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* hey, my name is Alex.

* i am 16 years young.

* i'm an easy to talk too person.

* i do have a boyfriend that i love with all my heart.

* there's nothing that can describe me completely

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advice

16/f


me and my bf had sex for the first time and i was on top at one point but i had noo idea what to do. so basically how exactly am i supposed to move on top?

Honestly, there isn't a certain move you have to do when you're on top.

Do whatever makes it more pleasurable.

Do these:
Jump up and down.
Move up and down (not jumping though)
Lean forward towards him and make him do the work while you're on top.

Good luck!

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My bf and i are 16 and have started having sex his penis is quite small and i can hardly feel him and it doesnt last that long im wondering if there are any good positions we can try and how to get his erection to last longer?

Honestly, I don't know because I've never been with a guy with a small penis.

The best would be with him on top and you on the bottom.

Hope I helped.
-MADLYxINxLOVE

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Hi, I'm natalie and I'm 15 years young. I'm an extremely happy and positive person (most of the time). But lately, I've been feeling really sad and I've talked to friends about it - but they all say the same thing. It would be nice to hear someone else's opinion. So here's the deal: I have a friend named Michelle and she's really cool. She's wild and crazy and great to have good laughs with. But Michelle is different now. She doesn't talk to me the way she use to, she gives me the meanest looks ever as well. I kind of know why too. See, i have a boyfriend, Joey, and I've been dating him for almost 3 months now =D. Michelle has a little thing for him. I know she does, just by the way she looks at him. Well, she was flirting A lOT with him. It hurt me.. so I told her to stop. she said this: "oh, okay". She didn't stop, so I talked to her again about it. She said: "omg nat! i hate it when friends think that. i'll stop. i mean, it will be hard but i'll try" She doesn't flirt as often anymore but the angry glances she's been giving me are startin' to get to me. Everyone tells me this: "if she was a real friend, she would respect your feelings. She wouldn't get mad at you for this. You and joey look really happy together and you shouldn't let michelle get in the way of that. we're here for you anytime you need us. just -- relax, let her be like this." I know they are right, and only your real friends will stay with you til the end, but i just wish i could have something to say (to myself) or something to think that would make this feeling go away. Oh and another thing about Michelle is, well, she is obsessed with every guy possible. She flirts with everyone (which is why i didnt get too upset with her because she does it to every guy). And I know she is really interesting in Joey. But definitely not looking for a long-term relationship. She isn't that kinda person (she told me herse;f). So, out of all this: any suggestions on what i could do, to make me relax. I just want these uncomfortable feelings to go away. So any advice, suggestions, comments will help! thanks in advice! =)

*`Nat.`*

Hey Natalie!

It's great to know that you still have true friends by your side showing their care for you and your situation between Michelle and you.

Honestly, I believe your friends are right. Don't let someone like Michelle get into your way of having a great relationship. Even after flirting with him so much and telling you she would stop but doesn't really say what she means.

The best I could say for you to do is to talk to your boyfriend, Joey, about this. Tell him you don't like how Michelle is always flirting with him and such, maybe he can tell her to 'back off' and that he's completely happy with the relationship he is with you.

To me, Michelle sounds like an untrustworthy friend. She should be happy for you and Joey, not trying to make matters worse. But honestly, if she was a true friend you thought she 'was' she shouldn't be doing this to begin with.

Maybe try ignoring her, show her the real deal.
Even though she is your friend that's wild and crazy, she also needs to know when she needs to be serious and stop.

Hope I helped you, Natalie.

Much love,
MADLYxINxLOVE
A.K.A. - Alex

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ok im 20, female. I get really turned on when i see naked women and i want to touch myself. But I would never consider doing anything with a woman. Like, it kinda grosses me out thinking about doing something with another woman...but I like to watch lesbian porn. It turns me on way more than man-woman porn. Whats wrong with me?

