So I asked a question just a little bit ago and I worded It wrong.
If I used a toothbrush or sharpie to masterbate could it break my hymen?
I know it can break doing every day sports. But
how can I tell?
Usually it's not hard to spot it because it's only 2-3" inside you. If you sit infront of a mirror you may be able to see it or alternatively, if it's there, using your fingers you'd be able to feel it. As you said though it can already be broken just from everyday activity and sports and such.
As for using a tootbrush I would imagine there is a risk you can because, as I said, it's not really all that far inside you anyway.
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one of my students just found out that the guy that she likes is not interested on her,,,she is sad and disspointed. I have told her that she is pretty and she will find someone that will love her.
What can I do to make her feel special?
Also I am afraid that she ends up with a jerk...
you know nice girls most of the times end up with jerks....
Hi.
As you said, she will find someone else, all you need to dois just reassure her of this. Go out and do fun stuff, help get her mind off of this guy and more importantly just give her time. She will get over it eventually with time, it's a great healer. It's like you said, she will find someone else. There's a lot of guys out there and there's always someone better out there.
Ending up with a jerk... I'm not sure what to say there other than all she can do is be careful and get to know whoever she ends up with to ensure the guy isn't a jerk. It's all anyone can do really - it's all a part of relationships. They work or they don't; the guys a jerk or he's not (or is sometimes).
"When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us."
-Alexander Graham Bell
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15/f
ok my ex bf who i broke up with about 2 months ago, has recently asked me out. He said he loves me and he needs me. So he asked me out again today and i rejected him nicely. I told him that I wasn't ready for a bf again and he said ok. But now he is telling everyone that he is going to kill himself. I feel terrible, its all my fault. So I feel pressured into going out with him again. But then I can never break up with him cuz he will kill himself, so i will have to like be with him forever. WHAT SHOULD I DO!???
I don't think this is your fault at all and I can say that with total certainty because I'e come across guys like this plenty of times.
The only reason he is saying he's going to kill himself and all of that rubbish is because he's hoping you will react in exactly the way you are at the moment. He's doing nothing but making you feel sorry for him in a way to try and get you back. Also, he won't kill himself. If he wanted to kill himself he would have done it already instead of announcing it to everyone. :| I think you should just stick to your decision and not let him blackmail you into anything, especially into going back out with him or doing anything else you don't want to do. If you give into his little mind game now he'll just keep on playing into it afterwards because he knows you will fall for it.
Good luck. :]
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sorry, i don't know how to write back in your inbox, im new to this.
so some of the other problems included compulsive exerscising, like i would force myself to work out soo much until the point it hurt. i also tried to make myself throw up a couple of times. i also get really freaked out when i see an obese person. my thoughts have gotten alittle better, but not quite. i still feel sad. thanks for your time.
Hi.
Sorry it took so long to reply to you. How have you been? Have you still been going through a lot of depression and feeling down? I think anti-depressants may be a big help although I have known some people to become highly dependant on them. If you really feel depression is a major problem you shouldvisit your family doctor and let them know. He/she will be able to prescribe anti-depressants if they feel they are necessary.
Exercise is always good but overdoing it is never good and it sounds like you may be overdoing it so please try and control yourself. It seems you do have a lot of problems with how you look and feel about yourself so it may all be a result of you being depressed. Have things improved at all or have they just gotten worse?
Feel free to write back if you can.
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I feel so alone right now.
I'll start from the beginning.
About 6 months ago I found out my parents were having marital problems. I was really shocked because everyone looked at my parents as the "perfect couple" and so did I. My dad was always my best friend. Everyone knew I was his favorite and he spoiled me so much. and then I found out he cheated on my mom with a 28 year old nurse he works with. I was crushed. He moved out just to clear his head for 3 months but he promised not to see this girl. Right before christmas my mom got a strange feeling and went to a restaurant near his work and she found my dad and that girl at the bar. After that my dad begged to come back. So we let him. It was great for a while until 2 months later when he told us he was going to move out again. So i stopped talking to him. The day before he left I got very hurt on a school trip and had to be rushed to the hospital. I guess my dad realized he was making a mistake and decided to stay again because of my injury. But then a month later when I was almost healed he said he was moving out again but this time for good. It's been 3 months now and he's dating this girl. I havn't talked to him since. My brother, sister, and mom all talk to him, but I just can't. I'm usually pretty strong, but once in a while I'll just break down and cry. Another thing is one day I drank way too much and decided to have sex just so I could do something my dad wouldn't want me to do. Now everyone thinks I'm a slut because I've down this 2 other times when I was drunk. So now I think I have a drinking problem because I drink almost 3 times a week. And I don't know how to make people think I'm not a slut. By the way I'm 15/f.
