christina's advice column | Page 219

home view feedback ask questions add as friend advicenators

Website:

Gender:

Female

Location:

716

Occupation:

SAHM

Age:

27

Member Since:

February 1, 2006

Answers:

6717

Last Update:

August 9, 2018

Visitors:

297720

Favorite Columnists

Main Categories:

about

I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

im a 13/f and i have never kissed a boy in my life. I have never even gone out with a boy in my life. I have wavy brown hair and am about 5'4 with an athletic figure. I want to know if theres somthing wrong with me and why i cant get a bf. plz help me

There's nothing wrong with you. Most people don't get kissed until 16 or even older than that. And some people don't get a boyfriend or a girlfriend for a while. So there's nothing wrong with you. Just be patient & someone will come.

what do guys look for in a girl?

high school guys?

and senior guys?

and if your not the prettiest rose in the bunch, then what will make a guy go out with you?

Every guy is different. Some are shallow & go for looks. Some go for personality. It all depends on the guy. But most guys like a pretty girl who's smart & has a good sense of humor. But if you're a stuck up bitch, they're not gonna want you; even if you're beautiful. No guy wants to be with a girl who thinks she's hot shit when she's not.

i need the names of these peachcake songs i have some of the lyrics but i dont the names.
-with her shifting all is wrong i remember your along....
-everytime everytime i everytime im around you i feel so...
thanks i also would like to know the name of that emo song that starts out dear diary mood apathetic my life is a spiraling....

Use google to search their lyrics.

whats wrong with me? honestly im a fun person positive, i have so many friends and lot of them guys too...but why cant someone just seem to find me attractive enough to date me or want something more!!????

Boys aren't everything, and neither is being liked. Yeah, it's nice to be liked & have a boyfriend, but it's not the main thing you should focus on.

Just flirt with people, and smile a lot. If people still don't like you, that's their problem, but don't think it's you because it's more than likely them.

how can i get hair like hers?
http://www.ratemybody.com/extraPics/m/ma/ManEater7_2885407.jpg

what products, and step by step instructions please? :)

Take the picture to the hairdresser & she'll do what's done to her head on your's. And she'll tell you how to keep it looking that way.

I'm not sure how to do it myself, but that's the best I can say.

What is the balanced chemical equation to this unbalanced chemical equation?

CaO + H2O -> Ca(OH)2

Anyone got a clue?

It's already balanaced.

Hey my girlfriedn and i we want to try to do sex but we already tried 3 times and she bleedss a lot its that normal? how can she do to stop the bleed?

First, wear a condom. You don't want a baby. I don't know how old you are, but you sound young.

Second, you're just popping her cherry. It's normal for a girl to bleed. If she keeps bleeding though, she might wanna see a doctor for that.

The contueination qeastion from: If we do get together ...now what?

Here is the letter i sent her two months ago:

Do you rememeber two years ago when I spoke to you at the park, i told you how i felt about you. after that i wrote you a note at school asking why you seem okay with it? You still didn't respond, I still will like to know.
I'm not asking you out this is between two best friends please write back if you want.

Now does this sounds like i was aking her out?
to me it doesnt but
if someone send you this letter and all they want to know WHY you seem okay with me liking you what will your respons be?

thats what i want to know from her, thats why i'm wondering "ummm maybe she does like me back and afriad to say it" thats what is bothering me.
so do you think the resone why she didnt tell me is cause she might like me?

I don't think it sounds like you're asking her out, just looking for an answer as to why she was okay with you liking her.

If someone asked me why I was okay with them liking me, I'd tell them exactly why. I don't really have a response because no one has ever asked me that before.

As for your friend, she could like you, or just be blown away. She might not know what to say so she doesn't say anything to you at all. Probably just her way of dealing. Give her some more time [though you've given her more than enough] and she'll come around.

15
Female

today i just found out that a guy i liked last year liked me back and he asked me out. i said yes, because i felt i wanted a boyfreind and i thought i liked him alot. of course 20 minutes later my concience caught up with me and i started doubting my liking for him and now im scared i dont like him at all. he's a really good guy and im scared im going to lose him if i tell him about it. last year my boyfriend and i broke up and it took me a long time to get over it and i just don't want to get hurt again... i dont know if i should tell him or just go on a date with him and see if i really like him. im not sure. also i havnt told my family yet because they always make fun of me for having a boyfreind.

what should i do!?

Stop thinking about it so much. Go out on a date, see if you really like him. If you don't, then you need to break up with him ASAP because if you don't, you'd just be leading him on & making him believe a lie, and he'd only get hurt worse in the end.

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=176423191
kay like this is my myspace.. um do i look cute? check the pictures

You asked this to me already, but yeah, you're pretty.

