Hey there! im a 15 year old Female for Louisiana im a sophmore and ive been through alot problems and I am and advice wirter for the newspaper at my highschool Anything i say im only trying to help and please dont take it offensivly also i really want to kno if i helped I plan on doing this when i grow up being a counclier or a phycratist although my spelling sucks! umm I really do know what im talking about and you kno this beacuse my pen name is -Ben there done That- and thats why i only answer questions of situations Ive been through or Ive helpd my friends through and thats why all this advice is 1st hand Im not a virgin and Ive been through TONS of situations dealing with sexual things anyhoo i realy hope i help anyone i can and please if you have a problem with anything i say please tell me i dont want to be mean an any way and im only here to help soo good luck with life and keep your head up!
Lots of Love
- Ben There Done That-
Gender: Female
Location: louisiana
Occupation: Student
Age: 15
Member Since: June 3, 2004
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what do you do when your are tottaly flirting with a guy one day and then the next day he pretends you don't even exsit it like really confusing? i'm not sure if i sould forget about him or go after him (link)
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Guys have mood swings he also might have been flirting beacuse he wanted to see what your reaction was if hes older things might get a little weird if your go for it but if not just make shure he knoes u like him but dont push things guys feel like there sophicated when gurls push for stuff just let it come naturally if it was ment to be! good luck!
- Ben there Dont that-
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i'm 14 and this older guy likes me he's 16 and i've known him for like forever but now he wants me to be his girlfriend and it's weird because of parents and friends so i'm not sure if i should go out with him or just still be friends (link)
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If you really like him too then try it out yall would already have the advantage of bein able to hang out and wouldnt have to sneak aroound beacuse yalls parents are close ive been in that situation before and it will work depengin on yall but befoe yall start anything agree that if it doesnt work out that yall will go on being friends! good luck!
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my cat snores....is that normal??!?! lol
(btw she has asthma) (link)
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lol aww i hope you kitty is okay. but i have a presian and a tabby cat and they both snore the persian snores beacuse of the form of his face but colby my tabby cat just snores beacuse hes sleeping hard!
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Ok so My sister is totally alaways ranking on me because I've never had a b/f!I am a female 13 year old ! I get all depressed too. My friends alaways brag about there boyfriends and either I'M GETTING TIRED OF IT OR IM JEALOUSE!!! I dont know what to do! Boys just think of me as a friend and nothing more! My mom says its embrassing to ask them out but I am soooo confused! Tell me your oppinion!!!
*Double_B* (link)
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Dont worry your so young its not really good to get in a realtionship that early you need time to explore and find out who you really are give your self a break and tell your sister to mind her own bizness you'll be in highschool soon everything will change .. but if your relly lookin to get guys to notcie you in a girlfriend way mabey try changing your image thats what i did just be careful! good luck!
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ive been crushing on this guy for a while and so i told my best friend. Her bf and the guy i like are good friends so i had him to talk to the guy. He said that he liked me but wasnt looking for a relationship right now. Its summer break so when school starts back up again should i go for it?? of move on. (link)
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go 4 it by saying he doesnt want a realation ship he just means he deosnt want to be commited but u need to show him why he needs to be with u and no1 else !
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i like this girl who is at my school. But she is more popular than i am. what do i do to get her to notice me iv'e tried everything (link)
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Well an age might help but i'll try from the info you gave me.. Alright let me clue you in on a little secret guys are killing them selves to find out (figertalive speaking) so here it is:
Its not that Girls dont NOTCIE guys its just they dont kno you like them. If you ever get a chance to be alone with her or where you can talk to her you need to tell her who you are try to find a conncection like im in your 3rd hour or i sit with these ppl at lucnh or who u hang out with so she sorta knows who u are then say that you think shes really beautiful and compliment her alot beacuse let me let u kno if u have a great personaility it surpasses popularity try gettin her screename online myte be easery to talk to her that way if your nervous or e-mailing mabey even hint it off to one of her friends mabey she'll put in a good word for u!
good luck and remember just be your self!
-Ben there Dont that-
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Does a guys height affect their penis size ? If so , what do you think a 175+ cm tall guys penis size is ? Btw , i'm just curious , and i'm a girl . (link)
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Sorry to say that height weight shoe size or hand size does not afflict with the size of a mans penis i mean mabey by coincidence with a guy but MOST guys it doesnt the only way to find out is ask ( in which case is not always affective guys might lie) i guess.. ask to c it ( guys wont mind) but if its small dont tell him lol good luck!
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One of my guy friends is really starting to annoy me. He just won't leave me alone! I will just be walking in the hall to my next class and he will follow me, even if he's not in the class. He's always poking me and putting his arm around me, and I don't want people to think we're a couple, which we're not. What should I do? (link)
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Dont beat around the bush some guys need to be told what to do and not to do beacuse they wont get the hint if u try to hint things to them .. 1st try hinting at him like pushin his arm off or just walking a differnt way but do this nicely you dont ruin his ego however if it gets to bee to bad and hes not getting the hint then sit him down and tell him genlty but dont beat around the bush come strait out and tell him how you feel with out beeing too rude .. hope this helps!
signed
-Ben There Done That-
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Ok, for all the people who answered the question about the guy writing his number in my year book, when I call him what should I say? (link)
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anything u want like i was looking in my year book and there was ur numbr an i decided to call so whats been up?
