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Should I go or not?
This may not be the right category, but I couldnt find a better place. I just found out today that one of my friends from school, that I graduated with passed away yesterday. His friends were going through his cell phone, found my number and called me. I had one class with the person, we always flirted with each other and talked about hooking up. I never called him after we graduated because I thought, yeah hes to good for me. Well, he still had my number in his phone and I feel bad for never calling him. I want to go to the viewing to see him one last time and to pay my respects to him. He was a great guy. But, then again, I dont want to go because I want to remember him from how he was before. I dont think I could handle seeing him in a casket. I dont know what to do. Should I go to the viewing or not? The viewing is Friday..so I need answers soon. Thanks!!
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I am soo sorr to hear this. I think you should go and see him one last time. It would probably make you feel better in the long run. It shoows you had respect for him. Coping with death is so hard though. But if you dont go i gaurentee you will regret it later on and then it would be too late. Im so sorry once more and I hope you make it there. Hopefully I helped a little :)
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First off I'm so sorry. I think you should go and pay your respects hun. He's probably watching you from up in heaven and wanting you to attend.
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I'm so sorry! This is such a heart-wrenching situation... what your feeling is what most people go through in the grieving process. You should definatly go to the viewing, and pay your respects.. people WILL understand if you don't go to the casket.. find people you know.. if you want to see the casket, that's up to you! Memories are so important, and even if you see the casket, you'll have more memories that you can tresure forever. Reassure yourself that he isn't in pain anymore.. I am SO sorry about your loss, no matter how many people try and reassure you, you are the only person who can make YOU better. Good luck, and make the right choice for yourself. -Ce (Lots of love, girl!!) :)
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Here's one way to do it: Pay your respects to your friend because if you don't, you may regret for the rest of your life. You can go to the funeral home and give your condolences to your friend's family and possibly talk about some happy memories. You can decide if you want to approach the casket or not, it isn't mandatory for you to have to approach it. If you decide to approach the casket, you can look somewhere else, other than your friend's casket or you can close your eyes. Its up to you, just follow your heart.
~Cayd
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Its a really hard thing to do, but I would go. You don't have to look at the body if you don't want to. The most comforting thing will probably be talking to other people who knew and loved him.
Please forgive yourself for not calling him. It will be ok.
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You can go to the viewing without having to look at him in a casket. There are always rooms in the funeral home from which the casket isn't viewable. I've always thought it was a creepy tradition and I don't look because (1) I'm not going to go into denial about the person's death if I don't see a body (some people DO need to see a body to come to terms with it and that's ok) and (2) I'd prefer to remember the person as alive.
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If you really feel that you can't handle it, then you shouldn't go. But on the other hand if you don't go, you might regret it because you'll never get another chance to see him. Maybe you should compromise and go to the funeral/burial, rather than the viewing. That way you won't have the image of him in the casket.
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Yes,you should go. It's a good way to pay respects and you could also tell him "Sorry I didn't call." He can hear you by the way.
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of course you should go. it is important to pay your respects. yeah it may be a little uncomfortable seeing him like that. but you will regret it if you dont go. plus you still have all the good memories from school, they dont go away. just go, youll be glad you did.
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you should go. You'll remember what a good guy he was and all the "interesting" talks you had. You can say goodbye to him and mourn your loss with the rest of the people close to him. Ask someone to go with you incase you would need some support. R.I.P.
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i would go i mean u know what happen to him already not like o its not gonna happen but i mean u know what happen n respect is a very big thing n if his friend called u n he still had ur number meaning he still liked u but i would go i mean u still go the memories n this will be the last time u will ever seem him i mean he may not be alive but u can think of him as asleep but i know its hard to c a dead person but it happens eveyday n ppl pass away everyday n u just want to show respect and u did kinda like him n hes a good guy if u would have died maybe he would have gone to urz but thats what i think so i think u should go.
hope this helped
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i think you should go because you don't even have to look if you don't want to, but at least you'll be there and a part of it
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Don't feel guilty about not calling him since graduation, it will only make you feel worse about his death. He thought of you as a good friend if he kept your number in his phone all this time.
I would go to the viewing to say goodbye. I don't think it will leave you with a bad memory of him, you will always have the time you spent with him in high school to think about. This one last goodbye will not change that.
If you end up not going to it, then you will probably regret missing the chance, it will be a very emotional time, but well worth it. It will make you feel better inside.
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Hey sweeti, if you were friends with him and you would like to see him one last time and pay your respects you should go. but if you dont go you may wish you would have later on in years to come. you never know. so do what ever you really feel led to do. Hope i helped even a little. if you wanna talk, im here anytime.
xOxO `MaGz
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I think you should go to the viewing. Afterwords, your last memory of him won't be his death, it will still be your fond memories of before. You may dwell on the "Viewing" experience, but after a while things will remind you more of before. It matters not if you go or if you stay when it comes to what you're feeling now, because you're still going to think about his death even if you don't go. And it will make you feel better to pay your last respects. I had a friend that I lost touch with who died last year, and I still regret not going to his funeral.
After feedback: Yeah, I understand. It's still probably better to just drop by for a moment, than to not go at all. You probably won't be the only one afraid of breaking down, and I know people will understand if you do. From the way you descibe him, he was a great guy.
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u shud reakky go cuz the guy seemed 2 really like u and wud b an insult not 2 pay ur respects 2 sum1 like that. so ya i think u shud deinatly go.
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yeah you should. it would be the right thing to do, to pay your respects. especially since you knew him and everything.
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Im sorry to here that hun! I think yeah you should go! Atleast you'll be able to say goodbye to him.
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GO GO GO!!!
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Deffinetly!
-xXoBrianna
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