Any advice is appreciated!
I wanted to reply to what you had said to me in your comments but the only way I know how to is through here and I'm not sure if I should incase anything you had said was private. So I apologize in advance if it was but this is the only way I know of to reply to you.
I know it must seem very scary, the thought of seeing a therapist. But believe me it is to help you. Your mom is obviously very concerned for you as am I from what you had said. A therapist will give you a chance to let things out andtalk about everything that weighs heavy on your mind and heart. It will be a great weight off your shoulders. If you can then by all means talk to a close friend who you can totally trust as well, it will hopefully help all that much more. Give the therapist a try and see how it goes, you've really nothing to lose in trying at all. :] As I said before too, if ever you need to chat just write me to my inbox or you can email (it's on my column page thingy). Also don't worry about the bf part, it's his loss to lose someone like you. If he doesn't come crawling back you can bet there'll be plenty (decent) guys out there who'd love to be with you. Take care yourself, things will work out.
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Hi.
Firstly ignore what everyone is calling you. No one is in any position to judge you other than yourself. I can understand you are angry at your dad but by doing what you did (getting drunk and sleeping with someone) you are only hurting yourself. You need to stop doing that and bring it under control. Drinking is seen as a way of escape (trust me I know) but alcohol is a depressant, it doesn't make things any better at all and instead tend to make things worse so it's something you do need to stop. I'm uncertain if you're in the UK or the US but either way there would be placesyou can contact to get help on the drinking and to bring it under control.
As I said above, these people who call you a slut - they have no idea what you are feeling or going through. Try not to let them get to you or get you down. You don't need to prove anything to anyone so don't feel that you need to. Most of them were ignorant enough to judge you without knowing what's really going on I doubt any kind of proof you present will sway them in what they believe. The best thing you can do for yourself though is to not go down that path. As I said above already you're only hurting yourself.
As for what's going on with your dad. Sometimes this does happen. I mean I am surprised that my parents haven't already split up. No marriage is perfect at all. Everyone has their ups and downs so don't feel this is just with your family. It's been your own choice not to talk to your dad again but are you sure this is what you want? Has your dad never asked you what's wrong or why younever talk to him? If he does maybe you should tell him and let this anger that's eating you up on the inside out? Failing that maybe talking to a councillor at your school may help so you can talk about what's going on what what you're feeling and you can let it all out. Keeping all of this stuff bottled up inside is NOT doing you any good at all. :[
I really hope I was able to help even in the slightest. If you ever need to chat my inbox is always open so feel free to write or if you just need to let off steam. ALso if you need help with locating a place you can call to help you with your drinking, again just let me know and I'll see if I can find the numbers for you.
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so this kid liked me. and i liked him we went out and he broke up with me and im still not over him he has this never ending crush on this one girl which she just teases him. and i was wondering from A GUY. A GUY. why do you have crushes liek that i mean i know girls do to but it seems to occure more with guys. have you ever liked a girl and dumped her and liked her again?? if so what did she do to catch your attention, how does any girl catch your attention.??
Hi.
Guys are weird like that but for crushes on girls which will just lead no where... I think it comes down to how guys will just want what they can't have. When you're told you can't do something you'd want to do it more - it's pretty much the same thing I think.
I haven't personally dumped anyone out of hate onloy to like them again to the point I'd want to go out with them again but I know it does happen a lot. There's a very simple reason for this to happen, people just don't realise what they have lost until it's actually gone which is when they come to really appreciate what they really had. It's at this point they want that person back. Guys do seem to do it a lot, they break up with someone because they think they can do better or because they feel they need their freedom and such excuses and then later on when they really see what they've lost they come crawling back to try win them back again. Works both ways but I've seen it happen more with guys than with girls (probably because guys tend to need their freedom to do things without consequences more than girls but I'm uncertain on this).
