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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
advice
In the movie Happy Gilmore what's the song that plays when the movie first starts and when the movie ends like where they all get out of the car to celebrate. Thanks! (There's no singing in the song)
Though I love that movie, I don't recall the particular song offhand. Here is a link with the soundtrack listing. Some of them you can listen to, and I wager if you searched the other songs, you can find a site that plays them.
http://www.last.fm/music/Various+Artists/Happy+Gilmore
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Ive been sick and nearly failed two years of school with a sleep/ mood disorder and depression. Well my best buddy, weve been friends since age two and now were fifteen! But Ive basically turned into a hermit or something because Im still recovering for the start of tenth grade come fall. Ive just gotten used to being home all the time and spending time with my mom. It doesnt sound healthy, I know, but I dont mind it.
But my friend, were BBFLs, [best buds for life], and when she asks me to hang out but I dont feel well enough to get up and go, I say something like "well Ill see how I feel and maybe we can hang out in a few days, the weather is supposed to be better for the pool anyways" she just says "yeah well you say that all the time! and its not like im asking you to run a marathon! whatever i gtg!!"
But shes also had a big history of health problems. They used to call her Typhoid Mary, until she got her tonsils taken out.
But I feel like she of ALL people should know what Im going through! After all, shes a carrier for mono. I just have nothing to say to her about it and I dont want to ruin our friendship after all of these years. Please, please, help.
For nearly two years I, too, have been a hermit. My story is different, though, because I was pregnant for most of 2 years, and I have 2 babies at home.
Yah. I don't get out much.
BUT.
Take it from me- You don't feel like going out when someone asks you to go. I've been there, too. I've also given in and went. And you know what? I'm always glad I go when I do. Once you get out and start having a good time, it feels good!
Try it. Next time your friend asks you to go to the pool (or whatever), accept and go.
I'm sure you'll be glad you did.
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15/f
I really don't like my mom's boyfriend! He's been around for about a year now, and at first I really hated him, mainly cause my mom always spent time with him and not me. When i decide to "open up" and tell my mom, she ended up breaking up with him and making me feel REALLY guilty. So i got his number, called him, and told him to come back because it was all a misunderstanding and my mom needed him. That was about a year ago, and i kind of pushed my feelings aside to make my mom happy and kind of got over it. But now, it's starting to bother me again. He doesn't even technially live here, but he's ALWAYS here. ALWAYS. I can't ever be with my mom alone anymore because he's always with her. They go together everwhere pretty much and it seems like i can't go anywhere in my house wihtouot him being there. He is also very annoying in so many little ways and awkward to be around. It's annoying too because my mom is always os busy with online classes, so if i have to go somewhere, she tells him to take me...and i HATE having to be in the car with him and him taking me places. I don't know what to do..because I know he makes my mom happy, and if I told her, i know she would end it with him, and would be so depressed. I know i'm so selfish...my mom deserves a good guy, and i shouldn't get in the way. but what should i do??? it's making me so unhappy...but i can't EVER let my mom know, because it would kill her to know i'm not happy and it would really ruin not only her relationship with him, but me as well..i'm not sure if she would ever forgive me. So..should I just try as hard as i can to avoid him or consider telling my mom??
Yah, she deserves a good guy in her life, but you deserve a mother in yours. Being a mother is more important.
You should tell her about how you feel. There is no need for her to break up with him about it, but there is a need for her to make time to spend with YOU.
That appears to be the issue... She's not spending time with you. Ask her to make time for both of you.
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im 13 im gothic weve been bffs forever im always goin over 2 his house hes my bff its just friends not bf gf his mom hates everything i do im not any different around him no1 thinks i am im not i do hug him but as friends we talk about everything even who we like anything she told him he can never date me hes said to try and act different for a week till his mom likes me but just around her we do go in his room he shuts his door i could understand his mom not likin tht but its just as friends but lately i love him alot he doesnt hav a dad only a mom and 3 brothers i never had a bf ive never kissed any1 and his mom shows she hates me what do i do HELP srry if its too long
The only help I can give you is this:
Don't change who you are. Not for a week, not for a day. Why? It would be a lie. It would be fake.
Be who you are, and be proud of that, no matter what anyone else thinks about it.
As for the whole door shutting thing, don't do it. Yah, you're just friends, but a boy and a girl behind closed doors is apt to make any parent displeased.
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I had an ultrasound image taken of my baby at about 13 weeks. Immediately after the picture was taken, I could see on the screen my baby flailing his arms and legs; and generally moving about in my womb. Did the picture taking impact upon him at all? I mean, did he know / feel the machine taking his picture? I am worried it might affect him adversely.
