Call MeSKY
i;m 16 and i live in New York, The reason i decided to give out advice because i have been through alot in my life,
-I grew up without a father,
-dealt with abuse up till recently,
-dealt with many mental issues,
-dealt with death in a close knit family,
-dealt with disease.
-Jerk Boyfriends
-Sex issues
-Step Sisters
I've been through a lot, but it only made me stronger. I know what it feels like to be down, to be lower than you've ever been before, Sometimes you just need someone, even if you don't know this person just to talk too. When friends aren't as supportive as they should be, and parents aren't there. Thats why I'm here. I'm not perfect with advice but i will tell you straight up and do my best to help. No matter how big or small a problem is. I will be as open as i possibly can, and maybe just maybe( No promises though) i will help. Just know that talking is a good way to solve any problem..
-Sky-
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my skin is clear and once in a while i'll get a few pimples. but i was just wondering what was a good face wash that will keep my skin clear and healthy. thanks! (link)
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My skin is clear too but as soon i as started using face washes some of them had some negative effects so be careful..
I use proactive which keeps my face in tip top shape,
but also the foaming Olay face wash and wipes are fantastic
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i take this birth control pill that make me gain about 10 pounds really quickly..and you know when you put on a lot of weight in a short amount of time it causes stretch marks. anyways i have them really bad on my inner thighs, and even a little on my calfs, like kind of on the other side of my knee. i also have small ones on my love handles, but they have gotten better. is there any cream you think will for sure help them fade a little? and also, is there anything a dermatologist could do about it? like any special thing they have? thanks so much! (link)
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there is actually a coco butter cream you can get it anywhere..
It will help with those marks.
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i have only been with two guys. im a female 15. i have never been dumped by a guy but i think my boyfriend is implying that we should break up we dont see each other that much but we talk to each other everyday. hes a very blunt person though. he feels as if he doesnt have a girlfriend..but i do care about him and his feelings. we've only been going out for 1 month but have been talking since january of this year. i know if he doesnt want me then its okay because i can do much better but what can i say to him and what can i expect for him to say to me.
hes already said," dont you think we've been going out for a long time now"
i said no
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What you need to do is make efforts to make your boyfriend feel like hes liked/loved.
He wans attention.
I mean it isn't asking that much.
But dont be afraid to tell him the truth.
If he breaks up with you then it really was meant to be an trust me you will have PLENTY more boyfriend
-Sky-
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I reccently met a kid over myspace. He lives in Germany, but speaks near perfect English. First we talked through Myspace comments, and then we exchanged MSN addresses. We talked for 7 hours straight on MSN. Of course, since there is a time difference, he actually stayed up til 5 in the morning to talk to me. I was considering going out for a jog so I told him I had to go for a while. He started to say, "Are you going to be back? When? I'd be glad if you were back soon." So instead I decided to stay. We talked about everything, and he told me he had over 100 candles in his room. I told him that it'd be cool to see what they looked like at night. So he went and lit ALL of the candles, and took pictures of them that minute, just for me. He also sent me some pictures of him, and shared a poem with me that he hadn't shared with many people. He told me I was pretty and described in detail why. But then he started to joke with me, and call me ugly and "sir." I know he was just kidding though- it's his sense of humor.
Sometimes we' get bored in the conversation and we both wouldn't know what to say. Finally when he had to go, he wrote " (link)
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I;m not going to sugar coat this but its not going to workout....
Your only 15 and you have your life ahead of you...
If you think of this in a reasonable way....
ermany is far far far away and in order to se ehim youd have the choices of....
Moving to Germany-which isnt a option
Have him move to the US-
Or spend a bunch of money to see him once every couple of years.
when you get a lil older you will long for his touch every day and not being able to have it will depress causing you to go someplace else to find it....Causing Heartache
Be friends...
-Sky-
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This is one of those patheic I still love him questions but please help me.
