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my older brother's new girlfriend
13/f
i have always had a GREAT relationship with my older brother, 16, probably beacause i live a very long distance from him but hes pretty much like my best friend. hes always been able to get girls because of his looks and personality, and ive always gotten to know all of these girls because he wants me to. same way with me i always have a boyfriend, and he alwasy wants to talk to them and see how they are, but this past summer when i went to visit him, he had jsut gotten his liscense, and hes been able to drive me places and stuff. so we decided to go pick up his new girlfriend so i could meet her. shes very cute and pretty, but she treats him like crap! and i think he treats her really good and i think he deserves better. hes a GREAT person and when hes around her he just gets so stressed out and like he doesnt want to talk at all or ANYTHING. and normally when im hanging out with him and a different girlfriend he'll want me to hang out with them, but with her it seems like shes telling him, no i dont want her around, of course she doesnt say that but thats what it seems like. he just seems unhappy.
anyone have any advice?
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It doesn't sound to me like he's the one who is unhappy. If he was, he wouldn't be dating her. It sounds like you are the one that is unhappy, because she doesn't want you around as much as his previous girlfriends did.
This is not a problem. To be honest, it is her perogative. If your brother thinks she is important enough to date, then you should respect that.
This is his relationship, not yours.
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First I just wanna say that it's really really nice that you have such a close relationship with your brother like that. It's nice that he likes letting you in on that part of his life, most older brothers wouldn't. But because he is like that, I think that might make it even easier for you to tell him that you don't like the way she is treating him. If he treats any girl like he treats you, then he definitley doesn't desreve that. I think you should just let him know how much you care and that you don't think she's the right one for him. But make sure to let him know this in a way that he knows you're saying it with good reason and because you want to see the best for him. Plus, if he always wants you to meet his gf (and vice-versa) to see how they are, he probably would value your opinion over anyone elses. So let him know! Cuz he deserves better than that. And I hope the best for him and for you =).
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OK, so if he's your best friend, why don't you express your feelings and concerns to him? I highly doubt you'll make him angry with you.
Don't be rude about it- Just say something along these lines, "Hey, look. Seems this girl doesn't treat you the way you deserve to be treated, and you want better than that for him."
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