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If we do get together...now what?
I'm a women age 20 i've been with two men in my teen life, i found out i was bi in the age 18. i hated it and i wish i never had feelings for my best friend. we both knew each other for 7 years, and i've always had feelings for her. in our senior year at high school i told her that i liked her, but i didnt want a relationship with her if she had the same feelings. she didnt respond but was shocked. i worte her a note the next day telling her why she seem alright with my likings to her, she didnt write back. for the whoile five years i ignor my feelings, we still hang out and we both have a great time with each other. but lately i see her flirting with me, laugh at every joke i say, leans on me for no reson and she loves teasing me.(she told me that)
i ask my guy friend about this and he said she might like you. she trun down three men who ask her out, she came to me and told me. then i wrote a note telling her my feelings are still strong with her. she didnt write back but she called me at midnight. (she never did that before in my life i know her) we talk for two hours but not about the note.
everyone says to me to talk to her faca to face and tell her about my feelings.
but my qeastion is: If we do get together now what?
we are both women and best friends, if she wants to be with me will it last? what if we break up will we still be friends?
i dont want that and i want to tell her i dont want to be with you if she says "yes I luv to be with you."but i'll crush her if i did.
but if she say no I'll be happy but mad if she with some guy and not me. we both need to talk about this i know.
but heres my 2nd qeastion :did this ever happen to you? were you still friends? explain to me please. Want her to say no but i know i wont ge over her plaese help me.
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I've only had one relationship with a girl before. We were friends before, not close or anything, but good friends. We went out for almost a year, and we're still good friends now that we're not together. She's got a boyfriend, and he's awesome. I'm single, and it's going okay.
If you like her, you can't tell her in a note like you have been doing. It's best to tell her face to face. With a note, there will be no response, so it's best if you tell her to her face & see what happens. If you're unsure about her liking you, then you need to ask her. Asking other people isn't an option because other people might not even know when people like them, so it'd be diffucult for someone else to judge.
If you do go out, then just hang out a ton, & do what people who date do. Go places together, cuddle, & all that other stuff. And if you do happen to break up, remain friends. If she doesn't like you back, that's cool. Stay friends with her, but don't let it bug you. Not everyone is going to like you back, and I'm pretty sure you know that. If it's not meant to me, it won't happen. If she says no, don't give up. I mean, you can still have feelings for her, but until she decides to come around [if she ever does], then don't say anything to her about being more than friends. She might resort to feeling pressured. Just stay friends if she doesn't like you, and if she does, go out. If you ever break up, still stay friends because it's silly to throw away a friendship; especially a really good one. Good luck!
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Yes this did happen to me with my first boyfriend, and we're still friends, and he's now dating my other good friend. As long as it's a mutual break up, then it should be fine.
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You need to talk to her to her face. She can always ignore, or throw out a note, but face to face you can't get away from it. If she does feel the same way, you should try for a romantic relationship. It would be dificult to be best friends when you know you're both in love with each other, which could in fact hurt your relationship as friends. If she doesn't feel the same way, and you do not purse a romantic relationship, then things should be fine, she already knows about your feelings from your notes, so there should be no more shock to her about this.
i can't tell you if it's going to last, but it never will last if you don't try.
hope i was of some help
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