over their own sexual functioning. I am telling you this for educational purposes, but also to warn you not to take his problem personally. There is little except being patient with him that you can do to affect this if it applies to him. In the future, you can decide whether or not it is worth being with a man who has this type of dysfunction, which can be a lifelong problem, especially if they do nothing to change it.

"Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are almost indistinguishable. To say something you value deeply to another and to have him or her value it equally by listening to it carefully and apppreciatively is the most universal way of exchanging social interest or demonstrating affection." David Augsburger, CARING ENOUGH TO HEAR AND BE HEARD.


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http://www.4woman.gov/violence/

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You can call the National Sexual Assault Hotline, operated by RAINN, 24 hours a day, free & confidential. 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

For info. on birth control etc.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/

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All our motivations stem from two: Love or Fear. When in turmoil or indecision, ask yourself from which of these you are acting. If you want an honest response outside of yourself, you need to first be honest within yourself. Bless you on your journey!

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