I like fairies (thus why I am wearing fairy wings in the picture). Good grammar rocks, too. It doesn't have to be perfect but I get frustrated when people completely disregard it. I like every color except pink. I hate the wind. Sometimes, I carry around a little teddy bear I found at an antique store. His name is Robert. I dress very eccentrically. It's not unusual for me to wear a prairie dress one day and a Mod dress (think Austin powers) the next. I don't dye my hair, or wear much make-up. I think it's sad that no one puts any emphasis on natural beauty anymore. I think it's a good thing to be open and educated about sex and other issues that are considered taboo. I have a hard time seeing where homophobics are coming from.
Basically, I'm just some weird teenager in Arizona. If I haven't scared you off already, feel free to drop me a line. -Danielle
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my boyfriend and i are in a weird situation. we barely talk and i want to get closer. and he thinks i'm cheating on him with his best friend.
i can't really explain my feelings, so i decided i should make him a mixtape(well, cd)
sooo..
any songs about regaining a love that faded
and/or letting someone know you don't love anyone else more than them? (link)
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I know this sounds really cheesy, but this kind of reminds me of the song by Shania Twain.. "don't be stupid."
I like...
"kiss from a rose" - seal
"crash" - dave matthews band
"bed of roses" - bon jovi
"always" - bon jovi
"stigmatized" - the calling
"I miss you" - Incubus
"samson" - regina spektor
"piece of my heart" - Janis Joplin
"everything" - lifehouse
"san dimas high school football rules" - the ataris
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I guess in reality once i realize it if i ever do i can move on--it just seemed so right and for him also. I just pray he realizes and come home and if he doesnt realizehe is the fool--thank you so much for your time (link)
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I'm glad I could help. Feel free to e-mail me at aqueousremedy@hotmail.com or IM me at aqueous remedy if you ever need to talk more.
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I LOVE giving advice and I know you have to crawl before you can walk but I was wondering if anyone knows how I can get picked up by either a few magazines, newspapers or radio shows in order to do advice. I have a Masters in Clinical Psychology and have vast experieince in counseling and giving advice. I also have a book in the works and is being critiqued as we speak. I had a manager and we were putting together a demo wth a known radio d.j. but he got "other" ideas and wanted me to show him how much I really wanted to do the radio show and long story short, we parted weays. I have pictures (I am a former model) and I would LOVE to post them here on my site but they are too large to upload. ANY leads would be helpful.
Thanks!
TRUE ADVICE DIVA. (link)
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Write to Dear Abby! After all, that's pretty much what you want to do isn't it?:)
Keep contacting to more publications that you think might be interested as well as furthering your studies in psychology. A masters looks good, but a doctorate looks better. I'm not saying it's a must, but the better the education, the more impressive.
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I really appreciate your advice-i also agree. I was just saying today at work that i tell myself i will not bring it up when we talk but yet i always do! b/c i am afraid if i dont say something he will drift farther away. I never looked at it the way you put it so yes i will also try to do that. I have to realize if he truely does love me he will be back on good terms and when he is not confused and if he doesnt come back he never truely loved me--right? or maybe he does love me but only b/c i helped him get through his feelings for his ex? thisis so hard and it makes me sick to know he is ok with everything right now-and i am not. what am i doing? besides going crazy (link)
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You're not going crazy, you're just crazy in love with a man who is not meeting your needs. Things that normally would seem like not such a big deal become the whole world. It's hard to get out of the habit of not bringing up the negative, but over time I suppose one just learns to convince oneself that it's for the better. You might even be able to set up a limit. Start out by bringing it up once per conversation, but not sticking on the topic for more than a minute or two. Then once a week, once every two weeks, etc. I think that's kind of what I had to do at one point. If he doesn't come back, it doesn't necessarily mean he never loved you, he either just doesn't love you now or can't make things work with you, and sometimes it's just how it goes. It really sucks... but then again you can look at it as a blessing in disguise...you will become stronger from this no matter what. Keep hanging in there. I hope for the best!
