about

I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

i always say i love you first to my bf and when we're like hanging up the phone if i dont say it then neither will he. how can i get him to say it without actually telling him to? or does this mean that he doesnt love me because he doesnt want to say it?

He might be shy about saying it to you first, or thinks that since you usually say it first, then you'll do it. Just ask him why he doesn't say it to you when you don't.

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hey! ok. well there is this song, but i have no clue who sings it or what the name of it is. it's that one song that goes "Jump on it, Jump on it" and there is that dance to it where you move your hips to one side, then back, then the other side, then the front. and i think it was in that movie Stick It and i know it was in one episode of Fresh Prince of Bel-air. and please please don't tell me to google it cause i already tried that. and i already searched it on itunes, so please only answer if you know the name or the singer of the song. thanks!!

I searched on my Limewire & it could either be:

Sugarhill Gang.
or
Sir Mix A Lot.

Try those out.

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okay there is a boy name damarcus & mariuce and damarcus keeps saying pick a dick and he allways ask which one do i pick can you tell me what to do?

Pick the guy you like more.

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i was trimming my bangs & i realized i cut them too short. i have plain side swept bangs. what can i do besides put my hair up in a pouf / quiff & "live with it for now" ?

Pin them back, almost like that little lumpy thing & use hairspray & bobbypins until they grow out. That's what I did.

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Ok, so my mom installed this internet filter called CyberPatrol. It's really annoying because it won't allow me on way too many sites! It pops up for the most unnecessary reasons!!! usually its for "chat", "glamour and intimate apperal" and "drugs alcohol and tobacco"!!!! I'm a 13 year old girl and this Stupid filter isn't allowing me to Chat with my friends or shop or even allow me on any websites were they even Mention the word cigarettes! Please help me! 1.tell me if you agree with me. 2. I don't want to know how to hack into cyberpatrol, but I want to know how to get my mom to be reasonable with me! Is It because she doesn't trust me? Does she think I'm gonna go on 'adult' websites? PLEASE DO NOT tell me that she just wants to 'protect' me from junk on the internet, because that's not the problem!
In short...I just want my mom to be reasonable!

Wait, you want me to lie to you? No. I'm not.

Your mom IS protecting you from the dangers of the net, and instead of nagging about it, you should be thanking her. A lot of girls your age are dumb & fall into traps that internet predators place.

It's not that she doesn't trust you, it's just that a lot of girls are vulnerable & believe someone is who exactly who they tell you they are. Talk to your mom about unblocking some of the sites so you can shop, or chat with your friends.

If she's reasonable, she'll do it for you, but if not you're either gonna have to deal or stop going on the computer. They invented the phone and the mall for a reason.

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15/f

my boyfriend (17/m)has been fighting with me a lot lately and much of it is harsh. today was killer. it got to the point where he called me a dumbass and the most immature person that he knows, and that he's been going out with me for the past 10 months, because i have "the potential to be a good girlfriend." he tells me that i act like a spoiled little kid and need to grow up and stop being so immature.

this kind of fight happens too often. it has lead me to vodka. i can mix it with cranberry juice to cover the smell and my parents never notice that its gone so i can get away with it. i drink it because its the only thing that can get rid of my saddness. i dont want to be an alcoholic. i realize that i need help.

what can i do? what should i do?
please help me.
i need it.

and also,
i need a friend.

For one, you need to dump this could. He's saying really rude things to you, and verbal abuse could become something else, something worse. So get out of that relationship now.

If you had friends before the relationship, try & be friends with them again. If you didn't, go up to people that you think are cool & try being friends with them.

Instead of drinking, start writing, listening to music or sleeping. Alcohol is just a stupid way to relax yourself, and you're 15. You shouldn't be drinking for another 6 years. See a counselor about it so you can get help.

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my bestfriend is crazy. so i like her alot and she likes me, she also likes her ex boyfriend. and he likes her, the only thing i really care about is to make her happy and well even if it means hurting my self, she si happy im trying t odo this but she is excusing me off likeing him and saying im getting jealous of them help?

If she really liked you, she would be with you instead of him. It doesn't really work out with ex boyfriends. It won't be long before they're done.

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14/f


i have a really healthy diet.. well i dont diet but i eat healthy and 5 smaller meals a day. i dont eat junk food and recently gave up sweets for lent. today (easter) i ate alott like chocolate and alot of dinner. i feltlike shit after eating. like, i don't even think i was hungry i just couldnt stop eating sweets and i felt so fat afer wards. im not even that fat i jut dont' like my body (5'3, 115, musclar). i tried to throw up after (i never have before) just to get ride of the junk, but i dont have like a gag reflex. i dont know what to do because sometimes i just feel the need to puke. what can i do?

Don't throw up. You'll cause yourself a dangerous eating disorder. Just exercise the junk off. It's easier & safer.