As for girls getting my attention... I think it's a little of everything. The way she's dressed the way she acts, if she seems easily approachable, her eyes, how much makeup she's wearing (lots of make up put me off) so it's pretty much a bit of everything really. But this is different with all guys. Some prefer one thing and others prefer another so you would get a lot of different answers on this.
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1.can someone explain to me how it works?
2. & give me the website i can download it from?
3. do you reccomend it?
Hi.
I just wanted to clarify what x3babyycakes had said.
Limewire itself is NOT illegal and it's not limited to just sharing files which makes it illegal. The only time you actually commit a crime is when you share something that is illegal. Otherwise you can share anything you want legally and safely. In addition to this I should also warn that downloading anything from limewire which is protected by copyright is also illegal. It is for this reason many choose to block any incoming connections (so you don't share any files at all with anyone on there).
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I'm heavier than most girls[size 16, 5'5] but everyone INSISTS that I'm not fat[whatevs]. Anyway, this Friday, there's a costume picnic for my drama club. The theme is Peter Pan. I have NO CLUE what to be. I don't want to look like an idiot, but I don't have any idea of what to dress as.
Besides being heavyish I have medium brown hair, green/gray/blue eyes, fair skin, and good curves.
I want a semi-easy-to-make costume, because it IS finals week, and I need to focus, but I'm a good seamstress, and I CAN do a LITTLE sewing this week. The actual making needs to be less than 1 hour though. I have a huge amount of fabric, but not a whole lot of any one print and type.
HELP!
Everyone already pretty much said what I was goin to say. But I will add you being a size 16 doesn't make you fat at all. Yup I'm another person that insists. :P
Have a great time regardless which you decide to dress up as. :]
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i used to go to this website www.moviefourmz.com to watch free movies, and now it doesn't work! does anyone know why?
I tried that site and it doesn't work. Are you sure it wasn't www.movieforumz.com you were supposed to go to? That site does work but the notice I had got on there was that their site is experiencing a lot of traffic so their trying to fix this with better servers to handle the traffic increase. If this is the site it might just be a matter of trying and trying until you are able to connect with the site but failing this (which might be more likely since they said this might happen) you may just have to wait it out until theysort things out on their end and upgrade/add new servers to deal with all the new traffic their getting. Once that's done you should be able to use the site again as normal.
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Does anyone know of any websites where I can find a sexy (adult) french maid outfit?
Here's a couple of sites for you. :]
pinkies4u.com have a nice range (at a good price too). Their a UK based company and I believe only ship to UK addresses. Try this link for them to see the outfit: http://www.pinkies4u.com/product_list.asp?MID=20&CID=61&gclid=CKTimKSzw4wCFQWIlAodEnZvWg
ablushlingerieandcostumes.co.uk is a site that ships to the UK as well as abroad (will be good if you're in the US) and also have a great range where you might be able to find what you're looking for. ;]
If you don't find what you're looking for here then by all means shop around. The best thing to try wouldbe to use google search and search for 'adult sexy french maid outfit' which should give you a nice loist of results for your area/country.
Good luck.
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does anyone who live in toronto near york street or that area know any night club like where you can dance or anything that you can go even if your underaged (17) just that they won't sell any alcohol to you??????? thnkx
I'm only familiar with laws regarding nightclubs here in the UK but I would assume they are about the same as to those over there in the USA as well.
Nightclubs, as far as I am aware, will not allow anyone in that is underage. Allowing people in who are underage means they would not be allowed to serve alcohol AT ALL. This alone would be unacceptable to club owners since it's their primary source of income for the club. That is aside from any laws there might be regarding underaged people into clubs over there too.
There are some 'day clubs' where there is dancing and such and the atmosphere of a night club as such but without the alcohol and stuff which are held during the day (another thing that prevents clubs opening their doors to underaged people is the fact they are open till the early hours of the morning). These day clubs are plentyful here in the UK (especially in and around Reading/London) and are usually hosted by the bigger nightclubs (since most nightclubs don't open their doors to the over 18/21 crowds until the evenings).
The best thing to try is to see if there's any of these day clubs around in your area by calling up and checking with some of the clubs that are in your town/area. If they don't host day club events they may know of another club that does who they can pass you onto. Alternatively you could try checking any local news and events to see if they have any news of such clubs.
Hope this was some help.
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Keep in mind that I'm taken.