On Friday I asked out my ex who is now one of my best friends and he said I don't know. So today me and my bff (she also went out with him before) spent the day with him. (were all best friends now) and I asked him if he had his answer yet. At first he said I don't know. and then right before I had to go home I asked him if he had his answer and he said his answer was no. So I pretened not to care and when I leave and he is walking my bff home he holds her hand and I know he wants to go out with her. But I don't want to let him go, again. I don't really know how to put it when I say let him go.. I mean that last time he and my bff went out I had to watch them holding hands, and kissing goodbye, and all that and that really hurt my feelings and so know I don't want that to happen again. I don't know what to do at all. Do I somehow ignore them or avoid them or what? Please. Help. (link)
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Talk to your friend..
tel her how you feel...
if she ignores how you feel then she isn't really worth now is she....
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ok about a week ago i got like banned from this site because i told someone that sperm dies when it hits the air so i got banned because sopposibly thats a myth? But i just saw a few other people on the site saying how sperm dies when it hits the air is it true or not? (link)
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No, sperm do not die when they hit the air. This is a common myth!
Sperm can usually live up to seven days when they're in the cervical mucus of a woman's vagina. However, when they're not being nourished and protected by cervical mucus, vaginal secretions, the warmth and moisture of a man's urethra and reproductive tract, or other warm and moist conditions, they die anywhere between a half an hour to four hours.
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Hey im a 13/f and i have just gotin out of a years relation ship. and the guy that i was dateing dumped me and wont say why. So his best friend conner who i have known since i was a baby has been txting me all the time and has been flerting with me. and saying ll this cute stuff and he has asked me out i haven't answered cuz i dont know what i shuld say. Is it wrong to be dateing his best friend who is also one of my bestfriends??? Please help me cuz i need it.
Love,
Bubble2Gum (link)
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Are you prepared to possible ruin a relationship with you rbest friend.
you have to answer this one why asking yourself some questions.
If you like him like that than you cant help how you feel.
But just think about it first.
-sky-
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13/f
Tonight I'm going to a mixed boys and girls sleepover, and the guy I fancy is going to be there. I want to look good, but I can't be too dressed-up because it's a sleepover, not a party. Also, I would like to wear something a little rock chick.
So my question is, what should I wear?
Thanks in advance, xxx (link)
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Get some aweosme Pjs.
Its a sleepover right.
Wear a cute outfit and get some nice hot pjs because thats what matters.
-sky-
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Okay, so I am fifteen and I am about to turn sixteen towards the end of the month. I am just wondering, what is it about turning sixteen that girls are really excited about? You know, like, they throw really huge parties and stuff like that.... Please do explain to me what turning sixteen signifies.
Thanks! (link)
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For years, Sweet Sixteen birthday parties have been held to commemorate a break from adolescence. Traditionally, this sort of merriment focused on girls, but today, the celebration has become quite popular for boys as well. This is also the time in ones’ life where first cars are bought and driven after obtaining a learner’s permit.
I know that when i turned sixteen i was excited about driving, working better jobs, and being treated more like an adult rather than a child.
-sky-
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my mom and i used to get along but now not much at all. if we ever do talk we start yelling. she just has no idea about my life and if i try to tell her she just starts yelling if i say can i talk to you without yelling she says well your being a btch. now im just leaving her out and she just wont get over it so what ever i do what ever i try she gets mad and starts goin off on me. im the ?/goth im trying to get away from being gothic. my family mainly my mom and my cousins all hate it about me now. but i like being gothic i like the style i like the people it makes me feel better about myself. but im startin to try and go normal because what ever i do im wrong what ever i say or i do or who my friends are or what i wear or listen to or who i talk to or how i act its always wrong in her eyes. im always getting yelled at or grounded or with my friends. so i wana change because i think it might save me but i just like gothic its who i am its the only thing other than my gothic friends that make me happy. ive been trying to change my personality all for my mom and i get grounded what is wrong with my life. i get xtremely mad and just am starting to lash out but my family just says im grounded. grounding me every day at least a few times even though im already grounded. i hate my life i have no confidence i do nothing right ever in my hole life. but im afraid im gona run away(id rather) or kill myself. i will. my friends even are surprised im still living and still home. i only get to see them at school but thier my life. all my friends are deppressed but even with their problems they try to help me. i love them i will die if i lose any of them. ive already lost 3 bffs in my group to suicide and abuse. they think id be next they do every thing to keep me here and alive they say theyd all run away with me. i will soon. before i die. i get grounded so much in a day so i just stay in my room all day on my cell phone(my mom has no idea about)i got which i pay for through a friend. its either that so i can have one thing in my life or die. if any help im a fucked up catholic school girl thats just turned 13 and female. i need help in advice. how do i fix my life! how do i get my mom to shut up for a sec to even tell her anything! how am i still here whats even keeping me here! isnt it stupid to get grounded atleast 6 times a day even though im already grounded! my friends risk their lives to give me a chance in life over and over again daily what could i do for them. should i run away with my friends. and please help me with anything else i forgot and any toughts about my messed up life. (link)
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You seem really into this label-goth.
