about

Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo.
"i refuse to sink."

advice

hey did anyone ever use that new black head thing that rotates and stuff to get the black heads out? does it work good?

I haveee ! Yeah, it works wonders ! You should try it outt. You won't be dissapointed, but it doesn't go away in like a day, just gotta give it some time :]
good luck, have fun ! hope i helped. xxo.

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me and this guy, we say were "best friends" but we flirt NONSTOP everytime we're together, and i just don't know if its us being comofortable with each other, or if we both want to be more, if we're just really attracted to each other or if its just a best friend kinda thing. i'll give you a couple examples of what we do and i'll get your opinion!(:

i took a shower, and i came out with only a towel on and he was like "daaaaaaang, i'll dry you off;)!" and i started laughing and he took my water and i was like give me my water! and he sat down on a chair and he was like come sit on me. and i shyly was like "noooo:)" and i bent over and he like lifted my towel up, but it wasnt embarassing because we do things like that to each other.

he always knows when something's wrong, and he is always looking out for me and is like "you don't smoke do you, you better not linds i'm serious!" or if i ask him a question and i feel like he's not telling me the truth he'll be like "you know you can trust me, we tell each other everything" and when i'm sad, he does everything he can to make me laugh.

everytime we hangout, and one of us leaves the other, he'll always give me a hug and won't let go for a long time, its so cute:)

he's seen me naked, i've seen him naked. we haven't done anything though not even kissed BUT doing that, was a dare kind of thing and we were totally comfortable with it.

one time i was making food and he came up from behind me, and like put his chin on my shoulder and his arms around me and i like leaned back, if you can picture that and i was like do i smell all sweaty! hahaaa because i just got done running, and he was like noo not at all you smell like your perfume!

we do things like that all the time. i can wear whatever i want around him! hes seen me with no makeup, my hair not done and grubby clothes on and he doesnt care.

i just don't know what to think about our friendship. everyone always asks me if we like each other because they say we flirt all the time but i'm just like "we're just best friends:)"

even though he is really hot! and i know he thinks i am, i just don't know about us!

From what you just told me ... I would say you guys definetly seem like more than best friends. He obviously cares about you, and you obviously cares about you ... I mean, just the way you described how he'll come up behind you and hug you in a very caring embrace ... best friends don't really do that .. I mean some could, but lets analyze everything else..
- he makes you happy.
- you guys are always spending time together
- he thinks youre pretty even when you dont feel pretty
- he compliments you often
- he teases and flirts with you
- he is protective of you
ANDDD.. from what you said here ...
"everytime we hangout, and one of us leaves the other, he'll always give me a hug and won't let go for a long time, its so cute:)"
... you wouldn't really think you're best guy friend is being so cute by doing that. haha, face the facts girl, youre falling for him.
The vibe im getting from what you've told me is definetly not a friend one. you guys have a romantic connection, im 99.9% sure of it.
good luck ! hope i helped ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo. :]

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Okay...I know I should give up on him, people keep telling me that all the time. He doesn't tell me how he feels but he tells his friend and his brother. And they both told me that he still wants to be with me but he doesn't know what to do with me. He even said that I'M complicated and wishy washy. Something just tells me to not give up on him. like when I told him about me talking to another guy (which I was) , just like how he's talking to this other girl. But I told him I stopped (which I did) because that guy didn't make me feel the same way I feel about him. My ex asked who he was, did he go to our school, did I like him, what school he went to. You know, questions that you ask when you are...okay this is so my last time inboxing you until I start to keep you updated lol.

