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I feel like an outsider sometimes with this. Like I absolutely love death metal, heavy metal, and various other kinds of metal. Then I can deeply enjoy country, pop, punk, and rap. I like everything and people call me weird because I like metal, like Chimaira and In Flames kinda metal, then switch the song to pop like Taylor Swift, or Katy Perry.

Is this weird? What do you think?

It's fine. You just have an eclectic taste in music - like a lot of people (they just don't always admit it) :P

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17/f - I need some fun girl games for my iPod touch. I have sallys spa. Anybody know any other good ones?

Girl wars? It's a multi player online game.

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How do I give good head?

By asking him how he likes it and practice.

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Hey, I need a VERY cute outfit to wear to school what should i wear. Its gonmna be sunny (aka i live in southern cali.)

If it's sunny, wear something to keep you cool, yet still be practical enough for school (not showing off too much flesh).
Example:
Jean shorts and a colourful vest top, with nice sandles or flats, complete with accessories (belt, etc)
Maybe exchange the shorts for a summery skirt.
Wear leggings/footless tights underneath either for a different look.
I've been buying a lot of vest tops lately, as they come in every colour and pattern under the sun.. and they're cheap! You can mix and match them with everything and can dress them up or down.

Have fun experimenting :)

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i accidently washed my ipod in the washer and heard it clanking in the drier. is there any way it will work again?

Probably not, hun.
You could just make sure it's totally dried out then try it again, but the outcome doesn't look too good.

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I'm a 14-year-old girl. As I was leaving school the other day, I was walking with a casual male friend. As we were talking, he developed a
very large, very obvious erection. I was so embarrassed for him! I pretended not to notice, and didn't say anything, but he seemed
mortified, and left in a hurry. What should I have done?

Nothing.
You handled the situation normally.
He's a teenage boy. It happens.

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i'm 18 years old and i'm a virgin. i've been seeing this guy for a while and we have done everything except sex. i have done everything except sex with other guys before too, but now i want to actually go further. the only thing is that i'm sure sure if he knows im a virgin or not and i think that is something he should know. i just don't know how to bring up that topic without it being awkward. do you have any ideas of how to bring it up to him? i don't want to just blurt it out ya know? thanks!

Well if you're wanting to go further with him, you should be totally comfortable talking to him about it.
Next time you 2 do things, afterwards, bring up the topic of you going further and see what he says - then let him know you're a bit nervous because you haven't done it before.
You could even say something along the lines of "I want you to be my first" - that's pretty self explanatory and he will be happy that you made that decision.
Stop worrying about telling him and just do it, in any way which makes you feel the most comfortable - face to face, even a txt message if you guys get onto that topic via sms :)

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i really want a cartilage piercing but im really scared of a couple things ...
1. does it hurt when they put the needle through??
and does it hurt ALOT after wards
2. does it get caught in your hair or clothes?
3. how long does it take to heal and how long b4 i can change it ..some ppl say it take 1 year to fully heal is that true?

thankss in advance :)
julia

*Make sure it's done with a needle - it's quicker, safer and heals faster, because a gun just rips through.

1. Focus on your breathing. If you breathe in as you get pierced, it's not half as bad! It doesn't hurt that much, just feels like a quick pinch. Then it will throb (no pain) for a while after.

2 Depends what you're pierced with. Just be wary when you pull things over your head and when you sleep. If you catch it, it'll hurt a little bit but it'll soon go off.

3. A year to be safe, but everyone is different! Listen to your piercer.

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does the term "mutual masturbation" usually refer to both people doing it to each other at the same time or to themselves side by side?

http://www.teensadvisor.com/teen-dating/mutual-masturbation.html

" Mutual masturbation is when two or more persons touch, caress, massage or stroke the genitals of each other, usually with the goal of producing pleasure and orgasm. Sometimes this takes place as part of 'heavy petting' between a couple, but it can also occur between one or more friends. When it occurs between friends it is more often than not done with a same-sex friend, usually without there being 'romance' involved. Mutual masturbation does occasionally happen between two people who do not know each other. For the purpose of this discussion, two or more people masturbating together or in a group, but with each person only masturbating themselves, does not equate to 'mutual masturbation' and the risks/benefits would be the same as masturbation alone."

