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Talking to this guy that is .....
ok well I am talking to a really good friend of mine and he is 19 we talk on the phone and he works at a fancy constrution place...well my dad asked who he was and I told him but I met him on the internet and we talk on the phone about 2 times a day...my dad is strick to who I talk to...and how old they have to be...WHY??? he is 19 and I am 16!!!! but I did something I think was wrong, I told my dad he was 17 insteed of his true age 19...and he said for me to be careful to who I talk to ... well my sister told them his true age and my mom got on to me right after I got off the phone with him.....what do I do???? and why dont they want me to talk to a guy that is 19???
PLEASE HELP
-BlondeChic163-
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ok this is because the are afraid of what could happen to you. He's older than you and you never know what could happen if he tries to get close to you. if your 16 and hes 19 that will definettly worry the folks.
*~*Karlie*~* hope i helped
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For one, you are way too young to be talking to a 19 year old guy over the phone. This guy cannot be that great if he has nothing better to do with his time than to talk to a 16 year old girl. Thats not suppose to be offensive toward you, but you're still a minor, and hes an adult. Your parents are doing the right thing by telling you not to talk to guys that are that much older. I know it seems unfair, but your parents are being reasonable about this situation. Whether he is just your friend or not, it's just wrong. You can do a lot better, find a guy who is about your age, so that you can share closer interests, and let me advise you not to do it online either. It's your choice, but you just have to remember that you have absolutely no idea whether this guy is actually what he says he is.
-TheTeenGirl
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nineteen is an adult an illegal for you if you guys ever became more then like talkin buddies.. i can understand why they might be a lil furious bout this guy and you lyin didn`t help the situation.. ♥ Dez
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Your parents are more thank likely trying to protect you. They aren't trying to keep you from having fun or meeting new people - they're just trying to protect you.
Face it, he's nineteen, you're sixteen. Although that's only three years, that's a fair maturity gap. Unless you're really mature for your age (or he's immature), it's unlikely that you'll get along for extended periods of time. Not only that, he's considered an adult now - you're still a minor. It's illegal for you to be in a sexual relationship with him until you're eighteen.
You also met him online. You can't know for sure that he's nineteen. He could be 25 and sound young, or could be 15 and sound old. There's no way to really know. Unless you've seen this "fancy construction place" he works at, you don't really know if he works at it or at Mc Donalds. There's just really no way to tell, and your parents realize this. They're just trying to protect you, your innocence, and your heart.
Honor your parents decision, but maybe you could get them to meet this boy (if you think he's worth it). That would mean he'd have to come to your house, blah, blah, blah. But if he's worth it - you should get your parents to see that.
-FunnyCide
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a yea duh he is consider an adult and your still consider a minor so yea i mean if you really like him i mean dont stop talkng to him, tell your parents how you feel about him and that he talks to you like a nice man and you wont stop talking to him because you like him a lot
hope this helps
kriddle06
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I don't know. It's kind of weird to me because I went out with a 19 year old when I was 16 and my parents were perfectly okay with it, but they also knew him pretty well. If you really want to talk to him, why don't you invite him over for dinner sometime and let your parents get to know him? It's really awkward and all of that but maybe they'll be cooler once they see that he's not some random psycho from the internet.
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They probably don't want you talking to him because you met him online. People online can be super creepy. Has he sent you a picture, do you even know if its really him, he could be a 45 year old molester, who knows, and that would be why your parents freaked out. By the way lying so doesn't help your situation, and you wouldn't have lied if you thought it wasn't wrong. On some level you knew they would be upset and that is why you lied. However if the guy is ok, and you positively know who he is then I don't see why it is a big deal, its not a big age gap or anything. If you want them to understand, you will have to sit down and talk to them and tell them what you think and feel, that he is not a creep and the age isn't that big of a deal, only 3 years. Well good luck and I hope everything works out for you.
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