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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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Wow, usually I give advice, not get it. Oh well. Lately, in the mornings, I've been getting really bad charly-horses, in my mid-calves. You know what a charly horse is, right? Yeah, it's like a major muscle cramp, and it hurts RELALY bad. They last for like a minute and a half, and I can rub my leg and it feels better, but I don't know. Is there any excersises or anything I can do to help that?

maybe you should stretch really well b4 bed, and dont always sleep in the same posistion. that might work. if not maybe you should see a doctor.

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well my friend started doing my eye brows for me and she shaved them the top and bottom instead of plucking so now i have to do that everytime they need to be plucked/shaved but now i have really bad breakouts above my eyebrows does anyone know what to do??

okay fisrt off... dont shave them. only pluck them. and if i were you i would wait a little while to do them again, and when you do, go get them waxed this time, then the next time they start growing back in, pluck them. and put lotion on them when you are done plucking them.

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is wearin a thong slutty? like the purpose is so you dont have pantylines but sumtimes liek if usmones thong shows people think she's a slut. i was just wondering what evryone else htought

yes that is the purpose for wearing thongs; no pantylines. but some people do say that when people wear then they are sluts. just make sure that when you wear one it doesnt show.

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Ok i was wondering on some of the columns theres different kinds of layouts. Like your header is in the middle top or your header is on the left of the page. I wanted to know if u could change that or somethin.

yeah you can but its a pain in the ass... i had ot have my friend do it for me... shes smarter than i am :)

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I was wondering.. is masturbating bad for you??

no... its your body. if you wanna touch it then touch it. hope you have fun! lol! :)

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hey..i am g0in thr0 al0t latley..me and my bf have been fighting n0n st0p..and its scaring me..but ne ways..im almost 16..and i weigh 115..i HATE triple numbers..i want the perfect b0dy..my b0yfriend says im beautifull all the time..but thats kinda what b0yfriends r supp0sed t0 d0..i want to get down to 99..i was belimic way back in the day..but i was 0n the f0ne with my friend and i t0ld her i want t0 bec0me an0rexic..she flipped 0ut and hung up..so0oo i was like fine i w0nt d0 that..and last nite i made myself thr0w up t0 see what its like..i kinda s0rta liked it =\..well my bf said if i ever d0 ne thing "physc0" it w0uld be 0ver f0r g00d..and i was w0nderin w0uld he n0tice if i g0t t0 99..and if ne 0ne else w0uld n0tice..well i neEd helP! =(..MaNdiE x0

you need to chill out. 99 lbs is not a healthy weight. you dont like triple numbers? what kinda shit is that? so you rather be unhealthy? you need a reality check, and im just the one to give it to you girl....
Stop being stupid! 115 is a fine weight. are you stupidsaying you wanna be anorexic and balemic? i would be pissed ta you for saying some dumb shit like that if i was your friend too. why are you gonna hurt yourself just so your weight will be a double number? what sence does that make. you have some serious issues, and need help. you must not really like yourself, if you would hurt yourself like that. maybe you have some appearance issues and you should seek some couceling. your bf doesnt want you doing that shit cuz he cares about you, thats why he said that. and your friend hung up and got pissed cuz she cares about you too. no one wants to see you hurt yourself. if you havent noticed, people freakin care about you. so stop acting like an ass, and start liking yourself for who you are.

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I'm sorry this might sound strange but my friend is very nervous about her first time.
Any guys and girls that could reply to this would be awesome!
Do girls have to shave before they do it the first time? And if they do...how so?

no they do not. some guys prefer a girl who shaves or trims her hairs, but every guy is different. but no you dont HAVE TO to shave before sex.

