There's no difference between giving head or blowjob. It's the same thing- just a slang for oral sex. And yes, you can contract HIV through a blowjob, though the likelihood is lower than regular intercourse...the chance is still there. You can also contract other STDs- if the guy has herpes, you can still get herpes in your mouth (oral and genital herpes have 2 different viruses). I don't know if you can contract other types of STDs. But anyway, if you're going to do this, be safe- use a condom.

This may not be what you want to hear, but yes, not letting your parents know about this is not the right thing to do. I think you know this already, since you have enough doubts about it to ask. Your parents love you, and are only trying to protect you. I don't know your story, and why they haven't been allowing you to see him. But they are your parents and deserve to know what you're doing with your life. I know how you feel when you're around your boyfriend, but you should realize that you've only been on five dates with him. Maybe now you feel so wonderful, but later on down the line, responsibility is going to rear its head. Marriage isn't only about love. I have a feeling you're only doing this since your parents are prohibiting you from seeing your boyfriend. If they weren't, would you still consider marrying him right now, at the age of 19? You're still young. I urge you to reconsider, and to think about what all this could mean to you later on down the line, when you're looking back.

You'd be surprised what stress can do to your mind and body. Being really stressed out can cause you to skip your period, and other factors like nutrition can play a role too. If it's more than a couple months though, you should see a gyno about it. More likely though, is that being stressed out causes an irregular cycle.

If you have any doubts at all, go get a pregnancy test. You can go to a clinic like Planned Parenthood, and get a free test (usually they test blood or urine). I know how stressful it can be to even think you might be pregnant- that's why you need to go immediately and get a test.

Of course it's safer to use a condom (preferably flavored) while giving a blowjob..you don't know if the guy has an STD> Better safe than sorry. You should establish trust first, and make sure the guy doesn't have any STDs..but seriously, you never know who he's beeen with, and often times the guy himself isn't aware if he has a STD or not. I'd say first, make sure he's tested, then make sure you guys establish strong trust (e.g., you know he's not sleeping around), etc..

You may or may not have contracted herpes. There's no way for anyone on this site to tell you. You have to go to a clinic and get tested immediately (many do testing for free)..maybe planned parenthood.., while the dots are still there. They will take a swab from the sores and test for herpes..make sure you go immediately before the dots disappear.
From what I understand, herpes sores are usually painful, but not necessarily itchy. But to be safe, get it checked out. It could be something else..or nothing at all. Only a physician can tell--it seems that you're really worried about this, so just in case, you should get tested for other STDs as well.

What jerks! They had no right to do that, of course, and can be suspended or expelled for their behavior. Grabbing your breasts would qualify as sexual harrassment- as serious misdemeaner. You should tell the teacher and principal about this and get these little kids to face the consequences of their immaturity.
Now for you- I understand how you feel, but it was their immaturity that led them to act that way. Remind yourself that you are above them, and that you now have the right to express your feelings- to the teacher, principal, etc.. That'll make you feel better. Take control of the situation, don't let it control you. I know it makes you feel violated and insecure, but you can come out on top once you begin to do something about it. Don't internalize it and bottle it up. Let administrators know right away, so they can deal with these idiots. You deserve much better!

Your friend is right, this is rape. First off, he got aggravated, took off your clothes and had sex with you WITHOUT your consent. You don't have to say "no," for it to be considered rape. The fact that he did something by force and without your initial approval, makes this rape. You should be vocal about your concerns and let it be known when you don't want something to happen. But still, your situation gives him no right to treat you the way he did.
Whether or not you said anything does not change the fact that he had non-consensual sex with you. He raped you. It's not always easy to tell what does or does not classify as rape, but you'd be surprised by what does. Sometimes girls deny that what happened was rape, but it still is just that. Rape means forced sex, without consent. That's that. He got aggravated, slammed the door, did not get your approval to have sex, tore off your clothes, and had sex with you. You felt dirty- and actually thought it MIGHT be rape. Well, I'm so sorry to tell you this, but it was.
This is something you need to tell a councelor about. You can even press charges- you know the guy's name. Keep the clothes you were wearing as evidence, if need be. Another important thing is (hopefully not too much time has passed)-do not douche, try not to shower until you can get phsyical evidence of the act (semen, etc.). Think this over, talk about it with a councelor- they can give you more advice. You may be in denial, which is perfectly normal. But do realize there are things you can do about this.

Listen, it's not your fault that your friend feels this way. He's being honest with you, and letting you know how your negativity affects him. But in no way was your behavior intentional. THAT is what you need to make clear to him- that you didn't mean to hurt him, and that it wasn't your intention to make him "feel like shit," as he says. He clearly means a lot to you-- and if he says that you are always being negative, then that's something you should work on. You say tou don't have the will to try, but in this case, you really should. Make an effort to try being more positive around him.. it'll even make you feel better. I think you should talk to him in person, and explain how much you care about him, that you are not a horrible person, and that you didn't mean to hurt him. Let him know that you understand, and still want to be on good terms.. and that you will try. And mean what you say. Really put an effort into being more positive around him. Seriously.. but do let him know how you feel. And also, make sure to ask him what he means, and why he feels the way he does. I think that talking things over with him is half the story. The other half lies with you: try making an effort, though it may be hard. I know where you're coming from, i tend to be negative as well. Sometimes I try to catch myself.. Try talking about things that make you happy, or that you are thankful for. You can't change who you are, but you can try changing your perspective on things. Hope I helped.

My parents are from Iran.. I'm also curious to know where your mother in law is from?