I made a new friend "J" and saw him with his friends all around school. Occasionally he would say hi and whatnot. We added each other on myspace and he left school. Right after he moved to a different school, HIS friend "W" added me on myspace. He said very perverted things. I laughed at it because it was a joke, yeaa? So we talked for hours online and saw each other sometimes at school.
So last week, he hung out with me and it was very awkward.. very quiet. "J" messaged me saying that "W" liked me or something. i wasn't sure but "W" has something to tell me. [I think he's going to confess his feelings for me]
But dudeee, we have only been talking for a few times in about 2 weeks. And of course he's nice but I'm in a relationship! A good relationship.. He must think I'll leave my boyfriend for him.
I gave him my number to talk a little and decide to hang out sorta thing. I thought it would be really cool to have another "close" ish guy friend because I usually have lots of girl friends. So we decided we would talk at 6 or 7. But GOD DAMN, the boy called hours earlier. I was busy, I told him that and he kept calling and calling. He called about 8 times in 2 hours. In total, he called 18 times in a few hours. I told him that my parents were getting angry and that I couldn't use the phone until my work was done. Most my room's stuff had to be taken out and smashed because i'm getting new furniture and stuff. I also had to clean my room, which is really messy and crowded. He didn't understand it! My parents told him I was busy or that I was out.. AND I WAS! but he kept calling.. asking for me.. acting like he didn't call those many times before.
Today, I told him i was going to be out all day and that I didn't have any time for phone calls because I'm not supposed to use the phone after 10. He called about 3-4 times about 4 minutes before 10! I'M GETTING IN TROUBLE BECAUSE HE'S NOT LISTENING!
i don't know what to do! please help me. i don't want to be mean.
i also don't know what to do about him having a crush on me.. because he's been dropping off hints and i've been ignoring them..
He knows i'm in a relationship too!
help please!
Hi.
Wow, I can understand your frustration and to be honest I think you've been extremely patient with this guy.
There's a few different things here you can do.
The first is to have a chat with your friend "J" and explain to him what's going on (since their friends I would think) he can talk to his friend "W" and try get things straightened up i.e. explain that firstly you are taken and secondly to ease up on the ringing you all the time because it's getting you into trouble.
The other is to talk to your parents and explain what's going on and let them know if he calls again to tell him to stop calling the house from now on.
Lastly you can talk to him yourself and tell him he needs to stop becuase not only is it getting you into trouble he is also coming across as some kind of stalker type with the way he keeps on calling you constantly.
In addition to either of these YOU need to tell him that you have a boyfriend who you're very happy with so the only thing you're looking for is a friend - nothing more. You need to make sure there's no room for a misunderstanding so you will need to be very explicit with this. The sooner you let him know the better and although hinting to him you're not interested is good I seriously doubt he will get the hint considering his behaviour thus far from what you have described. You need to tell him this asap so he will know where he stands.
I know you don't want to be mean but I'm afraid sometimes you can't have it both ways. Trust me it's better to let him know the truth now than to wait it out because he may just get worse and it might become harder for you to talk to him about this. Also the last thing you want is him turning this all onto you by saying you led him on by not saying sooner etc, etc. A lot of rubbish but in his defence he may try that.
Good luck and I hope I was some help.
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17/f
I've been dating this guy for about two weeks. He is my first real boyfriend. On our first date, I kissed him. Actually, he kissed me and it was sort of like a mini make-out session more than a kiss. I met him on MySpace and he goes to another school close to mine. I talked to him online and then on the phone for a few days and he asked me out. The day before the date we met at a public place to sort of break the ice so it wasn't awkward before the date. So, in other words, I kissed him the day after we met.
In the past two weeks after the date, we've made out, grinded, fondled each other, I've given him a handjob and even a blow job (not to orgasm, but I don't think that matters). He recently left for vacation in another state and before he left he told me he loved me. It's all going to fast and I like him A LOT...like crazy like him, but I have a problem.
Before I got a boyfriend I always thought those girls that were giving their boyfriend's blowjobs and handjobs and told me about it were just slutty. And girls who were like "I love him!" after only weeks were just naive and immature. I feel like a skank and a hypocrite for doing the things that I always thought was so slutty.
