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I am a 15-year-old girl and I need help deciding between two boys. One I have liked for years, but we barely ever talk anymore, we'll call him J. One I just recently met and I'm starting to develop a little crush on him, I'll call him B. I've liked J since 5th grade but I'm pretty sure he likes this girl named Anna. B is sweet and all, but we don't has history like J and I.
It's not like I can just ask J out and if things don't work out skip over to B because they are rely good friends and don't date girls that the other has already dated to avoid arguments. So should I take a shot at J, even if the odds are slim, or try for B and get to know him and hope that I get over J? (link)
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Whenever a girl is having trouble deciding between two guys, I always tell them to take a step back and figure out your feelings.
The thing is, if you do go for B while still having feelings for J, that can just mess you up. What if you don't get over J? Then you're dating his good friend and really wishing you were with him.
So I say don't rush anything. Maybe get to know both of them a little better. Figure out what you're looking for in a guy besides him being cute, funny and nice. Figure out what values you'd like him to have, how he treats his friends and family, how he treats strangers, ect. Then also look at their interests and see if any match up with yours.
Just remember, if you do go after one and it just doesn't work out, there are tons of guys out there. You're 15 and have so many more guys to meet.
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OK how do I act like a tomboy n what would I do.how would I dress n do my hair.(I'm a girl) Because I really want to be this guy friend but I don't want to seem desperate like other girls. (link)
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You don't want to "act like a tomboy". Because acting is pretty much faking it and that's not how you want to win over a guy. You want him to like you for you.
All you need to do is be yourself. You don't need to be desperate, just dress how you normally would dress and as if you're not trying to impress a boy.
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I am 14 and I have 3 siblings all older. I really want a puppy. My mom is all for it but my dad makes up a million excuses for me not to get one. He says that money is a problem but I found cheap insurance and I am paying for the puppy and everything that it needs (bed, food, ect.) Then my dad says that it will scratch the furniture, but I know that if I train it correctly it will not. Also he thinks that he is the only one that will take care of it. Because when I was an infant and all my siblings were 7 and under he complains that he had to take care of it. I was an infant how was I supposed to take care of it. I have tried everything trying to convince him and every time I bring it up he just gets all frustrated and walks away. It is extremely frustrating how he refuses to listen to me. So if anyone has any ideas or knowledge about dogs and is willing to give me advice it would be much appreciated. EVERYTHING HELPS! (link)
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I don't think you can really convince him to let you get a puppy. He just simply might not want a dog and just wants to come with excuses because he doesn't want to straight up tell you that he's not comfortable with getting a dog.
Dogs live for quite awhile. So if you're willing to take care of this dog completely without any help, then you might want to realize that it will cost a lot of money each month. I mean it'll probably end up $700-$3000 a year. I don't know where you get your money at 14.
So I mean first it's buying the dog. I don't know how much you're willing to spend to buy the puppy. The price is different every where you look.
Then of course there are the vaccines the puppy needs. So that can be anywhere from $50-$300. Vet bills will cost about $100 to $300 each visit.
Then obviously the dog supplies. Dog food, leashes, collars, beds, toys, ect.
Then to get it spayed or neutered probably costs $150 to $700.
Pretty much, the first year of having the dog will be more expensive than normally.
All dogs need medication to prevent fleas, ticks, heartworms and other parasites.
You'll also need to make sure you have enough money for emergencies because who knows what could happen.
So if you really have the money to do this, and you can budget it wisely, then let him know.
But not only that, you will be growing up. You wouldn't be able to live in dorms in college, and having a pet in an apartment can sometimes be difficult. So if you want to leave to go to college somewhere, the responsibility will fall back on your parents.
So make sure you take all of this into consideration. Because if he really doesn't want to take care of the dog at all and you're willing to take all the responsibility then let him know and show him what you're willing to do.
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I have a huge crush on "̮м̣̣̣̥γ̥"̮ bestfriend... But idk if he feels the same. I don't think so. He don't like hugging people and yesterday he hugged me and told me he *̩s gonna miss me. I know that *̩s a bestfriend relationship! Please help? I can't just tell him because I'm scared he'll freak out and never be "̮м̣̣̣̥γ̥"̮ friend again,,,! (link)
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I agree with Dragonflymagic, if one of you guys are moving, then it's pointless to tell him how you feel. But if it's just like vacation or something where you'll see him again, then just let him know.
I doubt he'll freak out or not want to be your friend even if he doesn't feel the same way.