Don't apologize ! girl, it's totally fine ! I'm here to help you, send as many inboxes my way as you please, even if you're just venting haha. I'm always here to listen :]
If your heart and your gut instinct is telling you to not give up on him, then don't. I am a firm believer in following your heart and fighting for what you want [not physical fighting ahaha, but yuh knoww] and if you think there's still hope, then there is. Don't listen to the people around you, I can't tell you how many times my friends told me to give up on my boyfriend [even when he wasn't my boyfriend and was with another girl] but i never did. I never listened to them or let them influence my decision because when it boils down to it, it's what YOU want, not what they want. This isn't their life, it's yours, and you should live it the way you want. Sure, they can have their oppinions, and take what they say into consideration, but don't let them trick you into thinking something you never believed in in the first place.
I'm complicated too. funny thing is, my bofriend and I were just talking about this. I told him he was so complicated and confusing and he actually admitted that he was haha, but not intentionally, and then he said I was complicated and confusing too. Sometimes it's both of the people making it 10 times harder than it needs to be. You both just have to own up to it and apologize, yuh know ?
Also, the whole "you talking to a guy" thing definetly is making your ex jealous. even though you told him that you stopped talking to the guy, it was probably a wake up call that yes, you CAN get a guy. He was asking those questions because he's trying to figure out why you would want someone else besides him, without actually saying that haha. if that makes sense. so it's a good sign.
Alright so i guess since my last reply to you, my views have changed. I think you shouldn't give up on your ex. fight for what you want, keep talking to him, and screw what everyone else says and the stupid negativity.
hope i helped and good luck ! you got this :] just keep up your spirits and im sure i'll be hearing from you soon ! xxo.

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Well you told me to inbox you if I needed more help and I do. I already told him that I wasn't waiting for him during our convo a few days ago. And believe I meant it. He also told me he was talking to some other girl right now, as in more than friends. It hurt so bad to hear him say that. He's not the type of guy who would appreciate a mix cd with songs pouring my heart out. He's being so complicated right now ugh.

I HATE WHEN GUYS ARE COMPLICATED. take my boyfriend for example, he has just started becoming the most complicated person ALIVE haha, but I love him nonetheless. It's like, whoever said GIRLS are more complicated than GUYS must have been on drugs when they came up with that, honestly hahaa.
But anyways, then stick your ground. Don't wait around for him, if he's telling you that he has been talking to a girl and they are working on something more than friends, than he doesn't deserve you anyways. Why wait around for someone who is clearly not waiting for you ? I know you love him, and I know that this is going to be SO hard, but you have to try to move on. I know how much it hurts, trust me. It's like ... so lonely and you miss how things used to be, but you can't make people go back to the way they were, no matter how much you want them to or how much you try. People change. Feelings change.
Obviously, he wants to experience new things, and trust me, once he's with this girl, he's gonna wish he never lost you or let you go. But if he's moving on, then you should too. Sure, you can TRY to win him back, but why try to win someone back when they don't want you to TRY to do that. If he's going to be this way, then let him be this way. Tell him you're done, and that you're not going to pine away for him forever, that he'll always have a special place in your heart but you need to find someone that will APPRECIATE you and love you the way you deserve to be loved.
I promise, you'll find someone so much less complicated and so much more in love with you, someone who won't leave you for another girl, but only if you try to move on and become friends or start dating other guys. If he sees you've moved on, he'll miss you. He might even want you back. and if that happens, then you can take it from there, but for now, make it clear to him that he can do whatever he wants because you are too.
Ben and jerrys, your best friends, and a comedy movie will help the pain subside for a little while. Just keep yourself busy and your thoughts away from him.
hope i helped and find someone who deserves you since you are obviously such a great person :] ! good luck, and keep me posted ! xxo.

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let it rock by kevin rudolf has been like my favorite song ever since i heard it and i was wondering what are some other songs like that one

Here are a few songs you might enjoy ...