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so far i've nly been fingered a few times... but i'm usaulyl really nervous when it comes to it.. i'm jsut thinking of basically him sticking his finger there and everything i dont want to be nervous but sometimes i can't help it. what can i dO? (link)
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nervousness is normal and also might be a sign that you are not ready to take things to the next level dont let guys rush your shure fingering can feel good but their are other ways like just touching that can be less stressful until your ready .. however if you are ready to have sex after you do fignering wont be as nerve racking what ever you choose good luck .. but if you want to go on bein fingered just take a deep breath and remember if hes not nervous about it.. you shouldnt be ither just relax and enjoy! just remember b/4 he starts how good its going to feel another thing you might be gettin nervous feeling mixed with excitment mabey you just gettin excited !
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ok how do i get bigger boobs without having a boob job? i hwear a size 36A and im 13 but my my freshman yeari wantr at least a 38A or 40A so can someone please help me?? how do i get bigger boobs!!!!WITHOUT HAVING A BOOB JOB (link)
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OK 1st off the size of your boobs had nothing to do with the number in front of the letter the nuber is simply the inches around your beast the letter is what you want to increase i dont kno if you've started your period or not but when you do theres a possibility that your boobs could grow also if your mother / grandmothers have big breasts your likely to when u get alittle older remember your olny 13 you have at least another year before highschool your still growing! and dont worry guys look at more than just big breasts!
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Me and my girlfriend have been going out for almost 8 months now and I love her so much and I know she loves me she says it all the time and stuff but I dont know if she is always happy with my I cant really tell her how I want her to feel or anything or talk to her about this there has to be something I can do to show her I want her to be happy basically happier then she has ever been before like can you tell me how I can do this because that would be a big help anyone help me one this subject I just want my girlfriend to be super happy around me and not like faking the whole happiness thing so please help me with what to do thanks a bunch.
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Call and make shure shes home tell her your coming to get her house and to get dressed up fancy ( give her at least 2-3 hours advance notice) buy her flowers dress up nicely go over there pick her up go out to a nice dinner pay for everything bring her home and kiss her gently at her door step and leave it will be romanticly refreshing hope i could help!
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Ok well I'm 11 female and my mom has had these things under her arms kinda like pimples only bigger and they are also on her legs too and when she when to the surgeon he said it's out of my scope or whatever and she really wants them gone she's had them for 20 years and she's always depressed kinda grouchy and i feel like I want to cry (link)
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They are probably heat abraising which can be caused by temperature sun or sweat mabey even stress make shure your mom is relaxing and stays cool mabey even not alot in the sun no ones prefect and there are many other people with the same problem try a dermatologist or a skin docotr their designed for that type of rash. good luck
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i have a huge zit on my chin and i tried putting this oxy face stuff clear gel on it but it wont go away...please anyone tell me how 2 get rid if this nasty thing!!!! ((if u cant tell...i hate zits)) (link)
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Hold ice on it for until the ice melts moving it off if it gets too uncomfortable this will reduce the swelling since you already popped the zit hold ice on it for about 30-45 mins a day until it is gone which will be quicker than any face drying out medicne also for future refrence if u feel a zit coming on ice it and it wont form it will just go down! hope i could help.. an ice is definitly cheeper than any expensive medicne!
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My best guy friend of 3 years asked me something really weird last week and I just can't stop forgetting it. We were hanging out w/ his friend, and we somehow started talking about the fact that a guy in my math class was looking down my shirt. Then my guy friend told me to bend over, jokingly. I was like "only if you pay me" sarcastically. Then he was like "I'll give you $6 if you give me a lapdance!!!!" And then his friend offered to give me $10 for one. I refused, of course, cuz that's just gross. I still can't get over that, though. I feel really disrespected. What should I do about it? (link)
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Guys are horny wether your their best friend or cousin.. if ur pretty thats whats on thier mind.. but really.. blow it off it didnt mean anything guys just joke around about all kinds of things expecially beacuse he seems comfortable with his sexuallity hes just testn out his "mouth peice" or the way he trys to get girls and mabey hes just practiceing for another gurl dont take it to heart he was not tryin to disrespect u
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-ben there done that
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k so there is this guy that i work with, he is the cutest nicest most funniest guy ever! the thing is im starting to have feelings for him, we flirt all the time like i always tell him that we're going to get married and everytime hes talking about another girl hes like i cant go out with them cause im saving myself for you. i think hes just being funny, but im really starting to like this guy. Ive been thinking about him all the time ive even started dreaming about him, when we're at work together i alwasy get this urge to just jump him and start kissing him, but the thing is i dont know if he would ever go for it cause there are other girls at work that are soo much prettier then me, and all of is friends that are girls are soo pretty i dont know if i have a chance but im really starting to like him.....PLEASE HELP!!! (link)
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Alright this is tough but u need to hear this... DATEING A CO WORKER IS NEVER A GOOD IDEA people at work flirt with other people all the time 1 beacuse your with these people every day and u can be yourself an 2 beacuse work is boring and flirting adds excitement.. Not saying he might not have feelings for you but if he really did he would make his move and if u really cant take the waiting u need to tell him OUT SIDE of work beacuse a heart break (if it happens) could jus make things aquard so mabey on the fone or something say look (his name) im realy beginign to like you but if u dont like me the same way i need to kno becuase i dont wana cause any aquard feelings at work .. and see what he says.. i cant promise anything but good luck! hope i could help
signed-
Ben There Done That
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ok, me and my ex broke up..and i want him back but he has a new gf now..and i dont think he wants me back..we went thro a lot..we are still good friends but i dont think he wants me back and ive tried to move on..i just cant...what should i do? (link)
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Alright here it goes ive been though that and its really hard but all u have to do is think of all the bad annoying discusting embarsing or stupid things he did that really made u mad. and just relize that the girl hes with right now has to deal with ALL that and you are free to shop around for a new Better boyfrined because as perfect as he may have seemd.. theres always some one better and when u find him (the better one)(n believe me hes out there) moving on will go alot smoother! hope i could help
signed- Ben There Done That
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