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hey guys..my column has been the same for soooooo long now...so im gunna change it up a bit! any ideas please let me know! anyway..heres the ordinary junk...im kayla, im 14, i like in md close to dc, i go to rhs - home of the rams! yay haha, and i dn i just love helping people!

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if i am going to have sex with a girl that it is her first time how do i go about it with out hurting her? should i just go slow?

jus tell her 2 let u kno wen it strts 2 hurt n jus go slower n eventually ull get it! lol

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Ok the thing is that whenevr my question is answered I give the answerer full five points but people rarely ever rate me!!Is my advicing so bad??
By the way my advice column is butterfly004.
*~~Kariena~~*

no ur advice isnt bad! most ppl who ask just read the responses n pick one or all to use n dont think 2 rate it. trust me it happens 2 everyone, ur fine!

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Hey i just got back from a vacation and i met this really great guy well anyways he was so cute and i never got his email or anything. i dont kno how to get over him any advice? should i try to find him with the info i kno or give up?

u could always keep in touch theres nuthn wrong with tht but id try 2 get over him bc u cant have a more than friendship relationship w. sum1 tht far away. cuz idk i mena think logically, what are te chances of u seeing him enough 2 have tht kinda relationship? but hey if u think it could work who am i 2 stop u! lol

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What does this mean...
"Denial is the first stage?"

Thanks!

it means when u dont want something u be true..you deny everything. like wen osmeone dies, some peoples way of dealing w. it is by telling themselves tht it didnt happen n the person didnt die

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Is it good or bad to be sensitive?

it depends..if u let ppl wlk all over u its bad..but if its tht u car about certain things n ur willing 2 fight for them bc u kno u car eabot it then its good! dpeends on how u deal w. it

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What would you do if you found out when you and your boyfriend broke up that one of your good friends went over to his house and they ended having sex and when you asked both of them about it they said no...then the next time you asked they tell you that they did and how sorry they are and they wish they could take it back... Please help me im really hurt about this because it happend just 2weeks ago and i found when i was back together with him..?..

well u can forgive them..but dont forget1 idk if id ever be able 2 trust either of them like i used 2..n think about wut kinda friend wuld do tht 2 u. they obviously feel bad about it tho..but ehh idk lying and betraying u..thts a toughy..i guess it al ldpeends on how forgiving u r. i kno id forgive, but id NEVER forget

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i like someone very much.but i moved from his school last year. i have his phone # but i dont know if i should call him beacause my bf thinks that he might of moved. what do i do???

just call him! you have nothing 2 loose...if he moved at least ull know n if you dont call ull regret it! theres no point in waiting cuz itll just get harder h harder 2 call

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im 5'6" and 134 pounds is that too overweight?

nah tht sounds about right 2 me!

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what is the best way to lose about 10 pounds fairly quickly? i am 14 years old so i dont have acsess to many things

eat alot of salad n drink alot of water..ull lose about 10 lbs in a week or 2 bc it helps ur body get rid of ur excess waters n fluids. also u can go walking/jogging/running

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well im going to florida for a week and im leaving tommorow and i havent gotten my period when i was supposed to and i dont kno when it will come and i will be swimming a lot because it is florida and i cant wear tampons the whole time can i ? because i didnt think u were sposed to do that .What should i do?

u can wear tampons the whole time if ur on urpd..just make sure u change tham according 2 their size (its on the box) n u CAN wear them if u dont have ur pd..but it might be a bad idea bc theyll stay dry n it culd cause irritation. just if u dont have it wen u leave, go 2 the bathroom alot everyday just 2 check so when u get it ull be able 2 take care of it right away

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my grandma loves me but she loves my other cuzin more and it shows they have like a great relationship and me and my grama dont talk that mutch she always kids around and says o this is my favorite grndaughter and she is not talking about me i just feel so bad because ahe might not be around that much anymore shes pretty old and i want her to love me as much as my other cuzins.What should i do?

u sed yall dont tlk alot..so make more of an effort 2 tlk 2 her!! find sumthn yall have in common n run w. it! mayb show some interest in things she likes even if its completely boring. just try 2 give her a reason 4 u 2 b her favorite other than the fact tht ur family

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Does black really match with anything?

exept blue and brown, yes

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why do i like someone until they like me, and then i stop liking them. then as soon as they stop liking me, i want them back again. am i afraid of commitment or whats up?

i think u like the IDEA of having a commitment more than actually having one. maybe ur just not ready..or u dont rly like these ppl as much as u think u do

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i wanna have sex b4 i'm 15...sum of my friendz tell me 2 wait, what do i do?

no1 can tell u wut 2 do...if u think ur ready for ALL the consequences then do wut u want..but if theres even ONE tht u dun think ur ready for, then u shuld wait, but hey its completely up to u

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my 14th birthdays cuming ^ soon sum1 gimmie sum good ideas for a b-day party... its november 16th. thanks in advance!!

pool party, hawiian party, bowling (lol), basement party, backyard party, costume party, movies, dinner, whatever you think is fun and different!!

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I recently lost my virginity, the girl was my age, 15, but she's already had 6 guys before me, which at least to me sounds like a huge amount. I know she's a really wonderful person, and ever since it happened I've been even more attracted to her, not just wanting to have sex again, but actually wanting to get to know her better and hang out more. I just want to know if its possible that she gets the same feeling about me or does sex become less special the more a persons done it.

idk if it becomes less special...if shes a whore then it prly didnt mean anything 2 her but if shes a rly sweet girl than she prly feels the same!! it all depends on the type of person she is

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my best friend is really kewl and everything but she's stubborn and she wants to have sex but she just turned 14 and she doesn't even have a boy frined but how do i talk to her about the dangers and stuff?
signed,
confused

jus kinda scare her outa it..tell her about STD's n stuff n tell her shes gunna get a bad rep. but in the end if she decides 2 b sexually active theres rly nuthn at all u can do.but jus try 2 make her scrd!

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I've been sexually active for about 6 monthes or so now, and I'm going to the gynocologist sometime this week. Will she be able to tell that I'm not a virgin? I'm only 16. Oh, and if she can find out, are they supposed to tell your parents? PLEASE, PLEASE HELP!

no they cant tell...bc the only way they could is if u were pregnant or had STD's..but if u mean like can they tell bc u poped u cherry then no..bc tht can happen anytime lke durin sports or w.e

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Okay herr it goes.. My best friend is haveing a swimmin party at her house. On the same day i get my peroid. It would be my 2nd period ever so is therr a good chance i won't get it cause i'm not on a regualr cycle.. or ami most likely to get it? i'm a pad wearer.. i'm swichin to tampon in bout a year or so..so i really done wanan try 1 but i have to go kuz she's my best friend.. wut do u all think..
Signed,
Help!

u mgith get it but idk ur early so itll prly be irregular...if u do get it on tht day then go anyway n just wear shorts n a pad..jus cuz its a pool party duznt mean u HAVE 2 get in the water..u can still have fun

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What is Birth control and what are the side affects?

if u mean the pills its a daily pill tht u take n it normally stops u frm gettin pregnant so u dun have 2 use a condom or w.e but its not 100% n the side effects depend on the pill...n a condom..well u kno how tht wrks lol

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