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how do i get over the nerves?
hi im am 14 and i really like this guy, and i guess we are dating in a way. Neither of us have had our first kiss, and we've talked about it and we both seem to want the other one to make the first move, and he w told one of my friends how badly he wants to kiss me,and i think thats adorable but we bothe seem to have too many nerves to do it. We joke around and flirt and stuff like that, and we hold hands and hug all the time. I really like him and he really likes me.. so why is it so hard? he gives me nerves like that big time, and ive gotten so close to actually kissind him so many times. Any tips on getting over the nerves to just do it?
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Kissing just comes natural. When you start over thinking it, then it becomes a problem and that's why you get really nervous each time you guys get close to kissing.
So don't think about it too much, let it happen when it's supposed to happen. When you're in that moment, and you feel ready, then just do it.
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Sounds like you are both comfortable with each other otherwise and ready. The real problem is that with every second that you think about actually kissing, the harder it gets, and then the nerves hit. Once that happens it's virtually impossible to regain the moment and actually kiss.
So the next time you are close enough to kiss like when hugging, the moment that thought "We are close enough to kiss" crosses your mind, don't let another second go by, just give him a quick soft peck on the lips. It doesnt have to be anything more than the kind of kiss you might drop on mom's cheek, but it's enough to break the ice. And when you pull away, only pull away a few inches so that you are still within kissing distance for him to intitiate the next one which will be easier having broken the ice with the first one, and you two can work on making this second one more enjoyable.
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