about

My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

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OK my friend asked who I think she is going out with?And I told her the person who I think she is!And she wont answer me and I like this boy alot and I have for a long time and she knows that!!! and I dont know if she is lieing or not and if this boy even cares about me?

I agree with the columnist who told you to tell your friend you like this boy. Be honest with your friend and let her know you like him.


If she's a true friend, she'll tell you if it's him.


-Laura (17-f)

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what should i do if my parents get me really mad and start yelling at me for nuttin? my parents think that my lil sister is more respondisble cuz she lies and she gets away wit everything and i tend to cut my uppper arm and that but i dont know wat i should do instead of cutting my upper arm can u tell me wat i should do?
sincerly

confuse girl in OHIO

Talk to somebody. Talk to a friend, a family member, a school counselor, somebody.


Don't hold it all in because that will only make things worse. If you have nobody to talk to, start a journal. Write down how you feel and what's going through your head. It's much better to let everything out rather than holding it in and cutting yourself. Cutting yourself is NOT the answer.


-Laura (17-f)

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My gf and i are thinking about having sex both our first time both 16 im really nervous ive got a small penis and my gf did reassure me that she ok with my size i may be worrying to much but i afraid i wont be any good or i wont satisfy her
can you still please a girl with a small penis?

Honestly? Girls really don't care about size as much as guys think.


It's really not an important aspect of a relationship. What matters is that you really love the person, that you're ready and comfortable having sex with that person, and that you're being safe. You also have to think about what might come out of it (STDs, pregnancy, etc.) and be ok talking about those aspects of sex, too.



-Laura (17-f)

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what if your completely in love. well what you think is love... why should age matter... i dont think its grose to be with somone that 14 or 15 when there 18... but i really dont know.. damn i wish i wasnt so confused...

Age does matter when you're young, to an extent. I think the most important reason is because when somebody who is 18 is dating somebody under 18, it is considered illegal.


But once you're older and that 18 year old is, say, 25 and the 14 year old is 21, then it won't matter at all :)


-Laura (17-f)

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for school i have to complete 5 hours of service to a non-profit charitable orgaization. what are some good places to voulenteer besides a soup kitchen, nursing home, or animal shelter?

The library is a good place to start.


Also, try going to the local middle schools and asking if they need after school tutors or anything. You can also ask if they need somebody to work scoreboards and/or sell candy at sporting events.


-Laura (17-f)

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has anybody tried jergens natural glow (daily moisturizer? does it work? does it actually make you tan? im white as heck so i really want to know.

I've never personally used it, but a friend of mine has.


It worked really well for her and she looked gorgeous after using it for a little while, so I'd give it a try :)


-Laura (17-f)

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im 14 yrs old and i cant seem to be liked by girls i mean im friends with a bunch of them but i really want a relationship there is one or two i like but they dont like me back i dont know what to do!!!

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=545439


From there:


It really varies from girl to girl. Everybody has different preferences and turn ons and turn offs.
Some girls like athletes, some girls like boys in drama. Some girls like funny, outgoing and social guys, some like quiet shy bookworm guys.

Personally? I'd go for the theater guy over the basketball player, and the bookworm over the socialite. But that's just me ;]


Personality wise, here are my top 5:

1. A good sense of humor.
- A good sense of humor is always beneficial. And not a stupid "that's what she said!" sense of humor, somebody who can genuinely make an original joke. Making a girl laugh is one of the best things you can do in an effort to "win her heart".


2. Intelligence.
-Being smart is good, too. Us girls don't want to talk to somebody who can't count higher than 10, or who doesn't understand what's happening in the world. You don't have to be a total know it all, just smart enough to hold a decent conversation.


3. Nice guys.
- Nice guys DON'T finish last. If you compliment a girl, chances are she won't forget it any time soon. However, if you're mean to a girl, she'll remember for A LOT longer.


4. A good appearance.
- I'm not going to lie and don't think I'm shallow, but looks are all you have to go on for the first few minutes of knowing somebody. So if you're shirts half untucked, your shoes are untied, and your hair is unbrushed and a mess, chances are girls won't be into it.


5. Showing interest/having similar interests.
- I cannot tell you how attractive it is when I'm talking to a guy and he asks my favorite band, and the replies with, "I love The Rocket Summer, too!" Ask questions, and tell her when you like something she likes. If you have a lot in common, your relationship will go a lot farther than if you have nothing in common.


Those, however, are just the things I like but like I said, it's different for different girls. But a good sense of humor and giving a girl compliments are DEFINETE ins.



http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=541093


From there:


First of all, I'm going to say the best way to impress somebody is to be yourself. I know that's it's so cliche, but it's honestly, the best tip I or anybody can give.

I mean, you don't want somebody to start liking you for the way you think THEY want you to act or talk or dress. Why would you want somebody to like you when you're not even being yourself?