You have to realize that by labeling yourself you give people a target to judge you.
So you like the goth style.
I understand because i do too, but you have to realize thats all it is is a style.
its not a lifestyle.
and thats what people need to understand.
I do not a have very good relationship with my mom.
She is very hard headed and extremely hard to talk too.
I have dealt with suicide and running away and all that stuff.
But i have come to realize that does not solve anything AT ALL.
You say your trying to change yourself.
i think thats a big problem.
if you try and become something your not.
You will just end up more unhappy
You cant change who you are for other people its just not good,
I understand your mom and family hate it but who cares they aren't you.
You can only change if you really want to change,and from your writing you don't want to your doing it to please other people,
I know that parents can be hardheaded and dont want to talk about things because they think they are write but you need to find some way to make your mom listen,
To make her realize how you feel,
Your not going to stay grounded forever,
Because they cant this is just a rough patch in the road.
grounding is not really the issue here its the mom and daughter communication.
May i suggest writing your mom a letter,
Tell her how you feel and everything,
tell her exactly how you feel thought this letter,
but do ti in a mature adult way,
If that doesnt work come to her in a mature adult fashion and talk it out.
Dont give up.Thing will get better.
-Sky-
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f/13 okay, i wanna try out for the cheerleading squad next year. it's not so much of a problem since i have a background on dance and gymnastics anyways. but most of the people in the squad are POPULAR. and i happen to be NOT. i know it's not much, but they ask for a group routine when you try out. i'd probably have my own routine, but not a group, since my friends don't want to be cheerleaders. how am i gonna fit in?
lindsay (link)
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Lindsay,
I know what your feeling right now,
but im sure you'll d fine,
Last year when i tried out for softball i was terrified,
My friends are not athletic and wouldn't try out with me,
but after i made the team i found myself becoming friend with these poeple who i would never have been friends with,
Your putting yourself out side your comfort zone and its going to be hard,
just try your best and you'll do fine,
After yu make it
you'll fit right in,
thats a promise i can guarantee
-Sky-
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im 14, female and i need a job so i can help pay for some off my own stuff but most places want you 15 or 16, you know?
so what can i do?
i live in southerin indiana and i love taking pictures, not very athletic, & i love writing.
PLEASE help. (link)
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Look around people hire baby sitters all the time.
Also they can make a nice amount of money.
Also you can ask people if they need any errands ran. That what id id when i was your age.
You can make a nice amount of money that way.
-Sky-
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me and all my friends are 13. my friend and her boyfriend have been talking about oral, and fingering, ans sex.. he has a concom, and she says shes ready, and shes been talking about it with my other friend who also really wants it too. they say there prepared, and so are there boyfriends. the problem is im not supposed to know this, so i cant talk to them abou it. and plus im not sure if she was telling the tuth, or just saying that, but when everyone found out, she got mad, and i think it means it was true. i really cant do anyhting to help her, but i wanna know if thirteen is too young. I thik it is, but she doesnt, and im scared for her....were not that good of frends , but im still scared! (link)
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Thriteen is why to young.
Even if they think they are prepared they really arent.
Sex isn't just physical its mental too.
These girls are going to get attached and it may not be good at all.
You sound like such a nice person so you need to talk to them.