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Well, my question is very odd, but i need help coping with the fact that i have oversized ears. They are around...2.6inches, and they look huge on me. I can never wear my hair up, and someone always comments on them and stares. I just don't know what to do and i need some advice. Also, i'm 14 and i havent even had my period and i have small boobs!! WHAT SHOULD I DO?!

these are things you cant do anything about. your ears, are just your ears. you are born with them, they are stuck like that. deal with it, dont feel all bad about it. we are not meant to all look the same. and as for your boobs, you are only 14, you have plenty of time for them to grow, especially if you havent even had your period yet. and as for that, your period will come when it does. once again we are all different. every girl has her own time. some get it as early as 9 and some get it as late as 20. please dont stress these apperarance issues, you are just gonna drive yourself crazy. none of these things are a big deal. you are completely fine and normal. :)

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ok i have like this guy for over a year now and i really like him but hes kinda popular and i am on the lower side of the social chain but hes been single for some time now how do i ask him out and also how can i make it so that nobody likess make fun of me or ihm for it ?!?!?!

1st off, fuck what people think. if people have a problem with him liking you, they can lick your asses. as far as im concerned there is no top and bottom of the social chain. forget all that popularity shit. if you wanna be in a relationship, that is a mature thing, all that popularity bullshit is childish. just tell this guy, you like him, and want to try things out, hang out one day and do something. if acts like hes too good for you, then forget him, hes not worth it.

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I am going into my junior year in school in about 2 weeks. Ever since freshman year, I have had the reputation of being the "goofball" or the "non serious" one. I think this is what caused somebody at school to always say "I hate you" and make fun of me. I never hear her say anything nice to me. Once in a while she'll be like "Oh you know I'm just kidding right?" And I'll be like "Oh yeah! I know!" It doesn't bother me that she says "I hate you" once in a while just kidding around, but it does bother me that she treats me differently than everyone else. I think she thinks it doesn't bother me because I usually just laugh it off. But it does bother me. I'd like to be friends with her without her treating me mean. I don't really want to tell her it bothers me, because that would be embarrasing to me...and her. So, what's a goofball to do?

well most likely this girl probbaly treats you that way becuase she likes you. sometimes people have a weird way of expressing thier selves. or childish ways, i might add. but yeah, i wouldnt take this too seriously, she probbaly has nothing against you and likes being your friend.

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this girl at my school like sleeps around and does drugs and drinks and stuff...and not alot of ppl like her...but she wants to go out with my best guy friend and all shes gonna do is sleep with him and get him into drugs and everybody knows and doesnt want it to happen and i dont know how to tell him that he shouldnt go out with her...

you can not control your friend. you can only tell him what you think is best for him and let him know that you care about him. just tell him, you know this girl is a bad influence, and i dont want you to get suckered into anything that you know is not good for you, like drugs. and tell him you know this girl has a rep fro sleeping around, suppose she gives you an std or soemthing. just tells him things to make him see that this girl is bad news. but if he doesnt listen, then atleast you try. it sucks how some people can be so stubborn, and dont learn until they experience things themselves.

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Hi..Im a 7th grader..and I realli like this guy named justin but the ? is duz he like me?? My other friend chris..I want help from but ppl tell me he likes me too.. both of the guy's are 8th graders but i realli like justin..I heard justin said i was cute but iono. Was it a lie..and wat im scaerd about is that chris wont talk to him for me so Justin and I can't talk cuz he will get mad that i like justin. I really want chris to talk to him but im scared chris wont b my friend noe more or wont be happy for me i like chris alot as a friend. But not a click..I LOVE JUSTIN..!!! Please help me!

*Kristi*

okay im telling you right now... go talk to the guy yourself. guys like a girl who is assertive and can do things for herself. not a little baby who needs someone to match her up and be her voice. also if you take my advice and talk to him yourself, you wont have to wrry about talking to your friend chris about it. it may be a little scary, but once you talk to him you will feel much more mature. good luck!:)