I'm a women age 20 i've been with two men in my teen life, i found out i was bi in the age 18. i hated it and i wish i never had feelings for my best friend. we both knew each other for 7 years, and i've always had feelings for her. in our senior year at high school i told her that i liked her, but i didnt want a relationship with her if she had the same feelings. she didnt respond but was shocked. i worte her a note the next day telling her why she seem alright with my likings to her, she didnt write back. for the whoile five years i ignor my feelings, we still hang out and we both have a great time with each other. but lately i see her flirting with me, laugh at every joke i say, leans on me for no reson and she loves teasing me.(she told me that)

i ask my guy friend about this and he said she might like you. she trun down three men who ask her out, she came to me and told me. then i wrote a note telling her my feelings are still strong with her. she didnt write back but she called me at midnight. (she never did that before in my life i know her) we talk for two hours but not about the note.

everyone says to me to talk to her faca to face and tell her about my feelings.

but my qeastion is: If we do get together now what?

we are both women and best friends, if she wants to be with me will it last? what if we break up will we still be friends?

i dont want that and i want to tell her i dont want to be with you if she says "yes I luv to be with you."but i'll crush her if i did.

but if she say no I'll be happy but mad if she with some guy and not me. we both need to talk about this i know.

but heres my 2nd qeastion :did this ever happen to you? were you still friends? explain to me please. Want her to say no but i know i wont ge over her plaese help me.

I've only had one relationship with a girl before. We were friends before, not close or anything, but good friends. We went out for almost a year, and we're still good friends now that we're not together. She's got a boyfriend, and he's awesome. I'm single, and it's going okay.

If you like her, you can't tell her in a note like you have been doing. It's best to tell her face to face. With a note, there will be no response, so it's best if you tell her to her face & see what happens. If you're unsure about her liking you, then you need to ask her. Asking other people isn't an option because other people might not even know when people like them, so it'd be diffucult for someone else to judge.

If you do go out, then just hang out a ton, & do what people who date do. Go places together, cuddle, & all that other stuff. And if you do happen to break up, remain friends. If she doesn't like you back, that's cool. Stay friends with her, but don't let it bug you. Not everyone is going to like you back, and I'm pretty sure you know that. If it's not meant to me, it won't happen. If she says no, don't give up. I mean, you can still have feelings for her, but until she decides to come around [if she ever does], then don't say anything to her about being more than friends. She might resort to feeling pressured. Just stay friends if she doesn't like you, and if she does, go out. If you ever break up, still stay friends because it's silly to throw away a friendship; especially a really good one. Good luck!

Ok.I'm basically not skinny. I've tryed EVERYTHING to get it to go away. I've done dieting, but I keep on braking them, and I'm already in about 1 thosand sports. So I'm thinking about only eating lunch and a little dinner everyday, but I don't know how bad that is for me. Like for lunch, a salad, orange juice (which is nasty), and for dinner maybe only an apple. So should I do it or not? Plus, I need to know if I should do it or not, what should I do?

You'll lose weight, become unhealthy & possibly give yourself an eating disorder.

Just drink water, cut back on the junk, and exercise.

i saw your answer on some other persons question so i wanna know do u think im pretty?

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=176423191 thats my myspace and im 13 too

Yeah, you're pretty.

okay okay okay okay okay on youtube, there is this
video, i know it, it's like, ernie & bert are married, but
bert keeps yelling at ernie or visa versa & like, they like
smoked & drank. can someone PLEASE send me the
link? i will love you FOREVER!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qo4EryVVX_M

There you go. And it's kind of ironic because I always knew that rubber duckie had two daddies.

For advicers who were featured or if you know for sure, how do you know if you're featured? do you get an email telling you?

No, but you see that you're a featured columnist on the main page. You could always send an email to dangernerd with that suggestion & see what he has to say.

dangernerd@gmail.com

very long sry >> my boyfriend is pretty amazing and i do like him a lot. he was one of my good friends before we went out. i like being with him, and he makes me happy. but lately he acts like hes only in it for the hookup. he doesnt do anything sweet for me, and girls are all over him, and i dunno, i just have a problem trusting him. to make things worse hes the player-type. i dont trust him very much...he\'s lied to me about things before, and he told another girl he was interested in her when i had confidence and trust in him in the fact that he would be faithful to me. he acted like it was no big deal but it was important to me. he tells me hes in love with me and i actually believe him even though i dont feel the same way. but ive come to realize that he doesnt act like hes in love with me. i dont want to drop him but i also find my mind wandering back to the guy i should be with, my ex. hes the sweetest guy i know and he makes me happy without even trying. im still in love with him and i cant just drop my guy for him, but that doesnt mean i dont want to. im worried about my boyfriends feelings and im also worried about my commitment to my boyfriend. but i really dont know what to do. i think im with the wrong guy, but i like him a lot and i like being with him...i liked being friends better though. and i also really love my ex. but i feel disloyal to my boyfriend because of that, especially because i got mad at him for basically the same thing. [telling the other girl he was interested in her] and i also get jealous really easily and idk if i will be able to handle seeing my current boyfriend with a new girl , because god knows they will flock to him if i drop him :[ oh please helppp lol:]

If your boyfriend isn't commited to you, why should you be commited back? It doesn't sound or even seem right to me. If he plays you & acts like it's okay, leave him. You don't have to put up with it; no girl does. Leave him & go back to your ex if you're still in love with him. Your boyfriend probably won't be hurt anyways especially because he's a player. Usually when you dump them, they find a new girl & bounce back instantly. Don't worry about him. Do what you need to do.

my 3 year anniversary with my bf kyle is coming up very soon. i want to do something special and non sexual. im only 17 and want to remain a virgin. he isn't but waits for me. i just don't know what to do for it, and what to give him. i was thinking about having sex, but i want to wait till we get married, or at least live together. but i was thinking about moving forward. we have only used our hands, but i was thinking about more than that but less than sex, it's hard for me to say it but... head. how do i do that and please him at that same time.

