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Hey, what's up? My name is Annie.

I work in a neurobiology lab and I love my job. I will do my best to help you! Also don't be afraid to ask me a question or a clarification to any advice I give you. I get email updates so they WILL get answered.

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What are some food I should eat ? That are like healthy
and What are some I should stay away from?
please if you could name the foods , not say fruit or vegis , like name.
?:]

Also I want to loose 10 lbs before the end of May, any good work outs?

this is in addition to the previous advice

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=536463

me and one of my boyfriends friends where talking and i asked him what he was up to, he said uhmm here getting light..what does he mean by this? im positive he wasnt talking about a lightbulb or anything like that lol

try urbandictionary.com
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=getting+light try to see if you can find it here.
if not than just ask him. just be like "what the heck does 'getting light' mean?"

Well im 15 years old,and im a freshman.
I've got friends,its not like im friendless but it just seems like my friends don't consider me as important as everyone else.
Like they would consider me ,like a third wheel type thing.
And I used to think that i was just seeing things but im not just seeing things.
For example,everyone will be in a talking circle and someone will say something and everyone will listen and then when I say something,it will get completely ignored.
Also,not many people would actually call me and invite me somewhere,i'd kinda have to ask.
I think it's because im not involved in anything amazing like cheerleading or you know.
I also have never had a boyfriend,but im not that ugly,i think im just not that important.
And everyones smoking and i just don't know what to do anymore.
I'm also an only child so i kinda don't have older siblings to show me around.
Help please?

No worries, everyone feels left out at some point in there life.

Look, it's not a good feeling getting ignored, it hurts because you feel useless. But, let me tell you something. Sticking with those friends will not make you feel better. I would really try to find new friends. Now, before you say, I want to hang out with my old ones, look at how they treat you. Have they been treating you like this for a while or is it new?

Making new friends isn't hard, it's just time consuming. You could hang out with your old friends, just don't rely on them as much. Instead, talk to new people. Have conversations with other people and about things you know. You can definetly find someone that will care about what you have to say. Is it going to take long? Sure. But, won't you be happier when you have new, better friends that will include you in things. Yeah!

Look, for you high school is just starting, you will meet so many new people. Forget about if they are "popular" or not. Because trust me, the best friends are sometimes the least likely people you will consider.

Oh, and another thing. Do NOT get into the peer pressure of the smoking. It is a nastly habit and no friends are worth more than your health.

good luck.

BTW, I'm 16/f, junior in highschool and big sister to 3. So if you have any questions, I'll be happy to answer :)

:/ i have a strange problem that i'm sure millions of other teens are facing right now but are in denial about it.

ok well i realized that i'm literally addicted to facebook. i probably spend 4-5 hours a day on the computer on an average schoolday, refreshing my facebook homepage constantly. it's pretty bad.

i sit on the computer and when there's NOBODY on, nobody updating or anything, i get so bored. some days i stay up really late talking to my friends on facebook.

in any case, my crush and i talk a lot on facebook so naturally, i'm addicted. but i'm also kind of a facebook stalker, hahah. oh goodness, newsfeed is life. but it's just like.. i know other girls facebook stalk and all but i read my crush's wall-to-walls with EVERYONE. it's sort of obsessive.

i know, i know. "get a hobby." but like i just love the internet... there's so much to do and so much to learn. it's so easy to access and it's so much fun.

what should i do? i can't set a "timer" or something on myself. i've tried that stuff; it never works. i say "i'll just go on for TWO minutes" and sit there for thirty. but when i go out and do something else, i don't think about it. i only think about facebook when it's right in front of me. i'm not obsessed with it when there's other stuff to do.

ok so like what should i do... i mean i obviously do homework, go to after-school activities, hang with friends & family, play with my pets... but on an average school day, i go to school, go to an afterschool activity, come home, homework, and non-stop facebooking until late at night when i take a shower and then go to sleep. i check my facebook when i get back from school and in the morning before i leave. like some websites say, "it's the first thing i do in the morning and the last thing i do at night" it's really quite sad -- i end up getting ready faster and faster (inadvertently) just to be able to check my facebook in the morning!

ok so i think you guys get it. -- please don't suggest deactivating. i'd die. i did it once before but i reactivated in less than a week.

i also read to try going on every other day, but that's such a stretch! should i just try to say "okay only 3 hours today" "ok only 2 hours today" everyday? how many hours / minutes do you think the average person should spend on facebook in order to remain mentally stable & physically / emotionally healthy? hahahahah

i took a whole bunch of surveys & quizzes about being addicted to facebook, and i'm hella addicted.

somebody help me?

hey, at least you can admit it. There are alot of people that are now glued to the internet.

I would suggest to simply close the computer. If you close it then, you can't see reponses or updates or anything.

Also, maybe try not going on it as soon as you get home. Go around 9pm, after everything is done.

Go outside instead.