I think the only way you might freak him out is if you actually tell him that you're crazy in love with him. That might scare him off.
So just tell him that you're developing feelings for him, or you're starting to like him as more than a friend or something along those lines.
If he's a real and good friend, you guys will still be friends regardless of the outcome.
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Ok, well I had this friend for years and now in high school but I kinda left him alone for 2 years to hang out with other friends but now he met someone else and now they hang out all the time. Now I have taken enough of this I have feelings for him like deep feelings for him. Every time they hang out I have hate feelings towards her. Does it seem that I'm jealous??? (link)
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Yes, you're jealous. You're angry/upset at her because they are both hanging out and you have feelings for him.
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I need some advice here, so I like this guy named Drake. We're both 16, we have no classes together, I only see him in the hallway a couple times a day and we've never talked. He knows I exist b/c long story short, my friend told Drake's friend who told Drake that I think he's cute. I really want to talk to him, I don't know how though. Should I message him on Facebook? What do I say? I saw him today and he kind of smiled at me :) Also he's super shy and I've heard he's kind of awkward (link)
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I'd start with smiling when you see him, then maybe the next day say hi. Eventually it'll get to the point where you're saying hi like every day and can eventually move it to small talk.
If you want to message him on Facebook, go for it. But I'd wait until you guys start with at least greeting each other.
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hi im am 14 and i really like this guy, and i guess we are dating in a way. Neither of us have had our first kiss, and we've talked about it and we both seem to want the other one to make the first move, and he w told one of my friends how badly he wants to kiss me,and i think thats adorable but we bothe seem to have too many nerves to do it. We joke around and flirt and stuff like that, and we hold hands and hug all the time. I really like him and he really likes me.. so why is it so hard? he gives me nerves like that big time, and ive gotten so close to actually kissind him so many times. Any tips on getting over the nerves to just do it? (link)
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Kissing just comes natural. When you start over thinking it, then it becomes a problem and that's why you get really nervous each time you guys get close to kissing.
So don't think about it too much, let it happen when it's supposed to happen. When you're in that moment, and you feel ready, then just do it.
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My best friend who I've known for three years has all of a sudden stopped talking to me, and hanging out with the meanest girls in school, and pretends like she doesn't even know me, and totally pushing me out of a club I MADE and she is talking all the credit and pretending it was all her. She talked to me once this month, that's it. (link)
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Some girls care more about popularity than their friends. So since she's hanging out with the meanest girls in school, she most likely wants to be accepted by them and doesn't really care to keep her old friends.
You can try having a talk with her and let her know you miss her and you would like to know why she's been ignoring you. If she doesn't make any effort then just let her go because she wasn't a real friend.
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I really like him. But Iam not ready for a sexual relationship with him yet. How should I tell hom that? (link)
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I'm kinda confused. Are you guys dating?
If so, then just have a talk with him about it. Let him know you're not ready for a sexual relationship. If he cares for you, he'll understand and he won't pressure you.
If you aren't dating, then wait until you guys start dating or talking seriously to let them know that you're not ready for a sexual relationship.
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What is the best way to suicide at home with not pain. (link)
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Firstly, we're not even allowed to tell anyone how to commit suicide.
Secondly, there wouldn't even be a way to commit suicide that involves no pain. I mean you're taking your life, it's going to hurt a lot.
You need to talk to someone about this. Call the suicide hotline number that the other adviser gave you. Go talk to a counselor or therapist. You don't have to feel like this and they will help you get through your problems.
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I have a crush on this boy, but recently I found out he likes someone else. At first,I told myself I'll find someone else, and try to forget about him. But I can't seem to find another boy to replace him, and no matter how much I try to prevent it,I still have some feelings. How can I get over my first love? (link)
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I agree with Dragonflymagic about noticing the qualities you like in him, and looking for them in other guys.
Just give yourself some time though. Getting over someone takes time, even when you never dated them. Go out and do things you like to do, hang out with friends, and try new things and you'll eventually meet someone else. You can't really force feelings so just keep your eye out and eventually someone with catch your eye. Just give yourself some time.
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My friend, who will be called friend1, and my other friend, who will be called friend number2, hate each other and refuse to communicate. Friend1 is hanging out with a girl friend2 dislikes. So friend2 won't hang out with friend1 and friend1 is getting so angry and taking every move she makes and taking as an insult. They want me to take sides, but I just want them to make up, and they won't talk to each other, do what can I do? (link)
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Straight up tell them that you are not going to pick sides because this is between them and that this has nothing to do with you so tell them to leave you out of it.