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OK well i have the biggest crush on this boi and he's my bestfriend i talk to him about everything and we have known each other 4 like 2 years now.he was going with this girl 4 like 10 months and she broke up with him and wont even talk to him or anything.and he's alwayz telling me how she broke his heart and how he's trying to get over her and so on.but ya i really like him and he knows it to but i guess he's trying to avoid the subject and he like telles me everything and after i told him he acts the same and tells me about others gurl and i guess i act like i dont care but i do cause im not gonna be sitting there acting like it does bother me well ya but what sucks the most i go with his bestfriend and he likes me alot but when im with him i wish i was with (lets call him john) john so ya it sucks very much and i dont think he likes me but he said he just wants to be friends and he doesnt want to lose my friendship.so i dont know what to do about my feelings.

well chances are if he said he just wants to be friends, then thats the truth. it may be upsetting, and not what you want. but atleast he was honest and it also means he really loves being your friend and sometimes thats a better thing. so you should respect that. and as for the boy you are with, if you dont really like him that then maybe you shouldnt be with him and just be single for a while and explore your options. good luck! :)

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i can remember the title to this one song. but i know liek all the words n stuff. but it goes like this...love me love me say that you love me, need me need me, say that you need me, so i creid and i begged for you, love me love me, saythat you love me, fool me fool me go on and fool me, i cant care bout anything but you..." WHAT IS THAT SONG! ill rate really well!!!

"love fool" i think her name is like natalie brown

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I am really trying to cut down on the snacks for when school starts. Unfortunately, I work in an icecream shop... for about 5 hours at a time...ugh...any tips on how to stop myself from eating the icecream I crave?

i dont think ic ould stop myself either. if i were you. i would just work it off when i got home. like do 100 crunches when i wake up and 100 before bed. good luck! :)

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i recently found out my 7 year old cousin, danny what raped by a neighborhood kid. this is really just depressing for me... BUT also for him. so my question is, anyone with experience know what well cheer up or help rape victim cope? hes very young.

well the therapy will help him. he is very young, and this can be a very tramatizing experience for him. just try not to treat him any differently. acct like everythig is still the same. and when he is upset just be there to comfort. the more love he recieves from the family, the better her will feel, and it will keep his mind off of all the bad things.

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I'm really attracted to my friend. Hes 17 years old and is a total hottie. I really would love to spend the rest of my life with him. He gives me chills down my spine to see him happy and when hes sad it kills me ... literaly. The only thing is, that is stopping me from being with him, is my religion. In my religion it is against my code to have sex with another male. What do you think i should do? I really want to be with him and have sex with him but when i do i feel bad... help please. im an 18 year old male. Weve known each other for 5 years now. please help.

yes religion is a big thing. but if you really do care for your friend and you think things could work out than go for him. i think your happiness should be your main concern, whether that seems selfish or not, its true. if people cant except you for who you are and see that they are happy, then they are not worth your time. this is about you and you being happy and with the person you love.

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This may not be the right category, but I couldnt find a better place. I just found out today that one of my friends from school, that I graduated with passed away yesterday. His friends were going through his cell phone, found my number and called me. I had one class with the person, we always flirted with each other and talked about hooking up. I never called him after we graduated because I thought, yeah hes to good for me. Well, he still had my number in his phone and I feel bad for never calling him. I want to go to the viewing to see him one last time and to pay my respects to him. He was a great guy. But, then again, I dont want to go because I want to remember him from how he was before. I dont think I could handle seeing him in a casket. I dont know what to do. Should I go to the viewing or not? The viewing is Friday..so I need answers soon. Thanks!!

of course you should go. it is important to pay your respects. yeah it may be a little uncomfortable seeing him like that. but you will regret it if you dont go. plus you still have all the good memories from school, they dont go away. just go, youll be glad you did.

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ok now on advicnators y is like some of the words underlined and u can clik on them?

cuz its magic

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i have a really close relationship with my friend mike he's not a boyfriend or anything and i dont see him that way at all, but he's like an older brother to me and ever since we became friends he has been. well, i USED to dress punk, and he does now too...and well im prep now but he hasnt seen me...im afraid that hes not gunna wanna be my friend anymore since im dressing prep, i mean maybe he still will but maybe he wont...i just have worries, what do i do?

if he is your real true friend. it wont matter to him what you wear. you are still the same inside.

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