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okay..i cant help it..i always let people walk all over me..and i serioulsy dont know how to be mean..and people say the meanest things about me..and i guess i just let them walk all over me..what should i do? (link)
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STAND UP FOR UR SELF...dont b scared...stand up for wut u belive in...n if they talk shit talk rite back at them...tell them wut they deserve to hear :) xoxo effy
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this guy i know wants to get back with me after he hurt me once got back with me hurt me again and then while i was getting over him he made out with a 12yr old girl when he is 18 and now he thinks everything is ok? (link)
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DONT GET BAK wit him...move on n live ur life to the fullest ;) find a guy taht deserves ur loving ;) xoxo effy
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i have liked this kid since 7th grade ( im only in 9th now ) but thats still a pretty long time...he knows i liked him in 7th and he knows i like him now but he doesnt know i have always liked him...hes all i think about day in and day out...i cant EVER get him off my mind but im scared to talk to him about it...we talk and stuff he kinda flirts wih me and stuff and we chill sumtimes but he works a lot...i REALLY want him to like me the way i like him...it just hurts a lot to know he prolly doesnt even care...me n my friend went to this soccer game and after it was a huge pilloiw fight...well these kids kept like trying to get...up on me...and wen he saw it he took off his hat, put it on my head and like chased them so they wouldnt touch me...ik it sounds really gay but wen he put his hat on my head i felt like i had everything in the world...is there anyway i can stand out to him...but not like changing myself totally? thanks for helping...xoxo (link)
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hi,awww so cute...i feel ur pain n i totally understand wut u talkin bout thinkin bout him 24/7 cuz i'm in those steps rite now n i'm deeply deeply in lov wit dis kid dat means the world to me...n i'm so happy n greatful dat he feels da same..n if he didnt i would go crazy...so wut u should do is see wussup...flirt wit him...lookin good EVERYDAY!!!dont put to much make up...from all my friends that i've had (guy friends) they always said that they dont want to see a made up face...they want to see natural beauty so put make up but light a very light one...also show to him that ur interested in him...guys lov dat...they lov it when gurls are interested..hopefully u feel comfortable n u guys communicate a lot cuz being comfortable n communication its the key in the relationship :) so i hipe i helped....n best wishes xoxo effy...
p.s. i think its cute n i understand the feeling u had when he puted his hat on ur head :)
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I think i like this one guy who got into a lot of trouble at our school what should i do?
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well if u like trouble n shyt then get involved if u dont then stay out of it n move on...;) xoxo effy
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me and my best friend got in a fight liek 4 months ago...we hav been best buds for 10 yrs...well we got in a fight bc her dad wouldnt pick me up and they just left me ther alone...after my mom gives her a ride to skool eryday so i got a little mad...but im such a hyper person i dont get mad like alot and so i juss wasnt really hyper around her nemore and hse got mad that i wasnt talking alot but it juss hurt my feelings bc she was hangin out with this new gurl and they would ditch me and then wen that happeend i juss got really hurt...well we stopped talking completely...she wrote stuff bout me on her xanga site n stuff and weve had arguments b4 that lasted like 2 days!! and they wer even WORSE arguments but wed get over them...this one is still going on...she is goin to another h.s nex year and stuff so we dont even c eachother..but i hav her sn and hav talked to her a few times and we juss apologize n she tells me "to remeber her as the gul who lived next door all her life, not the bitch who threw everything away" and we hav s0o many memories and pictures and i just really miss her and im starting to hav alot of bf's now and i juss wish i could share everything with her!! everytime she signs on aim i get really sad and wanna talk to her i htink of excuses like "o u left ur jacket at my house frum a while ago do u wanna come get it sumday" juss to talk toher and see how she is...shuld i tel her how i feel? wat can i say to her? its been so long and im scared tho...we wer BEST FRIENDS...help im so confused (link)
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hi, well i'mma b very honest okay...i kno it hurts and everything but u said it "U WERE BEST FRIENDS WIT HER...(WERE)" listen in life time ur gonna have so many new friends n u gonna loose lots of friends....so just move on even though it hurts...ur gonna find plenty of new friends n u gonna have lots of best friends...but there comes a time that sometimes u have to let go even though it hurts a lot...thats life...n thats how it goes...theres nothing that u or anyone else could do bout it...just move on n get ur self a new best friend n share ur thoughts n everything...n make new good memories wit ur NEW BEST FRIEND!!! hope i helped..xoxo effy
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Okay, I'm 14 and I have a boyfriend that I've only been with for like around a month. But when I'm around him I don't really feel comfortable with him anymore and a few days ago he tried to get me to smoke with him by saying if you loved me you would... and i was really mad cuz im not big on drugs. I don't really want to be with him anymore, But he likes me alot. If you were me what would u do? (link)
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DUMP HIS ASS!!!! Gurl are u serious?!?! he loves u n he makin u do drugs?!?!? I DONT THINK SO...somone who loves u or cares bout u even a lil bit they wouldnt want u to get involoved...a guy whos 14 or older they know wut they doin...they kno that drugs or smokin or w/e its no good...so plz...n plus if u dont feel comfortable around him then y are u keeping him?!?! to feel comfortable n comunication in a relationship its the key! so trust me...dont stay wit him anymore DUMP HIM...n get ur self a nice guy that will treat u like u deserve ;) (princess) :-D good luck xoxo effy