This is completely normal.
Nothing wrong with it or you.
You just simply get turned on when you see women action rather than doing it yourself.
I wouldn't really consider yourself lesbian or bi-sexual, it's what you feel. :)

-madlyxinxlove

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ok i need help asap! this guy that i really really really like well we've been talking for like forever now about doing stuff. and i already promised him i would. like promised for sure. but now i'm getting really nervous about it.. like i'm scared to death, but i really want to do stuff, stuff as in i'm going to give him a blow job and he's going to finger me. i've never done any of this so please help me! any tips on what to do?, how to make it not awkward?, and how to not be so nervous? thanks a ton!

Ah, in my point of view: To be 110% honest with you, I say DON'T do it.
If you're NOT comfortable with this, don't even bother.
Even if you've promised this guy you would.
Might as well tell him what's up.
I'm just saying you shouldn't be doing something that you're not ready or comfortable with or you're going to regret doing it later.
And don't let this guy take advantage of you. AT ALL.

-madlyxinxlove

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almost 16/female
this is kinda embarrassing..

but today, my guy friend caressed my shoulder and arm in a realllllyy smooth/sexy way...he was just playing around.

as soon as he did that, i felt this rush through my body...and it was mainly directed at my lower part (...) and just everywhere...it felt really nice. lol

I don't know whyy....

is this normal? :/

This isn't embarrassing.
And this is completely normal.
You've just got touched in a place that turns you on in a sexual way.

-madlyxinxlove

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im 15 girl
im always horny what do i do i dont know how to mastrubate
what does it feel like to be eaten out

What you can do, you can go to google.com
and just simply typing in 'How To Masterbate'
Actually, http://www.gurl.com is a good sex tips too.
I guess you can say that when a girl gets eaten out is suppose to feel good.
To my opinion, it does ;) lol

-madlyxinxlove

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Okay... I've been off the shot for nearly six months. I had sex unprotetcted over last weekend and I'm wondering if its possible that I'm pregnant. I think it is but im not too sure. My sister said it took her nearly a year and a half to get pregnant, as well as my sister in-law. My other sister that was on the shot is having a problems trying to get pregnant. Do you think I am or What? Im confused~!

If you have either protected or unprotected sex, you are ALWAYS in a risk of becoming pregnant.

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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how do i put pictures as my captions for my pictures on myspace

http://www.whateverlife.com/picturecaption.php

whateverlife.com is the BEST website to go to when you need any myspace stuff. Like codes, layouts, banners, and much more :)

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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ok. well my friend & her boyfriend have been dating for a year. he broe up with her a while ago..
well, yesterday, her boyfriend told me that he likes me. dont like him back& i told him that. well myfriend found out that he likes me& now she thinks i was the reason they broke up&she's mad at me. i've told her multiple times that i dont like him& that im ot going to date him. but she stil is mad& wont even talk to me anymore.
this girl is my best friend & i need serious help with this problem.

Apparently your so called 'best friend', isn't a good friend after all. You two are best friends and she chooses to believe someone who just broke up with her over someone who she turns to to hang out and tell secrets too?

Maybe she's just a little stressed out, depressed, or just angry of the fact that she's just gotten out of a relationship that lasted a year.

My best advice would be to stay away from him. Don't even talk to him or look at him. Maybe he'll get the picture that what he's doing after their break up is wrong and that you don't like him in that way. And because of him, your friend doesn't even want to talk to you.

Give your friend about a week or so, so she can clear things up.

Before you know it, she'll probably turn to you to talk to and wants to keep her ex-boyfriend out of her mind.

But if she ignores you or doesn't want to talk to you, thens she wasn't a best friend after all.

Good luck!

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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ok, so theres this guy who i went out with, but i broke up with him, cuz i never really liked him. so he calls me bad stuff behind my back, but according to his friends, he still reallly likes me.

whats his deal?

I think his deal is that he's mad at the fact that you two dated then you broke up with him.

Maybe he's just saying that kind of stuff out of anger? or just as in an 'whatever' type of attitude.

But then again, you can never know unless you confront him about it. Maybe all that things his friends are saying aren't even true.

