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15/f.
i have a crush on this guy at my school. hes smart cute easy to talk to hot nice athletic funny. the total package i guess you could say.
but the thing is i'm so overly shy i can't talk to him because i don't know what to say. so i had my friend go and say that she was doing a poll for a class and have her find out things about him. (stupid i know) so anyway he found out the truth about the reason why she did this. i don't know how because i didnt tell anyone and he found out that i liked him but he just thinks of me as a friend. which was a relief because i knew he could have said he hated me i was planning on asking him to sadie hawkins and become good friends with him before i ask him but i'm too embarrassed to even say hi to him because of what happened so i feel that its impossible for me to ask him to sadie. and i'm worried he might think of me as a coward or a liar because of the fake interview. did i ruin my chance of being his friend, asking him to sadie hawkins, and possibly having a relationship with him? how can i get over my embarrassment to talk to him and should i confront him about what i had my friend ask him these questions thanks for your time :)
p.s i know you guys probably think i'm an idiot for this but i am so shy it's not even funny please try to understand

Try to make a joke out of it...like come up with a clever line to say to him as to why she did that for you..rather yet text him. Or if you want to confront him in person just make sure he's alone. You might still be able to pull off the 'going to the sadie dance ' with him..but you gotta come clean as to why you had your friend ask. I mean I'm sure he'd like to hear from you that you like him then someone else, even if he doesn't feel the same. So try to do that and if he shoots you down - well then you gotta move on.

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15/f... ok so basically, in just about every relationship i've ever been in, I've been the one to screw it up. I'll either break up with the guy or I'll do something that I know will cause him to break up with me. It's just that, if i'm friends with a guy I can totally be myself around him but the second we start dating, it's really really awkward! I don't know why I keep doing this! And usually, because it becomes so awkward, i'll break off all our dates or something with some lame excuses as to why I can't go and eventually he'll break up with me :( Now, there's this really awesome guy that I think I might have a chance with. I just talked to him on the phone for like 3 hours (Which is a MAJOR thing for me because I NEVER talk on the phone ever because I am TERRIFIED of those awkward silences) and it was so cool because I just talked and we didn't run out of stuff to talk about :) this guy is really cool and we have a lot in common, but I know that the second he asks me out, it will ruin everything :( How do I prevent this? I want him to ask me out, I just don't want everything to be ruined between us :( he's so cool I just don't want to lose him... thank you for reading :)

Well you might want to give him heads up that you are like that..so he can prepare himself. I mean you sound like you're just scared of getting hurt, I've been there - trust me. But you just have to try your hardest and make things work especially if you care for this guy. But like I said - do tell him as to what you tend to do. He might be able to stick around if he knows what's going on instead of just thinking that you're losing interest.

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i might be pregnant. I date all my periods and times i have sex with my boyfriend on a calender so i know what days happened. On July 31st we had sex wile i was on my 3rd day on my period and he came in side. After that my period did not stop. it lasted on for 15days. I went to the doctor and they gave me a pregnancy test that came back which i knew that. it was too early for one any way. I hadnt even started on my missed on yet. but anyways they gave me some pills that were supposed to "reset" my period and bring it back. i finished the pills on August 26th but it didnt come back. on the 31st i got some spotting that was bright red and on the first i had some clots that were dark brown than nothing after that. Could i be pregnant? i havent had any signs or should i go to the doctor again?

Well when I got pregnant I still had my period and I found out that I was pregnant a few days before my period was even supposed to start. I actually had a miscarriage in the process & I had blood clots...you might've had a miscarriage as well hun. I mean if they didn't know if you were pregnant or not but they still gave you pills to take - well that's not very responsible on their part..they could've killed your baby. Now I'm not trying to scare you or anything...but that's just what it seems like to me, I might be wrong.

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so my boyfriend and i have been together for about 9 months. he knows like all the things to like turn me on and stuff, but the one thing he likes i like need help with. sooo how do i like take charge?
do i like just push him up against a wall and just start grabbing him and what not?
i guess im a little sexually shy? but i realllly want to have that whole aggressive side.
any and all tips, comments, or whatever would be awesome :)

To be more aggressive ok this is what you do.

When you're just getting into it possibly pin him against the wall - whatever you like.

* DO NOT grab his stuff - you might do it too hard because you are TRYING to be aggressive; it's not your nature. *

When you guys are actually doing it get on top! Don't do it slowly just kind of turn him over and get on top, pin his hands down and just take control over the situation. It will come to you, you'll see.

