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just plain old advice please
lately ive been crying alot .... my dad died like 4 years ago.... this guy that i like that french kissed a few times just told me that he only likes me as a friend....my hair was really long and now its up to my shoulders and i hate it..... I think im really ugly but everyone else says im pretty...... im pissed off at my cheerleading coach... my mom is being really bitchy to me..... i wanna loose weight(i weight 105 pounds and im 5'1 i no that doesnt seem like heavy but i have extra fat that i wanna loose)
*****can someone help me with all this like the guy i like how can i get him to like me and what can i do about my extra fat and just give me advice*****
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Hunny i jsut want you to know, i knowww everything seems really hard right now but god never gives you anything you cant handle. Just take everything one day at a time, it will all be okay! Just remember your dads in heaven and hes so happy, and he looking down and watching you! He wants you too be happy! =] And you know what, that guy isnt worth it! Hes not good enough for you and thats the gods honest truth. If hes gonna do that hes a loser and doesnt deserve you, just move on from him-dont give him the time of day. And your hair, dont worry about it! It will grow out! How about getting highlights? This will brighten up your face and give you some more much needed confidence! And how about trying some new makeup, like a pretty pink blush, some mascara and curl your eyelashes and some pink lipgloss...instant cuteness =] As for your cheerleading coach, show that lady what you got! Let her know your the best out there and put out the most effort! And you dont need to lose wieght, maybe you can just eat healthy to make you feel better. Like not fatty fried junk foods, but more fruits and veggies! And lastly, what always helps me is to pray. Just ask god to give you peace and help you deal with this situation. I kknow you can get through this, good luck and god bless! <33333
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HOLY FUCK, 105 MOTHERFUCKING POUNDS?! I don't believe I would call that "fat" by any means. You have a below average weight.
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fist of all you are not big and all the other stuff is just depression just get enough sleep and try to think of good thoughts and stuff
masturbate if you need to lol
i hope i helped
Jessica
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I think that you need to take care of yourself before you try to be with a guy. You sound like a lot of things are going wrong in your life right now, try to talk to your mom about how you've felt lately, even though shes not being so nice right now. She'll probably feel happier that you've come to her to explain your feelings, she might not be having a nice life right now either, she may be missing your dad too, and things may be going bad for her too. I know you probably hate the idea of telling your mom how you've felt, but I think that its important that you give it a fair shot. Before you go off and worry about your physical appearance right now, try to help your looks inside. In other words, focus on how you feel and fix that instead of complaining about your hair and extra body fat. Talk to someone that can help you. Please give your mom a chance.
-TheTeenGirl
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It seems like you have a lot of stuff going on in your life. And it can certainly be a lot harder to deal with a whole bunch of things than just one problem.
The first problem you mentioned was your dad dying, but then you don't ask for specific advice about him. Because you mentioned him first, I would guess that it's still a pretty big issue in your life. Have you dealth with his death yet? Counselling is a good way to start - space just for you to be yourself, no judgements, no telling you how to feel.
Losing somebody can affect a person for years and years, and they can sometimes have other problems that are related - bits of anger or sadness that bubble to the surface. Or when other people hurt you, you can be reminded of those feelings.
As for your hair, it'll grow.
As for your coach, can you talk to him/her about whatever is making you mad?
As for the guy, I'm sorry to say but if he says he doesn't like you as more than a friend, the best course of action is to believe him. He might like you and not be ready for a relationship, or he might not like you. Either way, it's not the best type of guy to get involved with - no matter how much you like him. And it's pretty hard to 'change' how people see/feel about you.
And weighing 105 pounds is already on the thin side. Why not try toning instead of trying to lose weight? Girls and women are supposed to have certain areas that are fleshier than others - it happens at puberty and will stick with you for life.
Hope I helped in some way. Best of luck in everything.
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hey there! don't worry about anything...everything will always work for the better. =D My dad passed away 3 years ago too, and I also cry, but its best to remind yourself that he's in a better place now and no matter what, he's always going to be there, and he's going to be guiding you. a friend once told me, "it's all in perspective. if you have the attitude to get to your destination, all you have to do is walk the path", and so it goes for all the things that take place in life. it's not what happens in life, but how we take them that matters, and so for all the things that happened, try to take them in a positive perspective and see that no, life is not permanenetly miserable, but these moments strengthen us as a person. For instance, you think that you are ugly, but you are probably IMAGINING it and everyone else knows the truth, hehe. If comparing yourself to others, STOP because it will only make you underestimate yourself. I'm also about 5'1, and no girl, I think you don't need to lose weight---you're in perfect shape! So remember, just be more positive with what's happening, and you'll see that everything is not so bad as it seems to be.
<3, normie
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Please get professional help. You are obviously depressed and have self image issues because you cannot afford to lose any weight. It's good to maintain a healthy lifestyle by eating right and exercising, but don't try to lose weight.
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The guy you like? He doesnt like you like that. Unfortunately for you, you cant 'make' someone like you, it just kinda happens.
You need to play some video games and relax.
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if everyone says you are pretty..you most likely are. you see yourself everyday so that's why you seem plain to yourself. you also see yourself at your worst. when you look in the mirror, think about the things that you do like about your appearance rather than the things you don't like and can't change.
your hair will grow. don't worry about that. it's different, but it probably looks fine all the same. take a few hours to play around with it and find ways to do it that are different.
your problems with your cheerleading coach will pass, i promise. keep working at cheerleading though..don't let it hurt your performance.
try helping out your mom..if she is a single parent (or even if shes not) then its very stressful. just a few helpful actions a day can change her attitude towards you dramatically.
you are about the same weight and height as me. i know what you mean. we aren't fat, but we aren't toned either. set a goal to do a certain amount of crunches per day..that's what i'm doing. exercise every chance you get. don't cheat on conditioning in cheerleading. try running or instead of sitting around talking with your friends..go for a walk with them..also what i do.
i'm sorry about your dad. i can't even imagine what that must be like. just cherish the memories you have with him and don't try to forget about him..but also don't consume yourself in thinking about his absence. he helped shape who you are today.
as for the guy..i'd say forget about him. i know, i know, INCREDIBLY hard..but do you really want a guy who will kiss you..but doesn't want a relationship? that shows all he cares about. you deserve someone who respects you..and he's out there. it doesn't seem like it..but there are guys out there who actually follow their heart..instead of thinking with their you-know-what..they are just harder to find. believe me, they are worth the wait.
crying is healthy, but you do deserve to feel good about yourself. focus on the positive aspects of your life. keep a journal and write about unimportant things, good things, and bad things instead of only bad things. that helps a lot.
i hope things turn around for you.
if you need more advice..or more specific advice..drop one in my inbox. i like to put time and thought into my answers and i tell the truth only. i put extra effort into questions in my inbox..though i put a ton of effort into this one because i could relate to a lot of it.
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