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I have been screwed over in a lot of relationships thus far in my life. I'm 18 years old. I have recently been hanging out with this guy who just got out of a 5 year relationship. I stayed over at his house alone last night, he has his own place. I slept on the couch and he slept in his bed. We didnt fall asleep until 8 AM and we slept until like 2 PM. We were up all night talking and playing video games and watching videos on youtube. One minute I will just be thinking hes so sweet and perfect and nice and funny and cute. The next minute I will think "do i really like him? do i really feel anything for him?" am i just scared to fall in love again or do i just want to fall in love so im telling myself theres something there. im so confused.

I think you're scared to love again. Just try & get to know him better, and if you think you can trust him, try opening up. Besides, if he was in a 5 year relationship, I doubt he'd be a jerk.

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14/f
iv been going out with my boyfriend for 3 weeks today. yesterday he came over and i had my other friend over too. then today i called him and we were talking and then he was like my mom wants to talk to you for a sec. i said okay and his mom was like im having a birthday party for him on sunday its for his family and i was wondering if you wanted to come, and i said i would check with my parents. the problem is, im soo scared to meet his family.. its not that im just meeting his mom and dad, its his whole family, im freaking out and its a week away. whatt do i doo?

I would say that there's nothing for you to worry about, but you are making a first impression on his whole family.

Just be nice & respectful. Say hi to people if they say hi to you, and try talking a bit. If you're quiet the whole time they might get the wrong idea.

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how do i make my nail polish stay on besides putting
clear nail polish on top & buying special no-chip nail
polish? any tips / tricks? i am already applying two
coats with clear on top, bu tthe tips of my nails keep
chipping... & it's from SEPHORA!

Try a different nail polish. It could be the brand.

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so you know how at the top it says "asdf is in your extended network" on myspace? well does anybody know a website where you can get a pattern to cover that up?

Try this site, they might have it:

http://www.freecodesource.com/index.php?page=myspacegenerators/index

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My boyfriend & I have been having great sex for awhile. The last time, we were trying new positions and he couldn't get hard, and then when he was, I wasn't wet. It kept going back & forth, with each position. I don't know what to do now and I'm scared we won't get back to having our usual great sex. What should I or we do? (18/F)

Do foreplay.

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i still like my ex-boyfriend.
we've gone out maybe 15 times in the last 3 years, its getting really old. im only 15, but i really really like him and care about him alot. i've known him for so long, but right now were not even on speaking terms and its so wierd. i just dont know what i should do because it never works out. any ideas? thankyou.

Forget about him. It doesn't work out for a reason.

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well i really want to make a few changes...

first of all, i really want highlights. this is actually a possibility.. maybe. my parents used to say no because they thought it was too annoying to maintain and stuff. then i asked my mom again and she said maybe. any other ways i could help convince her?

also, i only have 2 piercings.. in my ears. i really want a double pierce, cartilage, and belly button pierce. my parents hate piercings a lot.. like maybe i could get a double but i have really slim chances of getting a cartilage or a belly button. a lot of girls in my grade are getting them and i really like them. any ideas to convince parents?

also.. if you keep your belly button ring or cartilage in for like yearsss and then take it out will the hole eventually close up because i dont want a piercing there when im a grandma. haha

Tell her why highlights would be good for you. They're not hard to maintain since it's hair, so I don't know.

As for your piercing. Try the double. They already let you pierce your ears, so a double might be a possibility like you said.

And if you were to take it out after years, it'd close but it'd just take longer since the hole isn't a new one.

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well afer 5 to nearly 6 days from not hearing from my b/f i got a message from him on his sisters phone i was delighted to see his name in the text message.he just said sorry for not ringing me all week he said his phone fell in water and it is broke.i do believe him and everything but then at the end of the text he said he loves me and everything but if i want to break up with him its fine.he said he doesnt want us to break up but if thats what i want than its fine.im totally confused why would he think i would want to break up with him?but my best friend doesnt really want me to go out with him so i was just thinking could she have told him i was going to break up with him?am i the worst friend to think like this about my best friend?he said he cant ring me or send text messages to me anymore because of his phone.so i cant ring his phone now and i tried ringing his sisters phone but he wasnt with her.what should i do?i want to meet him tomorrow but i cant contact him to ask him can we meet tomorrow.i need advice please give me some if you know what i should do.
xxaoifexxx

He might think that because he hasn't called you all week that maybe it pissed you off & you wanted to break up.

If you can, just text his sister's phone & be like "Tell [boyfriends name here] that we should hang out tomorrow at this [place & time]. Have him call me if possible to make it official."

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Alrighhhhht, my friend is in love with Monica. He is a freshmen, she is a sophmore. Thhey have hooked up and whatever but it didnt mean anything...to her. But now hes all upsetbecasue she doesnt want him. Is there anyway I can make him feel better?

Just be there for him, and tell him that Monica isn't worth his time.

