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okay.. my boyfriend and i have been having sex for like two weeks now. and i just got my period. my boyfriend told my older sister that i'm not a virgin anymore. my sister has been telling on me for stupid shit lately. my mom walks into my room and she's like "you know you can get pregnant while on your period, right?" i was like "yeah" and she's like "you don't have sex right?" and im like "no i don't" and shes like "uh-huh" and walks out of my room. what do i do?! i'm scared to shit?!

Talk to your sister and ask her why she's doing this! Tell her she needs to mind her own business. Or be like, if you don't stop, I'm going to throw a heavy rock at you! Lol, I'm j/k, but you know what I mean! Maybe ask your bf to say something to her, too, cuz she might get embarrassed if he says something and stop. Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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I like this guy, but whenever i talk to him i get shy n think mmore bout what i say. I always do this around guys i like but he is also pretty popular. I am usually loud n talkative but it just doesnt work round him. Please give me advice on what i can do so we can talk more!
I will rate go0od if u try ur best to answer this.

x0x Thankz,
In Love & Lost

Well, if you don't feel comfortable around him and you're afraid you're going to say something stupid, then I don't think it's worth the relationship. Talk to him about it if you think it'll help. Good luck1
Happy Holidays!
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~*Erin*~

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me and my boyfriend have been dating for a month now, But we've dated before for three months, then we broke up. but now we're back together. anyways now he acts different, before he would always be holding my hands or holding me arount the waist,but now he wont even touch me. I've confronted him about it, but he hasnt changed.what do i do? do i confront him again? Please help!! thanx!

Try talking to him about it again, but if nothing changes, then you should probably dump him. You don't want to be with someone who doesn't seem to love you like he used to. Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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i've been dating my boyfriend for 5 months. he comes over almost every day, considering he lives in the neighborhood next to me. every time he comes over, he thinks we always have to do stuff sexually. and the last time i saw him, i asked him if everything has to be about sex and he said yes. should i dump him, talk to him, not see him as much? help! thank u! i rate high =)

You definitely need to talk to him about it. If he won't stop thinking sexually, you should dump him. You're only going to miserable. And once you dump him, you're going to happier, trust me. And don't worry, you'll find a great guy who won't only want you for sex! Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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Hey, it's Siren here...my best bud and I have known each other for 13 years. We're both seniors in high school. All of a sudden, this year, I feel like we just...split. I can't talk to her about the important things in my life the way I can talk to my other friends. Like, a couple of my friends from band and I - well, I guess - bonded one night and I feel like I can talk to them more than I can talk to her, and I've only known them for 2 years. I can talk to them about things like french kissing with pop rocks (just an example, lol) and if I tried to talk to her about it, she'd just go "oh...um, okay," and change the subject or something. She's always been a little less mature than me, I suppose, even if she is a year older than me. But it's never bothered me until now. I want to be able to talk to her about these kinds of things, but I can't, and it's bothering me. Because of it, we're pretty much splitting. It really sucks because we used to be like sisters. She used to know all my secrets. Now only one person does, and it's not her. I wish it was, though. I mean, I miss being able to talk to her about anything. Help if you can?
-Siren =(

Aw, I'm sorry. You have to understand that friends come and go. And God felt he needed to take her away from you, for whatever reason. (there's always a reason for something). Just keep your new friends, because you might end up being friends with them until your 92! Lol. Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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Well ok my brother got a girl friend about 2 monthes ago maybe and sence then he hasnt been giving me any time to spend with me well I am 13 and he is 17 and he use to do every thing with me until his girl friend 15 (I think)started to always go every where with him and sometimes Michael (thats my brothers name)is mean to me now all because of Katie I think (THats michaels girl friends name)Should I tell him how I feel or wait until they brake up or what he is driving me nuts!!!

You definitely need to talk to him about it. Tell him exactly how you feel. Maybe see if you can set aside some time each week for you to hang out with Michael. Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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how can i make sure that my girlfriend that lives 300 miles awya will never wanna leave me?

You have to talk to her about it. If you two really trust each other, then you shouldn't worry about it. Talk on the phone every night and chat on IM. Email each other, whatever it takes. Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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OK, so my dad has cancer, my mom needs 2 hav surgery, my sista is a diebetic, my other sis just had a baby, and we hav alot of other things like that going on in my family. I really need an additude ajustment. When ever some1 else says somethin negitive, i become negitive, and every1 gets mad at me. How do i change this?