I promise, your baby flaps his arms and legs like that all of the time. Unless, of course, he's sleeping.
In fact, he will do just that until his living quarters start getting cramped. Once that happens, you'll feel him when he's moving (they move a lot when you lay down to rest/sleep) and you'll feel him when he is at rest/sleeping (generally when you're up and about- your movement rocks him to sleep).
Have no worries. It didn't affect him.
Unlike x-rays, they use sound waves. Your child isn't exposed to radiation.
Here is a link about it:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Obstetric_ultrasonography
ygs-30/f
Is it possible to be pregnant if you are spotting while on BCP? I had sex on my 3rd day on the pill and the condom slipped off. On the 8th day of me being on the pill I had unprotected sex. I am having some spotting. At least I think thats what it is. Ive been on the pill a week and a half already. I was wondering if your spotting, is it still possible to be pregnant?
Actually, pregnant women can experience spotting and bleeding. Trust me, I know.
I would say that you are likely not pregnant, but I don't know. The only thing you can do is wait it out, and if you become 2 weeks late for your next due period, take a test.
ygs-30/f
hello there
my brother in law met a girl online and he has been 1 year with her he is 26 and she is 21
he is inlove with her she lives in another country and she came and visit him once. his parents against this relation because she is not the right girl for him, she is from another religion , she is divorced (no kids), and lives in another country no one knows her past. she also works night shift job. i dont want him to marry her because i dont want her to enter the family. how can i stop this relation
Well, I know this isn't what you want to hear, BUT...
How is it his parents or your place to make this choice for him? What gives you the right?
Think about it- Would you want people telling you that you can't be with someone you love? I highly doubt that.
It's his life to live, like it or not. Let him live it. It's about HIS happiness, not his parents, not yours.
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At how many months can a doctor tell the sex of a baby? Also at how many months do women normally start to show? An answer to those or a timeline for pregnancy would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
Actually, a doctor can't tell the baby's sex until 16-20 weeks into the pregnancy. Been there, done that. Twice. Recently.
Whattoexpect.com is a great site for week by week pregnancy information.
Pregnancy isn't really figured by months. A doctor figures by weeks.
Depending on your body type, you can start showing around 4 months, or 12-16 weeks. If you are overweight, it would be later, depending on how overweight you are.
Anything else, feel free to ask me.
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Everytime that I try to help my sister with her baby, she yells at me if I do something wrong. Sometimes I just want to yell back at her and tell her all the things that she does wrong as a parent.Should I tell her how I feel? How should I do it if I do?
Don't criticize a mother.
We aren't perfect people, therefore we aren't perfect parents. I will admit, I will be learning how to be a mother for the rest of my life.
Instead of getting upset when she tells you that you are doing something wrong when it comes to the baby, LISTEN. You may learn something, which you will be thankful to know one day when you have children of your own.
If you want to tell her how you feel about something, tell her how you feel about her yelling at you. When people bark at you, it makes things harder because of frustration. But try to understand, she's probably frustrated herself, and that is likely why she yells.
Just don't criticize a mother.
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. He likes to watch pornos and jerk off to them every once in a while ..he says it will enhance our sex life because he can last longer in bed if he jerks off in between us having sex. I understand that, however, I am highly uncomfortable with him watching pornos. I have never liked it, and even though he does, the fact that hes cumming to another girl basically really just rubs me the wrong way. We've been arguing about it lately. Am I wrong??
Well, technically, it's not another girl. It's a figment of his imagination put on screen. Another girl is someone he'd have half a chance to be with in real life.
You're the one he wants to be with. Not a plasma screen.
Try to think of it that way.
Because, honestly, it's not worth fighting over.
Discussing feelings about it is one thing, but fighting about it does nothing but get you mad at one another, and get your blood pressure up.
Neither of those things are very healthy, are they?
It's not like said below me. He's not thinking those women are more attractive than you.
I'm not a guy, but I think it's not the women that he enjoys, but the actions going on before his very eyes.
It bothers you. That is not wrong. Try to sit down and civilly discuss it. Come to some sort of compromise that you can both live with.
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I have 3 brothers and im the only girl. And about ten years ago i was molested by my oldest brother and we was taken away to juvy then a group home. But when i was about 12 about 5 years ago he came to live with us because we were moving from california to florida and my dad didnt want to leave his son there but i wanted to. My dad thought he learned a lesson but he never did because he still kept doing it and now at my house here for almost 4 years i've had to use two locks so he wont get in. he's almost 22 and still lives with us. I feel like my dad loves him more because he never yells at him but always at me. I feel like my parents dont love me at all. My secong older brother has a girlfriend and i feel like my parents like her more by the way they treat her and the way they treat me. I just don't know what to do and im 17 about to star my senior year. And i just think that if my parents loved me my oldest brother wouldnt be living with us so that i wouldnt have to lock my door until i move out because hes almost 22 and doesnt have a life no girlfriend or friends at all. I just need help on what to do! Thanks.
