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Boyfriend Vs bestfriend
Ok well this kind of goes under friendship and love. My bestfriend met my boyfriend today but just over msn. i was scared to tell her about him because he lives in america and i live in australia. i love him alot more than anything and he loves me the same. its indescribable how much we love each other. You dont know what i would give just to hug him. Anyways i finally told her about him and i let her meet him. She told me after they finished talking that she doesnt trust long distance relationships. She said she doesnt trust him at all and that she doesnt want to talk to him again and shes just going to pretend like shes never met him.. it really upset me because me and my boyfriend are always talking about the future like how we want to spend our lives together, even kids names and she thinks that he doesnt love me. its hard for someone to understand that we love each other this much to wait for ages to see eachother..it upset him as well because he wanted to be friends with her hes waited for ages to talk to her and he doesnt want to ruin mine and her friendship. i wouldnt ruin our friendship but it took so much just to tell her and i thought she would understand.. Shes made it clear she doesnt want to no about him and shes never acted like this before.. No way i would give up my boyfriend or her but im so hurt that she doesnt like him.. ive been dating him for almost 2 months and its painful enough that i cant see him or hug him or kiss him and now my bestfriend hates him. WAT SHOULD I DO?? >.< im so upset at the moment i just need some help with wat i should do about my boyfriend and my bestfriend..
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your best friend is simply concerned for you and she is worried you'll be hurt badly by this guy if it doesn't work out.
i know how you feel, i haven't been going out with my boyfriend for long but i miss him every day even though he is at my school (he's a year older than me so i don't see him often), but when i told my best friend i fancied him she told me he was a minger and i shouldn't go out with him. i only wanted her to respect my decision.
remember that it is difficult to get to know a person through a single msn conversation and your friend probably can't understand why you're so happy about this guy when you can't see him, hug him or kiss him, even hear his voice. but you really love him and that is clear. also, your friend merely said long-distance relationships rarely work and that she doesn't trust him. you have got yourself worried and put it into your head that she hates him.
just understand her concern, and if you tell her you still love him but you understand why she is a bit wary. don't worry so much.be glad she cares for you this much.
hope this helps put things into perspective a little better,
laura xxx
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There is no reason to be mad at your best friend. The two of you can have different opinions and still be really close. She is most likely just trying to protect you, like a good friend should. As long as you realize that she is just looking out for you, and you don't let her good intentions rule your life, it is fine. If you and the boyfriend really have a future together, and he turns out to be a great guy, then your friend will eventually see that and change her mind. Don't worry over the future, and just enjoy the fact that two people you care about are in your life. They don't have to be best friends to be your best friends.
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I realize you wanted them to be friends, or for her to like him, but things don't always turn out as they seem. Your friend obviously doesn't understand the type of relationship you & your boyfriend have. Long distance relationships sometimes work if the people love each other enough. This is going to sound insane, but your best friend doesn't have to like him. I know you wanted her to, but it's not mandatory. Just keep the life with your boyfriend seperate, and the life with your best friend seperate. Don't mention your boyfriend to him. Hopefully, she'll get over it. But if not, that's cool too because her opinion doesn't matter. The only opinion that does matter about him, is your's. It's not the end of the world if she doesn't like him. That's her loss & you shouldn't get upset over it. :]
♥T!NA
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