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Hey. I really want to join the step team for my middle school, but I don't know how to step. I don't know if they will teach you how to step or if you already have to know it. Please give me advice because I really need your help! thanx. (link)
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hi, well my friend wanted to join the step team i dunno how ppl in middel school do it but in high school u have to preform for them...like u have to make up a dance...n preform...n if they like the way u dance...n if u know how to dance n stuff n they like ur style then they will keep u..n they will teach u how to step n stuff...:) hope i helped xoxo effy
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ok i have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years on and off....i am 16 years old..we really love eachother...are parents know and everything...today i went to a physic and she said we have no future wat so ever together...and it was so weird cause he told me not to go cause i will start basing my life on her...and hes right cause now its making me think am i wasting my time...but me n him always plan r future together even though we r young...do u belive in physics wat should i do? how can i overcome this (link)
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are u SERIOUS?!?!! i dunno but me personally dont belive in that stuff...n ur b/f was rite...all they do its try to confuse u...listen just do wut u feel...go wit ur heart n dont go to physic to tell u ur life...i mean PLZ...there's one out of millions of them that could tell u the truth...but u never know..yes ur young ur prolly gonna have lots of b/f's n w/e...i mean even me that i aint one i would see u so young n everything n i would say the same thing..."that u n ur b/f that u got now have no future together" b/c usually ppl that are so young n "in love" have no future together...feel me?!?! so dat might not be tru...just stay wit ur b/f n keep dat happy relationship up....;) u never kno...i dont think anyone ever knows wuts gonna happen in their life or in someone elses life...they just assume n shit :) so....cmon dont tell me u belived her...good luck xoxo effy
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heyy! i really need to know how to make out with someone bc i am goin to hook up with a kid at my camp and i really dont know how please dont say idk or ul get it i really need help!!!! thanx (F 15) (link)
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hi, listen honestly i use to b in ur shoes i know how u feel n i know wut u mean...but seriously theres nothin anyone could say or w/e that can help u through it...just relax n belive me when i say that it will come to u automatically without makin any practice or without anything...the feelings n the moment will take u n u'll just end up doing it ;) xoxo effy best wishes!
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Female almost 15...kay me n my bff r like....sisters we do everything together!!i tell her EVERYTHING..n we have been through sum reallly tough times but we got through em n she has ALWAYS been there for me..we go on vacas together n our familys r like each others seconds familys....well..okay b4 she had me she was really good friends with this one girl Alexa..and i have met alexa once..but alexa doesnt like me..she says she doesnt like me n i8m a bitch bc her current b/f was my b/f over 3 YEASR AGO!!! which i think is kinda dumb but i think its really bc i took Stephanie my bbf away from her a year ago...well 2 months or so ago stephanie alexa n alexas b/f n his good friend Kenny all hung out fer a weekand..well stephanie REALLLLY like Kenny...so she ditched me fer all them..n it got me really mad but i didnt mind bc i mostly had plans on tha couple weekands they all hung out..well then Kenny got a g/f n steph found out n she got REALLLY mad n she dropped kenny n started to ignore alexa again..well now kenny apologized to her n hes single now so alllll last weekand alexa steph kenny n all them hung out..n then yesterday i aked her if she had wanted to come ova n go siwmming in my pool bc she had owed me sum money fer a play ticket n i need tha money n she said "oh i cant bc me n my mom r going to tha cell phone place when she gets home from work" which i noe is a lie n she was guna go hang out with alexa bc i called her @ 1 in tha afternoon n her mom doesnt get home from work till 6 plus she NEVER asks her mom to do nething she just goes n does it...n then today i called her n i told her i needed tha money that she owed me by tha end of today n she said oh well i would come n kik it wid u n give u tha money but i cant bc i have plans with "other ppl" fer tha mall..n i noe fer a fact its alexa n all them...i dont need to be her doormat..i have other friends but its just we had/have a REALLY great friendship...i snapped on her today n i havent talked to her since...im soooo irratated n mad i dont noe what to do..i wanna talk to her but i dont really think she'll listen..n if she doesnt i think she might just lie n make up excuses..what SHOULD i do?? PlEaSe help thanx!!! x0o0x (link)
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hi, well listen i got to say dat dats messed up...i think its reudiculous that she hides stuff from u n dont tell u that she is hanging out wit her other friends...n w/e w/e...wut i think u should do its talk to her n tell her that u dont mind her talkin or hanging out wit her other friends...but at least since u guys were so good friends it will b nice of her if she told u the truth...n u will b okay wit it...tell her that ur not jelous or anything bout her haning out wit alexa or w/e but wut relly bothers is her lieing to u...tell her how u feel..n tell her that i hope that wont happend again..i bet she will understand...(of course she is a good friend matirial) if not n she does it again...then i think u should just move on...n find ur self a tru best friend that wont ditch u n when she does at least she will tell u the truth rite in ur face...then try to b nice n lie n make u mad n w/e w/e ;) ight i guess i helped :) so good luck n best wishes :) xoxo effy
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okay my friend is like my bffffeaeaeaeaeea but like she is kinda slutty like she has soo many peircings and like she flirts with all my x bf! and im scared that the next boy i care about she will try to make a move on him. wut should i do? i mean she is my best friend for ever and i love her to death! but she tells me that she would never hook up with one of my xes or wit someone i like alot so please help me out her asap (link)
