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why is my friend ignoring me? We were friends forever.
My best friend who I've known for three years has all of a sudden stopped talking to me, and hanging out with the meanest girls in school, and pretends like she doesn't even know me, and totally pushing me out of a club I MADE and she is talking all the credit and pretending it was all her. She talked to me once this month, that's it.
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Some girls care more about popularity than their friends. So since she's hanging out with the meanest girls in school, she most likely wants to be accepted by them and doesn't really care to keep her old friends.
You can try having a talk with her and let her know you miss her and you would like to know why she's been ignoring you. If she doesn't make any effort then just let her go because she wasn't a real friend.
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are we talking about girls at the age of the on set of puberty? Because those hormones will mess with a girls usual happy go lucky personality emotionally. The hormones are one possible cause of changing from happy to angry for no reason at all, or falling apart and becoming sad and weepy for no reason. that could be one reason.
Or perhaps she felt like wanting to be part of a group of more popular girls and to do so has to show a dislike for you and the kind of kids she used to be part of.
Or something could have gone terribly wrong in her home life, something that is troubling her greatly emotionally, and to punish the parents, she has decided to rebel by hanging out with mean kids.
It could be other possible causes. If you think she will talk to you, you can try to bring it up and say you just want to know if its something you did. That way you can apologize if the reason she gives is legitimate. Otherwise, my guess is that it isn't you thats causing this. I know it hurts to be abandoned and to have others take credit for something you've done. In your heart, you'll just have to forgive them, knowing that likely they are struggling in their lives in some way whether hormones, terrible home life, etc...and they are just choosing a way to process through it that is not going to help them, they will only become more miserable, messed up or in serious trouble someday. Everyone has choices to make in life, no one can "Make" someone choose the right way...its called 'free will', something God gave us, thats why he doesnt interfere but will be there for you if you reach out to him first. So your friend has the freedom to make this choice that is hurting you. No one can say exactly why and she may never tell you. try to find peace by focusing on parts of your life where you do have some joy. If you can go on without being embittered by your experience and remain cheerful and caring, you will in time draw to you new friends who will be attracted by your wonderful personality.
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