Even if it starts a fight you need to warn them.
So many things can happen and they really arent ready for it.
Imagine if the condom breaks and your friend ends up pregnant.
You need to have a serious talk.
I know it may be hard but its going o be worth it in the long run.
Just try and talk to her.
She 13, at thirteen these girls do not know what love is.
or what sex means
good luck
-Sky-
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I am almost 20, an EX-tanning bed user and I have many signs that lead me to believe I could have melanoma. I''d really like to go to the doctor to have my moles checked out, but I don't have health insurance to cover it. I want to go ASAP so I can stop melanoma in it's early stages IF they happen to find it. But at this point, I don't have enough money to get on health insurance and it's way too expensive to pay out of pocket. Any suggestions or anything I can do? (link)
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I did some research for you..
because i know how serious this could be.
What i found out is depending on where you live some hospitals have believe it or not
Free Skin Cancer screening days.
Perhaps check with hospitals and see if they offer that.
Look around im sure you will find something.
Good luck
-Sky-
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I really want a tattoo like Gisele Bundchen's, like with the star on her hand. its soo cute! but would the tattoo people or my parents let me? because im only 13.. (link)
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i think honestly you should wait because i know that my taste have changed since i was thirteen.
so why not wait a couple of years but still pitch the idea to your parents.
See what they say.
I know that my mom is making wait til im 17..
but who knows.
Good luck
-Sky-
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how exactly is a makeout catergorized... like if i kissed with my boyfriend how long wwould it have to be for, and like how many kisses who you have to do and what not for it to be considered a makeout..and also im young but my boyfriend and i want to make out...so i dnt know how...how do yyou???answer both please!!! (link)
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OKay so i exactly had to look thins one up because i really didn't know at first.
making out as said in the dictionary (yes i looked making out in the dictionary lol)
is the act of prolonged kissing, and making out consists of French kissing.
so in order to make out you must French kiss.
so heres how to do it.....
1 Moisten your lips. Dry lips do not move well together. Just a light brush of your tongue over your lips will be sufficient to moisten them.
2 Angle your head. If your mouths meet dead-on, your noses will get in the way, and you will not be able to kiss deeply or smoothly. To avoid this, tilt your head slightly to one side. Make sure you do not both tilt your heads to the same side.
3 Close your eyes. As you approach for the kiss, look into your partner's eyes, but, once you are close to theirs, close your eyes. It can be a bit of a turnoff to be kissing and going cross-eyed .
4 Start with a gentle and soft closed-mouth kiss. The French kiss is an open-mouth kiss, but do not lunge in with your lips agape like you're going to eat them; instead, open your lips very slowly.
5 Explore with your tongue. If you and your partner seem to be enjoying the open-mouth kiss, slowly try to open your mouth a little bit more and gently push your tongue a little farther into their mouth. The tongue is very sensitive, and the mere act of touching your partner's tongue with your own will be very pleasant and stimulating for each of you. Do not stick your tongue too far into the mouth, as this can be a big turn-off. Instead, just gently and playfully touch tongues.
6 Go Slow. Passionate kisses are good sometimes, but to really enjoy a French kiss, you must take it slow. Do not hurry and take time to explore each other's mouths.
7 Mix it up. Kisses are like snowflakes: no two are exactly the same. Once you finally feel comfortable French kissing someone, it is tempting to try to do the same thing every time. Add variety. Sometimes kiss deeper, for example, and other times pay more attention to the lips than the tongue.
8 Develop your style. Good French kissing, like good kissing of any kind, requires practice. You will get better as you do it more. In addition, the more practice you have with one person, the more comfortable you will feel kissing them and developing a style that suits both of you
that should get you started...