Just tell them to fix whatever is going on and to leave them out of it. If they choose not to, then just let it be. You can't make them talk to each other but it isn't right for them to try to get you to pick sides.
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Im a 17 year old boy and my girlfriend is 14
We have been on and off for like 4 years at first it was like whatever's but as the years passed we've gotten more serious
We were dating for about 10 months and in march 2013 I broke up with her because I kind of got bored with her.. I went out with a girl 2 days later. I never suspected that my ex hated the new girl untill a while. We were together for 6 months and I didn't really know why I was even with her so I dumped her because we never saw each other and she just didn't understand me like my ex.
I started talking to my ex again and we got back together but shortly after I left her for the other girl she hated because I wanted to see it I could work it out..
That's fucked up I know.
But it was pointless I never saw her , cheated on her and she just didn't understand me she made me feel so depressed so I dumped her. A month later I messaged my ex and she didn't really want anything to do with me and i started having suicidal thoughts I realized that I fucked up and I felt like shit
Eventually we hung out and we couldn't make it work at first but then later he decide to give me a chance
I was still talking to the other ex and she did t want me to but I still was.. Fcked up I know! I talked to her plenty and hid it from my gf.
Everyhing came out eventually.. All the lies.. Everything .
My girlfriend says she can't trust me and I don't wanna lose her :( she said she can't keep doing this
I don't know what to do she doesn't trust me and I fucke up I know but I didn't think about it all untill after I haven't done anything but idk how to make her trust me (link)
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You already knew you screwed up. But do you really blame her for not trusting you?
The problem is, you don't know how to have a real relationship or really know how to treat a girl to be able to have a good, healthy relationship.
She's only 14 and you've already hurt her in some of the worst ways. You need to let her go and let her move on to a guy who won't pull this crap with her.
Like the other adviser said, people don't just dump somebody because their bored. They talk it out and work through it.
You can't just keep breaking up with people, getting back together, cheating, and lying. It's just not what you do.
So take a break. Take a break from girls. You need to get your head together and figure out how you feel, what you want and how you need to be.
Let her go and figure everything out. If you are actually serious about being with her, don't expect her to give you another chance because if I was her, I'd be so tired of it. So for now, don't talk to her, figure everything out, then maybe talk to her as a friend then go from there.
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Im a senior in high school turning 18 in a week. There is new teacher at our school and she is gorgeous.I have a big crush on her.I don't have her class or anything but i see her in the halls sometimes and I always give her the biggest smile and give her a look.Im just wondering what do you guys think I should do.I don't want her to get fired or anything just over a crush but I do believe im in a little bit of a better situation than most people having crushes on there teacher since I don't have her class and I actually really do have feelings for her (link)
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It's normal to have crushes on teachers. It becomes a problem when the students want to act on those feelings.
You're not in a better situation because if you did try to make some sort of move, she could still get fired, even if you don't have her class and even if you're 18. Not just because of the law, but because of school policies/rules,ect.
I mean maybe in college it'd be a different situation if you didn't have her class, but in high school it's still the same. She can get in lots of trouble.
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what if your best friend likes you but you see him only as a friend? (link)
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You just tell him that you only see him as a friend. You don't need to make it weird or stop talking to him. Just let him know you care about him but that you only see him as a friend.
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It was New years day when I met him on the internet. I was on this site called Omegel .I wanted to make a few guy friends ,anyways I started talking to this one guy .He was cool.He asked for my age and I told him I was 14. He told me he was 18 .I really like talking to him and I really wanted to be friends.So I told him that I wasn't looking for a relationship n that I don't send nudes.So we exchange numbers.He had a girl friend n they were kind of fighting,so I faced him advice .but at the end he ended up breaking up with her.Anyways we would stay up every night talking.I told him my real age,and he was cool with.He told me his darkest secrets so did I,then one day he told me he loved me.I wasn't sure what he meant ,so I said I loved him ,and we ended up staying up another night texting ,but now the texts messages we send to each other are getting shorter and shorter because were always busy .He lives in Michigan and I live in California .(I'm a girl) I don't know what to do we haven't talked to each other in a few days .should I end our friendship or fight for it?(sorry for it being long) (link)
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Let's start with the fact that he's 18. So he's an adult. There's something wrong when an adult is wanting more than a friendship with a girl who is 13. He seriously might not be a bad guy, but this honestly just sounds weird. He needs someone around his age and you need someone around your age.