I don't brag like some girls do about what I've done. Only one other person knows everything I've done with him. And I told go around saying I love him all the time. I'm just going with the flow with him. I feel comfortable doing these things, and he's not forcing me (he knows sex isn't coming for a while), but I can't help but feel like a hypocrite.
Any opinions/advice?
I guess the best way I can describe what's happen is not to judge someone until you've been in their shoes. :]
To anyone who's not been there it does seem slutty and I agree with you regarding telling someone you love them after only a week or two but just like love has no age it also has to time limit. You thought this way about those who said this because you yourself had never been in their place which has now changed. I will admit though things with you and this guy seem to be moving very fast and I suggest getting to know the guy a lot more. I don't mean to sound negative but all guys are lovely at first, it's what they are like afterwards that counts. So get to know him better and take things slowly for your own good. You also stated that this is your first real boyfriend so this will also play a big part in things going fast. It's a new experience, a new rush and new feelings - it does happen so try not to feel too bad. The same had happen to me with my first serious girlfriend too. Thing is to try not to get caught up in it all and do something that you may later regret or feel bad about.
Take it from me at least you have the courage to realise that you were maybe judging too harshly. Most people would have just carried on and paid no heed to it at all. If you really do feel things are moving way too fast though (you may have now gotten a chance to think it through becuase he has left for a little while) then I would suggest talking it through with your boyfriend and letting him know and then taking things down a notch.
Good luck with him. :]
"The magic of first love is our ignorance that it can ever end."
-Benjamin Disraeli.
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Alright, so i have problems opening up. I know my boyfriend gets frusterated sometimes because i'll be upset and not tell him whats wrong for a while. Its like i have a hard time saying whats on my mind while the time is right. I really do try and open up and communicate better but its something thats kind of hard for me, for some reason. Its like when I'm talking to him I dont tell him things that I should and then when I hang up I think of things I should have told him. Does anyone else have this problem or have any advice on how to work on communicating better? Thanks. (18/f)
Things like that do happen and I think they do to a lot of people even though they may not admit it. Generally it's because of the heat of the moment. If you're on the phone and someone asks what's wrong and you tell them you're being put on the spot as such. After you hang up you think damn I should have said this and that too. On the other hand if someone had txt you asking you what's wrong you have time to think about it before replying - you're not being put on the spot where you have to give your answer right then and there.
A good way to over come this might be to try write what it is that bothers you and let him read it afterwards. Also I think talking to him about this may also do you some good as he knows what's going on and that you're not just locking him out on purpose.
Why you do it is unknown to me but the only guess I can take would be that you just have a hard time opening up to people in general or that you're just afraid to open up and let people in past your defences. Maybe someone had hurt you in the past as a result of you opening up to them so it's becomes harder to do now, even without you knowing it? I'm honestly not sure but I think with time it should improve. Usually all it takes to change a person is time so it might just be all that you need. As I said though you may want to talk to your boyfriend about this so he knows what's going on and to just bare with you and so he can support you.
Hope I was some (a little) help.
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Okay, so when school ends in like 2 weeks, we are going China for like 1-2 weeks, and India for like 2-4 weeks. Majoritily india. Well, In China we are just staying in a hotel. In India, we are going to 3 cities. My cousin's houses in 2 cities, and this other city[with a LOT of shopping]. So, I was wondeirng what I should bring to china and india. Also, the plane ride(s) are really LONG. What should I bring to china and india and what should i bring on the plane? [i know they have a tv and stuff but still].It's gonna be very hot. And also, my cousins break things, so i'm not going to bring my laptop, but my brother is. So, i should bring..
-clothes
-brothers laptop
-a beautiful bag
what else? I'm gonna be bored because my cousins have school and my parents are gonna supply the money..
Please help me!
Thanks.!
I'm thinking of bringing knitting stuff..and..um...other stuff. what else should i bring?
I've not been to India in a long time but my sister got back from there a month or so ago and yes, she was saying it was extremely hot over there. So I ould suggest sunblock and such and obviously some clothes for a hot summer. :]
Other than that there should hopefully be plenty for you to do over there depending on what cities you're staying at and who you'll be staying with. For any places where you'll be staying with family it might be a good idea to check with your parents as to what they have over there which you can do and if there's places to visit where you can go. If there isn't then you may need to take things to keep yourself preoccupied whilst your cousins will be at school.