Aw, I'm sorry! You have to talk to everyone about what's going on. Once, they know, they'll understand and won't say anything negative anymore. Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and i love him so much but just recently, i have been getting close with my sisters boyfriends couin, who is 23 years old and i am 17. we ended up getting closer and closer over the past few weeks and talked every day on the phone and he came over to see me everyday and hang out. then, 2 nights ago, we ended up having sex and we stayed up talking for hours and he told me how he liked me and i told him about how i felt the same way. he knows about my boyfriend and he respects the fact that i have a boyfriend but i don't know what to do because last night he came over to hang out with my sisters boyfriend and he didnt talk to me once. usually he wont talk to me in front of them that much because they would suspect something if we did. but, even when my sisters boyfriend was in the bathroom and what not, he still didn't talk to me. i don't know what to think. what are your thoughts on all this? should i tell him i really care about him? this is the first time ive cared for someone like this besides my boyfriend in a while. but, theres something about this boy. please tell me your thoughts.

You have to tell him how you feel. Ask him why he didn't talk to you! I know it's hard, but you also have to tell your bf about this, even if it means breaking up. You'll be happy as long as you have this other guy. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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I have this friend who used to be my best friend ever. We still talk alot and she is still a good friend but we have been spreading apart. We always talk about how we dont hang out enough but every time I try to hang out with her she is out with other friends or wont call me back or just doesnt pick up. Its making me really frustrated because she is awesome but I am to the point where I just want to stop trying because she never trys to hang out with me Im always trying to hang out with her. Should I just give up? And is she just trying to tell me she dosent care anymore?

I think you should talk to her about it, and see what's going on. If nothing changes, then give up, because she might be hinting that she doesn't want to hang out with you anymore. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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OK here it goes. I go out with this girl and we used to spend time with each other all the time until i moved. So right now we r having a long distance relationship. Now everytime I talk to a certain girl she thinks I am cheating on her even when I tell her time to time again that I love her and I would never ever do nothing like that. She writes things about my friends that i don't like and that really gets on my nerves. Basically she doesnt trust me at all. Should I dump her or should I just talk to her. 13/m

Try talking to her first, but if she doesn't change things, I would dump her, because what's the point in a relationship if one doesn't trust the other. I think trust and communication is everything in a relationship, and the trust just isn't there. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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Well, I have two best friends, and i feel like the third wheel. Although they say im not, I feel like it and my parents see it too. I dont know if I should split off from them, or hang on? And, theyre always sort of depressing, and i dont like that...but every1 else in my school has best friends...i feel like i have none
help?

OMG, that happened to me in 7th grade, except that it was more of a 5th wheel, lol. I had 4 friends, and 2 of them were best friends, and so were the other 2, so I didn't have one. They'd totally ignore me all the time, like, at assemblies, we'd all go down together, but none of them wanted to sit by me. I was soo pissed, so I know how you feel. Well, 3 years later, I'm not friends with them anymore, and now I have a lot of best friends. So my advice to you is, get away from them, and find new friends, because you're only going to be miserable! Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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i dumped my boyfriend because he lied to me about doing drugs. Everyone told me he was bad news and all my guy friends who were his friends too told me i deserved way better then him. I still wanted proff and i got it on the night b4 homecomming.i dumped him after i saw him smoking weed with some other guy. its been over a month since that night i caught him and broke up, but just the other day he randomly asked me y i broke up with him, i tried to explain telling him how he lied, but he didnt see that as a good enough reason. did i do the right thing?