-SKy-
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lately,my best friend and i arent as close as we used to be.we talk and everything but it just feels like something is different.i used to be able to tell her everything without thinking twice about it but now i do have to think twice because if i bring up say my b/f she will be like oh my god do you have to be always talk about him and i might just say his name.she has no b/f so that could be it but i cant talk to her like i used to about anything.i might ring her just to see how she was and it would be like what do want in a really mean voice.
i rang her today because i was really upset because my granny was rushed up to hospital and im very close to my granny.she sounded like she didnt care and just giving me the impression like is that all i rang her?why did i ring her?and if i acted that way to her on the phone she would get really pisst of with me.
i just feel like we cant talk anymore and i feel like we arent the best of friends we used to be.what should i do?i tried talking to her about it but she wouldnt listen.please give me some advice im really stressed out about the whole thing.xxaoifexxx (link)
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Your best friend sounds unhappy and the whole boyfriend thing has something to do with it.
All i can tell you is to talk to her.
Explain to her everything about how you feel because thats not fair how she acted.
She should be there for you.
and im sorry about your granny i hope shes alright.
but anyway just call her up again or have her over for just you and her time.
talk about it
and im sure everything will be fine.
-sky-
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I'm 14 and weigh like 115-120 and idk i just feel fat. and idk why i feel fat. I dont eat supper of breakfast usually. just llunch at school so people dont think that i am starving myself. but i almost want to for how bad i feel. and what is something i can do to fix my butt. like one side is bigger than the other! kinda freaky! but if you can help me by telling me why i feel like this and a safe way to make me feel better about myself that would be just dandy! thanks (link)
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You need to talk to someone immediately.
your not giving yourself enough of anything by eating just one meal.
Your not fat and i dont kno why you think you are and i know you feel bad but you need to talk to people about it
Trust me you will feel better after it.
Or maybe go and do something for yourself.
Perhaps you should join a gym or somethings eat healthy or something.
there are so many other ways then starving yourself.
-SKy-
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what is bipolar (link)
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bipolar (also called manic-depressive) is a disorder disorder
Bipolar disorder, also known as manic-depressive illness, is a brain disorder that causes unusual shifts in a person's mood, energy, and ability to function. Different from the normal ups and downs that everyone goes through, the symptoms of bipolar disorder are severe. They can result in damaged relationships, poor job or school performance, and even suicide. But there is good news: bipolar disorder can be treated, and people with this illness can lead full and productive lives.
Symptoms-
he periods of highs and lows are called episodes of mania and depression.
Signs and symptoms of mania (or a manic episode) include:
* Increased energy, activity, and restlessness
* Excessively "high," overly good, euphoric mood
* Extreme irritability
* Racing thoughts and talking very fast, jumping from one idea to another
* Distractibility, can't concentrate well
* Little sleep needed
* Unrealistic beliefs in one's abilities and powers
* Poor judgment
* Spending sprees
* A lasting period of behavior that is different from usual
* Increased sexual drive
* Abuse of drugs, particularly cocaine, alcohol, and sleeping medications
* Provocative, intrusive, or aggressive behavior
* Denial that anything is wrong
A manic episode is diagnosed if elevated mood occurs with three or more of the other symptoms most of the day, nearly every day, for 1 week or longer. If the mood is irritable, four additional symptoms must be present.
Signs and symptoms of depression (or a depressive episode) include:
* Lasting sad, anxious, or empty mood
* Feelings of hopelessness or pessimism
* Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, or helplessness
* Loss of interest or pleasure in activities once enjoyed, including sex
* Decreased energy, a feeling of fatigue or of being "slowed down"
* Difficulty concentrating, remembering, making decisions
* Restlessness or irritability
* Sleeping too much, or can't sleep
* Change in appetite and/or unintended weight loss or gain
* Chronic pain or other persistent bodily symptoms that are not caused by physical illness or injury
* Thoughts of death or suicide, or suicide attempts
Maybe this will help
-Sky-
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Hey!
I asked you about the haircut.
Idk if you've ever seen Priscilla on my Super Sweet 16, but i want my hair like hers. Kind of the middle part back and then curled, but I dont know if i can do that with the bangs?
-jordan (link)
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I must say my super sixteen is like my guilty pleasure.
So im pretty sure i know what hair style your talking about.
Any way im sure the bangs and this style would not be a problem just make sure that they arent to short and invest in some good clips in case you want to clip it back..
use you imagination!
-Sky-
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