As for the plane rides - I think mp3 players are not allowed to be used in the planes (you may need to check this though) but otherwise by all means take some books you may have wanted to read but never got around to. :] Any small games machines will also come in very handy (again you might have to chck if you can use them on the plane since they can be picky about it).
Have fun over there. :D
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I really want a sidekick 3 so badly. I mean i'm 13 and i'm willing to pay every penny for it and even the bill which would be 50 dollars a month. My mom is basically not letting me get it because of the 2 year contract. She doesn't believe I will have 50 dollars every month to pay it. Well I have a mothers helper job and the lady calls me AT LEAST once a week and I get paid 6 dollars and hour. Also I work there anywhere from 2-4 hours. She's like well you don't have a JOB. I'm like well you need a real job to pay water, electric bills and mortages and taxes every month, not a little cell phone bill. Please don't say I might go over my minutes cause I just won't. Is there ANY ANY way I can show my parents I WILL have 50 dollars a month to pay it for 2 years. oh yeah please please don't say wait a month and see if you have made 50 bucks.
To be completely honest I think I may have to agree with your mom. :[
The helper job you do, although makes you money, is not a guaranteed income. In a years time she may not even need you anymore and you'd still be too young to get a proper job in which case it would then fall onto your mom to pay the bill (I'm assuming). Also, I know you said you wouldn't go over the free time you have but everyone says that - seriously. And sometimes it DOES happen. Even when you might not want it to I can guarantee over that 2 year period you will go over your allowence of free time.
I think your mom is just concerned that if you fail to manage to pay the bills then it will fall onto her to pay it (which is something they may not need added onto the bills they already pay). One thing you might try is to see if there's a different cell phone package you can get. One that might offer a cheaper monthly rate or one that has a contract that isn't so long (2 year contract is a very long contract - here in the UK the longest I've seen are year and a half contracts).
Hopefully you'll be able to work something out with your mom. I think your best bet though is to see if you can find a shorter contract. That way your mom may feel more at ease about getting you the phone. The fact it was a 2 year contract may have been one of the things that put your mom off the idea simply becuase the work you do isn't secure enough to last the length of the cell phone contract.
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my cousin is a good girl who has a lot of friends, is popular in school and gets great grades. Shes hanging out with this one girl Jenni who is a complete slut (but shes ugly as hell) and is getting Jackie(my cousin) to talk to these older boys on myspace. Shes talking to this one kid whos 17, dropped out of Highschool, does drugs, sells drugs, and has sex. Apparently he came to her house once with pot and a condom and was talking to her outside, but no one knew it ever happend. Me and her are really really close and i am always trying to protect her but now shes growing up and doesnt want me to protect her. shes lying to me about ahnging out with boys, even when they are boys in her own grade who i dont mind her haning out with. I dont get why she is doing this stuff. I try to talk to her and she tells me she is not going to talk to him anymore, but then i find out from her friends taht she STILL is talking to him after she PROMISED she wouldnt anymore. It really concerns me. Especially this weekend, becaue today is the year annivarsay since since her dad killed himself.....
im worried that shes going to make the wrong decisions. what should i do?
At the age she is she can be easily influenced. She may think being the way her friend Jenni is looks kool (even though I see nothing kool about being a slut). Incidently, you say Jenni is ugly yet still a slut. This might be down to her thinking the best way to talk to cool guys etc is to sleep with them. Athough the only reason most those guys even bother with her in the first place is becuase they know she will be easy. :|
I think you should try having another chat with her and tell her your concerns and be totally honest and out with things. Explain you don't like her breaking her promise to you and that you don't actually have any objections to her hanging out with those certain guys but the only ones you do have a problem with are the ones who may be a bad influence or take advantage of her. This guy she met from myspace sounds like a jerk and certainly not someone she should be hanging out with. So I totally understand where you're coming from. If my cousin was hanging out with someone like that rest assured I'd be on her case too. You need to show and tell her you're worried about her and what might happen if she gets too deeply involved with this guy.
It's understandable she want's to have her space because she's older now and doesn't want being looked after but the hard truth is she is still only 14. She is still very young and very much a target to jerks like this guy from myspace. The fact she has such troubling past (with her dad and what happen to him) this is something that he may use to his advantage as leaverage to gain more of her trust and such. Talk to her about it and see if you can get her to really think things through before she does anything.