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hey! yeah tomorrow i have a class with this guy and i want to look cute/hot at the same time.
i know im wearing the Lacoste Dress Below. when u actualyl wear it, it looks cute :] mines navy though.
http://i19.tinypic.com/3zghutw.jpg


I dont know else though.
what kind of hair? and makeup that matches this dress?
and what kind of jewerly?

i wanna stand out :D

Thanks in Advance

Hair: Straighten or scrunch your hair.
Makeup: Just eyeliner & mascara.
Jewlery: Something simple. Maybe a silver necklace, or some diamond studs. Maybe a little bracelet.

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eversence last summer i feel like everything in my life is going wrong.ok first of all i better tell you what happened last summer.my granny got lung cancer at the beginning of last summer.the caner was gone too far to opperate on it so it was like she was just slipping away in front of your eyes.she died at the end of july, july 25th.she went into a coma she was in it for 3 to 4 days.i wasnt at home when she got really sick i was gone on holidays with my cousin.i came home early and rushed to see my granny i didnt realise she was in the coma i just knew she was really sick and on my way in to see her my dad just said to me are you ready to say GOODBYE i got the shock of life when he said it.i just sat on the bed holding her hand staring at her i felt like running out of the room and not coming back.that was the last time i had seen her a live.the next few days are just a blurr.sence then im fighting with everyone im gone really cheeky to my mam and dad .my b/f said i could tell him everything but i just cant.his mother had cancer so he understands but i cant any time i start talking about her i start crying (im crying now writing this.ive completely changed.i try to think of the times she wasnt sick and she was so happy but i cant.i just want to be happy again.please give me some advice,xxaoifexxx

I realize how hard getting over a death may be. It's gonna traumatize you a bit. The thought of seeing someone alive, and then seeing them dead the next. I went into depression after my uncle died, and am to this day still doing it.

When someone dies, it shocks you. You don't expect it, but then again it's kind of good when someone dies. I'm not saying I want everyone to die, but think of it this way:

Would you rather have your grandmother be alive today & suffering with the pain of cancer? Or would you rather have her free of suffering?

If given that choice to make, I'd honestly rather have a family member dead. Yes, that's sort of a bad thing to say, but I rather not have them suffer. I rather they be happy & go to a place where they'll never see pain again.

In order to come to terms with my uncle's death, I wrote. I wrote about everything I was feeling. Whether it was poetry, or a rant, that's what I did. I also did some negative things like taking it to a razor rather than talking it out with my family.

Just remember, your boyfriend is going through the same thing, so he knows how you feel, and you can cry & he can cry. Not only will it make your relationship stronger, but you guys will be closer because you share something different, and personal.

But also, if talking to a friend, a family member or your boyfriend about it doesn't help, talk to a counselor. They can help you try to get over it in different ways, because their job is to find solutions.

I hope you come at peace with this. Good luck, and sorry about your grandmother.

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I have decent muscle tone but I think I could use a bit of fat loss. I know you can't really go by numbers and it's better to just go by if you like the way you look (and you're healthy of course), so my guess is if I lost around 5-10 pounds I'd be happy. I'm 15 years old, 5'3" and about 128 lbs right now. I don't want to totally change my life but hopefully I can make do with some changes to help me lose my gut, haha.

I know it is better to eat more small meals than 3 regular sized meals. On weekdays it could be difficult to do this - what I think I can do is eat breakfast at around 6:30 AM. I then have lunch at school from 10:45-11:15 AM. When my school ends at 2:20 I have 20 minutes to get ready for my sports practice, and I usually end up rushing because I talk to friends before getting ready. I will work on that and attempt to eat a small meal around then. My practices end everyday around 4:45-5:00 PM. Dinner is usually around 6:30 for me and I usually just have to eat what my mom cooks.

I'm not very good with figuring out how to distribute the meals to be a good size so I have enough energy but I'm not over eating, and how to balance out the nutrients.

For breakfast, I love eggs with cheese... I'm not sure if that's a great idea but it's always my favorite. If it's not good, what else is a better initiative?

For lunch it doesn't matter much but my cafeteria's selection isn't very healthy so I pack my lunch - anything that won't spoil in my locker is fine, so suggestions here would be great :)

For the meal before practice, I would want something quick and not needing any preparation. My mom buys whey protein bars which I like, would that be a good idea? Or something else quick?

Dinner isn't my decision usually, but most nights I eat a spinach salad and something along the lines of a chicken cutlet and a vegetable or pasta.

I'm trying to also drink a lot more water to keep myself hydrated for my practices and I drink milk for the calcium (and I love it).

I know that was a lot but if anyone can recommend some foods to make this plan work it would be great!

I know exercise is a huge part also but I have to ask that separately because there are some complications, lol. Thanks though!

This isn't going to help you, but you could ask this question to MikeCFT:

http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=MikeCFT

That's his column. He's a fitness trainer & he's really big on things like nutrition & exercise, so he can help you most. =)

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