|
I need to get over this crush.
I have a crush on this boy, but recently I found out he likes someone else. At first,I told myself I'll find someone else, and try to forget about him. But I can't seem to find another boy to replace him, and no matter how much I try to prevent it,I still have some feelings. How can I get over my first love?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
I agree with Dragonflymagic about noticing the qualities you like in him, and looking for them in other guys.
Just give yourself some time though. Getting over someone takes time, even when you never dated them. Go out and do things you like to do, hang out with friends, and try new things and you'll eventually meet someone else. You can't really force feelings so just keep your eye out and eventually someone with catch your eye. Just give yourself some time.
]
You can't do anything to get over him. It doesn't work that way. Time heals all. Time is the answer.
It sucks, but that's the way it is.
When you think about him, just go do something you love doing. Don't force yourself to forget about him though. You can't erase the things in your head.
]
You say he "likes" someone else, but secretly liking someone is very different from him telling the girl he likes her and both of them dating each other. So if he isn't dating or exclusively hanging out with this girl, there is no reason why you can't make a move.
Sometimes, it just takes time to get over feelings you have, interest and attraction to a certain person and theres nothing special you can do. Or you can keep your mind distracted by other activities.
If you are unable to find another guy who catches your interest, there must be some qualities about him that you prefer over others, whatever they may be. A good thing to do is to become conscious of what they are. Ask yourself what exactly is it about him that draws your interest, besides that thing you feel when you think of him, look at him or are near him. Examples might be very external, how tall he is, body build, how he dresses, color and/or style of his hair. While it may seem like one is being superficial, it's not really. No one cares or finds it odd if you prefer chocolate chip mint icecream to vanilla. So it is with the opposite sex. I happen to prefer brunettes and long hair over anything else. Or perhaps you like his confidence, how outgoing he is, or how quiet he is, you like his laugh, sense of humor, you like how his mind thinks, etc. Take note of those likes. Even write them down. I did that once i was divorced and looking for someone again. Keep adding to the list as you experience things with guys throughout your teen and college years and by time you are ready to look for your mate for life, you will know what you are looking for and be able to recognize some of it when meeting a person and discover if the rest is there once you spend time with him.
For now, the best thing for you to learn is how to approach someone you are crushing on. Here's a video that might help.
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
]
More Questions: |