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18/f.

My boyfriend and I are going to Las Vegas tomorrow, and we're going to be there until the 16th. However, I have no one to watch my hamster. :(

Is it okay if I bring her? There's no one I can leave her with, and I can't possibly leave her alone for four days. :(

Any ideas? Thanks!

Depends on the hotel, ask them.

Why can't you leave her alone for 4 days? Is it because you'll miss her or afraid she'll die?

I have 2 dwarf hamsters and I've left them alone.. I just make sure I leave enough food (don't forget they store food in hiding places and their cheeks anyway)and fill the water bottle.
If the hotel says no, clean the cage before you go and when you come home and make sure there's activities for her to do in there.. she'll be fine, I promise!

Have fun in Las Vegas. :)

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Mae (pronounced May, just a cooler spelling), Rena, Lynette, Jesirae, Amira, Kiara, Lena, Kaylee, Amina, Rose, Anissa, Liliana, Arabelle, Lilibeth, Ayla, Nikia, Ciana

Mae and Lilibeth.
Mae because it's got a twist on a normal name and Lilibeth because I've never really heard it before and it's rather cute. A few of the rest just seem like attempts at trying to be original but failing. :P

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K, soo a few days ago my bf fingered me for the 1st time and it was the 1st time I've ever done anything sexual like that w/ a guy. So I tried to return the favor (if you catch my drift?) but I started and stopped after about 10-15 seconds because I freaked out. Like I thought I was doing it wrong and I got scared.

Is that normal? How do I get over my nerves and fears and just do it?

Oh and I told him I was really really sorry that I didn't do it and how I thought it was unfair, and he told me it was completely fine, and did it to me 2 more times that night.

From a guys point of veiw, is it like a turn off or something if you do it for a girl and she doesn't rtf? Or do some guys really not care much?

Don't dwell on it, it was your first time. Also, make sure you're 100% ready to be doing that to him.

ASK your boyfriend how he likes it as you do it (faster/slower/harder/softer) and with a bit of practice, you'll get used to how he likes it and you won't worry too much at the time.

and whether not returning the favour is a turn off depends on the guy. Yours clearly doesn't mind, so there's no need to think like that.

Remember, practice makes perfect. Have fun!

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nineteen, female (:

okay so everytime me and this guy hang out he always triese to go down my pants.

i've never been fingered before, but i have heard that when a guy fingers you, its for YOUR pleasure, not the guys.

does this mean that he cares about me? i mean he NEVER has asked me to give him a blow job or hand job or anything of that sort.

he just always tries to do things, to me. is this a good sign?

He cares about you so he has to show you that by trying to push his luck and touch you?
Are you even in a relationship with him?
How do YOU feel about it? If he does it, would you feel used?
You shouldn't care what we think, it's all about you.
but from alot of experience, I wouldn't say it's a good sign from the information you've given.. "everytime me and this guy hang out he always tries to go down my pants" to me, that just says he wants some action. Yeah, you might be getting the pleasure from it, but I'm sure he will have fun telling his mates, etc etc, if you get what I'm saying.
You're 19 and I think it's good you haven't done that before, but don't be naive and just give it to anyone. Think it through and think how YOU will feel when it happens.

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when you're giving a guy a hand job, do you use your other hand to cover the tip when he ejaculates? what do you do to not get it everywhere?

Do whatever suits you. Catch it with the hand you're using as he starts to ejaculate (or your other hand) or have tissue at the ready.
It't not gonna get messy if you're prepared - have him tell you when he's about to cum.

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my bf and i just had a reaaaaaaaaally rough breakup. we havent spoken in about a week 1/2, and earlier i tried to IM him, making peace, i guess. and he never responded.

i know we probably wont get back together, but i couldnt stand it if we werent at least friends. how long should i give it before i just give up? i dont want to, but i know eventually ill have to. he doesnt seem to have any interest to even talk to me. not even through a computer. what should i do?

