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So, my boyfriend is on probation, for drugs. I am seventeen and he is nineteen and we have been together off/on scince i was fourteen and he was sixteen. Well weve both always sorta done pot but him on a much more extreme level then me. When he gets off probation which is in like jan. He plans on spending over a thousand dollars on drugs and booze. I dont like that at all b/c i stick to weed and he does like everything. I dont want him to get addicted to anything. Thats not the kind of life that I want for us. How can i tell him that with out sounding bitchy i feel like i always bitch cause ill be like are you gonna pass your drug test? so yea...
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hugs not drugs :] hahaa, sorry, had to say it. but okay, here's the deal ... this isn't your fault. you've told him plenty of times to stop, but it's obviously just not getting through to him and if he starts to do all of this stuff, it's going to affect YOUR life as well as his. and if you're around him when he buys the drugs or is doing the drugs, and he gets caught when you're with him, even though you're not doing it, it's guilty by association. do you really want to be involved with that ? I know that I wouldnt. Drugs ruin your future and cause major problems emotionally and internally [health] you need to talk to your boyfriend about this. tell him that you'll help him stop, and you don't have to bitch about it, you can just simply talk about it. If he truly cares about you, then he won't have a problem picking you over the drugs and alcohol. Like the previous advice given stated, it's either you or the drugs, and you HAVE to make him choose.
Communication is key, and if he decides to take it upon himself to keep doing the drug thing, then you need to leave him. Maybe then he'll realize that hes screwing up his life. Tell him that the drugs are ruining your relationship, you have to get through to him and get him help. He needs to find it within himself to end the drug scene and CARE about what you have to say since you OBVIOUSLY care about him and don't want him to end up in a worse place than where he is now.
good luck, hope i helped ! and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo. :]
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First off, your not a bitch for wanting your boyfriend to stop taking drugs. You need to tell him its you, or the drugs. Its just not fair to you to have to deal with not only the possiblility of him being on probation again, but also him being killed or seriously hurt. Its also a waste of money at that, wouldn't he rather spend that money on you?
If hes not going to change or get help, I urge you to re-evaluate your relationship with him, is it really worth it? If you have a possible future with him then you want to make sure your kids (if you plan on having any) don't catch his habbits.
Good Luck!!!
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Tell your boyfriend that you think it's a huge waste to spend so much money on drugs because you'll have nothing to show for it in the long run. How about spending the thousand bucks on a trip for the two of you, or something else he would want.
What's really bothering you isn't really the money, it's more that he's so looking foward to it, and you think drugs are less important than he thinks they are. He is probably really into them right now because he can't do them, and that makes them all the more appealing. Hopefully, once he gets off probation the drugs won't feel as important to him-you always want what you can't have.
Keep in mind that you're not being "bitchy," you're being reasonable, and if I were you I would tell your boyfriend that you are getting a little tired of his immaturity. Kind of turn it around on him. Let him know that you want a man who can take care of you, and right now it is like you are the one having to take care of him. Tell him that you didn't get into this thing so you can watch a person you love make stupid decisions, and anything is fine in moderation, but he is having trouble controlling himself, and you are sick and tired of having to pick up the pieces.
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You said you only do weed, If your boyfriend exsperiences with other drugs it COULD eventually rub off on you. He sounds like a bad influence, This guy is on probation therefore has been in trouble with the law. Obviously this guy has no plans to stop using drugs if he wants to spend that much money or even any money at all on drugs. I would forget about this guy, You deserve better. I must ask, How does this guy provide for you?
I also just wanted to ad a few things, You said you didn't want him to get addicted even when people try drugs and aren't looking to do it again ONE time is all it takes to get hooked on a drug. This isn't the kind of future you want for the two of you but if doesn't get some serious help fast than that will be the road you two are heading for.
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