It will be hard, but you can do it if you try.

in theory how compatible would a
sagittarius sun virgo moon be with a cancer sun leo moon?

i know sag is compatible with leo
and virgo with cancer
but how well does this combination work out? i cant find any websites that explain attraction of on person's moon to the other person's sun. thanx =]]

http://www.astrology-online.com/visunsa.htm

http://www.astrology-online.com/love.htm

also, there is no need to rely on them for everything. Sure they are fun to read and stuff, but sometimes it doesn't matter who you are with because of your sun.

I want to start my own column. I know this site helps, but like a lot of people can give advice, like i want it to be like a ask erin column. you know? how can i do this? btw i'm 13/f if that helpss

When you sign up for this site and answer a question you will get an avice column.

look here for any questions regarding this site
http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php

the more questions you answer, the more people will visit it. The better advice you give, the more people will ask you because of your advice. It takes time to be known here. If you make your column appealing, easy to read, and make it seem friendly it will catch people's eyes.

Good luck. :)

I'm sure you all must get these questions the how to loose weight. But I've always been known as the skinny girl and this past school year i gained a good 10lb and its really frustrating me and i was wondering what can i do im currently doing the no carb diet seems to be working but i want to know what kind of exersizing i can do. please help. im obsessed with my weight !

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=536463

also try to not be obsessed. make it a prority, but remember other things. People will still like you even if you gain a little bit of weight.

Me and my hubby have always wanted to go to the beach. But never really had the money. last summer before my mother in law went she asked if we wanted to go. We told her yes but we dont have the money. Well my father in law agreed to pay for our hotel and all. A week after we got back he asked my hubby for all of the money back. Even though he didnt tell us before we went we had to pay him back. We finally got him paid back.

My sis in law can do the same but she dont have to pay back a dime. She can afford the whole trip too.

This is just one example. This has been going on for years and its just plain unfair.

What should I do?

Thanks

wow, that is unfair. They should not "give" and then take it back, without telling you.

I think that the next time, they offer to pay for something you should simply tell them that you ould love to accpt their money, but it's a hassel to pay them back. That you would rather save up for whatever it is than worry about giving it to you.

I don't know what else you can do. If you want, you can discuss this with them, but I don't know how you would approach them.

The best answer that I think is to just not take their money, and ignore their "help".

I really enjoy drinking lots of water and then holding it when I have to go pee. I only do it about once a week. At first I would hold it until night time then go to sleep and I would end up wetting my bed. But now I hold it until I get to the point of it nearly coming out for about 5 minutes (literally). Then I would pee in a cup to see how much that I could actually hold and how long I could hold it before I wet myself (which I have never actually let happen). When I was a little younger, I couldn't hold it for more than an hour and now I'm getting better. Is this wierd to be doing and has anyone else done it before?

Actually, the question is not if it's weird or not. That's not very importnt. What's important is what you are doing to your body when you do that.

"Yes it can be potentially harmful to hold your pee in for a long time. First and foremost because it hurts to hold it in. At first it’s ok, but after a while it really starts to be uncomfortable. It can also unfortunately lead to urinary tract infections. There is much bacteria in your body, some of it is needed to do certain things efficiently, such as absorb food in the intestines. These helpful bacteria do not cause damage if they are in the part of your body that they belong to, but if they get to other places they can create some ill effects. Holding your urine in can lead to a urinary tract infection because of a build up of bacteria. While your stomach can handle lots of bacteria your urinary track and kidneys cannot.

Aside form urinary tract infections you can cause damage to the muscles that work when you’re holding your pee in. This concept is the same as hurting a leg muscle while running. The difference is that in one case you can’t run for a while, the other is you can’t hold your pee in for a while, so don’t hold your pee in. "

http://www.askipedia.com/askipedia-article-008-927.htm

So, i wouldn't think about wether it's weird, but rather if it's hurting you. Please, consider that before you think about it being strange.

Is it possible for two people to be 100% honest with each other?I mean,to be able to tell each other EVERYTHING(and I really mean everything),and to trust each other unconditionally? I would really like any opinions on this. Thanks =]

of course it is possible. But, it is also very tought to become this way. It takes alot to trust someone and be honest with them to the extent. If you feel like you can be honest with them, then you should. If they are able to hold that trust and return it, then that's amasing. If you can, that's great.

i always get these random red things on my vagina.
i know they arent pimples, because it doesnt look like one.
it looks like a semi large blood bubble or something. and its super hard to pop, when i finally get it to pop it get keeps bleeding.
what is it?
i know it cant be any kind of disease because im not sexually active, and its not a cut because i dont shave down there yet
thanks

I don't know what they could be, but it doesn't sound normal. I would suggest calling a doctor and finding out for sure.You don't want to take that chance by hiding it, incase it growsa or gets worse (hope it doesn't). I would also say that you shouldn't pop them, because that could be bad aswell.

good luck

is there a website or anything where i can put my face on a celeb to see if i want that hair style?

thanks--

here use these two websites.