Hun, you 2 only just broke up and talking to you is probably going to end up hurting him right now.

Give it a few weeks, maybe months and if he wants to talk to you, he probably will.. but for now, just leave him get over you.


P.S.. when one of my relationships ended, it took months before we could speak on friendly terms.. and with another ex, we didn't speak at all and still don't. You'll just have to wait and see whether a friendship can really blossom again.

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I have known my boyfriend for 3 months. his ex left him after nine years and he finally gave up getting her back six months ago. I know he has a lot of feelings for me but when I asked him if he would still get back with her if she so wanted he said he did not know until that arose Should I,pursue the relationship

Thanks for the question.
Let me just start by saying this is just my opinion. Everyone will have different views regarding this situation and at the end of the day, it's your decision.
What I do know for sure is your boyfiend didn't give enough time to get over the breakup before he started his relationship with you. Nine years is a long time and it must be hard to move on, plus you have only been with him for 3 months, so your relationship isn't exactly the most serious at the moment, even if you want it to be.
Staying with him will be hard and I'm sure you're aware of this. For it to work you will need to take it slow.
Personally though, if I were in your position, I would hate to walk away, but I think I would have to, to prevent myself from getting hurt and having my feelings grow, only for things to come to an abrupt end, leaving me broken and feeling like a fool.

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i recently used a tampon for the first time. I was fine when inserting it, but it hurt when i removed it.. why was this?
thanks

Wearing tampons takes some time to get used to for certain people.
some things to think about:
**Did you just randomly practice putting one in while you weren't on your period? Or wasn't there much blood? If so, it was probably dry and dragging it out from your vagina is going to hurt..
**Were you on your period and was there lots of blood and it enlarged a lot causing pain when pulling it out?
**Was it inserted correctly?

Practice makes perfect. :)

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hey girll... ok im 13 years old..and i have this small/medium sized bump at the left corner in my lower lip...its been there for around as long as munths or a year mayb.. but its been there since then,,,... and i asked my sister ( shes 17) and she said its a hurpii.. wat does hurpies even look like ... can a cold sore stay on your lips that long??

Hey hun, without actually seeing the bump, it's not really possible to tell.
What you've described doesn't sound like a cold sore. Cold sores are painful, itchy and generally come and go, which are known as "attacks"

This link shows you multiple pictures of what cold sores can look like:
http://images.google.com/images?hl=en&q=cold+sore&btnG=Search+Images&gbv=2&aq=0&oq=cold+so

Whatever you have on your lip needs to be looked at by a doc. That way, they'll be able to give you the proper treatment you need. It can range from being a cyst, to a broken blood vessel, from a previous injury (scar tissue), to an allergic reaction.

It's nothing to worry about, but see a doc! Hope it gets better soon. :)

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15/female

I've written a book (230 some pages) before, it was a fan-fiction about Naruto. I recently got a new book I decided to right my own ninja story- problem is I don't have very many names. Some that I do have are/ thought of: Naomi, Natasumi, Mitsuri, Kiru, Akira, Kaori, Zensu, Hakoba, Yumi, Keiko, Areo, Tasumi & Axel. I'm just wondering are these okay, do any animes have these names & can you think of any others my only real prefrence is that there a little Japaneze. Thank you, ahead of time!
-Lilly

Hey hun.
No one has answered your question yet so I have a suggestion. Have you used Google?

only search advicenators.com

There's lots there, for example...
Keiko, Akiyoshi, Makoto, Hiro, etc etc.

http://japanese.about.com/library/weekly/aa072303a.htm
This website has a list of boys and girls names in alphabetical order, so it could come in great use to you.

Good luck with your story!

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My friend was talking to her boyfriend on MSN
and she was telling him she really liked him

and he wrote back
"I love you more than anything in the world and always will.we are both very lucky people. It hurst because I went up to 8mm in like a day lol"

WTF does thttt mean???
We didnt want to ask..we were so confused..
I dont even know if this is even in the right category

You'll have to ask him to be certain..

Just a thought.. does this boy have piercings and is he stretching them..? :)

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