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K, soo a few days ago my bf fingered me for the 1st time and it was the 1st time I've ever done anything sexual like that w/ a guy. So I tried to return the favor (if you catch my drift?) but I started and stopped after about 10-15 seconds because I freaked out. Like I thought I was doing it wrong and I got scared.
Is that normal? How do I get over my nerves and fears and just do it?
Oh and I told him I was really really sorry that I didn't do it and how I thought it was unfair, and he told me it was completely fine, and did it to me 2 more times that night.
From a guys point of veiw, is it like a turn off or something if you do it for a girl and she doesn't rtf? Or do some guys really not care much?
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Well, there is nothing to be ashamed of hun, you're a beginner; practise makes perfect!
Maybe because you are embarrassed from your little experience and don't know what your doing to him is right, ask him him what feels good.
Start off slow and just let him show you the way. Afterall he most probably touches his penis everyday, so he knows whats best for him!
If he cares about you and understands that you haven't done it before, then he should know why you're not confident about doing it. Give it time; once you get going, your confidence will rise and you can throw the fear away! :)
Love Sugar xxx
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Don't dwell on it, it was your first time. Also, make sure you're 100% ready to be doing that to him.
ASK your boyfriend how he likes it as you do it (faster/slower/harder/softer) and with a bit of practice, you'll get used to how he likes it and you won't worry too much at the time.
and whether not returning the favour is a turn off depends on the guy. Yours clearly doesn't mind, so there's no need to think like that.
Remember, practice makes perfect. Have fun!
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I did the same thing. except he hadnt done anyting to me yet. He whipped it out and I was getting ready to give him head and I freaked out and he put it away. He said he prolly should do stuff to me first and then maybe I would feel more comfortable. A few days later it happened and everything was good. Do not ever give head if the guy has morning wood. It takes like an hour. Let him jack off himself in the morning haha k
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yeah its normal, i actually did the same thing haha. you might be over-thinking it, its more of a go-with-the-flow kinda thing, so don't think about it. and if the guy gets turned off or pissed, he's most likely an asshole, so your guy seems good :)
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I don't think he minds. If you get freaked out, you can ask him to guide you. I think he'd be more than happy to help you out there lol!
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That is really normal, thank goodness your boyfriend reacted well. Sounds like a keeper. But just ease into it and take your time.
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