You seriously need to talk to your parents. Seriously.
As a matter of fact, why don't you just show them this question you asked?
Your brother needs help. There's no two ways about that. Major help. Blunt and honest, this needs to be reported to the authorities. Whether you do it with your parents by your side, or do it on your own, it needs to be done. He is a sexual predator. He is abusing you. THAT IS WRONG. THAT IS A CRIME. Don't feel guilty or ashamed. It's not your fault that he does this. You are an innocent victim.
Your brother also needs to be kept out of YOUR home. PERIOD.
You're still just a kid. You are still a minor, you are your parents responsibility. They need to see to it that you are in a safe environment. THAT IS THEIR JOB.
Do they know that this is still going on? If not, you need to say something.
You shouldn't ever have to feel like a prisoner in your own home. EVER. All those locks on your door? That is being a prisoner in your own home. Period.
Say something, babe. Demand something be done about it. Don't take no for an answer.
It wouldn't hurt for you to seek counseling for this. Perhaps your parents should, too. Especially since they make you feel this way.
You don't deserve to feel this way.
ygs-30/f
i want to put a few video clips on my movie and they are under like with my picture files. so when i hit video to upload it, i find the file the videos are in and double click on it. its there, where i would drag it to the storyboard from but when i play it there is no sound, i know my camera recorded it with sound. it just plays the video. ive done it before where i have put video clips in with sound, i just dont remember what to do.
If you are talking Windows Movie Maker...
On the time line view, there is the place for pictures/video. Below that is a bar for audio. Right click on audio and make sure the sound isn't muted. If it isn't muted, click the volume control under the same menu, and make sure the volume is on.
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17/F My friend is a Jehovah's Witness and really tries to convert me. I am Jewish as in heritage, but I've come to the conclusion that I am fine without a religion. I don't need to be led and that's final. If I tell her I am content with my religious choices...will she still be my friend? or should I just continue to turn down invites to her congregation...I've been there before, so I have given it a try.
She's your friend, so you should be honest with her.
Really, if she's going to want to end your friendship over religious choices, then she's not really a good friend to begin with.
Just tell her that you respect her religion, but it's just not for you. Ask her to please give you the same courtesy by respecting yours.
ygs-30/f
me and my mom never get along i feel like she doesnt even care aboout me, like yesterday for instance i was sick and wasnt feelin good but did she care no. i wait on her hand and foot almost all the time when she was sick which is a lot but when i just asked her to get me one thing she said no she was to busy paying attention to her stupid cat who she acted like he was sick when he wasn.t and if i even moved she would be like, did she scare you im sorry to the cat. were not rich or anything but she cares more about that stupid cat than anyone else.also there was another time i was sick and i asked her to help me find the thermometerbut she was to busy watching tv so i had to find it myself when i was sick! please help!
also try not to tell me to talk to her cause she is very stubborn she usually laughs off anything i say to her like im joking or she makes it about her and also she thinks im just here to be her maid and to do all the chores in her house i had been out of the house for 4 days and right when i got home she gave me a list of chores to do like its normal.
and also im 19 but cannot afford to move out im still lookin for a job if that helps
Well, other than moving out or talking to her, the only thing you really can do is put up with it.
My boyfriend and i are ready to have sex, but I'm a little scared. He says he can get me birth control to take, and we would also use a condom, of course. I'm not worried about any diseases (we're clean). I'm only worried about getting pregnant. By using condoms and taking birth control, am I really at any risk?
Like S_C said, there is always a risk. With condoms and birth control, the risk is minimal.
You say he can get you birth control? He's going to pay for your doctor's visit and the prescription?
Don't take it if he just brings you pills- You have to have a doctor's prescription that is suited to YOUR body.
ygs-30/f
I've been trying to switch to more natural products lately, and was wondering about natural toothpastes, like Jason or Tom's of Maine.
Does anyone know how effective natural toothpastes are at preventing cavities, reducing plaque, etc.? These toothpastes are generally not approved by the ADA (American Dental Association), but even so, are they just as effective as a conventional toothpaste like Colgate? And for anyone who's tried a natural toothpaste, any comments? Thanks!
