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Too fast?
Okay I will try to make it short. I have a boyfriend and I like him a lot. We have just started going out(it will be a month in like a week). Well the other day I was at his house, just hanging out and well I wont go into detail but at the end of the night we had reached 2nd base. & for me thats too fast. I mean I know we have both already had long term relationships and done everything like that, but I thought he would take it slower. Well my question is how do I tell him I want to slow it down without pushing him away?
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You have every right to be honest with him that its going too fast and vice versa! For example, if he thought it was going too fast he'd have the right to tell you. You shouldnt feel embarassed to be honest with him about your pace. You need to tell him how you feel because if its going too fast for you, you could end up doing something just for HIM and regretting something. Also, for a lot of people less than a month isnt a lot of time to be getting to 2nd base! If he doesnt accept your standards & boundaries and pace, you should break up with him.
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The advice I would give you depends a lot upon knowing how old he is, how old you are, how long you have known one another, etc. The answer I would give a 20 year old, for instance, would vary greatly from that I would give a 14 year old. Gigi
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I've had this happen to me with my current boyfriend I am with now.
You should tell him that you think your relationship is going "too fast" and want to slow things down.
Because if you let him continue on to what you two are doing, (which you didn't get into details with) he would most likely start thinking that you wouldn't mind him continuing on to what he is doing.
Tell him that you two need to slow things down. Not because you're worried but because the slower you go, the longer the relationship lasts.
I've told this to my boyfriend. And if your boyfriend truely loves and repects you, he would understand to where you're coming from and will 'slower things down.'
Hope I helped :)
-MADLYxINxLOVE
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Just be honest with him. Let your words flow naturally and calmly. Let him know how you feel about him and that you do want him to slow down a bit. If he really respects you and the relationship, he will listen.
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i think you should tell him exactly how it feels. tell him you still like/love (up to you) him the same since you've first went out, but were just going to fast and usually i like to build it up. so can we just stay where we are at until we've been going out longer. or something like that. hope i helped
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