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Just Need To Something To Make Me Feel Better
Hi, I'm natalie and I'm 15 years young. I'm an extremely happy and positive person (most of the time). But lately, I've been feeling really sad and I've talked to friends about it - but they all say the same thing. It would be nice to hear someone else's opinion. So here's the deal: I have a friend named Michelle and she's really cool. She's wild and crazy and great to have good laughs with. But Michelle is different now. She doesn't talk to me the way she use to, she gives me the meanest looks ever as well. I kind of know why too. See, i have a boyfriend, Joey, and I've been dating him for almost 3 months now =D. Michelle has a little thing for him. I know she does, just by the way she looks at him. Well, she was flirting A lOT with him. It hurt me.. so I told her to stop. she said this: "oh, okay". She didn't stop, so I talked to her again about it. She said: "omg nat! i hate it when friends think that. i'll stop. i mean, it will be hard but i'll try" She doesn't flirt as often anymore but the angry glances she's been giving me are startin' to get to me. Everyone tells me this: "if she was a real friend, she would respect your feelings. She wouldn't get mad at you for this. You and joey look really happy together and you shouldn't let michelle get in the way of that. we're here for you anytime you need us. just -- relax, let her be like this." I know they are right, and only your real friends will stay with you til the end, but i just wish i could have something to say (to myself) or something to think that would make this feeling go away. Oh and another thing about Michelle is, well, she is obsessed with every guy possible. She flirts with everyone (which is why i didnt get too upset with her because she does it to every guy). And I know she is really interesting in Joey. But definitely not looking for a long-term relationship. She isn't that kinda person (she told me herse;f). So, out of all this: any suggestions on what i could do, to make me relax. I just want these uncomfortable feelings to go away. So any advice, suggestions, comments will help! thanks in advice! =)
*`Nat.`*
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Hey Natalie!
It's great to know that you still have true friends by your side showing their care for you and your situation between Michelle and you.
Honestly, I believe your friends are right. Don't let someone like Michelle get into your way of having a great relationship. Even after flirting with him so much and telling you she would stop but doesn't really say what she means.
The best I could say for you to do is to talk to your boyfriend, Joey, about this. Tell him you don't like how Michelle is always flirting with him and such, maybe he can tell her to 'back off' and that he's completely happy with the relationship he is with you.
To me, Michelle sounds like an untrustworthy friend. She should be happy for you and Joey, not trying to make matters worse. But honestly, if she was a true friend you thought she 'was' she shouldn't be doing this to begin with.
Maybe try ignoring her, show her the real deal.
Even though she is your friend that's wild and crazy, she also needs to know when she needs to be serious and stop.
Hope I helped you, Natalie.
Much love,
MADLYxINxLOVE
A.K.A. - Alex
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