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I've been touched in the wrong places...
15/f
I'm a freshman in high school. And there are sophomores and juniors in my spanish class. So, everyday they bother and harass me. Today, it got to the point where they were trying to grab my boobs. They were kidding...but one of them grabbed my chest, hard and another guy HIT my chest, by accident. They didn't apologize...just shrugged it off...kind of like "Oh look at the freshman. Let's take more advantage of her". They laughed and went to their next class. I feel so violated and ....insecure I guess.
Help? :(
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This is not something to sit back to you are being sexually harassed this is something you definetely shouldn't tolerate give him a piece of your mind when i say that i don't mean physically tell them this won't be tolerated inform someone about this and get it sorted NOW!! this should not be happening, Good Luck!! Don't waste anytime!
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Say something to them, or especially to your teacher. You shouldn't have to feel violated in SCHOOL. If you're uncomfortable with anything that someone is doing, don't let them -and if they do it anyway tell an adult. Let your teacher know in private so if they keep on bothering you, he/she can say something to them, so you're not technically telling on them (if you're worried about your rep) But definately day something, nobody deserves to go to school afraid of being touched by immature guys. That's sexual harassment, and I know somebody that got suspended from school in the beginning of the year for the whole year, just for basically doing the same thing as these boys.
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you my darling. you need to tell an adult. NO ONE should be touching you even if it is on the arm. seriously wtf. they shouldn't be touching you esp. in school. tell someone because it could go further and you could end up getting really hurt. and it might start to get more serious and that shouldn't happen . best wishes xox
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keep in mind that that's kind of what high school guys do... yeah it sucks but the only thing you can really do about it, while still mantaining your rep is to tell them off! if some guy hits your boob hit him in the balls... a guys balls are like a girls boobs... and just tell them to back off if you really want them to back off
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What jerks! They had no right to do that, of course, and can be suspended or expelled for their behavior. Grabbing your breasts would qualify as sexual harrassment- as serious misdemeaner. You should tell the teacher and principal about this and get these little kids to face the consequences of their immaturity.
Now for you- I understand how you feel, but it was their immaturity that led them to act that way. Remind yourself that you are above them, and that you now have the right to express your feelings- to the teacher, principal, etc.. That'll make you feel better. Take control of the situation, don't let it control you. I know it makes you feel violated and insecure, but you can come out on top once you begin to do something about it. Don't internalize it and bottle it up. Let administrators know right away, so they can deal with these idiots. You deserve much better!
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You should feel violated as that is what these goons did to you. They need to learn a lesson now that they cannot do this to girls or unsuspecting females as they can get charged with assault or sexual assualt at their age.
What you need to do is see the principal in confidence and tell them exactly what happened and how these guys laughed it off and walked away. Have them deal with it and document what you said. They'll then find these jerks and have a little chat with them.
You can also have the principal call the police in and file charges as believe it or nt this is a very serious matter. What they did to you wont be taken lightly by school officials or the cops who can charge them with assault. What they did was no joke and not something you kid about.
If they ever tried it again you could file harassment charges with the police to get them to stop. You should also learn to defend yourself if you haven't already and kick them in the groin or elbow them hard in the gut to get them to keep their hands to themselves.
Find out if other girls have been touched in the same way and perhaps get them to back up what happened to you and go to school officials together. Don't keep this a secret as what they did deserves to be punished.
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Listen, you have nothing to feel bad about, don't think you're over-reacting at all, because you're not. This is sexual harrassment, and I have went through something very similar to this before. I urge you to tell your mother, and get her or both of your parents to contact the principal of your school and take action, immediately.
These guys may think this is funny, but it isn't. You have every right to feel violated, because you were violated. This isn't because of insecurity, this is because those boys did something they definitely shouldn't have done, a big violation to you. Especially, because this is sexual harrassment.
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