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Im Pregnant this is way to much stress on me and I need answers.

My two year old son called my sister in laws phone. Her husband cussed out my son. My son hung up the phone and her husband called back. I said this isn't your phone to begin with its BreAnna's and it was jayden who called not me or dustin and I said bye and hung up. She would copy everything i wrote on myspace I asked why she said i dont and its a free country. I said okay whatever bye (through text messages) her husband was going to play the music at our wedding my husband didnt want him to since he doesnt get along with him. they brought that up i said the music was all up to dustin and not me i planned about everything else that was not my fault. My husband text both of them asking to leave me alone im pregnant i dont need the stress and had nothing to do with it. He husband started calling me a whore and slut. My husband did say well we can meet some where oh i forgot you have breanna fight all your battles. blah blah

we cant get a list of text messages for the court date because we need a sepenia. which could take for ever and day.

My husband is freaking out. Im stressed they pressed charges practically on a 2 year old because that was the only person who made phone calls.

Ignoring them is your best bet. Make sure you don't leave voicemails or text messages - that will just put you in a deeper hole. If they call don't answer, if they text - don't answer..just keep away as much as possible. As far as them pressing charges on your son - well that's just pathetic. These people are acting like they are 10 years old and you should be worried about your pregnancy, don't let people like that occupy your time. I hope this helps. Congrats on your baby :) and good luck!

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I'm a senior in high school and there's this i guy i liked and still like and talked to a lot last year. I pretty much didn't see him all summer. Today was the first day of school and I was scared he wasn't gonna be happy to see me but thank god he was and said hi to me and talked to me. I really, really wanna keep talking to him and i really want him to keep on flirting a lot with me but there are a couple of problems. One, we were both in the play together last year, which brought us together but i think he might not be doing it this year and i'm scared it just won't be the same as last year if he doesn't do it. We're in a few classes together but it's not the same. Also, the bigger issue is that he's pretty popular and hangs out with a completely different crowd than i do (he hangs out with pretty much all girls, though) so it's kind of out of the question for us to hang out. It's kind of also out of the question for us to go out for the same reason (i don't really care about that THAT much though, i kind of just wanna flirt/socialize with him A LOT like i did last year). Do you think i should still try to make an effort or just give up? Is there no point?And how can i keep socializing with him if he doesn't do the play?

Ok one, many people will tell you ' tell him how you feel ' but we all know it's deeper than that. Just start texting him, fall into casual conversations with him, hang out with him, and once you both have gotten in the habit of texting every day there's going to be something - and you'll notice a few hints from the way that he talks to you. When it gets maybe 2 weeks into you guys talking...try to throw him hints that you like him.

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I have this one friend, not really a friend, i just hang out with her at basketball practice. I really like her, but hanging out with her outside of practice or without the team is really awkward because we have nothing besides the sport in common. she invited me over once and i think we both thought it was awkward. my parents now are always telling me to invite her over. i have gotten out of it so far, but they always say i need to "reciprocate" or "return the favor" how can i explain to them that we arent compatible to hang out outside of basketball??

The smartest thing to do is tell your parents that you have hung out with her before and that you have noticed that it was awkward and the only thing you guys have in common is basketball so you'd perfer if you guys just hung out during practices.

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18/f.

I've been on birth control for about 6 months. Last Monday I missed a pill on the 2nd week of the pack. I didn't notice until I went to take my pill for the next night and noticed that Monday night's was still there. I took both but the next day I noticed spotting. My mom said it was normal after a missed pill but the problem is I'm STILL spotting over a week later! What should I do? Should I call my doctor? Or should I just continue on my pill schedule? Does this mean I won't get my period when I got on the inactive pills next week?
I'm on the 7-7-7 pill, I don't know if that helps at all.

Thanks for any information!

Your mom is right on this one. After you miss a pill your body is kind of on a set back so you get spotting..just continue with taking your pills the way you were before. You shouldn't have taken the one you missed though because you're never supposed to take two but it's alright. Like I said just continue taking them now.

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My best friend just recently got married to a girl he's been dating for the last year.

During that time, they never touched one another and refrained from sexual contact. She was a VERY pure seeming girl in all ways. When they first started dating she was very open about telling him something around the lines of her wanting to be pure on her wedding night. He, obviously, assumed this meant she was a virgin girl.

My friend is 26 and he's had a crazy past (he has had sex with plenty of girls during his high school and college years). So, needless to say, he knows what "feels good" sexually and what simply doesn't for him.