Ok, so I've never tried natural toothpaste, myself, but here's a link I found while searching "Green Toothpaste." It has some information you may find interesting, as well as a couple of brands towards the bottom:
http://www.greenlivingonline.com/HealthNutrition/the-world-of-toothpaste/
Here is a link that tells you how to make your own:
http://www.vegthreads.org/how-to-make-green-toothpaste/
ygs-30/f
Can anyone suggest a hair growth vitamin?
I'm trying to grow my hair out a lot longer, but my hair grows so slow. About 3 inches a year.
**EDIT** Just to add, I had never heard of the vitamins mentioned by the columnist above me, so I researched them. They are advertised for black/ethnic hair types.
If you are, everything I read everywhere said they were a good product. With all of the good reviews, I'd say there probably is no harm in trying them.
Just remember- If you are white, it probably wouldn't be wise to try it.
http://www.exoticallure.com/
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You'd be better off getting a vitamin enriched shampoo/conditioner. I use Garnier Fructis, . (I don't know if that's spelled right, but you know what I'm talking about...) I alternate between the Moisture Works and the Length and Strength.
To be honest with you, you can't make your hair grow faster. Sure, many products claim to be miracle products, but they aren't. They're just trying to make a buck.
My hair grows slow, too. This is what I do:
Use shampoo at a MINIMUM of every other day. Shampoo is as stripping agent. It strips all of the natural oils from your hair. Your hair needs some of those oils to be healthy. Shampoo will also dry your hair, causing breakage and split ends.
My aunt is a hair professional. She recently told me that you really only need to use shampoo on your roots and scalp. Saves on shampoo, and also saves the oils your hair needs.
I use a deep conditioning treatment once a week. Brand doesn't really matter. I use a John Freida product.
Trim those split ends! When you notice splits and breakage, get a trim. If your hair is splitting and breaking off, it's not going to grow out. All of the new growth at the scalp is just replacing all of the broken stuff.
No, you don't have to trim once a month. I trim about once a year, to be honest with you. No since in cutting what isn't damaged, right?
Have patience. That is key.
My hair is now 20 inches long. It has never been this long in my entire life. I'm going for at least 30 inches before I have it cut, and I'm donating 20 inches to Locks of Love.
Then I'll start the growing process all over again. ;-)
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13/f
i have always had a GREAT relationship with my older brother, 16, probably beacause i live a very long distance from him but hes pretty much like my best friend. hes always been able to get girls because of his looks and personality, and ive always gotten to know all of these girls because he wants me to. same way with me i always have a boyfriend, and he alwasy wants to talk to them and see how they are, but this past summer when i went to visit him, he had jsut gotten his liscense, and hes been able to drive me places and stuff. so we decided to go pick up his new girlfriend so i could meet her. shes very cute and pretty, but she treats him like crap! and i think he treats her really good and i think he deserves better. hes a GREAT person and when hes around her he just gets so stressed out and like he doesnt want to talk at all or ANYTHING. and normally when im hanging out with him and a different girlfriend he'll want me to hang out with them, but with her it seems like shes telling him, no i dont want her around, of course she doesnt say that but thats what it seems like. he just seems unhappy.
anyone have any advice?
OK, so if he's your best friend, why don't you express your feelings and concerns to him? I highly doubt you'll make him angry with you.
Don't be rude about it- Just say something along these lines, "Hey, look. Seems this girl doesn't treat you the way you deserve to be treated, and you want better than that for him."
ygs-30/f
Hello, im 14/female. Well, today is teen night at this one club, and im usually allowed to go, but right now im grounded.. And ive been really behaving lately and i just cleaned the house... How can i get my parents to let me go?! I need advice asap pleaseeeeee!!
Well, you could remind them of how well you've been doing, and ask that they give you this chance.
OR.
You could suck it up, accept your punishment, and stay grounded at home, which is really the mature thing to do.
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14/f
i've had my period for about 3 years now so i know that about a week before i get my period i have pms but mostly just cravings for food!!!
so lately i've been eating everything from ice cream to little mini eclairs. but like...a lot. i just crave it. CHOCOLATE
but lately i've been exercising a lot having soccer practice 4 times a week and sometimes even running a mile and a half after a slow practice.
i'm not quite sure if the craving is coming from my period or my practicing! can you help me here?
it'd be also soooo awesome if you could give me some great snacks that will settle my craving for chocolate but are also healthy enough that i can eat every day! not just chocolate..but sweets too.
thanks! i give beneficial feedback :)
Bypass the sugars in chocolate for the natural sugars in fresh fruits. Whether it's a PMS craving, or your exercised body craving the sweets, natural sugars are the best way to go.
If you feel you really can't pass up that chocolate craving, try some chocolate milk. Of course, that's not natural sugars, but at least you're getting a serving of calcium out of it.
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