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I STILL <3 HIM, IS IT TOO L8?
I love my boyfriend, well ex now. We broke up like a month ago. The break up was my idea. I felt ignored, unwanted, but I knew he loved me. I was always at the bottom of his priorities and I couldn't deal with that anymore. Ne ways we still say we're together when people ask though. We haven't really talked. But I can't get him out of my mind. I see him everyday at school and it hurts to just walk past him and pretend I don't care. When people tell me they seen him flirting with other girls and holding their hands I pretend I don't care. When I hear he even told some other girl that he likes her, I have to pretend I don't care. Well I'm tired of pretending. I finally had a real face to face conversation with him a few days ago. He said he missed me, but he never expressed any desire that he wanted to be with me anymore or that he still felt the same way about me. Even when I told him I still felt the same way about him. He called me yesterday but I was sleep and left a message, he even said "I love you" at the end. It made me happy to hear him say those words again. I really don't know what to do at this point. I love this guy, he means so much to me, I want to be with him. Its not like I haven't tried to talk to other guys because I have. They just don't give me the same feeling that my ex does. I really need advice on what to do. I don't want to bed to be with him but I don't want to truly lose him either DX.
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Did you try to talk to him about how you feel? Is it too late?..It very well could be. In a months time someones feeling can gradually fade away, They do things to take there mind off the hurt and start to focus on other things. If he is flirting with other girls then clearly he is trying to move on. If you didn't want to loose the connection you two had than you should of tried to talk to him about it. Communication is what keeps a relationship going and it is also what keeps it strong, You could try to talk to him but I certainly wouldn't get your hopes up on getting back together with him..afterall you were the one that broke up with him. Yes, You could talk it out and he could say no you two could become friends but there isn't any guareentee that friendship would last as he "could" very well develope trust issues. Try to talk to him but again don't hold your breath
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your at the bottom of his prioraty?did you tell him you feel that way?at the bottom?the best way to keep a realtionship healty is to talk about things.maybe he is so used to you being there that he forget to remind you that he cares about you.and you should tell him exactly how you feel.and tell him to do the same even write a letter if you cant talk about it,or make him write one :) if i where with a guy that ignored me even know i told him i felt that way and he didnt do anything to change it, he could sail his own sea far away from me for all i'd care.
but since you've known this guy for so long he might just have forgotten what you mean to him since you've always been there..a relation ship is suposed to go both ways,both need to work on it not only one, its a two person job :) if he dosent se that it wont work in the lenght.and finding a new boyfrind that you work well with might take some time :) nothing happens over night,dont be so stressed about boys,theyr everywhere :)
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Awww :] I know how you feel, I'm 16, almost 17, and ive known my boyfriend for 12 years. [we're both 16 also] My family loves him and our families are friends, so that's a plus.
If he said "i love you" that's a good sign. in my opinion, I don't think it's too late and you don't have to beg him to get back in a relationship with you. Just talk to him again. Tell him how you feel [what you told us on advicenators] and then say something like, "I don't want to wait for you, I can't stand to see you with other girls, I love you and I need to know RIGHT NOW what's it gonna be. Do you want to be with me or not, because I love you and the last thing I want is to lose our relationship."
you have to give him a choice, and he has to make the decision right then. because if he doesn't want to go back into a relationship with you, then you didnt lose him, he LOST you.
You could also do something cute for him, like make him a mix CD of all the songs that remind you of him or explain how you feel. give it to him, tell him to listen to it, then tell him to call you when he's done listening to it, and then tell him how you feel and then give him a choice. it's you or nothing. that's not begging, that's just letting him decide because it's in his hands now.
I really hope this works out for you ! good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo. :]
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