The girl he has recently married has also had a sexual past, it turns out. She apparently failed to mention it during the months leading up to the marriage though! Instead of just telling him EVERYTHING there was to know about her, she presented herself as being religious and modest for most of her life. So, come the wedding night, he was excited he had gotten married to a pure woman and was looking forward to living a righteous life with her.

Come time to finally get intimate with on another and consummate the marriage, she tells him that she hopes that he's the best she's ever have. He thought that sounded a little odd to say so he asked how many guys she had previously been with. She couldn't seem to pinpoint a number and just kept telling him, "just a few..."

He was upset but had married the girl so he thought he might be able to get past this shock. They go on to being intimate and he finds out that not only is she NOT a virgin like she had previously presented herself to be but her vagina is SO loose! He said there was almost no friction at all and it was a great let-down for what he was expecting his wedding night to be. They had to stop "trying" to have sex and just go to bed because the didn't know how to make things pleasurable for them both.

Now, he's thinking, "What have I gotten myself into! She is obviously not what I thought she was! What else is she hiding from me that is important?"

The next day he asks his friends (including me, of course) to go out and find some information on his now wife. We go out, ask some questions in some bars and to people that seem to know everybody. We find out she was a nasty freak right before they started dating! She use to go out clubbing, drink, smoke, had a lot of miscarriages as well as a handful of abortions. She was constantly with new guys and use to mess around with women, too! One guy even said he thought he might have sold her pills to get high with before.

We couldn't keep this stuff from my friend that married her so we told him the truth of what we had found out. He's SO devastated that she never bothered to tell him these things!

He knows he needs to confront her about these things but he is afraid and doesn't know what to say exactly. I mean, hell, his marriage can fall apart in a matter of minutes--HELL, it already has in his mind! I can't say I wouldn't be any happier myself though. I think I would have left her on the wedding night when she said she wasn't a virgin (I mean, she did act like she was one during the entire time they were dating)!

What should he say to her? He's SO hurt and wants to run away, to say the least. Can anybody help me to help him?

First off, it's not your marriage to get caught up in between, but I would be doing the same thing for my best friend. The best thing he can do is confront her, if it doesn't work and she gets defensive then well they don't have an open communication and their marriage is gonna go down the drain. If he knows that the things he has found out bother him so much he needs to tell her or he's just going to drift away farther from her instead of just TRYING to work things out.

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hey, uhm. does anyone have quotes ot lyrics that i could use thats about...

i like this guy and he said he likes me too but doesnt want a girlfriend right now.

if you do thanks alot.

fallin out- keyshia cole
wait for you - elliot yamin
do you - mickael
rain on me - ashanti
Dying From A Broken Heart - Brooke Valentine
tears on my pillow - mya
The Love I Never Had - Mary J. Blige
cry-rihanna
heartbreak hotel-whitney houston
rehab-rihanna
no more complaining- mila j
shoulda let you go - keyshia cole
That Aint Love-myxx
walked out of heaven-jagged edge
have to go through it - tamia
offically missing you-tamia
heartbreaker- tank
Me,Myself,and I -beyonce
Don't Wanna Cry - Mariah Carey
one and only - mariah carey
ice box remix - omarion
gone - nysnc
godbye-jagged edge
emotions - destiny child
burn-usher
i'm going down - mary j. blige
thousand years - cinderella
almost doesnt count- brandy
so sick - ne-yo
one wish - ray j




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so my boyfriend and i broke up (the reason why is WAY to long to explain) and i broke up with him, then we got back together, and the next day he broke up with me. anyway i was so mad at him for so many reasons, and i still get mad when i think about it, but at the same time i want him back. he broke my heart and i still want him back. whats wrong with me? how do i get over him?

thanks SO much for ur help

oh i have/had the same problem. Your heart is different then mine so its gonna take time to heal. of course you cared so you want to be with him because you have feelings. The only thing you can do is take one day at a time, hang out with your friends, take your mind off him. Its okay if you think about him and its okay if you cry over him but its just going to take time. there is no brilliant advice to do it, it just takes a while but you will get there.

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Does it feel good when someone fingers you? Because my boyfriend wants to, but I'm scared that it wont feel good or it will hurt. What about after if he's fingers are wet? What does he do? I feel like an idiot for asking, but I really wanna know..

yes it does feel good...there are different ways that a guy can do it but no matter what im telling you it feels good. you're too worried about it, if you are so stressed out you wont be able to enjoy it so just chill out a little bit.

on the wet part..his hands most likely will be wet, its no big deal i promise you. He'll wash his hands after and thats it. Its not a big deal. It is to you cuz you're scared and nervous all at the same time...but it will be okay i promise.

