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Ugh i need help and fast !!!!!
Hey im 13/f and i am having probs. with my boyfriend like im not mad at him and he's not mad at me but the thing is we keep on planning dates to go to the movies or go and get ice cream or somthing like that but then the day we are gunna do it he cancels and says he has to do somthing but then i find out that he is with a friend and he ditched me to hang with his friends and when i tried to comfront him about it he said i was tying him down so can you help me ????
LoVe,
Wants to cry
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Any boyfriend, no matter how young or old should not ditch you. If anything, they should at least tell you the truth, etc.
I recommend breaking up with him, because it seems that you're looking for a bit of a serious relationship and he isn't. So I honestly, think you would be better off without him. Because soon enough, with the way he's acting, he's going to be slowing you down and hurting your feelings even more than they are right now.
You're only thirteen now, so you have plenty of time for a good boyfriend to come along, who will not ditch you and will want to spend lots of time with you, and treat you as you deserve.
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It doesnt sound like he's ready for a relationship. Your only 13, and i'm guessing he's not much older, it just sounds like he thinks he's too young to have a girlfriend and be "tied down".
It doesnt mean he doesn't like you, but your both so young and he wants to do what normal kids do, have fun and be with his friends, not be tied down in a relationship.
I think it would be best for you to just talk to him, find out how he's feeling and if you guys would be best off just being friends for now.
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I think that most girls know how you feel. It is unfair for him to make a promise to hang out with you, only to cancel on you at the last minute. We all go through this at one point or another, and it sucks. Guys do want their space, and it's fine for him to want to hang out with his friends too.. but he should make time for both his friends AND you. If he wants to hang out with you, he should plan accordingly, and not ditch you. When he wants to hang out with his friends, he should be honest and tell you that you two can go out another day. It is clear that this is bothering you, so let him know how you feel-- that you don't like how he flaked on you, and that he should be honest with you.. also, let him know that it's not your problem he feels tied down. You are your own person, and don't depend on him either. All you are asking for is some honesty.
He needs to know how to balance you and his friends.
A good way to get over this is to make plans to do something with your own friends. It'll take your mind off of things and make you realize how happy you can be with or without him.
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Your boyfriend is being rude and unfair. He obviously doesn't care how that must make you feel. His friends are important, but that doesn't give him a right to just blow you off like that. When he said you were tying him down, he probably never realized that you wouldn't do that if he paid more attention to you. confront him again, and tell him if he's going to continue to let you down like that, then you won't have any reason to be with him anymore. good luck
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