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Everyone hates me.
My best guy friend is dating the girl that hates me. Me and him were hanging out at the park one day and he kissed me. It just happened. Somehow her little friend found out and started a rumour saying that I tried to make out with him and said I'd give him a BJ. NONE of that happened. It was a split second kiss. Now everyone at school hates me and no one will talk to me. Not even my friends. Everyone calls me a slut or an ugly whore. When I opened my locker the other day there was a note that said 'go die slut' I even told the principal and my mom called the school, but they can't do anything about it because they don't know who did it. I don't know what I can do to make people stop hating me... I didn't do anything wrong.
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Kids are mean. There's no doubt about it.
The thing is, even when you try to tell the truth, they don't want to believe it. They want to believe that you did more than what happened.
I think if you keep getting bullied by people, you need to keep telling the principal and your parents. If it's notes, just throw them out and don't let it get to you because they're too scared. If someone calls you a slut or calls you any name, you tell an adult. It is bullying to call people names so they deserve to get in trouble for this.
Stand up for yourself. If someone says something to you, just tell them to back off and not be so gullible to believe everything they hear.
If anything you might want to talk to your best guy friend. Her friend most likely found out from him. If not, he should defend you and say that it didn't happen like that. If he doesn't, he was never a real friend.
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I'm a few years removed from my school days but I distinctly remember how kids can be. And a lot of times, that is anything but nice.
First off, while it is surely a hard thing to do, try not to place so much value on what others think of you. You know the truth of the situation and allow yourself to take comfort in that.
If the people who once called themselves your friends are treating you badly, then they probably weren't any type of real friend in the first place. The people who stick with you, even when it might not be the cool or popular thing to do, are your true friends.
While knowing all of this may help somewhat, it is still never easy to feel like you are being judged or treated unfairly. With that in mind, I would seek out the comfort of your family first look into activities in which you can make friendships away from school. Then I would approach the friend that was involved in the kiss and try to have a serious discussion with him.
As one of the basic concepts of cognitive therapy states: you cannot control the actions or words of others but you have all the power in the world to control how you react to them.
Good luck.
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Stop caring so much,you're just a teen who was part of a missunderstanding.Try to talk to your best guy friend and I'm sure he will tell the truth(if he is really your best friend).If nothing goes well make people listen to you,collect all your classmates together and try to tell them the truth.Talk calm,not loudly and make them understand that you're still the girl who they liked and wanted as a friend.Another thing to do(last option)is to pull the hair of the girl who started the rumour and to oblige her to say the truth.I don't really know if it will go right but I think you have to try to find out.Hope I could help!!
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