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Last year I got felt up by a guy I don't know. It really screwed me up.
I finally talked about it, and the whole dirty feeling is back.
I can't get myself feeling clean.
Is there any way to help this???
thanks,
~RoSe~

i think yu just really need to find one person yu can trust . a girl? maybe even a guy?
but talk to them tell them how it made yu feel . everythng just get all yur feelings out . if yu cant do that

write a letter. write it in a journal something that will just make yu feel better if yu get it out . or write a letter to the guy telling him how it made yu feel but don ' t send it . idk i hope something works for yu

but yu wont be able to forget it or be ok with it until yu let go of those feelings and let someone know the way yu feel inside

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i really like this guy. and we started talking a lot towards the end of 9th grade.. and like over the summer we talked and texted.. and one night we even stayed up till 2 in the morning talking online. we talked for four hours. and now 10th grade has started and we kind of haven't talked very much. i mean we texted for a little once... and i talked to him online like once... but that's it. i feel like he lost interest in talking to me. and like i want to reach out and keep talking to him but i don't want him to think of me as bothering him. he never reaches out to me... so should i just stop?

i don ' t think yu should give up . i think if yu like him try . and give him hints that yu want to hang out more . and stuff like IM him and maybe even ask him y yu two lost touch. yu will re-connect if he sees that yur trying . but if after yu guys hang out hes still acting the same then maybe he has lost interest just . ask him . or like i said hang out with him . hope it works out girl . bye

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i am a fifteen year old female. the boy i have been making out with recently wants to step up our relationship. he wants to finger me which i am totally ready for and excited for. the only concern is that i have a lot of pubic hair, so i wonder if he will be grossed out. should i shave it for him? Thanks.

i personally think yu should shave it like idkk its gonna be better even for yu like when your on yur periods just telling you but its your choice to keep it if yu want to girl

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okay well this is pretty disgusting so bare with me. i am 13 and well my "baggage" in the pubic area is kind of "loose". lol i know its weird but whenever i look in the mirror naked just standing up straight, i can see my stuff like hanging there (not hanging really far down or anything.) but i just wanted to know if that's normal. all the girls i see, you can barely see any of their "stuff" when they face me standing straight up, but i can just see a little bit of it when i look at myself. is it normal for it to be a little low?

its really normal dont worry about it

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here's two things i've been told about sex from my friends, and i'm not sure what's true and what's not:

-your vagina makes "farting" noises when having sex.
-there is the possibility of peeing on him.

true or false? =/

thanks!

lmao sorry thats funny
but they're both false wow

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By John Clare


I am—yet what I am none cares or knows;
My friends forsake me like a memory lost:
I am the self-consumer of my woes—
They rise and vanish in oblivious host,
Like shadows in love’s frenzied stifled throes
And yet I am, and live—like vapours tossed


Into the nothingness of scorn and noise,
Into the living sea of waking dreams,
Where there is neither sense of life or joys,
But the vast shipwreck of my life’s esteems;
Even the dearest that I loved the best
Are strange—nay, rather, stranger than the rest.


I long for scenes where man hath never trod
A place where woman never smiled or wept
There to abide with my Creator, God,
And sleep as I in childhood sweetly slept,
Untroubling and untroubled where I lie
The grass below—above the vaulted sky.


so i'm going to do this spoken word, but i don't understand it fully. Helppp?

it means that he basically wants happiness

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okay,here is the scenario

i met this gal on the net,so what happens is that it is a chatroom,right,and we chat and soon find that we share the same interest and all that.we did not have cyber sex and it was just pure talk,later she sent me her photo and her msn.we soon had a great chat,but she has never seen me before.she then confessed her feelings to me on one night so here's my question:

1)does it count as love when a gal says she loves you when she has never seen you before,but loves your personality,chatting with you and everything else.

don't ask why i did not sent her my pic yet,i'm working on it,but i just wanna ask if it counts as love or not till this point where she doesn't know how i look like but likes my personality and other stuff.

its possible that she could love yu. she might've fallen in love with yur personality its normal . it could be real love . if its not it possibly could grow into that. be careful dont screw it up

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can cutting yourself become an addiction?

yea it can
....
if someone does it or if yu do it
consider getting help
or just talking to someone
because cutting wont solve anything
its just keeping yur feelings stuffed inside

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