you can upload a pic of yourself and see you in many different hairstyles

http://www.thehairstyler.com/

http://beauty.ivillage.com/0,,9jlxfdd5,00.html

What's the difference between vectors and vexels?

vectors
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/vector

vexels
http://www.reference.com/browse/wiki/Vexel

What are some exercises I can do to thin out my midsection / thighs?

well, sit ups and crinthes are good for yout mid section.

http://www.womens-health-fitness.com/thigh-exercises.html

http://realwomensfitness.com/category/midsection-exercises/

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=536463

I have naturally wavy hair down to my collar bone, and I've always wanted long hair down to my mid back
My hair literally hasn't grown past this length in 4 years. Neither I nor my friends have ever seen me with hair past my collar bone.
its ridiculous! Does anybody have any tips on how my hair can grow fast

yes yes i know it grows an average of 6 inches a month, but there as got to be SOMETHING that will speed it up!!

Have you had it cut lately? You know, if you get your hair trimmed or set regularly (twice a year) it gets rid of the dead tips and stuff and it helps it to grow. The person cutting my hair told me that. I just trim a little from the bottom myself and take care of it. So, try that.

hi! im wearing this gorgeous dress to prom:

http://www.simplydresses.com/gown-by-manufacturer/detail.cfm?key=297318&v=PD&cat=mori-lee

you cant really tell as much in the picture but everything, especially the straps, are really detailed. its even more fancy in real life than online. theres a lot going on at the top and i dont want to cover it up with my hair. its gonna clash and look ugly and overdone. i have a LOT of hair. its long and kinda thick but at the same time i look like crap with my hair in an updo. what should i do with it?

if your hair looks anything like the model in this picture, I would say leave your hair down. I like how the hair looks on her with the dress. Also, the back looks way to bare unless you have some hair there.

But, if you are still not sure, then go to a salon for advice. Clearly, they are more of an expert in this area and they will be able to help.

I'm 15 years old and a freshman in high school. I haven't done anything with a guy, and I'm totally cool with that. Lately a lot of people have randomly been asking me about my experience with that stuff and guys, and are really shocked to find out that I haven't done anything. A lot of girls around me are doing this and that with guys, and it looks distasteful, almost like they are trying to prove something by sticking their tongue down someone's throat. It's not that I think it's disgusting or gross when people do that sort of thing, but personally, I'm not really looking for anyone right now. If I'm not looking for someone to really be involved with, I'm not looking to be kissed. End of story. People almost make me feel bad about myself, though, when I say I'm just not into that right now. I have a lot of friends, and am comfortable with myself, but I can't help but feel stung when someone looks at me like I have three heads. I've said "I don't really want to talk about it" if someone asks me about what i've done and they go "ohhhh wow nothing?!..WHAT?!"

grrr. How can ignore these people and not feel like a weirdo about this.

You are being very smart right now. Good for you! Other people should be more like you because you know how you feel about something and don't feel the need to prove it to anyone else. The other girls don't understand how dumb they are being.

Don't feel like a weirdo, feel smart. What you don't realise is that there are infact alot of people like you. You just don't hear about them because they don't boast what they do. While the people that do boast are those that are insecure about themselves.

How to ignore
http://www.wikihow.com/Ignore-People
http://www.wikihow.com/Ignore-Annoying-Classmates
http://www.wikihow.com/Ignore-Insults

I met someone at work, and they're really nice but also kinda strange.
So I was talking to them and being nice, and they're just coming on too strong, they asked for my phone number and always ask when I'm working and to phone them to hang out and stuff.
But it's just like too pushy, like she wants me to always have break with her,and phone her and always do stuff. And I hate to sound mean but I kinda don't want to, becuase she weirds me out. I feel as she is like suffocating me but I don't know her, and she does it all being really nice.
Is there anyway to absent out of this friendship, or at least get them to lay off, without saying it to them don't want her hurt feelings.

well, maybe she just really needed a friend.

But, what you can do is to tell her that you call people on a very limited basis. Tell her that you see her so often, that there is no need to call all the time. (You could even talk about how you hate when "people" come out too strong and that you need room to breathe.

Tell her, that you can't answer the phone at times because of where you are and tell her that you are too busy to hang out.

if she doesn;t stop, then you can also tell her that you see her alot and you want to also get a chance to see your other friends.

Good Luck

Are there any available job opportunities that would hire a 16-year-old such as restaurants (Olive Garden, etc.), shops, etc...?

Thanks.

There are lots of jobs out there for teens! Almost all fast food joints hire people of 16+. Stores do aswell, like Target, Walmart, Drug stores like Walgreens. All you have to do is apply and apply for the jobs.

Good luck (I'm trying to find one as well)

you know those lose skins by your nails well i pulled a piece of skin off the side of my nail now my finger is really swollen and it hurts!! is this normal what can i do to stop the swolling and the pain??

In addition to the advice the advice said below remeber to keep it wrapped and covered. It will hurt, but its like a papercut or a stubbed toe. You can't really do much about the pain except take asprine. It will heal soon, so no worries.

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