Obviously, he doesn't love you in a romantic way. He could have said that to get more out of you. To get you to send nude pics, who knows.
Not only that, when people love each other, they don't stop talking for a few days. So he had other things on his mind when he said that.
Also, when someone says something you don't understand. You should probably ask for clarification, just in general because I found it weird that you said I love you back when you weren't even sure what he meant.
You should end whatever is going on here because whatever it is, it's not safe.
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I am in grade 9 and I'm one of those quiet kids with a couple friends. So, one day two of my really close friends just couldn't stop bickering with one another and just couldn't control it. I tried to stay out of if. Now they are constantly getting in little arguments and I'm stuck In the middle. I don't know what to do because I can't pick sides, but everyone else in the class hates me or I can't talk to them because I'm too shy to even nod when they talk to me. Both my friends vent to me and I agree a little with what they say about the other. I can't pick sides, but I also don't want to be alone still stuck in the middle. What do I do? (link)
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I'd suggest bringing them both together, just the three of you. Sit them down and explain that you care about both of them. You're not going to take sides and whatever is going on, it's between them and it's none of your business. You love both of them and don't want to lose either of them.
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My best guy friend is dating the girl that hates me. Me and him were hanging out at the park one day and he kissed me. It just happened. Somehow her little friend found out and started a rumour saying that I tried to make out with him and said I'd give him a BJ. NONE of that happened. It was a split second kiss. Now everyone at school hates me and no one will talk to me. Not even my friends. Everyone calls me a slut or an ugly whore. When I opened my locker the other day there was a note that said 'go die slut' I even told the principal and my mom called the school, but they can't do anything about it because they don't know who did it. I don't know what I can do to make people stop hating me... I didn't do anything wrong. (link)
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Kids are mean. There's no doubt about it.
The thing is, even when you try to tell the truth, they don't want to believe it. They want to believe that you did more than what happened.
I think if you keep getting bullied by people, you need to keep telling the principal and your parents. If it's notes, just throw them out and don't let it get to you because they're too scared. If someone calls you a slut or calls you any name, you tell an adult. It is bullying to call people names so they deserve to get in trouble for this.
Stand up for yourself. If someone says something to you, just tell them to back off and not be so gullible to believe everything they hear.
If anything you might want to talk to your best guy friend. Her friend most likely found out from him. If not, he should defend you and say that it didn't happen like that. If he doesn't, he was never a real friend.
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Hi, I am sixteen female, obviously. But over a month ago I had sex with this guy. He didn't get off, and wore a condom, but, I do know that an erect penis leaks semen. My condom was probably ruined because of the place I had it in my purse. Anyways I had been off mt period for about three days when I had sex. I have nor had an actual period since then. Two weeks or a little over after I had sex i had this weird brown spotting for around four or five days and it went away completely. My lower stomach is beginning to feel a little "hard" or "different as well. My period is now late, and I've also been getting very bloated and constipated easily. I get headaches and hungry easier and I'm urinating more frequently. I took a test like three weeks ago and there was a faint line at first but it went away? Could I be pregnant? (link)
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Could you be pregnant?
Yes, it's possible but there's also a good chance that you're not pregnant.
I'd suggest taking another test. If it comes out negative, you're fine and you're period is probably all weird because of stress.
If you're confused about the test, like it was faint or something then go see a doctor and they'll check you and see if you are pregnant or not.
I'd suggest you get on birth control too. Even if you're not planning on having sex again, something might come up and you don't want to have a situation like this again.
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There's this guy in my class that's just really creeping me out. He's starting to text me everyday now (He tries to find excuses to text me) and it's just annoying and creepy. I text back because I don't want to be rude... Yesterday, I made it clear that I'm taken. I don't like this guy at all I like someone else. He also told me he liked this other girl, which is a good thing I guess, but he's just overall really creepy. I blocked his number now for good, but how do I avoid talking to him at school? Just ignore him? Please help as soon as possible. Thanks x (link)
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I know a guy like that. He's pretty normal in person though, but he'll text me all the time even when I give him short answers or even if I don't reply. He'll even talk to me about another girl.
I think if he does try to talk to you at school, be nice but not too friendly. I mean if he comes up to talk to you, you don't have to be like, "You're creepy, go away." You can say hi and stuff then continue doing whatever you were doing. Do make him think you guys are now best buddies and are gonna hang out all the time. He'll probably get the hint when he sees you're not answering his texts and barely talking to him at school.
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