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getting treated horribly.
15 year old female . & i want to be in charge of the relationship . my boyfriend lately has beeen in the i dont give a crap mood and he talks to girls and he gets mad about everything, also he loses patience with me alot, and he says that im annoying . he is always making fun of me and stuff in front of his friends and he always treats me bad and makes me feeel like if i was his dog or something. is there any way that i can stay with him , but make me be in charge ? and stop him from treating me this way ?
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this generation of girls really irritates me. This boy treats you like a dog (your own words) and you WANT to stay with him????? BREAK UP WITH HIM. theres plenty out there that are going to treat you like a princess, no battle over whos in charge
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First off, there is no "in control" of a relationship. You can only truly control yourself and that is what you need to do here. I know that you are young and when things don't go ideally in a relationship, we always look to ourselves for why things go wrong or what we can "fix". In this case, please recognize that you need to get a grip on your self esteem. If you don't respect yourself, it is difficult for others to respect you. Which brings me to the heart of your issue. Your boyfriend is disrespecting you. Recognize that you are better than that and know that, truly, there are other men out there that don't show their ass by disrespecting women. Chalk it up to experience, acknowledge you're better off without the heartache and love yourself enough to walk away. Better to find out now than later. I wish you the best.
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So i know exactly what you're going through since i went throught that at the age of 15 too. I dated this guy for almost 2 years and at first everything was peachy, but then it got ugly. He was always flirting with girls but then he would totally flip if he saw me talking to a guy, even though my best friend was a guy!! anyways, i thought i loved him so i kept putting up with all his crap. Eventually i just couldn't take it anymore. i was always crying and depressed. It hurt but i dumped him. He kept trying to talk to me and i realized that i needed to distance myself from him. I deserved much better. Just like you do! So get rid of him. There are better guys out there.
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There is no being "in charge" in a relationship. A relationship is an equal partnership.
However, I would advise you to leave him. He is verbally abusing you by telling you that you're annoying & by making fun of you. He clearly has no respect for you, and you need to get rid of him. What is verbal abuse now can quickly become physical abuse if you let it.
Dump him. If he cannot respect you or treat you nice, then he does not deserve you. End it before it gets out of control.
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I would advise you to break up with him before he breaks up with you, which is where it sounds like this is heading. Do you REALLY want to stay with someone who is going to treat you like absolute dirt ? don't let him bring you down. you deserve WAAAAAAY better than that. waaaaay better.
Tell him straight up, face to face, that it's either he stops doing all of that crap or you're breaking up with him. giving him an alternative might give him a wake up call because if you show him that you're serious about breaking up with him, then he will be serious. but if he just laughs it off like you wouldn't dare, then break up with him. You're only 15 ... there are PLENTY of other guys who will treat you the way you SHOULD be treated. this relationship isn't going to get better since he is obviously putting no effort into it at all and is almost challenging you to break up with him, because he most likely thinks its funny and that you won't.
The only OTHER way you can get to him is do EXACTLY what he is doing to you to him. talk to boys. get mad at him about every little thing he does, lose your patience with HIM, tell him he's immature and needs to grow up and stop being so annoying. make fun of him in front of your friends, make him feel so low just like he's doing to you, if he gets even more pissed off, good. tell him if he doesn't like it he better cut it out with you, because he's only getting what he gives. and then MAYBE he'll realize, but if he doesnt after that, break up with him and find a guy who will treat you like the greatest girlfriend ever. you'll see the difference :]
good luck ! hope i helped. xxo.
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