- Rock Star: R. Kelly, Ludacris, Kid Rock
- here comes the boom: nelly
- The fame: Lady Gaga

also ANYTHING by the black eyed peas, timbalind, timbalind ft justin timberlake, timbalind ft justin timberlake and nelly furtado, and LL cool J will fit the descriptions you're looking for in a song.

hope i helped ! rock onnnnn. xxo. :]

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I love my boyfriend, well ex now. We broke up like a month ago. The break up was my idea. I felt ignored, unwanted, but I knew he loved me. I was always at the bottom of his priorities and I couldn't deal with that anymore. Ne ways we still say we're together when people ask though. We haven't really talked. But I can't get him out of my mind. I see him everyday at school and it hurts to just walk past him and pretend I don't care. When people tell me they seen him flirting with other girls and holding their hands I pretend I don't care. When I hear he even told some other girl that he likes her, I have to pretend I don't care. Well I'm tired of pretending. I finally had a real face to face conversation with him a few days ago. He said he missed me, but he never expressed any desire that he wanted to be with me anymore or that he still felt the same way about me. Even when I told him I still felt the same way about him. He called me yesterday but I was sleep and left a message, he even said "I love you" at the end. It made me happy to hear him say those words again. I really don't know what to do at this point. I love this guy, he means so much to me, I want to be with him. Its not like I haven't tried to talk to other guys because I have. They just don't give me the same feeling that my ex does. I really need advice on what to do. I don't want to bed to be with him but I don't want to truly lose him either DX.

Awww :] I know how you feel, I'm 16, almost 17, and ive known my boyfriend for 12 years. [we're both 16 also] My family loves him and our families are friends, so that's a plus.
If he said "i love you" that's a good sign. in my opinion, I don't think it's too late and you don't have to beg him to get back in a relationship with you. Just talk to him again. Tell him how you feel [what you told us on advicenators] and then say something like, "I don't want to wait for you, I can't stand to see you with other girls, I love you and I need to know RIGHT NOW what's it gonna be. Do you want to be with me or not, because I love you and the last thing I want is to lose our relationship."
you have to give him a choice, and he has to make the decision right then. because if he doesn't want to go back into a relationship with you, then you didnt lose him, he LOST you.
You could also do something cute for him, like make him a mix CD of all the songs that remind you of him or explain how you feel. give it to him, tell him to listen to it, then tell him to call you when he's done listening to it, and then tell him how you feel and then give him a choice. it's you or nothing. that's not begging, that's just letting him decide because it's in his hands now.
I really hope this works out for you ! good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo. :]

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19/f

bad bad niiight!:(

so i'll admit, i flirt with guys all the time, it's just my personality. it doesnt mean i like them! and today i was with this guy i like (joe), who is also my good friend and his friend (nick) and this other girl who i don't like. well joe was flirting with the other girl, i dont know if he was trying to make me jealous or he was just doing it because he liked her so i started flirting with nick and just talking to him and stuff. well i was suuuper tired because i had just gotten back from an amusement park and joe was like come on, you're no fun! lets danceeee, lets do something! and i was like agh joe i'm sunburnt and tired!

well then them three went to a party and then me and my cousin had to go pick up the girl and joe and brought them back to my cousins and now i was all hyper and had alot of energy and what does joe do? goes and lays on the couch with the girl and watches a movie. AWKWARD?! so i was like trying to entertain myself and i kind of stayed away from them, trying to act like i didn't care and then the girl has to go home and of course then joe is like well i'm going to go home, i'm tired! and so he like came over to me and hugged me but i just stood there and didn't hug him back and he was like come on give me a hug! and i was like....no. your not going to stay and hang out with me? and he was like i was trying to earlier! and i was like no whatever, and he was like come on just give me a hug and and i was like noo..

and then he was like alright bye, and left.

i mean i don't think i was to harsh by not giving him a hug do you? he suppose to be my best friend and hang out with me, but he pretty much ignored me the whole night but still wants a hug and acts like nothings wrong? he knows i was upset.

anyways do you think i over reacted?