You definitely did the right thing. Why trust a guy who's on weed's opinion? Lol. Trust, you did the right thing.
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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ok theres this guy i dont like him but hes going out with this girl.This guy does not like this girl.And this girl doesnt like this guy. I guess they are just provin they can get some. But anyways they think im jealous and our conversastions lead to more. I even thought about suicide. Im a normal american girl. Im a cheerleader and very smart. I have NEVER even considered suicide. Im so scared i dont know whats happening!! PLEASE HELP!
Signed,
Not Suicidal

Don't let these 2 nincompoops run your life. Let them be unhappy, and remember to keep focus on all the good things in your life. Don't kill yourself over this. Please. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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Im a 16/f and my best friend iss a 18/m. Well, my best friend had a gf for 2-3 years and they were in love. he was madley in love with her and her back. Someting happened and now they broke up. that was 3 months ago. ONE month ago, my friend moved to Texas. He met this girl and they started dating, yesterday was theyre 1 month anniversary and they already had sex. I got mad at him because he met her a MONTH ago and already had SEX! I mean, I expected SO MUCH MORE from him. and He tells me its none of my buisiness, and yeah its not, but im his best friend also, and I just dont get it I tol dhim its rebound and he told me its not because he rebounded on me for a week . So he liked me for a week . and stopped. got a gf, and had sex with her. He tells me he has strong feelings for her and they applied to the same colleges So why the heck am I so pissed at him for having sex a MONTH into a relationship...? am i wrong for being pissed? and i cant figure out weather im jealous or not... i dont think i am. but just THINKING about him having sex with some girl he just met makes me upset. help :(

He moved to Texas and I live in AZ.

Hey, you have every right to be pissed. Try emailing him about it! Ask him why he did it. They may be in love, but 1 month is too short, I think. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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please help!!! fast!!! i am a 14 year old black girl and i am losing my hair. i don't think it's because of my health, but you i had permed my hair for a long time now. my hair has been growing ever since, but now it is all falling out.
i need help fast!!! does any one have any suggestions or what kind of a product to use to help. i am freaking out!!!!!!!!!

OMG! It might be because you keep perming it. Try not doing that for a WHILE. In the meantime, try Rogaine. I'm not sure if teenagers can use it, too. I just saw it on TV, and it said it's for woman, so I think you can use it. I'm sorry, good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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I met a girl on the internet and we really like each other except for the fact she can't help doubt that I'm a serial killer or a rapist or seomthing. I was wondering is there any way that i can prove that I'm not? We live too far apart to meet, but i have a bad feeling she doesn't want to talk to me anymore.

Concerned Guy

Hey you. I love you and I'll always want to talk to you! I'm sorry if I made you feel this way. I really do believe you. It's just that you hear all these stories and it scares me. There's always going to be doubt, but only because I haven't seen you! I love you so much, and I trust you, I REALLY DON'T think you're a serial killer, lol. My mom doesn't even think that. Let's just forget about that conversation. I totally trust you! Please don't feel uncomfortable. I'm sorry about yesterday when I said I'd be back on in an hour, then never came back on. My computer was being gay, and my mom just called and said she'd be home in about 45 mins. See, I can't get on the computer w/o a password, which I don't have, which is why I had to wait for my mom. And then she decided to go Christmas shopping instead of what she originally planned (to go workout). Sorry. I love you so much, words can't describe. I really think we have a connection, so please don't take that the wrong way. I love you!
~*Erin*~

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this may sound stupid but how do you shave "down there" [vagina]

Well, I've never actually done it before, so I'm not sure. I'm sorry I can't help you here. Did you try searching on Google? Idk, I'm sorry. Good luck, I hope I find out!
~*Erin*~

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Wouldn't it be great if when I ask serious questions and really are interested in finding out an answer to a FITNESS question, my question gets deleted and so when I ask it again in simpler words it gets deleted again. If I can't ask questions about how to work out a certain muscle to become in ok physcial fitness, then what are we to ask in a fitness category?!?!

I agree with you, it's gay. That happens to me, too, I hate it.

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ok so i have this so called friend that i hate so much and she hates me a lot to..........everytime we try to figure something out it seems to get bigger and bigger i mean i could be nice to her but it would be really hard for me to do that because i cant stand her in any way! you will probably just say dont hang out with her or anything....but my bestest friends are always hanging out with her so i have to hang out with her or i will lose all of my friends.....WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!?!? PLEASE HELP!

Talk to your friends about it! Tell them what's going on. Maybe they'll have your back, and stop hanging around her, too. Also, talk the girl about it, and really try to resolve things. I know it's hard, but try being nice anyway. It will definitely help! Once, you're nice, she'll be nice, and you'll be able to stand her again. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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