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how do I get crush of my mind?
Ok heres the thing I like this guy and well I have only had like one conversation with him but I have liked him now for around 18 months and I cant take the heartache any longer so I need a way of getting him outta my mind and please dont say ask him out as I am too shy to ask I need other suggestions.
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if your to shy maybe you could have a friend whos not attracted to him and you can trust to ask him about going out with you if your not comfortable with that maybe you can just slowly give him signs that you like him. you can forget about him but whats the point of liking someone if your just going to write it off without trying. i know how you feel im really shy when it comes toguys i like to i just try to make an effort to talk to him and smile and make eye contact. even if it takes a while. you could try to be his friend. but if you really dont want to try then you should focus your attention on someone else but you might end up in the same situation. you could just focus on something you enjoy doing when you start to think of him or think about all of thinks you dislike about him. i personally dont think you should give up or settle if you really like someone and dont know how that person feels about you but its up to you.
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You can either tell him how you feel or avoid seeing him.-<3Potential
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Hey,
My advice is to occupy your mind with other things-sports, friends, etc. And since 18 months is a long time and you don't want to dwell on this, test the waters-meet other guys!! You may like this one guy for now, but one day, you'll meet your prince charming! :)
And if this doesn't work, try getting his screenname, if you're not too, too shy. This is an easy way to talk to them without having to be face to face, which, in my case [i don't know about you], relieves some nervousness.
Hope I helped & that all goes well!
-Jam
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hey, okay well 18 months is a long time to like someone without them knowing. once i was sure that i liked them i would have told them [not asked them out, just told them]. you should get his AIM screen name and chat him up there. maybe talk about what happened at school. just things that your both interested in. once you get to know him better maybe ask him to hangout with your friends and his friends, that is if you feel comfortable with things. hopefully you guys will hit it off and he will ask you first. but if not just tell him that you have strong feelings for him and you know that something might not come out of this but that you just wanted to tell him so that you wouldnt keep it all botteled up inside.
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There is not one insult in here, but just a warning and a way out if you want it. We have all been there, and I know what a struggle it can be.
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An obsession like yours can only grow with time as long as the fantasy goes untouched by reality. If you really can't talk to him, at least try to view this person realistically in very unattractive situations or as someone who is interested in another. Fantasy is powerful because we are in control and it is far from the reality we are too afraid to see. Everyone has their crummy side, and maybe you are not so shy, but are reluctant to give up the fantasy once you risk rejection. Don't let this keep wasting your time. Either confront him to get over him or confront him to get to know him and see if it works out. Letting go of the fantasy is something you have to truly WANT to do first.
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