I think you might have overreacted a little bit, but not TOTALLY. Because I would have been a little upset if I was in your position too. But you DID decline his offer of going out with him and having fun, so he left and probably had a good time with the girl. then when they got back and were watching a movie, you DID stay away from him, so he probably felt just as awkward as you did. It's not bad that you didn't give him a hug, I mean, I'm sure if you explain to him why you got upset, he'll understand. But it's really no big deal, he DID try to hang out with you ... but you shot him down, which was probably a blow to his e-go yuh know ? Just talk to him about it. If you overreacted ALOT you would have like screamed at him and made it this whole big drawn out fight, but you're just upset, and that's understandable.
good luck ! hope i helped and don't sweat it, you're fineee. xxo. :]

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i really like two different friends but i don't know which to date. i am M Senior in High school

Friend 1. we were really close, talked about everything together. we started holding hands and talking on the phone daily but we thought we shouldn't date till the next school year (which now starts in like a week) b/c we were close friends and thought that it would be best to wait since she just got out of a relationship with someone who was a close friend to her but the relationship ended badly. after a little while she started dating another guy b/c she "wanted a fun relationship" nothing serious. a lot of miscommunications and confusion later our friendship was hurt but now we are talking on the phone again and things seem to be back on track

friend 2. our families' are kind of close, and we have fun whenever we are with each other, she seems to like me and i kind of like her.

i want to date one of them but i don't know which one is the right one. what should i do?

Hmmm, okay, so I see it as you REALLY like friend #1 [who seems to be kind of the risky factor in this equation] and i think you like friend #2 as more of a friend than anything else. I really think your heart is set on number 1, because even the way you took the time to tell us about the history between the both of you and how she affected you shows that you care for her alot. although, I really think you should talk to friend 2 more, try to see if you can get more of a relationship connection with her than a friendship one. I mean, you did say that you "kinda" like friend #2.
I can't tell you WHO to choose, but i think friend #1 is the better option. but you have to follow your heart. think about these questions, and who comes to your mind first...
- who do you see yourself with in a relationship for more than a couple months?
- who would be the first girl you go to with a problem, 1 or 2 ?
- who makes you laugh more ?
- who do you have more in common with ?
- who can you picture yourself kissing more ?
- which one makes you more comfortable ?
- who are you thinking about right now ?
answer those questions and you'll find the answer, I promise. good luck and have fun ! hope i helped, and if you need antyhing else feel free to inbox me ! xxo.

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Ok, so there was this series of books that I absolutely LOVED when I was younger, and I wanna look it up again for the heck of it, but I can't remember the name. I just remember there's this group of kids/teenagers who find out they're all like half-alien or something. They all have silver blood, but it doesn't turn silver up until their... 13th birthday, I think? And one of each of their parents disappeared when they were 4. Oh, and as soon as they find out they have silver blood they also discover they each have some kind of weird ability. Anyone know what I'm talking about?

Here yuh go .... :]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mindwarp_(book_series)#List_of_Books

... the list of books are at the bottom. i recognized this, but had to look it up to make sure, I read a couple of the books but stopped haha.
have fun ! read onn :] xxo.

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15 year old female . & i want to be in charge of the relationship . my boyfriend lately has beeen in the i dont give a crap mood and he talks to girls and he gets mad about everything, also he loses patience with me alot, and he says that im annoying . he is always making fun of me and stuff in front of his friends and he always treats me bad and makes me feeel like if i was his dog or something. is there any way that i can stay with him , but make me be in charge ? and stop him from treating me this way ?

I would advise you to break up with him before he breaks up with you, which is where it sounds like this is heading. Do you REALLY want to stay with someone who is going to treat you like absolute dirt ? don't let him bring you down. you deserve WAAAAAAY better than that. waaaaay better.
Tell him straight up, face to face, that it's either he stops doing all of that crap or you're breaking up with him. giving him an alternative might give him a wake up call because if you show him that you're serious about breaking up with him, then he will be serious. but if he just laughs it off like you wouldn't dare, then break up with him. You're only 15 ... there are PLENTY of other guys who will treat you the way you SHOULD be treated. this relationship isn't going to get better since he is obviously putting no effort into it at all and is almost challenging you to break up with him, because he most likely thinks its funny and that you won't.
The only OTHER way you can get to him is do EXACTLY what he is doing to you to him. talk to boys. get mad at him about every little thing he does, lose your patience with HIM, tell him he's immature and needs to grow up and stop being so annoying. make fun of him in front of your friends, make him feel so low just like he's doing to you, if he gets even more pissed off, good. tell him if he doesn't like it he better cut it out with you, because he's only getting what he gives. and then MAYBE he'll realize, but if he doesnt after that, break up with him and find a guy who will treat you like the greatest girlfriend ever. you'll see the difference :]
good luck ! hope i helped. xxo.

