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boyfriends mom
im really intimated by my boyfriends mom! i dont know why. shes not like mean or anything, and she's only like 5'. but shes loud-spoken and very boisterous.. and almost has like an angry tone when she talks. she cusses almost every other word [my family cusses some, but no where near the things she says] their whole family cusses a good bit, but i'd say shes the worst and uses every word in the book, especially since my boyfriend trys not to do it alot around me. i dont mind it much, but you'd think that she'd be more ..respectful..?.. when im around. she also yells a good bit and just has like a hateful attitude and a short temper it seems. dont say talk to my boyfriend about it, because he already complains about her yellin about everything and stuff. the thing is, im going on vacation with them for 3-4 days next week, so i dont know how to handle being around that! i've noticed that i get real quiet and am more of an introvert when she's like that. what should i do? 16-f
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Definately do not tell your boyfriend anything bad about his mom. It will backfire and she could end up mad at you. Is it worth going on vacation with them? Only you can decide. These are good experiences to have now, and learn from them. Someday you might marry and remember his family will be a part of your life and it is important to be at peace with that. This is just a few days vacation, so if you go just concentrate on the positive and get along the best you can.
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I don't know if I should be the one to speak because I got dumped a few days ago. But enough about my sob story, I was in the same exact situation as you were in. My boyfriend's-eh, excuse me- EX-boyfriend's family cursed A LOT. His two older brothers and his mother. I'm a very modest person and it's the truth when I say I do not curse at all. But everytime I was there I didn't enjoy the fact that in order to indulge myself in a conversation with the so said mother or my ex's brothers, I'd have to put a vulgularity in between every other word. So what I did was I sat down with his mother, which was very scary by the way, and told her that it really bothered me that she cursed a whole lot. So we talked it through. A few days later she told me she thought it was very bold -in a good way- that i voiced my opinion. it got me into good terms with her. Of course, that may not go the same in everyone's situation, but it helps if you voice your discomfort. Let them know that you won't allow yourself to be subject to such trashy words. Sho her and your boyfriend's family you have some class. It may make the vacation more enjoyable for everyone.
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