Secondly, don't be shy! Just go up and talk to that boy/girl. Confidence is key. Strike up a conversation! Start it with something like, "I see you're wearing a Hit The Lights [or whatever band/sport's team, etc] shirt, are they your favorite?" Or, something like, "So I know we've never talked before, but you seem like a really cool person..."


So be yourself, and show that you're comfortable being just that. Be comfortable in your own skin, and chances are, you'll impress everybody.



-Laura (17-f)

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I'm making a a scrapbook for my boyfriend for out 2 year anniversary. I'm 17 & he's 18.
We don't have many pictures yet so I'm making it for him so that it might motivate us to document more of us being together and try and fill it up.
Since i dont want to jam the pages with pictures and couldnt even if i wanted to i want to put quotes on the pages.


I need love quotes...not weird sounding ones but ones that maybe a teen might like. :)

i need a prom one if thats possible i've made up a prom page of all out pictures and need something to go with it.

Pleaseee help & give me another gift idea if possible :)

Use song lyrics! Songs have the best love quotes, and I even have a list of songs you can use:


http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=545691


:)


As far as another gift, how about a gift card? To somewhere that he really likes. Or, you can take him our for a nice dinner!


-Laura (17-f)

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how do you know if a girl like you?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=532578


From there:


I'm going to start off by saying this: if a girl smiles A LOT when she's around you, she probably likes you as more than a friend.


The Top 5 other things to look for:
1. She laughs at your jokes.
- No matter how many times she's heard them, or how totally lame they are, she'll laugh at them. End of story.


2. She touches you (not sexually, get your head outta the gutter!)
- She plays with your hair, or fixes your shirt or something. Maybe she even holds your hand, that's a pretty good sign that she likes you.


3. She includes you in things.
- She talks to you even when she's with her friends. She makes an effort to include you, like by asking you things. Even lame questions like, 'What color should I paint my nails?' might be her way of trying to include you.


4. She makes an effort to talk to you/see you.
- She texts you just to say hello, she's late to class just because she wanted to hug you good bye, or she calls you just to see what you're doing.


5. She trusts you, and talks to you seriously.
- She tells you things that she might not normally tell others. Like, if she's in a bad mood and tells others she's fine, she'll actually tell you that she failed that geometry test, or her friends aren't including her lately. She opens up to you and isn't afraid to be herself.


Even though every girl is different, these are the top 5 things girls do when they like a guy. So, chances are, if she's holding your hand and texting you saying :" Hey whatcha up to? :)", chances are she's doing it all for a reason.


-Laura (17-f)

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what to say to a girl when you call her?
when to pop the freaky questions?
how do you know if a girl thinks your cute?

1. Talk to her. Get to know her. Show her that you're interested. Ask her questions, and when she asks you questions, don't answer with just "yes" or "no", explain (but don't talk her ear off) ;)


2. I'm not sure what you mean by "freaky", but I'd wait until you get to know her a bit. Wait until a point when YOU would feel comfortable if she asked you "freaky" questions.


3. http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=532578


-Laura (17-f)

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My tampon is stuck.
and i put another one up there.
and now it hurts.
what should i do.

You're NEVER supposed to put two tampons in at once.


Get to your doctor ASAP (like...now!) because if you leave it in to long you're at a high risk for Toxic Shock Syndrome, which can be deadly.


-Laura (17-f)

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what are some rockish punk bands like sum41,blink 182,and the offspring? they can be old or new, thanks !

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=532581


From there:


If you like that rockish type of alternative,
like BRAND NEW, try these:

- Alkaline Trio.
- Armor For Sleep.
- Forever The Sickest Kids.
- Just Surrender.
- Madeavail.
- Mae.
- Matchbook Romance.
- Saosin.
- Search The City.
- Senses Fail.
- Something Corporate.
- Story Of the Year.
- Sugarcult.
- The Get Up Kids.
- Thursday.
- Unwritten Law.



If You like that harder Alternative/Rock,
kind of like THE USED,
give these a listen:

- 3oh!3.
- Amber Pacific.
- The Academy Is...
- Bayside.
- Escape The Fate.
- Flight 409. *
- Four Year Strong.
- The Frantic.
- From First To Last.
- Halifax.
- Ivoryline.
- My American Heart.
- Pierce The Veil.
- Rise Against.
- Schoolyard Heroes.
- Taking Back Sunday.
- Thrice.


-Laura (17-f)

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ok im 15/f and i live in florida and i just wanted to know: is it weird that after a few relationships i don't want to really date anymore? and i have this one friend that i really like and i might want to date him but i like being single and i don't know if i should date him or not, and i don't know if he still likes me or not considering he's asked me out twice already. and my mom doesn't really like the guy but she didn't really meet him, and my friends say i should but then i don't know because he can lie occasionally

If you want to be single, stay single.