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where can i buy heart shaped balloons or any other cool shaped balloons like:

http://www.tofebruary.com/images/7313.jpg

please answer if you know.. like i think i've searched at party city i didn't find them..

this will have all of the balloons you're looking for ... and you can just call them [toll free]

http://www.ballooneryinc.com/IBS/SimpleCat/Shelf/ASP/Hierarchy/02.html

but also, if you go to a dollar store, i'm sure you'll find what you're looking for there. if not, look on ebay and you'll find packs of heartshaped balloons you can buy.

good luck and have fun ! xxo.

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I'm going to paintball my room with different colors. It's going to be a collage of different colors and I have a pretty big room so I'm just thinking of some colors that won't be too overdone. Any suggestions?

heres 2 examples of what im thinking of..

http://www.sbs.com.au/news/resize/index/id/74661/w/300/h/225/site_1_rand_179027739_paintball_generic_file_0805_b_ap.jpg
... green, yellow and and orangey/peachy/red

OR

http://www.istockphoto.com/file_thumbview_approve/5669612/2/istockphoto_5669612-background-paint-splatter-on-concrete-wall.jpg
... all of those colors

i think those would be best and suitable, not too overdone :] thats sucha cool idea though. love itt. good luck and have fun ! xxo.

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Hi,I'm 16 years old and I've never had a boyfriend.
I've talked to a few guys but most guys don't see past sex with me.
I know im not bad looking so it's looks aren't the reason.
Guys say im pretty all the time and I take it as a compliment but I just really want to get involved with someone.
For 3 years,one of my guy "friends" would have sex with me all the time and I loved him so much,I thought he liked me too he just didnt ask me out because we were too young and I figured he would do it eventually...I ended up having sex with someone else besides him and he got mad and went out with someone else and stopped talking to me.Finally i found someone new ,and we were "talking" but then he told me he just wanted to be best friends but yet he would hookup with me.
I still like him but he's like my best friend.
And I don't know what to do,because I just really want to find someone but I don't know how.It seems like I'm the only one who can't get a boyfriend or even a guy just to get involved with...
I need help!

Im actually in my first "serious" relationship right now, and im almoost 17. I mean, I've had boyfriends in the past, but like .. with my boyfriend now it's different. yuh know ? Like with some people you just know ... but anyways, back to your situaion :]
I think the problem is that you're sleeping with the guys because you think that they'll become emotionally attatched to you afterwards, but with raging hormones and all of that, some guys are just looking to get laid, and it's so wrong and unethical, but they'll use you and tell you what you want to hear for a little while until they get you into their bed, and then it's like they had their fix and are now done. What you need is to not move so fast with guys. just take it slow. Get to know a guy you think you'd be interested in first, become his friend, and then build a relationship off of that. If you REALLY want to sleep with the guy you become friends with, wait until he asks you out and make sure its clear to the guy that you are NOT planning on having sex with him until like you guys become official and you know that he respects you. it's all about respect and maturity on the guys part, you just have to wait a little to see who the good guys are and i PROMISE you'll find one in no time :]good luck ! have fun and keep me posted ! xxo.

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there is this boy that i really like, but i dont know him and i want to get to know him. So what could i do to get to know him?


there is this boy that says im pretty and that he likes me, but i dont like him, so im afraid if he asks me out and if he does what should i do?

