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so heres my story...
very long sry >> my boyfriend is pretty amazing and i do like him a lot. he was one of my good friends before we went out. i like being with him, and he makes me happy. but lately he acts like hes only in it for the hookup. he doesnt do anything sweet for me, and girls are all over him, and i dunno, i just have a problem trusting him. to make things worse hes the player-type. i dont trust him very much...he\'s lied to me about things before, and he told another girl he was interested in her when i had confidence and trust in him in the fact that he would be faithful to me. he acted like it was no big deal but it was important to me. he tells me hes in love with me and i actually believe him even though i dont feel the same way. but ive come to realize that he doesnt act like hes in love with me. i dont want to drop him but i also find my mind wandering back to the guy i should be with, my ex. hes the sweetest guy i know and he makes me happy without even trying. im still in love with him and i cant just drop my guy for him, but that doesnt mean i dont want to. im worried about my boyfriends feelings and im also worried about my commitment to my boyfriend. but i really dont know what to do. i think im with the wrong guy, but i like him a lot and i like being with him...i liked being friends better though. and i also really love my ex. but i feel disloyal to my boyfriend because of that, especially because i got mad at him for basically the same thing. [telling the other girl he was interested in her] and i also get jealous really easily and idk if i will be able to handle seeing my current boyfriend with a new girl , because god knows they will flock to him if i drop him :[ oh please helppp lol:]
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If your boyfriend isn't commited to you, why should you be commited back? It doesn't sound or even seem right to me. If he plays you & acts like it's okay, leave him. You don't have to put up with it; no girl does. Leave him & go back to your ex if you're still in love with him. Your boyfriend probably won't be hurt anyways especially because he's a player. Usually when you dump them, they find a new girl & bounce back instantly. Don't worry about him. Do what you need to do.
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Lets face it: You don't trust your boyfriend, he's a "player", he doesn't seem to put much into the relationship, he doesn't care about your feelings, you feel like you're with the wrong guy, you liked the friendship better, you're feeling insecure....
& on the other hand: Your ex makes you happy & you're still in love with him.
You know which guy is right for you, but you're too afraid to admit it. You're too afraid to make the right decision & be happy when it comes down to it.
From what you just told us, it's pretty clear you should be with your ex. You can't be in a relationship where there's no trust & when you are in truly in love with someone else. Your boyfriend doesn't seem that great, so don't be an idiot & settle for less than you deserve. Reevaluate your situation & make the right decision.
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From what I have seen it seems you are actually not certain what it is you want. Firstly though I know you said you don't want to just drop your bf because of his feelings (and I'm guessing about how he wouldfeelif you did) but I must say that if you are with him just because you don't want to hurt him then it will not get any easier for you the longer that you leave it and will only make it harder on him also.
What had happen with your ex? Was it him who broke up with you or the other way around?
This is a sticky little situation and there's no real easy fix. You should take some time out to yourself to think about exactly what it is you want (or who it is you want). If you feel you are in a relationship which is not going anywhere then by all means you should move on because it would not be fair on your boyfriend or on you. It would be hard to see your boyfriend with someone else afterwards (I have been there myself too) but that is something that will work both ways - it may also be hard for him to see you with someone else afterwards too. It will just be something that will be unavoidable and you will need to try to deal with.
Sorry I am not much more help on this but I hope you manage to sort out what it is you want. The choice here really is yours and what it is you want because you can't really have it both ways. I wish you the best of luck in your choice.
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