Failing this, all you really can do is sitback and hope she makes the right decisions. It's pretty much all you can do and IF she does make the wrong decision you'll need to make sure she knows you're there for her.
I've been through a lot of things and I've always hoped that I can try persuade others not to make the mistakes I've made in life but no matter how much you may try sometimes the only way someone will learn is by making that mistake for themselves. That's not to say don't do anything to help but I am saying if your cousin won't listen to you then you'll probably just have to bit the bullet and hope she makes the right choices about this situation.
Feel free to write me if you need to chat further and good luck, I really hope you manage to get through to her.
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Ok well this weekend we went to this church camp thing we do every year. And this year a few of my friends and I decided to pull a prank on the guys, so we got up at 3am and toliet papered their cabins, and put shaving cream on the mirrows...well of course they decided to get us back by doing the same thing but A LOT WORST. So of course next year we have to get them back REAL good. soo can anyone think of any pretty good pranks to do. Not hard or diffacult but pretty good.
THANK IN ADVANCE
I liked dancedance42's ideas. There's also sink-bombing their cabin/s but again that could get extremely messy (no one will be able to go in there for months, lol). Or even putting up a net of water bombs someplace thenwhen their all there in a group, letting the balloons drop all in one go (works VERY good if done correctly and took me a lot of tries before I had gotten it right).
A note on using superglue on the locks - NOT something I recommend doing (I'm assuming this is to superglue the locks on the doors). If there's a fire and the locks can't be opened because they've been superglued by 'someone' you'll have a serious disaster on your hands. Chances of a fire are slim but is it worth taking the risk?
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out of these two beds, which do you like better for young teenage girL?? i am probably going to paint my walls light green...
http://www.target.com/gp/detail.html/ref=br_1_1/602-1619430-3919847?ie=UTF8&frombrowse=1&asin=B000JEODSM
http://www.laurenslinens.com/sebe.html
okay i know this is an easy question, but i will still rate!!
I think this one would be more ideal:
http://www.target.com/gp/detail.html/ref=br_1_1/602-1619430-3919847?ie=UTF8&frombrowse=1&asin=B000JEODSM
I think it's more to do with the colour than anything else though because the other one is very blue which is more associated with a male/guy. So if you was a guy I'd say go with that but if a girlI'd say go with the one I posted the link of. :]
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ok..srry this is gonna be long...i got a bf at school..even though i'm not allowed to have a bf (i'm 15/female) and a week and a half later my mom and dad found out...and i've only hugged and held hands w/ my bf,fyi...my dad said i can hold hands w/ him..and hug him only, but as friends. so i asked him " why would i hold hands w/ one of my friends" he said "take the offer or leave it" and i told my bf all this and he said "whatever ur parents dont know wont hurt them" but if i ever went out w/ my bf to the movies or anywhere my parents said we had to go w/ a group...and i want to kiss him and stuff but if i went out w/ him its for sure that my parents would ask "did you two kiss" and i cant lie..i dont want to lie...i have my parents trust and loosing it would be awful...but i'd die if i had to be his gf and not kiss him or anything...and i like him a lot! any advice?
Hmm, in a way I agree with what the others said but you've made it clear you don't want to lie to themand youdon't want to lose their trust (lets face it eventually your parents will find out you lied at some point or another just like how they found out you have a bf).
Although your parents might seem to be over protective you also have to understand they have been in your place before too (simply saying they are old fashoned isn't true). For example, your dad knows what guys at your age are like and what they think - he's been there too. I guess what I'm trying to say is that although they may seem old fashoned and over protective what they reallyare doing (of which I have no doubt at all) is just looking out for you and your well being. You said yourself you want to kiss him and more - this is exactly what your parents are trying to protecting you from.
Your bf also said what your parents don't know won't hurt them and everyone seems to be encouraging that... again this is another thing your parents are trying to protect you from - from falling into the whole peer pressure thing. Everyone is encouraging you to lie even though you don't want to. You need to be able to know when to listen to yourself instead of listening to everyone else. :]
As for your bf I think it should be okay to still keep him as a bf and as someone else said, I think kissing isn't ever a big deal. Just don't go past that point. If he does try to encourage you to go further after that (using the what your parents dont know wont hurt them line again) then you may want to rethink being with him.
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