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my friends(id die for) my life my mom
my mom and i used to get along but now not much at all. if we ever do talk we start yelling. she just has no idea about my life and if i try to tell her she just starts yelling if i say can i talk to you without yelling she says well your being a btch. now im just leaving her out and she just wont get over it so what ever i do what ever i try she gets mad and starts goin off on me. im the ?/goth im trying to get away from being gothic. my family mainly my mom and my cousins all hate it about me now. but i like being gothic i like the style i like the people it makes me feel better about myself. but im startin to try and go normal because what ever i do im wrong what ever i say or i do or who my friends are or what i wear or listen to or who i talk to or how i act its always wrong in her eyes. im always getting yelled at or grounded or with my friends. so i wana change because i think it might save me but i just like gothic its who i am its the only thing other than my gothic friends that make me happy. ive been trying to change my personality all for my mom and i get grounded what is wrong with my life. i get xtremely mad and just am starting to lash out but my family just says im grounded. grounding me every day at least a few times even though im already grounded. i hate my life i have no confidence i do nothing right ever in my hole life. but im afraid im gona run away(id rather) or kill myself. i will. my friends even are surprised im still living and still home. i only get to see them at school but thier my life. all my friends are deppressed but even with their problems they try to help me. i love them i will die if i lose any of them. ive already lost 3 bffs in my group to suicide and abuse. they think id be next they do every thing to keep me here and alive they say theyd all run away with me. i will soon. before i die. i get grounded so much in a day so i just stay in my room all day on my cell phone(my mom has no idea about)i got which i pay for through a friend. its either that so i can have one thing in my life or die. if any help im a fucked up catholic school girl thats just turned 13 and female. i need help in advice. how do i fix my life! how do i get my mom to shut up for a sec to even tell her anything! how am i still here whats even keeping me here! isnt it stupid to get grounded atleast 6 times a day even though im already grounded! my friends risk their lives to give me a chance in life over and over again daily what could i do for them. should i run away with my friends. and please help me with anything else i forgot and any toughts about my messed up life.
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dont change your style because of your mom she doesnt understand and she probably never will.trust me ive been where you are now!you have friends that make you happy and your happy as a goth!dont let your mother control your life,i dont let mine.who cares if your mom says our a "reall btch" go up to her and say "ya well lifes a bitch yet so am i"be proud!
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You seem really into this label-goth.
You have to realize that by labeling yourself you give people a target to judge you.
So you like the goth style.
I understand because i do too, but you have to realize thats all it is is a style.
its not a lifestyle.
and thats what people need to understand.
I do not a have very good relationship with my mom.
She is very hard headed and extremely hard to talk too.
I have dealt with suicide and running away and all that stuff.
But i have come to realize that does not solve anything AT ALL.
You say your trying to change yourself.
i think thats a big problem.
if you try and become something your not.
You will just end up more unhappy
You cant change who you are for other people its just not good,
I understand your mom and family hate it but who cares they aren't you.
You can only change if you really want to change,and from your writing you don't want to your doing it to please other people,
I know that parents can be hardheaded and dont want to talk about things because they think they are write but you need to find some way to make your mom listen,
To make her realize how you feel,
Your not going to stay grounded forever,
Because they cant this is just a rough patch in the road.
grounding is not really the issue here its the mom and daughter communication.
May i suggest writing your mom a letter,
Tell her how you feel and everything,
tell her exactly how you feel thought this letter,
but do ti in a mature adult way,
If that doesnt work come to her in a mature adult fashion and talk it out.
Dont give up.Thing will get better.
-Sky-
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I know how you feel. I'm 16 years old, and my parents still treat me like I'm 5.
In my parents eyes, I can do nothing right. The way I dress is wrong. The people I hang out with are bad. The music I listen to is bad. The way I think is unacceptable. The way I talk is uncalled for. Everything I do is failure.
I tried to talk to my parents about it, but they'd yell at me or tell me that I'm getting on their nerves. Or that I was annoying, or to shut up. They didn't wanna hear me out, but then when I didn't say anything to them, they'd get mad because I wasn't including them in my life.
I basically told them that they were contradicting themselves, and if they cared about me at all, they'd give me a chance to talk & they'd listen. To this day, they still ignore me. I try to include them, and let them know how I feel, and how I'm doing, but they don't bother to pay attention to me, so I just go about my business. I told my mom I applied for a job, and she told me "You won't get called back. You apply for jobs wrong." So, I decided that if my mom cared, she'd come around.
She doesn't ask me how my day is, how I'm doing, what I'm up to, or what I'm thinking. She doesn't ask me what I'd like to eat [I can only eat certain foods because I'm very much lactose intolerant] and she doesn't want me to go with her when they go to the store. My mom doesn't include me in her life, so I don't include her in mine.
My mom, my brother, and my dad -- make me wanna pull my hair out. They make me wanna scream. I'm usually close with my brother, but he's an idiot most of the time, and I can't stand him. The only reason why I'm here is music & friends. Without them, I would've commited suicide already, but they keep me here.
Just try to include your mom more, and if it doesn't work, then just don't talk to her at all. If she asks something, answer her. But if she doesn't have anything to say to you, then you don't say anything at all.
It's normal to fight with your mom though, especially as a teenage female. I started to have these problems with my mom when I was 12, and I gave up trying at 14. I'm 16 now. Just keep living for your friends, and your music.
Do what you want [find out who you are, wear what you want, and listen to what you want], and if your mom hates it, then so be it. You're only in her house for about 5 more years. Keep your head up.
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