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everyones against my bff and i
my bff and i cant see eachother because his mom doesnt like me. im 13 hes 12 in 2 months hes 13. hes a prep im i goth but were still bffs. and we kinda love eachother and my longest enemie told everyone. everyone is against us. all our friends because a prep and goth as bffs or bf gf. his family because i wear black and scare his youngest brother. my family because they just dont like anything I EVEN DO. his oldest brother first said for his parents to leave us alone but he saw my piczo now hes like why do you like that whore! it used to be fine us together but its just as bffs. IM NOT like extremely gothic i wear jeans or black or red or purple skirts or both I DO NOT EVEN WEAR the gothic pants. yes i love them but no one will let me wear them or even leave me alone about my fucked up life! i wear any shirts. I DONT GET IT! EVERY ONE IS AGAINST ME AND AGAINST US. probly mainly because of me. everyone hates how i dress and what i do. my piczo is kinda creepy to other people but its what i like. only he understands me. hes the only one that kept me living all these years. because i didnt want to hurt him if i killed myself. his parents dont even know about my life only what i look like my music and my piczo. they have no idea about suicide or me cursing or even my personality either side of me. his mom started it then his older brother only made it worse. i used to be great friends with his brother till he met the real me. my bffs is starting to go gothic at first it was to piss off his family but now from all that happened he is. i even tried changing for them but it dosnt work its my personality. i do not even show my real self in front of anyone but him. hes all i got and all i want and all i need. id do anything for him and hed do it for me. whats wrong with everybody. HIS PARENTS ARE STEREOTYPING PEOPLE NOW!!! what do i do how do i change it omfg please help me.
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wow, thats an intense situation for someone your age. i can't imagine all what youve been through. just dont give up. never let down, as my big bro always says. people are stereotypical. you cant really change that fact. its awful but almost everyone is a complete moron. if you love this kid, you cant let anyone come between you. which is obv a hard thing to do since parents control so much of theyre childrens lives. just dont loose touch. do you go to the same school as he does? and as for his parents i would try to somehow show that just because you look different, you can be responsible. thats a difficult thing to do when all you want to do is punch them in the face haha, but it could help your stat a little. if people look at you different you cant help that. i usually just brush it off. or laugh. or sometimes i say 'boo'. haha. but really what is normal. THERE IS NO NORMAL. dont let anyone convince you to change. you change if you wanna change. but it doesnt sound like you do. no one can force you to be someone else. try to look on the bright side, you have someone who cares for you and you care for them. thats whats great. thats something not many people actually have. i really hope i helped and if you wanna talk my aim is solightninglove and i actually have a piczo its "[Link](Mouse over link to see full location);
xxx - good luck - sara
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I'm gonna give you two serious life lessons in my answer:
[1] Don't change for anyone except yourself. If people don't like you the way you are -- that's THEIR problem, NOT your's. If they don't like you, cool. If they do, even cooler. Either way, still get the recommended amount of sleep each night. And trust me. When you change for yourself, it's better. Don't change for anyone. If you were to change for someone, you'd be fake. And if you want to change FOR YOU, then do it. But if it's for someone else, stay the way you are. Only you can change you, nobody else.
[2] Live with yourself. Stop caring what people think about you. This ties into lesson number one. If people don't like you for you & cannot accept who you are, what your personality is like, how you dress or the music you listen to, then you're already better than they are, and you don't need to associate with them. I honestly do not care what people think of me. If they like me, that's nice. If they don't, that's cool cause I probably don't like them either. With the way I think [not caring], people don't get to me. If someone doesn't like me, it doesn't bother me and I go on with my day. They know they don't intimidate me, and it's cool because they will never bother me.
So all in all, if people don't like you, don't change for them & brush it off your shoulders. Don't let it bother you because if you do, they're just gonna keep doing it. My life is pretty happy because of the things I do. People talk about me and call me names all the time but I don't feed into it. Hopefully you can do the same. Keep listening to your music, keep up with your personality, keep up with the way you dress, & keep looking the way you do. You're 13 years old. Your teenage years are about finding yourself anyways. You probably won't be goth forever. And if so, that's cool. But don't change because someone obviously likes you.
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listen to them, the most important people in the world are your friends, if you don't listen to them and you base what you do on your boyfriends, and your boyfriend brakes up with you...now what?
Listen to your friends, straight up ask them whats wrong with him, and then go from there, and get their opinions.
if you dont like their opinions, tell them, simple. and then share yours and if they dont like them then talk about it.
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Just dont pay attention to them. your bf likes you and thats all you should care about. Let his parents stereo type you prove to them that your not as bad as they think and prove to everyone else. Dont worry about the people at your school either and i know thats really hard not to do but just wait until high school there will be a lot more people that will understand you and then your life will just get better from there. But never give up because once you give up your life is over
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