It sounds like you don't want a relationship, and that is TOTALLY fine and completely normal. You have your whole life ahead of you for guys, and trust me, you'll date a lot more before you find your Prince Charming.


I think you should stay single and enjoy time with friends and what not. You're young; live it up :)


-Laura (17-f)

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ok so im 15 years old and i got my period when i was 11.
i havent really been growing much lately.
i was just wondering at what age ill stop growing and if i will still grow

Have you had a growth spurt yet? If not, you may have one. I know I had one the summer before freshman year, and when I went back to school I got mad because EVERY person I came into contact with commented on how tall I got.


Anyways, most girls stop "growing" around the age of 17-18, so you still have some time left.


-Laura (17-f)

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to make things easier the guy i like will be - j and his friends will be a

my two friends met last year at a party i had. i told her that i liked j and i kinda liked a so she walked up the j and was like hey want to make out. and they made out and i cried. i am still friends with her but still mad at her because she knew i liked him. and just last week i told her i like him. and that friday she made out with him again) i have a right to be extremely mad at her right? should i trust her agian?

xoxo thanks xoxo

I would be mad at her. She KNEW you liked him and made out with him anyways? I'm sorry, but that's a huge betrayal of girl code.


I would talk to her about it, don't just TELL her, sit her down and have a talk about it. Let her know you went home in tears after the party when they made out and it majorly demolished your trust in her.


Yes, you should trust her again, but only if she apologizes and never pulls a stunt like this again, because it was a really shady thing for her to do =/


-Laura (17-f)

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Does anyone know of any songs that are about regretting letting someone go.. or if things don't change they're leaving.. such as 'she wouldn't be gone' by blake shelton.. or 'forgive' by rebecca lynn howard? anything that comes to mind would be a great help! thanks a bunch!

Miserable at Best by Mayday Parade.
A Lonely September by Plain White T's.
Champagne's for Celebrating by Mayday Parade.
All Hail the Heartbreaker by The Spill Canvas.
Retrace by Anberlin.
Jasey Rae by All Time Low.
Another Heart Calls by the All-American Rejects.
Come Back to Me by David Cook.


-Laura (17-f)

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So obviously The Notebook is one of the greatest movies ever made (and book). I've seen it enough times to know every line and I it never fails to make me cry just a little.

Any other amazingly good romances like this one? I don't really like old movies though.

A Walk to Remember (also a book by Nicholas Sparks). Other than that:


How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, 13 Going on 30, The Wedding Singer, Moulin Rouge, Never Been Kissed, Music and Lyrics.


:)


-Laura (17-f)

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i herd that if you dream someones pregnant it means someones going to die, and if someone dies it mean someones pregnant? well i had a dream that my friend left me a voice mail saying she was getting an abortion, and she came over and looked about 8 months pregnant.. she left and came back and her stomache was gone but it was like flabby.. haha idk its been bugging me cause idk what it means.

"To dream that you are pregnant, symbolizes an aspect of yourself or some aspect of your personal life that is growing and developing. You may not be ready to talk about it or act on it. This may also represent the birth of a new idea, direction, project or goal.


To dream that you are pregnant with the baby dying inside of you, suggests that a project you had put a lot of effort into is falling apart and slowly deteriorating. Nothing is working out the way you want it to.


If you are really pregnant and having this dream, then it represents your anxieties about the pregnancy. Women in the first trimester of their pregnancy tend to dream of tiny creatures, fuzzy animals, flowers, fruit and water. In the second trimester, dreams will reflect your anxieties about being a good mother and concerns about possible complications with the birth. Dreams of giving birth to a non-human baby are also common during this period of the pregnancy. Finally, in the third trimester, dreams consists of your own mother. As your body changes and grows, dreams of whales, elephants and dinosaurs and other larger animals may also start appearing at this stage."



Taken from: http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/p3.htm



-Laura (17-f)

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i'm a little nervous to text or call my new boyfriend, but i don't want him thinking i don't care since i always wait for him to make that first move. what are some cute things i can text him though?

You can start by texting him just to say good morning or good night. You can text him during the day and say something like "Just thinking of you...what are you up to?" You can text him when you see something that reminds you of him, and let him know what you saw and that it reminded you of him.


only search advicenators.com



And don't be nervous about texting him, I'm sure he's just as nervous, too!


-Laura (17-f)

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i'm going to be a sophmore in high school..

and i really want to start deciding what i want to do in the future. i love learning about the way the human mind works and stuff..so i was thinking about a psycology major. BUT..i wanna do something to help animals. i cant handle blood or guts..so i dont really wanna be a vet.

sooo..what kinda jobs could i get with that major??

How about a veterinary technologist or technician?


http://www.avma.org/careforanimals/animatedjourneys/aboutvets/becomingtech.asp

http://careers.stateuniversity.com/pages/42/Veterinary-Technician.html

http://www.ehow.com/about_4570138_job-description-duties-vet-tech.html


-Laura (17-f)

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