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well make sure that the one u like u tell her that u like him a lot...n everything n if she flirst wit him tell her how u feel n that u dont relly like it when she flirst wit him or w/e she will understand n try to keep away from him if she is ur close close friend...;) so good luck xoxo effy
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I've messed up a lot...and I'm only 15. I'm not going to go into detail about all the mistakes I've made, I just need a way to deal with them. It's like their haunting my mind. I don't know how to deal with it, and I'm always putting myself down about them too. I'm only 15 what do I do? I know its in the past and I can't do anything about it.... (link)
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listen...wut u can do its...just dont think bout them 2 damn much...they were in da past...wut happend happend...just try to make things better in da present!!! try to do good now...n not make the same mistakes over again! dats wut u could do n dont think bout them!! just move on...;) ur only 15 try not to make the same mistakes :) xoxo effy
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i've been friends with this girl since 6th grade. she used to live across the road from me, but then she moved away. Not far, only about 30 minutes. We used to talk on AIM but then we ran out of things to talk about. I mean, we don't have the same group of friends and we don't know who each of us is talking about. Now, I don't talk to her at all and I feel horrible. What am I supposed to do?? I want to be friends with her again but it's like we're complete strangers. (link)
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listen sometimes things happen in life...u get lots of friends...n u lose lots of friends...thats how life is...expecially when u guys dont have the same group of friends...n everything...i think thats normal...so just get use to the idea that u wont b so close to her anymore..i mean if u see her or w/e its ok to still hang out wit her for a day or w/e but u'll see that it wont b the same as the back old dayz...b/c she has diff friends then u...n she will grow up differently then u...so u guys wont have stuff in common anymore...so...just move on...chill wit ur new friends ;) xoxo effy
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me and my mom fight alot but i try to b nice to her as much as i can cuz you never knoe wut will happen you knoe so i really do try my hardest when we get in fights to just let it go but it seems that she alwats gets her way! and i knoe shes the mom and shes older and knoes best but i really get upset when i have a very good reason to defend my self for but she never listens to me! but then again i never give up until i get my way! i knoe i sound like a total brat now and i guess thats wut yu get but i don't want to b a brat n e more! i really want to be a good person for the rest of my life so please help me
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hi, well i dunno y u guys get in to fights or w/e n i relly dont know how ur realtionship is wit ur mom or w/e but wuteva she is tryin to do its for ur best...cuz the only person that loves u more then anyone its UR MOM!! she is the one that loves more n wants the best for u...so i know that in a way u might b rite or w/e just talk to her...open up to her n tell her wussup tell her how u feel n everything...things will b better...n she will treat u different! try to respect her as much as u can cuz after all she is ur mother...no metter wut she does or w/e she still ur mother...n remember that wut ever happens she will b the first one having ur back when everyone is turning their back to u...xoxo effy
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I have a crush on a guy that's I've known for 3 years. he is on year older than me and his younger sister, who is one year younger than me, is my best friend. I've had a crush on him for more than 4 years and we used to like each other, but not to the point of dating. She's told me that she THINKS he likes me too but we're not really sure. My mom and his mom are REAL good friends, but my mom is the boss and their mom is an employee, and according to my mom she doesn't want us to date or be anything more than friends because she's afraid if anythign will happen, it will ruin their relationship. My 3 questions are--How do I drop hints to let him know I still really like him? How do I know or get him to show that he likes me too? (because at times he can be a real bi0tch.) and how do i show my mom that if anything happens we'll stay friends? (i've already tried talking to her about it...) thx (link)
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hi, well talk to ur mom n tell her how u feel...tell her u relly like dis kid n tell her to dont worry cuz it wont ruin their relationship...but w/e u do just let him ask u out...u dont wanna ask him out n get rejected..but let him know ur interested...flirt wit him..tell him at times he looks good....n everything tell him u like his hair..or w/e w/e make compliments...guys usually like it when a gurl its interested on them n w/e so do ur thin gurl...;) but remember let him ask u out!! ;) xoxo effy
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ok i think im fat but my friends think that im like really skinny. and so does my friends mom. she always says "god look how skinny she is" and i cnat stand it. its not like i wanna be fat but i dont like to be considered like a tooth pick whne i think im fat. wut do i do? (link)
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wut i would do its not listen 2 much at wut ppl say...if u feel comfortable wit how u look so wut wit other ppl think...just b happy wit wut ur mama gave u...:) if u wanna have a healthy body...or w/e i dunno just exercise n eat a lot...n eat helthy ;) xoxo effy
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okay i really really really really still love my x but hes a major playa we went out twice and both times it didn't work out but we still talk alot online and stuff but its not the same. i still like him alot but i try to make it sound like i don't care everytime his name comes up in a convo wit me and my friends but i really do care and i really do have feelings for him still! and i knoe that i can have almost n e guy i want i mean a lot of guys like me so y do i want him soo much???