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ok well i have a pretty big crush on a girl at school. But there is a huge problem. Two other girls like me and i dont really like them and i dont want to say no to them cause they would freak out on me... I used to like one of the girls but now i dont and she still thinks i do. what should i do. i really dont wanna go out with them i want to go out with the girl a like. How should i begin to talk with her. (link)
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Don't go out with someone you don't like. They might hate you a little for it but they'll get over it eventually. As for the girl you actually do like, you could start by complimenting her on something that she's wearing. "Hey, I like your shoes" or something like that always works. If you know she's particularly interested in something, ask her about it, even if you know nothing about it. Starting a conversation about what interests her would be a good way to break the ice.
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Okay. Long story short. I have religious Mormon friend. Religious as in very, very religious. Anyhow, we got into a discussion tonight at "impure thoughts" He seems to think it's a "selfish want" to think impurely about others. I said that it's impossible to be rid of them, that by repressing it them you are not getting rid of them, just concealing them and they will just build up. I said that what you need to do is deal with them and get them out of your system.
Now I feel really bad about the things I said. I guess it's because I should respect the fact he's pure rather than encourage him not to be. lol. I feel bad for him as I feel he is a little misguided and placing unnecessary restraints on himself. Does anyone agree with me on what I said to him? Is it impossible to debate with religious people? At the time I seemed to make a lot of sense. But now I'm thinking and maybe he is right. Should we avoid discussions like this in the future? Does someone with some experience with religion have an religious answer to this?
Thanks.
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If you go by what religion says, it is wrong to think impure thoughts but we are all human and all humans are considered sinners. Therefore, while it might be considered wrong, it's going to happen anyway and I think it's useless to try to stop it because having such a restraint on one's thoughts can be dangerous. Your friend will likely realize this as time goes on ... I suggest to just let him figure that out for himself and possibly avoid the subject in the future if you think it will cause issues.
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I really appreciate your advice. It is really hard to just move one. I have been through alot of crap in my life and he showed me more and better things in life. I know he is confused and I know he wants to come home but he is scared-but i am willing to let him deal with his issues and ready for him to come home when he is. I know I should move on but i am done at this point. It took me 5 yrs to want to be with another person and then i found him. He has also been through alot and i know we are good for each other but i think he needs to realize it. I need to give him time to miss me but its hard b/c i need to see him- i am very greatly depressed and things are not getting any better for me. He is not saying he is not coming home but he is also not giving me false hopes-in my heart and mind i feel he will be home . I dont know what else to do-i know he loves me-he is a great person-what do i do? i cant just move on- (link)
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If you really do feel that he loves you, it's perfectly okay to give him time regardless of what other people tell you, but if weeks turn into months, and then months turn into a year... I really do suggest that leaving it behind would be for the better. Waiting for someone is an incredibly kind, selfless gesture and is the best way to show one's love, but waiting too long can cross the line of self respect, and then you can't enjoy that love because you are so unhappy. Take this time that you have without him to try to learn to be happy without him...that way if and when he does come back, you will be able to enjoy his love and your life that much more. Keep in contact with him, and try not to bring up the subject too much. The more you pressure him, the longer it will take for him to make a decision. I hope I helped!
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Why is it that all the questions on here are about relationship problems? Don't people realize theres more to life then the opposite sex?
Anyway, I actually do have a question. ha.
17/F ... college next year!
I was wondering what everyones take on college is? I think I'm going to look for an all girls college. Are there many around? Does anyone know of any good ones? If there are boys around I will get distracted and won't do my work. I can wait for a boy, I dont need one when I'm in college. I want to get great grades and do all my work constantly.
Also, do you think this will effect how I view my college experience? Part of the actual experience is dorm life, parties, etc. Do you think I will regret choosing an all girls school when I'm rolling in money because I stuck to my studies? (link)
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An experience is what you make of it. You can still have a good college experience without it being the typical promiscuous, drunken stupor of many other college kids. If I were you, I'd challenge myself to keeping up with my studies and being in a co ed school because the real world isn't just all girls. The real world is a lot harder than school, and you won't be able to run to an all girls place then. However, if you really feel like it's a good idea, go ahead. No one's stopping you.