Alright, to answer your first question .. guys like it when you have the confidence to just approach them. Im serious, they love it. And they want you to just walk up to them as much as you want them to do the exact same thing. But be forewarned, once you get to know him, you might not really like him anymore haha, sometimes people's personalities aren't what they seem. But anyways. If you really DONT want to just go up to him, introduce yourself and whatnot, you could ask around, get his name and find out what he's all about. Then you can just casually "bump" into him and like apologize or something, and then start a conversation. Or you could search him on facebook or something [if you're old enough and have one] and add him, then start from there. or if you go to school with him, you could see what teachers he has and stuff, then ask him about the teachers and if there was homework or whatnot. [if its the same teacher you have] you just have to build up the confisdence to just talk to him because if you don't talk to him, you'll never get to know him :] you can do it, it's no big deal girl.
to answer your second question ... oh man, I have been in your same exact position. Don't freak out though, because if he DOES ask you out, there is absolutley NO HARM in saying, "im sorry but i don't want to ruin the friendship we have, i think things are awesome just the way they are :] you're a sweet guy and i know youll find a girl who will want to be with you."
If you let them down gently and nicely it will be alright and nothing bad will happen and no drama will go down. If you don't like him, don't agree tyo go out with him because you feel bad, yuh know ? That's like the worst possible soloution EVER trust me hahaa :]
good luck ! have fun and don't sweat it, you got this :] if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.

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your silent song resonates
chords strike me like an idea
i don't understand and never will
i always want you here
your eyes are always bright and wide
is it dawn or dusk?
this tinted, blue october sky
dissonance sounds just..
perfect

keep it simple?
no one taught me how
you and me sounds tricky, too
this is how a bleeding, beating heart sounds
i love you, i need you
i've got a twisted toothpick spine
it's an arch you say you adore
i'm proud to call you mine
if you'll always call me your's

spare me a plastic ring, maybe tin
because the concept feels alright
let the bad times roll in
i'll smile with scars from every fucked fight
it's nothing like what they tested and taught
it's nothing ideal
but you stole every second thought,
tell me how this feels


What comes to mind at all when you read this?

Wow, I really love that. It had such a flow to it. I write alot, poems and stories and such, and that is REALLY good.
To me, it means that like, with every relationship, there will be problems and ups and downs, but you can work through it because you spill you heart put for eachother and love one another endlessly. and since your love for eachother endlessly, you don't need a ring to prove it [like marraige] you just need a promise or an understanding.
I think it sounds better without music being added to it, but you could always try ? I like it alot :] especially the part where i says..
"keep it simple?
no one taught me how
you and me sounds tricky, too
this is how a bleeding, beating heart sounds
i love you, i need you
i've got a twisted toothpick spine
it's an arch you say you adore
i'm proud to call you mine
if you'll always call me your's"
... it reminds me of my relationship with my boyfriend :] haha.
good luck and have fun ! hope i helped, xxo.

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So, my boyfriend is on probation, for drugs. I am seventeen and he is nineteen and we have been together off/on scince i was fourteen and he was sixteen. Well weve both always sorta done pot but him on a much more extreme level then me. When he gets off probation which is in like jan. He plans on spending over a thousand dollars on drugs and booze. I dont like that at all b/c i stick to weed and he does like everything. I dont want him to get addicted to anything. Thats not the kind of life that I want for us. How can i tell him that with out sounding bitchy i feel like i always bitch cause ill be like are you gonna pass your drug test? so yea...

