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Everything is great, but why do I feel this way?
18/f
My boyfriend and I have been dating for exactly 1 year. He's absolutely AMAZING!!!! we are amazing :) We had a few fights in the past, but everything is great now. Its finally feeling like everything is great between us. But why I do get this feeling that something bad could happen?? I'm so in love with him but at the same time I'm so scared something bad will happen, like him falling for another girl. I trust him so much and i know he wouldn't do that, but I still get that scared feeling.. I really want to be with him for as long as possible. I'm just scared to lose him.. What should I do? I've talked to him about this and he reassures me that nothing bad will happen. I feel good when he says it, but then sometimes randomly I'll just get that scared feeling. Its driving me crazy! Oh and I really don't want to break up with him. So if you think I should break up with him just because of a little anxiety or fear, then I refuse to do that. Thanks!
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You are perfectly normal :D
Whenever anyone starts a truly significant relationship, that kind of anxiety is an issue. Think about it, it is human nature to want to have some kind of control over what affects our emotions. But in a relationship, especially a young relationship, it can be extremely hard to put all of your feelings and hopes for the future into the hands of a person that you have no control over. You can't know what they are doing every second of the day, you can't know every girl they talk to. This will be true for every relationship you have for the rest of your life. It doesn't mean anything bad, and you shouldn't feel guilty about it. All it means is that you are scared of getting your feelings hurt, and that's ok. Isn't everyone? Of course you don't need to break up with him, and many times, it's not even worth having long, drawn out conversations with him about it. I have been with my bf for 5 years, and I still have little periods of time where I worry about what could happen in the future if we broke up... where would I go? Would I have to live with my parents again? Would I have to change schools? Who would I talk to all night? Who would love me for who I am? Mostly, just make sure you are not nagging him about who he is talking to, etc. Instead, let him know every day why you can't imagine life without him.
I can't tell you for sure if you will stay together in the future, but if he is worth it, he should ALWAYS have your feelings on his mind. Always remember that. And remember that mistakes are always made, especially in young couples. Basically, a serious, long term relationship at your age is a prime example of "taking a leap of faith". If you feel like he is your soul mate, put everything you have into your relationship. I know I did at 16 years old and I have NEVER regretted it.
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1. your 18, you have plenty of time to figure out if this is actually the guy for you
2. you cant control what happens to you. if he has done nothing for you to have distrust in him then there is no need for you to worry. getting all "youre going to leave me" out of no where is going to ruin your relationship. I know the feeling, trust me. So, take day by day with care, let things fall into their places. The most important person is you. Make sure your loving yourself and being an awesome person so he has no reason to leave you.
That being said, there is not a damn thing you can do but worry about yourself and continue with your life and relationship. Nothing can ease this feeling but you, you control how you feel. Basically, you need to get in touch with the beautiful person you are on the inside, throw all insecurities out the window and just keep living life. Weather you break up with him or stay with him you'll have to learn to be proud of yourself or youre not going to get far.
Good luck.
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