Find out the truth and talk about it. Be friends like you two were before you two dated. :)

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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I want to get a guys' number. I mean I know how to flirt, i'm acutally very good at it, it's whatever. but like, for some reason.. I can't get myself to ask him.. I want him to ask me.. but idk, I know he's interested. We talk all the time.. and we always sneak smiles and everytime we see eachother we just immediatly walk up to eachother and start talking.. what can I do to get myself out there more? What can I do to show him that I want him to make a move, or vice versa?

That is deffinatley a good idea.

Mention something about hanging out, at your place, or his place. Or maybe a date to the movies :)

In order to be able to meet up, you must trade numbers to keep in contact.

Then afterwards, you two will start hanging out and such.

Seems to me he already notices you and maybe he's just waiting for you to make the move? You never know.

Good luck!

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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I am tall and i hate it i am 5 ft 11 and im only 14! and i odnt wanan grow anymore i dont like it :( is it bad to be tall because i ahte it please help me :(

Oh, the person underneath me is 110% true.
You can deffinatley become a model. :)

it's completely normal for someone that's 14 to be tall.

Actually to come to think of it, my ex boyfriend was 6'1" in the 6th grade. INSANE! But it's normal.

It might run in the family, you never know :D
but you should be happy with yourself, body, and your height :)

-MadlyxInxLove

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i dont plan on anything for a while but i was just wondering what cum means...

Cum is another way for 'sperm'
which I call 'skeet' lmao.

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My boy sais its totally normal for a man to want to get fingered. Whats your opinion on that matter?

In my personal opionion, that's kind of weird. But then again it's normal. :)

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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ok well i'm gonna have sex w/ this guy, but i'm a little worried that his penis might be too thick for me to take. is this a stupid fear? will my vagina be able to stretch to accomodate it? ...and will it hurt a lot?

It's not a stupid fear. It's completely normal. You'd be surprised to how many girls around your age get that fear. Usually when you're a virgin and you're going to have sex, your vagina stretches and rips some skin inside of your vagina cause you to bleed (AKA getting your cherry popped.)

Will it hurt? Yes and it just depends on how your partner is doing the work. To make is less painful, make sure your vagina is wet, by letting him eat you out [etc..], that way it can slip in easily.

Good luck!

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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i dont know if this is wierd or not. when i masturbate i sit on one spot in my room every time. and what happens on that spot, stays on that spot. am i wierd?

thanx

No, you're not weird at all! you just like to get pleasured at a certain spot. That's all. :]

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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when you have sex for the first time, unprotected sex, is there a chance you can get pregnant???

With or without protection, you are in a risk of becoming pregnant. Even for first timers!

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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14/f
yesterday, i had sex w/ my bf for the first time and it hurt, of course, but like it kept coming out & we had to keep putting it back in. so, is that normal?

If you meant his penis, then it's probably because you're really wet and it slips off. But that's completely normal.

But if you mean the condom, usually it's most likely because your boyfriend's penis isn't hard enough, though that might mean he is getting soft causing the condom to slip out. It happens. Tell him to get it in a smaller size.

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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my boyfriend has fingered me a few times, and every time he's washed his hands immediately before. also he told me that he hadnt masturbated since the previous day too (every time.) and he hasn't touched himself at all while he's fingering me. but my period is a week late.

i'm just thinking its stress, because i was stressed about it being late in the first place, but please reassure me that i can't be pregnant.
thanks

http://www.gurl.com/findout/fastfacts/pages/0,,623578,00.html

[Read the LAST one. the first sentence!]
that should answers your question.

(http://www.gurl.com is a GOOD place to go to about sexual activities such as fingering, masturbation, orgasms, etc..)

If your boyfriend masturbates before fingering you and supposedly forgets to wash his hands, either way you still CAN'T get pregnant.

My boyfriend has told me once Sperm gets out of his system, Sperm automatically dies when it reaches air and/or water.

But you're NOT pregnant!

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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