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I have been dating this man for almost 2 yrs. We met on the internet and he was just getting out of a bad divorce. We were dating for almost 3 months and he left me. He said its not me its him and he had some things to clear out of his head. I was broken hearted but I understood. 2 weeks later we got back together and 2 weeks later he left-still confused-i still understood. 3 months passed and i missed him so and we started talking again-we got back together. He sold his house and moved in with me and my 2 children. He has also has a son. Things were very good and in April he asked me to marry him-of course i accepted. Ii was planning the weeding for 2007 and he moved it up to 2006. I was ecstatic so i was planning our wedding. There were times when we argued and yes i take blame for some of them. The last argument we had was b/c of the internet and things i found him going on. Well he kept saying it wasnt him and he did not look that stuff up-cookies did it--whatever. Well things escalated from there and one day he said he cant do this any more its not me its him,he doesnt want to be engaged or get married or be with anyone and he left. I was never engaged before so of course i will be all excited. He was married for 10 yrs and yes its scary for him,but why did he leave? The week he left he got distant from me and i knew something was wrong but i didnt think he was going to leave for a 3rd time. He moved up to his parents like 10 minutes from my house. I still talk to him and off and on he comes over. I miss him so much and ask him to come home--but he says its not that easy it was hard to leave he cant just come back.I understand that kind of but if he loves me why is he not coming back? what does he need to think about? I miss him so much but he wont tell me he misses me unless i ask-or he wont tell me he loves me-sometimes he does when i say it other times he says "I know". I am so confused and i know i need to let him go and let him be but it is so hard. What do I do?He knows i want him to come home,he knows i love him,he klnows we can move as slow as we need to we dont need to rush,but yet he wont come back. What can I do? Please help.
thank you
27yr old female (link)
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I know it's really difficult because you love this man, but you really should move on. His "confusion" has been going on for far too long and you deserve better. You shouldn't have to deal with this. Maybe he left because he really is confused, or maybe he left because he just doesn't want to live there anymore. Whatever the case, he obviously isn't stable enough or sure enough about the relationship to try to make it work and if you keep trying with him you will always end up in pain... so I suggest taking some time to get over him and heal and finding someone else.
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why do guys find the need to have a skinny girl? it gets me mad when a guy is attracted to some skinny girl when he could have great chemistry and a great relationship with a different girl who is overweight?
sam with girls i guess. but guys seem to have a more 'strict criteria' (link)
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I've found with heavier girls that that wears off as the girl gets older if she has a good personality. As guys mature, they become less shallow. I hope you can find a guy who can see past appearances!
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I'm a fifteen year old female, and I will be turning sixteen pretty soon. To my extreme amazement, my parents have decided to buy me a car to share with my younger brother when he comes of driving age.
I'm very appreciative of this, because I was expecting to drive my Dad's old 1982 Chevy for the next few years. The problem is, I'm finding it hard to find a small car with good gas mileage at a reasonable price.
I'm particularly fond of the Mazda cars. If you have any suggestions for cars meeting these three requirements:
- Costs less than $15,000
- City gas mileage of 26 MPG or greater
- Well-made car
Feel free to suggest anything to me. Like I said, I prefer the Mazda, but anything fitting those three things would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you! (link)
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I have no idea... but I suggest maybe you open up to other brands of cars in case you can't find something that meets your requirements. There are some good ones out there that aren't mazdas...good luck!
P.S. I applaud your awesome grammar and you seem rather intelligent. This is almost a first considering the other 15 year-olds I've seen on here. Thank you for partially restoring my hope in humanity.
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ok well I am talking to a really good friend of mine and he is 19 we talk on the phone and he works at a fancy constrution place...well my dad asked who he was and I told him but I met him on the internet and we talk on the phone about 2 times a day...my dad is strick to who I talk to...and how old they have to be...WHY??? he is 19 and I am 16!!!! but I did something I think was wrong, I told my dad he was 17 insteed of his true age 19...and he said for me to be careful to who I talk to ... well my sister told them his true age and my mom got on to me right after I got off the phone with him.....what do I do???? and why dont they want me to talk to a guy that is 19???
PLEASE HELP
-BlondeChic163- (link)
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I don't know. It's kind of weird to me because I went out with a 19 year old when I was 16 and my parents were perfectly okay with it, but they also knew him pretty well. If you really want to talk to him, why don't you invite him over for dinner sometime and let your parents get to know him? It's really awkward and all of that but maybe they'll be cooler once they see that he's not some random psycho from the internet.