hugs not drugs :] hahaa, sorry, had to say it. but okay, here's the deal ... this isn't your fault. you've told him plenty of times to stop, but it's obviously just not getting through to him and if he starts to do all of this stuff, it's going to affect YOUR life as well as his. and if you're around him when he buys the drugs or is doing the drugs, and he gets caught when you're with him, even though you're not doing it, it's guilty by association. do you really want to be involved with that ? I know that I wouldnt. Drugs ruin your future and cause major problems emotionally and internally [health] you need to talk to your boyfriend about this. tell him that you'll help him stop, and you don't have to bitch about it, you can just simply talk about it. If he truly cares about you, then he won't have a problem picking you over the drugs and alcohol. Like the previous advice given stated, it's either you or the drugs, and you HAVE to make him choose.
Communication is key, and if he decides to take it upon himself to keep doing the drug thing, then you need to leave him. Maybe then he'll realize that hes screwing up his life. Tell him that the drugs are ruining your relationship, you have to get through to him and get him help. He needs to find it within himself to end the drug scene and CARE about what you have to say since you OBVIOUSLY care about him and don't want him to end up in a worse place than where he is now.
good luck, hope i helped ! and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo. :]

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hi, i am a girl and i was with my friend / gf today. we are lesbians i guess. her parents know but mine didnt. and then my idiot asshole friend, who is a boy, sent me a txt msg talkin about me and my gf. my dad decided to read my txts. he saw it. now im flippin out and so r my parents!!!! my gf and i fear we will never be able to see each other again. MY FUCKING FRIENDS SUCK!!!! what do i do? my gf and i are hysterical and idk wat to do. plz help me :(!!!!

First off, take a few deep breaths.
Calm down, if you trick your mind into thinking this isn't a big deal, then it won't be. You just need to CALM DOWN. okay ? haha. Trust me, everyone hides things from their parents. I remember when I hid the fact that I was going out with my boyfriend for maybe like a week or so, I just didnt know how to say it, because like.. it's so much easier sometimes without people knowing, and since im their daughter, it's a sign that I'm growing up yuh know ? But in the end, I told them. and that's what you should do. Yes, they already know that you have a girlfriend now, but they found out the wrong way. Put yourself in their shoes, if you were reading your daughters texts and saw one that was talking about her and her girlfriend, would you be upset ? You don't know their reasons for being upset until you talk to them. They might be hurt that you didn't trust them with this or that you didn't think they'd be understanding. They may surprise you and be completly fine with it. You're only young once, they should know that.
All you need to do is regain your composure and TALK to them. communication is key. It doesn't matter if you're lesbian, gay, straight, bi .. you are their daughter and that will NEVER change. Just because you are dating a girl can't change that fact, and they MIGHT not be very open to it at first, but after a while, I'm sure they'll come around. It's better not to hide things from your parents, it just ends badly haha when they find out on their own, that is.
and also, it's not your friend's fault, unless you specifically told him NOT to text you about you and your girlfirend because you didn't want your parents to accidentally see it.
but anyways, maybe also talk to your girlfriends parents ? sit them down and ask them if they'd be willing to talk to your parents about it. Having anohter pair of adults talking to your parents could help, but right now, you need to talk to them yourself, and then if things go well, introduce your girlfriend to them.
good luck ! don't sweat it so much. hope i helped, if you need anything else feel free to inbox me, xxo.

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their is this cute boy that is living with his grandparents a few houses down from me, we don't talk to them or anything though, but i sometimes see him out. (like once a week or something..) well, i want to talk to him. but i don't how to approach him or when to? i don't want to go up to his door, but i also don't want to walk to his house ever hour of the day. haha. any ideas?

& also, i start school on the 27th. if he was just spending the summer there, don't you think he'd go back home by now? (its august 20.) my mom thinks maybe he is going to the college that is about a mile away from our house. but i'm not sure if he is that old? but if he is younger then me, i'm not sure if i want to date him. do you think i should? he looks like exactly my type.... ?? help!?

