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My boyfriend and I have been dating for exactly 1 year. He's absolutely AMAZING!!!! we are amazing :) We had a few fights in the past, but everything is great now. Its finally feeling like everything is great between us. But why I do get this feeling that something bad could happen?? I'm so in love with him but at the same time I'm so scared something bad will happen, like him falling for another girl. I trust him so much and i know he wouldn't do that, but I still get that scared feeling.. I really want to be with him for as long as possible. I'm just scared to lose him.. What should I do? I've talked to him about this and he reassures me that nothing bad will happen. I feel good when he says it, but then sometimes randomly I'll just get that scared feeling. Its driving me crazy! Oh and I really don't want to break up with him. So if you think I should break up with him just because of a little anxiety or fear, then I refuse to do that. Thanks!

1. your 18, you have plenty of time to figure out if this is actually the guy for you
2. you cant control what happens to you. if he has done nothing for you to have distrust in him then there is no need for you to worry. getting all "youre going to leave me" out of no where is going to ruin your relationship. I know the feeling, trust me. So, take day by day with care, let things fall into their places. The most important person is you. Make sure your loving yourself and being an awesome person so he has no reason to leave you.
That being said, there is not a damn thing you can do but worry about yourself and continue with your life and relationship. Nothing can ease this feeling but you, you control how you feel. Basically, you need to get in touch with the beautiful person you are on the inside, throw all insecurities out the window and just keep living life. Weather you break up with him or stay with him you'll have to learn to be proud of yourself or youre not going to get far.

Good luck.

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I'm 15 and I love the emo style a lot of people say I look Emo. Anyways I have never cut myself before and suddenly I got really mad at my mom for something stupid and suddenly felt like cutting, why?

I started when I was 14, I was emo. It will become addictive, I didnt stop until I was 17. I have relapsed 3 times....to this day I get the urge almost everyday. its not a long urge so as long as you can close your eyes, breathe in, breathe out and just concentrate on why you shouldnt do it then you wont. It is a serious addiction you should talk to someone about. For me, I replaced with with marijuana. Sometimes when I get the urge I will pinch myself or grind my teeth. Trust me, you dont want these scars. They arent bad ass, they arent attractive. Please talk to someone. You don't want to start that addiction.

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I have a job application for a restaurant and it says I have to list three past jobs and I haven't had any. what do I put? The only thing I've ever did is babysit. Ive been applying for jobs and I put babysitting for past jobs and I haven't gotten a call back for none of them.

put babysitting, make up some volunteer work like cleaning the park and n/a for the last one.

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17/f
its my senior year, it would have been our one year on october 13th... (hes 18 graduated last year) basically he left me for another girl this september.. & she didnt want him. he came back to me, and i am deeply in love with him.. took him back. things are just different, we got into a deep conversation the other day, he said "were not going to last when you go to college anyways" .. i said "what am i doing with us then?" and he said "were just having a good time untill then" like are you kidding me.. at that moment i ended it. HONESTly i love this boy but am i right or am i wrong. Its hard cause my mind says im right but my heart screams his name and it echos inside me

I went through the SAME THING exactly!!! Accept I left him before he told me we wouldnt last...it was obvious. TO THIS DAY, his name is in my heart...I think about him...imagine how my life would be if we were still together...we had that perfect love. he is not with another girl, she is beautiful and the most perfect woman for him...but i know in my mind i deserve to be treated better and not be dropped at any second for the next girl who comes along. my advicce...the guys that make your heart melt r ass holes...its sad but true. you should leave it where it is and move on. It will take tremendous strength, but some day you will be able to know what I am talking about and tell your little girl about the boy you loved and how he broke your heart, hopefully she will learn and not have to go through it. and girl, right now your still young! you have too much time to have fun right now, dont waste it on guys. its the only thing I would have changed about my life...because right after i left my mr. right..i found a rebound and now have a baby girl. you only live once....enjoy your teenage years and save love for your 20s when the boys turn into men :)

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Please don't answer if you are just going to tell me stupid **** okay? Because quite frankly, I don't care.

Well, I've only been high a handful of times but whenever I do I don't like it at all. When I get high all I want to do is go to sleep so when I wake up the feeling will be gone.. because I don't like it. Now, I wish it didn't affect me like this. I wish I could enjoy it but I can't. I just get really tired. How can I make it more enjoyable? Or is this how it will always affect me?

Should I just stick to drinking? Because when I drink I actually have fun..

just dont smoke :) simple stuff.

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um i was just wondering what a prostituet is cos im aparently one and it doesnt sound very nice.
thanks
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also, am i a prostituet?

PROSTITUTE=WHORE
WHORE=someone who preforms sexual acts for money

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15 year old female . & i want to be in charge of the relationship . my boyfriend lately has beeen in the i dont give a crap mood and he talks to girls and he gets mad about everything, also he loses patience with me alot, and he says that im annoying . he is always making fun of me and stuff in front of his friends and he always treats me bad and makes me feeel like if i was his dog or something. is there any way that i can stay with him , but make me be in charge ? and stop him from treating me this way ?

this generation of girls really irritates me. This boy treats you like a dog (your own words) and you WANT to stay with him????? BREAK UP WITH HIM. theres plenty out there that are going to treat you like a princess, no battle over whos in charge

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hello im 18/f and my boyfriend is 21/m we have been dating for about 7 months now. I've realized now that just this past month we've been having more little arguments lately. We really do love each other and i really think hes the one and i know he feels the same. Its just i have a problem with him smoking pot. I tell him i dont like it and he knows that but he says hes gonna do it anyways and he doesnt think he should change. I should like him for who he is. I do like him for who he is its just im tired of him doing it. I just hate it when he does. And those who do smoke pot out there please dont gimme a lecture on how it is possibly good for you. But its pretty much just been about that. There is no way of me getting him to stop. Is there anything you suggest i have pretty much tried everything. And he says he doesnt do good with punishments he just will keep doing it. I've tried it. Thanks to you all in advance!!

Marijuana is a habit. Non addictive. It causes no harm unless you fall into legal trouble...in which case the MARIJUANA did not cause you harm, the cops did because i should not be legal.

BUT this is how i feel. Get over it hun. I know it sounds harsh but im sure you guys drink together, thats not good for either of you. He should not have to change for you, if he enjoys smoking pot he has the right to do it. I hang with a crowd of smokers and non smokers. My best friend does not smoke, and her boyfriend is the biggest pot head i know. Around a year of their relation ship she started to get very irritated with it, then realized that smoking was a part of him and there is really no harm in it. If you dont want him to do it around you he should respect that. But relationships will never work if you have to ask people to change because he could just go find someone who will not ask him of that. really you wont get him to stop and if it is that much of a problem, then get over him.

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