please help me out asap!!
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hi, well listen try to entertain ur self wit other stuff...n not think of him so much...try to not talk to him as much so u can get over him quicker...give guys a chance...gurlllllll ur prolly fine...u can get anyone that its not a player type n can treat u like u deserve...a princess!! so wut u should do is....go n get to kno another guy that u think its cute or w/e give him a chance who knoes u might end up liking him :) so wut u waiting for....go out n have some fun!!! xoxo effy
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Hey, guys! I'm supposed to call this guy I like back in ten minutes. We're not dating, but we can both tell it will happen soon. He asked to see me again, and we couldn't come up with things to do. He said we could go swimming, but I'm not the most confident person, and I wouldn't feel comfortable swimming infront of him. I don't want to tell him this, because it's highly embarrassing and something I just wish to keep to myself. I know you could tell me that if I can't tell him something like this a relationship wouldn't be good, I just don't feel like it's his business. Can someone please tell me what to say to him, or suggest another outing? Please help me!! (link)
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hi, well i kno that u already prolly gone out wit him now n w/e w/e...but if another occasion comes up n u guys dont know wut to do ...then just go play pool...even though u dont know how...SO WUT...go for fun...plus u'll have more fun if u dont know how...go bowling or...watch a movie...hang out together...go out wit friends...go to partys i dunno stuff like dat...n when u go to the pool u dont have to swim u could just chill there n get a tan! talk to him...n stuff...u know or get in to the water n talk to him...just b/c u go to da pool dont mean u have to swim ;) hope i helped even though i'm a lil late ;) xoxo effy
if anything else or w/e then holla at yr gurl :-P
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i like this boy a lot i mean iv liked him for like 2 years how do i make him fall in love with me.? ps he kinda likes me but i want him to like me more
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hi...listen if u want this kid to fall in love wit who u are...n da real U then u dont have to do much exept b u n b comfrotable round him...give it sometime...wit time he'll like u more n more...cuz it always grows...if it doesnt then he is not that special someone so forget it n move on...(easy to say n hard to do but dats how it goes sometimes)
p.s. a 14 yr old boy just b open wit him n comfortable...ask him or talk to him w/e its on ur mind...n if u guys have that "chemistry" then everything will b fine...;) if not then tell him bye bye !!! ;)xoxo effy
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okay so ive liked this boy for the longest time and now he told me that he likes me back and he says that he wants to have sex with me but im scared cuz it will b my very first time and i don't knoe if i want to loose that respect for myself this early in my life im only 13. and this boy is kinda a player but ive liked him for a long time and now that i knoe he likes me back i don't want to do n e thing that will ruin this. please help me
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hi, listen i'mma b very honest okay...u said u liked this boy for a very long time n NOW he likes u back...n ASKS U FOR SEX...dont u think that may b he knows how much u care n he only wants u for one thing ~~~~>"sex"...listen if he likes u soooooooo much or w/e then he will wait for u whenever ur ready...n if u dont feel ready then DO NOT DO IT!!! may b dis kid is not who u thought he is...may b he is not that special someone...so dont do something u will regreat! If he relly cares for u n he doenst want u only for sex then he will wait for u no metter wut...TRUST ME...i've gonne through that...so good luck ;) n i hope i helped xoxo effy...
p.s. if u need anything else then holla at me ;) i'll b more then happy to help...
s/n xxhotsexycutiexx
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