Like the others said, take him to the vet if you haven't already. It's not a good sign that he's sitting on the bottom of the cage, and that his feathers are fluffed- that's a sign of some sort of sickness (which one is impossible to tell, only the vet will know upon examining him). He could be sick and/or getting old.
Also, you should see what you've been feeding your bird. Sometimes giving your parakeet the wrong foods can make him ill.
Here's some advice on what to feed parakeets to keep them healthy: http://qeok.com/birds/1976-qeok.html

Also, here's a website that has information, including info. on common parakeet illnesses:
http://animal-world.com/encyclo/birds/parakeets/ParakeetProfile.htm#Problems

Again, if you haven't already, take your parakeet to a vet who also deals with birds.
Hope your bird gets better!

I'm middle eastern as well, and I know one gift that my mom gives/receives all the time: crystal bowls or crystal vases. I don't know; it's something I notice she gets a lot of. Middle Eastern women generally like to decorate their homes with nice things like that. One reason is that we ALWAYS have things out for the guests- so a crystal bowl to put candies or nuts in will always be useful. I notice that my aunts also get things like that for friends/family.

What I can understand based on your comment is that you are being sensitive to other human beings, and can realize how much we have to be thankful for. I applaud you for realizing this, and being introspective and mature enough to think deeply about how and why this film makes you feel the way you do. In our society, we do tend to worry about small, trivial things. That in turn detracts us from thinking about what really matters: humanity.
Other kids may not be paying attention simply because it's a movie (and not a lecture), so they think they have a chance to do other things. It's their loss. But anyway, you are gaining a lot from watching this movie- the ability to put your life into perspective and to realize how much you can be thankful for.

You've gotten quite a few answers already, but anyway..
The best advice I can give you is to first, give yourself a little time to get over how pissed you are and to calm down a bit. Then, go and let the teacher know that it was really embarrasing that he/she told the entire class about your mistake..chances are that your teacher didn't mean to embarrass you, and that s/he'll apologize to you. If anyone mentions it in class to you, which may happen, just laugh it off and say that we all make mistakes. The main thing is not to show how annoyed or embarrassed you may be. Just relax, think of it as something funny (it happens to us all!). Kids aren't going to laugh at you for it..your classmates understand. It might actually give you something to laugh about down the line.

Age isn't the issue; whether or not you're ready is. You need to be honest with yourself- ask yourself whether or not you're ready for sex. If you're having any doubts, then you may not be. It seems to me that the best thing to do is get to know each other better. Once you establish a trusting relationship and really care about each other, then what you have won't revolve around having sex. I think that you should wait to know him better. You'll know when and if you're ready to have sex with him.

Yeah, that's completely normal. When you get your period, sometimes you breasts/nipples feel a little sore and tingly, as you say. This happens due to hormones. This could also be due to the cold weather, which coupled with the fact that you're on your period, could make your breasts feel that way.

I think that every girl out there knows what you mean about going out with rude guys- the ones who know the "right" things to say, but not the right ways to act (I cringe at the thought of it, lol). Believe me, I'm every bit as sick of it as you.
How you know if a guy is nice-
they're more respectful on a regular basis, they accept your decisions to do/not do something., they aren't judgmental and respect your opinions.
No guy is a utopian, 100% perfect, Mr.Right.
Everybody has their faults and quirks. BUT there are certain things that you should NEVER compromise: your dignity and your intelligence. If you feel like you're being degraded or disrespected in any way, then you know he's not a nice guy.
Meeting a nice guy is a matter of trial and error. You have to meet different guys in order to single down the kind(s) that are right for you. Everyone has different standards; but you expect someone who respects you and knows how to treat you well..someone who can see you for who you are. And trust me, meeting the right guy isn't easy. Sometimes it just happens when you least expect it.

I think that most girls know how you feel. It is unfair for him to make a promise to hang out with you, only to cancel on you at the last minute. We all go through this at one point or another, and it sucks. Guys do want their space, and it's fine for him to want to hang out with his friends too.. but he should make time for both his friends AND you. If he wants to hang out with you, he should plan accordingly, and not ditch you. When he wants to hang out with his friends, he should be honest and tell you that you two can go out another day. It is clear that this is bothering you, so let him know how you feel-- that you don't like how he flaked on you, and that he should be honest with you.. also, let him know that it's not your problem he feels tied down. You are your own person, and don't depend on him either. All you are asking for is some honesty.
He needs to know how to balance you and his friends.
A good way to get over this is to make plans to do something with your own friends. It'll take your mind off of things and make you realize how happy you can be with or without him.

You have a right to feel comfortable and secure in your school. It's unacceptable for the other kids to be threatening you and calling you names. You need to make this known to the administrators and your parents. You should explain your situation to your parents first, and make an appointment for all you you to speak to the principal. Make it clear to them that you feel uncomfortable and unsafe at your school, and that you want to transfer. Your parents have a right to request that you be transferred to your old school- for safety reasons. I'm sure that if you explain everything to them, they'll understand. If it makes you feel better, you can try talking to a school councelor too. Hope it helps

I know how you feel; there is often a lot of pressure to take things further than you had initially intended. But keep in mind that it's YOUR decision. You are not comfortable having sex yet, and that's perfectly fine..you're still young and have plenty of time. As you say, you don't agree with premarital sex anyway. But really, the point is that you are not ready as of yet. Point blank. If he doesn't respect your decision, the he doesn't respect you...and that is selfish. But just wait and see how things go. Make it clear that you don't want to have sex. That's that, no exceptions. He should respect you, and if he doesn't, he is NOT worth it.

I am here to give honest advice, when I feel I have something to contribute. I try to be as empathetic and understanding as I can, as I know that the way something is said is as important as the message itself.

I usually advise on love/relationships, friendship and family issues, nutrition, and health (mental and physical). If I feel I can help out, there's not a whole lot I am unwilling to answer. Ask away!

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