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boyfriend and alcohol
15/f
my boyfriend (17/m)has been fighting with me a lot lately and much of it is harsh. today was killer. it got to the point where he called me a dumbass and the most immature person that he knows, and that he's been going out with me for the past 10 months, because i have "the potential to be a good girlfriend." he tells me that i act like a spoiled little kid and need to grow up and stop being so immature.
this kind of fight happens too often. it has lead me to vodka. i can mix it with cranberry juice to cover the smell and my parents never notice that its gone so i can get away with it. i drink it because its the only thing that can get rid of my saddness. i dont want to be an alcoholic. i realize that i need help.
what can i do? what should i do?
please help me.
i need it.
and also,
i need a friend.
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he's being ridiculous. you need to dump him because if it's making you unhappy, you shouldn't be with him. don't sacrifice your happiness over a guy that just thinks you have "potential". after 10 months... it should be past the potential phase.
however, he does have a point with the immature thing... maybe not the most immature person (he's dating someone 2 years younger... you're not supposed to grow up fast just for him) but drinking to make you happy is an immature solution. i know it seems like the only way to just kinda forget about things but there are different ways to handle sadness. take this from the person who has been through soo much in a year and did all kinds of "bad" stuff to shake it off. i guess i can help you with experience so lemme know what you're willing to do to make a few changes and be happier. i'll be your friend! :) <3
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I think it's pretty obvious you gotta break up with him...
I really don't know what else to say, because you know what the problem is and i think you know what to do about it. He's hurting you, and you don't deserve that. Imagine someone you really care about (friend, cousin, sister, even mom if that gets the point across) in your situation, what would you tell them?
You shouldn't be sad or be hurting yourself more than you're already hurt for a jerk like that, trust me; he's not worth it.
It sounds like HE doesn't even HAVE the "potential to be a good BOYFRIEND". Guys like that don't deserve good girls, much less to have them ruining themselves because of them.
DUMP HIS ASS, ASAP [[!!]]
~MG
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For one, you need to dump this could. He's saying really rude things to you, and verbal abuse could become something else, something worse. So get out of that relationship now.
If you had friends before the relationship, try & be friends with them again. If you didn't, go up to people that you think are cool & try being friends with them.
Instead of drinking, start writing, listening to music or sleeping. Alcohol is just a stupid way to relax yourself, and you're 15. You shouldn't be drinking for another 6 years. See a counselor about it so you can get help.
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Your boyfriend sounds like a boyfriend i use to have,
I use the word use because i realized it was a unhealthy situation.
No one especially your boyfriend should belittle you like that.
You need to have a talk with him,
Drinking is not the answer, and it never is.It only destroys people. and i should know i know maybe alcoholics in my life.
if you continue down this road i may happen. Never drink out of sadness.
Is he really worth all the oan our having because i dont htink anyone is worth feelin bad constantly.
And im here if you need a friend.
Ive been down this road and its not easy to get off of but its possible.
-Sky-
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