Alright, before you jump to conclusions, get to know the guy before you decide if you want to date him or not haha. Just because he looks like your type does not mean he is. Looks can be decieving, trust me.
As for the "i want to talk to him thing" wait for him to go outside his house. and then maybe go for a run with your ipod or something or just a walk, and pass by him. You could just say, "hey, are you new?" right off the bat, or you could have a water with you otr something, and drop it, buying yourself some time, then work up the berve to say either something clever like, "i was hoping no one saw that haha." or just a simple, "hey." guys like it when you approach them first, it shows that you are confident, and confidence is always good. If you've never talked to him before, i don't think going up to his door would be such a great idea hahaa, it might be a tad bit awkward for the both of you.
and also, he MIGHT be going to college, but his school somewhere else may also start at a later time, so it wouldnt be THAT late to be staying there that long. But anything is possible.
If you think you guys might have a connection or maybe you just want to get to know him for, definetly pursue him, see what he's all about, then decide if dating would be an option. I say go for it :] take a risk, its chance :]
good luck ! hope i helped ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.

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I really feel like im going to kill myself because I am never happy anymore. And I'm just a 13 years old girl. I want to change to a online school because I figure I won't get teased as much, but they are already closed for the school year. I can't go to my school and I don't want to run away. Maybe I'm a coward but I really do need help. Can someone tell me where I could find an online school for ninth grade so I won't have to go to my high school Because I know that ending your life is not such a good idea?

Aw hun, I know how you feel. Highschool can be tough, take it from someone who knows all too well what it's like to be harassed and teased and shunned and all of thaat. At some point in everyones life, they have the urge to run away, like the thoughts running through your head, "what if i ran away ? would life be better ? would anyone care ?" Running away is not the soloution, and killing yourself isn't an option. You were given this life because you can HANDLE it, you were given problems so you can WORK through it and learn from it. I know you think it'll never get better and that this will be the worst experience ever, but you should at least give it a try. Not everyone will tease you and you WILL meet new people, some who are more mature and will treat you how you deserve to be treated. Don't let them win, show them that they can't bring you down. You're not a coward at all sweetheart ! You are a strong individual and you can get through this. But if you REALLY don't want to go to highschool .. did you ever think about homeschooling ? Because, I searched online for you, and there really aren't any online schools that havent started already or are still accepting people. I think you should talk to your parents about this, and maybe even think about going to see a therapist or counceler of some sort, they can really help you through this and you might realize that nothing is ever as bad as it seems. Highschool is a great experience, yes it has its ups and downs, but it's not all bad, trust me. It gets better. But really, consider homeschooling, research it, and then talk to your parents as soon as possible.
But don't end your life over something like this. It;s not worth it, you have so much to live for and your so young. You have your whole life ahead of you, think of the experiences and things you'll miss out on. and ending your life will ot only hurt you but it will hurt the ones around you, your family and friends who care so much about you.
If you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! hope i helped and good luck. xxo.

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I've known this girl for a few years and I missed my chance out of pure stupidity several times. It wasn't just some stupid hormonal attraction either - it's like she's the first person who treated me like a human being and respected me for who I am. (I like the way the 70s were better than now - not that I was alive then - and people tend to harass me because of my style in everything.)

So she looked past the surface and saw who I really was, which is what made it so impossible to even ask anything. I wasn't used to this treatment.

Anyway, she moved LAST summer and I still can't get her out of my head. Any ideas?

Just because you missed your chance with this girl, doesn't mean you'll miss it again with another girl .. since there WILL be another girl. Just as the previous advice you were given, I'll say the same thing, at least now you know that there are people out there who won't just look at you for what's on the outside, but look at you and LOVE you for what's on the inside. You seem like a great person with a lot of potential, and just because you can't get her out of your head doesn't mean you're over her. You think about her, because you liked how she looked past the outside and onto the inside .. you need to know that she'll always be in your heart and mind because she was the first person to see you for who you really are. Nothing is impossible, and that girl just proved it. Sooner or later you'll meet someone else just as fantastic as the other girl, and she'll just be a memory, but until then, savor your feelings for her, maybe you could even try searching for her so you can talk to her ? But write down your feelings alot, and what you think about because if you write it down, then you'll never forget her or anything, and that will help you kind of forget about her, but in reality, you will never forget her because she helped you :]
good luck ! have fun and don't worry :] if she's in your head, she's supposed to be there. hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.

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