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In Drama, we have to write and perform a two minute monologue in front of the whole class next Tuesday. I'm not worried about performing it, but I have no ideas at all on the subject. It can be on anything, you have to "get into the head of a character" and perform the monologue in the first person. Thanks in advance (link)
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Since you're probably new at this, make a character that is similar to you, or at least a person in a situation that you would know a lot about. Once, I wrote a monologue with a girl speaking about her battle with anorexia and how she was struggling to overcome it. Good luck!
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i live in Mt.vernon Indiana im only 15 year's old but i still want to look into colleges early to really know what i want i dont really want to go far from home to college but i want a good college that has photography class's i can take. do you know any school in Indiana or any websites i can go to?
i rate 5's please reply (link)
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princetonreview.com is a good college database
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hi. i`m quite confuse on how to use - in the morning, in the afternoon, in the evening and at night. why we use "in" in the morning why not "in" night? please explain. thank you very much.
mika (link)
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The English language has a number of inconsistencies. I honestly couldn't tell you why it's like that. I mean, why do we park in a driveway, and drive in a parkway? It's just how it is in this language. Sorry I couldn't be more help.
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i go to a small private school. and next year i'm going to a public highschool [my first time to be in a public school]. what are some things that i should know about before i go. i know its a long way away.. but anyway. i'm not really sheltered because i know a lot.. but just remind me please! thanks!! (link)
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I went to a private school for all of my life before going to a public high school. I'm a senior now. I was really shy at first because I didn't know anyone, but eventually I made a ton of friends. Start conversations with people in your classes... i.e. I really like your shirt... or something along those lines. Be careful of rude upperclassmen. Don't trust people too easily, but don't be rigid either. Mostly, just be yourself, and you'll be fine. Public school is so much better than private school.
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my friend is a freak how can i stop her from going out with this guy who is bisexual? (link)
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Quit being so damned close minded. Who cares if he is bisexual?! Mind your own business! JEEZ
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This is a question for guys:
Say you are in a REALLY bad marriage but couldnt get out of it for financial reasons and you fall in love with another woman.
Would you be willing to be JUST FRIENDS with the woman you love so you don't have to go through a messy divorce? Because I know someone who is married and very unhappy but I know money is a big issue in his marriage right now. But he is in love with my friend, she is still a virgin and is saving herself for marriage and she also wants children. He and his current wife have never had children. She is a grandms and already had her operation.
For now he just wants to be friends but I think if he wasnt with his wife he would be with my friend. (link)
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I'm not a guy but no one has answered this question and beggars can't be choosers.
He should stay just friends with her until the divorce is final. If she is worth it, she will wait until then to be with him. It would make things much less complicated and stressful if he just kept it platonic for now.
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lately ive been crying alot .... my dad died like 4 years ago.... this guy that i like that french kissed a few times just told me that he only likes me as a friend....my hair was really long and now its up to my shoulders and i hate it..... I think im really ugly but everyone else says im pretty...... im pissed off at my cheerleading coach... my mom is being really bitchy to me..... i wanna loose weight(i weight 105 pounds and im 5'1 i no that doesnt seem like heavy but i have extra fat that i wanna loose)
*****can someone help me with all this like the guy i like how can i get him to like me and what can i do about my extra fat and just give me advice***** (link)
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Please get professional help. You are obviously depressed and have self image issues because you cannot afford to lose any weight. It's good to maintain a healthy lifestyle by eating right and exercising, but don't try to lose weight.
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A guy that I'm friends with works at a cafe, he is the cook. Another friend told me that she went in to his restaurant once and he told her he wanted to go to bed with her. (he is married so she said no).
Well I asked him if that were true and he started laughing and said "she's not my idea of a babe".
We told his wife and then she said sarscastically that he flirted with everyone (they work toghether,she is the waitress).
I think he did say something and it makes me really mad because he is saying my friend is not only a lyer, but she is ugly!
Do you think he lyed? (link)
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I think you should stay out of it, whatever the case, unless he hits on you, or you see it with your own two eyes.
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