If you want to make your boyfriend happy, but are not ready to do anything sexual, then don't. Just make him a nice dinner & throw a scrapbook of you & him together. He'd like that. He'd like sex more, but if you're not ready, don't go through with it because you'll more than likely regret it.

ok well i started my period today and i dont have any pads. i have one to last me about half of another day. well i mean my parents are divorced and i live with my dad. i am afriad to tell him but that is the only way i can get pads. if i tell my mom then she might tell my dad. i dont want him to know so plzz give me advice on what to do (how to get pads without him knowin.)

Ask a friend. And you're gonna have to tell your dad sometime hun. I mean, when you get new bras, you're gonna have to ask your dad to take you to get them. Same as when you have cramps & you need him to get you Midol. Trust me, it seems weird cause he's your dad, but you're gonna have to do it sometime. Just tell him now & get it over with. It's not like he's gonna be like "OMFG MY DAUGHTER HAS HER PERIOD. COOTIES OMFG." He's gonna be cool about it. Just tell him.

I'm currently just a friend to this guy.
He's sweet and thougtful. I told him once I realy like him, but he never responded on that subject. I can't tell he likes me or not. (He kissed me twice....)

When I write emails or txt msg to him, he will respond right the way,(I like that) but he usually just rwspond my question, not really asking me question (almost it seems doesn't matter to him).
If I asked him out, he will usually says yes, but 3 out of 5, he will cancel it or come out some kind of excuse that he can't make it.

I'm confused. Does he like me or not?

He probably does like you since he texts you & kisses you.

Ask him to be your boyfriend.

my bff and i cant see eachother because his mom doesnt like me. im 13 hes 12 in 2 months hes 13. hes a prep im i goth but were still bffs. and we kinda love eachother and my longest enemie told everyone. everyone is against us. all our friends because a prep and goth as bffs or bf gf. his family because i wear black and scare his youngest brother. my family because they just dont like anything I EVEN DO. his oldest brother first said for his parents to leave us alone but he saw my piczo now hes like why do you like that whore! it used to be fine us together but its just as bffs. IM NOT like extremely gothic i wear jeans or black or red or purple skirts or both I DO NOT EVEN WEAR the gothic pants. yes i love them but no one will let me wear them or even leave me alone about my fucked up life! i wear any shirts. I DONT GET IT! EVERY ONE IS AGAINST ME AND AGAINST US. probly mainly because of me. everyone hates how i dress and what i do. my piczo is kinda creepy to other people but its what i like. only he understands me. hes the only one that kept me living all these years. because i didnt want to hurt him if i killed myself. his parents dont even know about my life only what i look like my music and my piczo. they have no idea about suicide or me cursing or even my personality either side of me. his mom started it then his older brother only made it worse. i used to be great friends with his brother till he met the real me. my bffs is starting to go gothic at first it was to piss off his family but now from all that happened he is. i even tried changing for them but it dosnt work its my personality. i do not even show my real self in front of anyone but him. hes all i got and all i want and all i need. id do anything for him and hed do it for me. whats wrong with everybody. HIS PARENTS ARE STEREOTYPING PEOPLE NOW!!! what do i do how do i change it omfg please help me.

I'm gonna give you two serious life lessons in my answer:

[1] Don't change for anyone except yourself. If people don't like you the way you are -- that's THEIR problem, NOT your's. If they don't like you, cool. If they do, even cooler. Either way, still get the recommended amount of sleep each night. And trust me. When you change for yourself, it's better. Don't change for anyone. If you were to change for someone, you'd be fake. And if you want to change FOR YOU, then do it. But if it's for someone else, stay the way you are. Only you can change you, nobody else.

[2] Live with yourself. Stop caring what people think about you. This ties into lesson number one. If people don't like you for you & cannot accept who you are, what your personality is like, how you dress or the music you listen to, then you're already better than they are, and you don't need to associate with them. I honestly do not care what people think of me. If they like me, that's nice. If they don't, that's cool cause I probably don't like them either. With the way I think [not caring], people don't get to me. If someone doesn't like me, it doesn't bother me and I go on with my day. They know they don't intimidate me, and it's cool because they will never bother me.

So all in all, if people don't like you, don't change for them & brush it off your shoulders. Don't let it bother you because if you do, they're just gonna keep doing it. My life is pretty happy because of the things I do. People talk about me and call me names all the time but I don't feed into it. Hopefully you can do the same. Keep listening to your music, keep up with your personality, keep up with the way you dress, & keep looking the way you do. You're 13 years old. Your teenage years are about finding yourself anyways. You probably won't be goth forever. And if so, that's cool. But don't change because someone obviously likes you.

<<< Previous Advice Column

Next Advice Column >>>